, OMG. You are not constantly ranting--you've just got a LOT going on lately! It seems like it's really coming at you from all sides. I'm pretty mad at your mom; that's some terrible stuff to say. You already know you don't need all that extraneous stuff (...cable?! seriously???), but I want to chime in with more support and say of course
that's not what being "ready for a baby" is. And neither should tiredness be some sort of indictment of how lazy you are as a person. Good heavens, you're building a person. Is SHE building a person? No, she is not. So she can just keep her ridiculous assessments to herself. I'm glad you put your foot down and said enough is enough.
A couple of weeks before our first was due, my mother looked at me and said sweetly, "Don't worry if everything isn't completely set up. New babies hardly need anything! They can sleep in a dresser drawer if they have to!" This made me laugh and laugh, since we actually were pretty set up, by our standards--we had a crib and everything, first and only time we bothered with that!--so I don't know if she just felt that I wasn't nesting enough, and maybe needed to be reassured about my lack of nesting? It was pretty funny, though. The main point is that "babies can sleep in a dresser drawer" has really stuck with me... If they're loved and fed and cared for, everything else is window dressing.
Maybe my mom had talked to your mom and they were both deadly concerned that when our first was born, our home didn't even have a dishwasher in it.
, YIKES! Really glad your youngest is okay! Palate stuff freaks me right out. I'm happy that it wasn't more serious than a little cut. Now don't get sick.
, that goes for you too. No colds!