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#1 of 36 Old 11-03-2014, 02:55 PM - Thread Starter
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Hi Ladies,


I'm not active in the general chat and read along occasionally, but I wanted to say hello and check in with everyone.


I am nearly 30 weeks and beginning to feel ready for the end to come soon. This has been an average pregnancy, with only a few hard parts, which I am grateful for, but it is still exhausting and uncomfortable and holds me back from doing a lot of things I'd like to be doing. As my fourth, pregnancy isn't a time for me to enjoy being pregnant as I just have too much to do and be responsible for. So I am ready to birth. And I'm preparing my mind for it.


Tomorrow I go in for an U/S to check my placenta as a few months ago it was low and touching my cervix. I am super excited to see baby's face again!! I can't wait to daydream about what she looks like.


Last thing, today I found two bigish pieces of my mucous plug. Really really stretchy! It was pretty crazy to see it so soon. Anyone else catch pieces lately? t first, I was a little shocked but I know with no other labor symptoms I have nothing to worry about.


How is everyone else doing?

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I know what you mean. Someone today asked me how many weeks left and I said "three months" only to watch their mouth drop open. I look like I could deliver any day now, but it's just because I'm short and carry so far out. This last trimester is not going to be fun. If only I could just sit all day and do nothing, not be responsible for anything. That would make it easier.

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I'm also short and carry very out and round. I'm also much fuller this second time around. In my yoga class on Sunday we all went around introducing ourselves and when I said I was 23 weeks I saw one of the young first timers across the circle drop her jaw and elbow her friend and mime my big belly. She turned out to be 20 weeks and hardly showing at all, so no wonder she thought I was huge, ha!


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I have noticed a lot more movement and a lot more contractions lately. It's mostly still fun though.

I am so excited about the mass of visitors soon to be at my house for the holidays/baby prep. And we are getting somewhere on finding out where we will be moving next which is nice.

I think I decided to pack up the house and go home for deployment. Even if we are staying here, my husband will be traveling for training for a couple months and 4/5 months alone after having a baby is very unappealing.

Right now... I am on the hunt for a dining room table! Used ones are harder to come by than I imagined.

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I found a table!!!!! Yay!!!! The chairs are going to need reupholstering and maybe one day a paint color that isn't green. But it's all in good condition.

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Yea for a table! I love a good find, especially if it involves painting/stripping/reupholstering. I'm selling my dining set right now. It is a very beautiful 100 year old set that is a nightmare to maintain with little kids around. But, people really low-ball me on offers. Nope, $250 is NOT an OK offer for a 100 year old solid wood table.....

And as far as belly size and how I carry, each pregnancy I carry the same way, I just get bigger faster. I'm tall and slim and I put on my weight pretty evenly though my body so I stay in relative proportion. My butt grows in proportion to my belly but I appreciate the balance of weights. Thankfully no strangers have asked me when I'm due... they just assume it is around Christmas and I don't correct them...

My husband just recently returned home and it has been awesome. Maybe it is my pregnancy nose, but within hours my house had a man-smell again. To welcome him home I baked a cake and some fresh sourdough and grilled some steaks. My girls have been going nuts for roughhousing which is fun to watch, especially because I don't love being climbed on as much
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Agree about the table. I'm happy with the generic oak table sets and I got mine half price on Craigslist. But I also had to sell the larger one that was in here, since it didn't really fit the kitchen when we moved in. Maybe one day we'll have a huge harvest table, but not in this house. In this house, we'll have a little round oak pedestal table that at least all the kids can sit at, if not adults.

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I am nearly 30 weeks and beginning to feel ready for the end to come soon. This has been an average pregnancy, with only a few hard parts, which I am grateful for, but it is still exhausting and uncomfortable and holds me back from doing a lot of things I'd like to be doing. As my fourth, pregnancy isn't a time for me to enjoy being pregnant as I just have too much to do and be responsible for. So I am ready to birth. And I'm preparing my mind for it.
I completely understand this and feel the same way!!!! I'm thankful that the hell part of pregnancy has held off this long (I'm 27 1/2 weeks). I'm still getting around and getting a lot done, which is awesome. BUT... it IS still frustrating that I can't go rip up my garden and prep for next year, and I can't clean out the garage. And though I am getting things done, it definitely takes longer than normal. This is #5 for me. However, my kids are just getting old enough to be of some help, and that's a good thing!

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I found a table!!!!! Yay!!!! The chairs are going to need reupholstering and maybe one day a paint color that isn't green. But it's all in good condition.
Dining room tables have been the bane of my married existence until recently. We started off with a small round wood table and chairs from my parents. Cheap, but it worked since we only had one kid... then 2 kids. When #3 was coming, we started looking for a bigger table. Eventually found one that looked nice. The table was a little rickity, but it worked. I re-upholstered the chairs. Then we thought we were moving in with my parents, so we sold the table. Then the sale of our house fell through, so we were stuck with the old round table again. We didn't all fit at it, so we brought in the kids plastic outdoor picnic table. Then my brother in law made a HUGE 8 foot cedar table and gave it to us to use. It was nice, but it was too big for the room. Plus, I had to worry about every little nic the kids put in it. Now we have my MIL's table and chairs, which are really nice and solid and can take a beating. I'm really happy to finally have something I don't have to worry about and that fits us comfortably. This thing should last for years!

I'm another shorty, so I carry straight out too. Makes me waddle, haha. I'm huge.

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'Tis the season for table changes! How odd! We just made ourselves a new dining room "table". It's more of an island bar... and it's not completely done, but IT'S GREAT!!! 2" solid oak and maple table top- beefy! I feel like Julia Child cooking at it!

Oh, we're all finally showing and growing! How lovely! It really is quite special and magical, huh? How are your hubbies liking your growth? This morning my man told me he loved this sexy pregnant me, and he wished it would last much longer. This is all he's getting of me being pregnant (definitely don't want to raise 2 at a time anymore... really looking forward to the individual young child raising.), so he's going to have to indulge and enjoy every second.

Another perk that he's loving is that my colostrum is starting to leak! Just a few drops a day, but he makes sure he doesn't miss a day! lol. These sure are blissful days of being married, eh? The happiness and lovey feelings are more intoxicating than repressive with responsibilities.

On another note, I just heard word that my chosen provider (in the case of an emergency) will no longer be covered under my insurance as of 12/1. Bullocks! They are cutting many of the providers at the two local hospitals all of a sudden (I'd love to know the juicy gossip behind this one!) and the one hospital they are still covering is absolutely NOT one I would ever consider delivering at. I called for prior authorization, considering I'm 7 months along, and even though I've only seen this provider once (they don't know that), I loved her and felt absolutely comfortable if she were to be my emergency back-up. They authorized me for 90 more days of coverage which brings me exactly to my due date (!!). I hope this little sprout was listening, and doesn't complicate things with a late delivery! Calling for another appointment with this provider, just for good measure, I was pleased with the woman on the other end, questioning if I'm having a home birth, bc I haven't followed the regular visiting schedule they implement. It's so nice that in this area home births are so common that it's not a judged experience when you share that those are your plans... it's actually quite "normal". Gotta love Western MA!

Oooh, I haven't been around in a while, and my first post back is a novel! Thanks for letting me indulge!

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On another note, I just heard word that my chosen provider (in the case of an emergency) will no longer be covered under my insurance as of 12/1. Bullocks! They are cutting many of the providers at the two local hospitals all of a sudden (I'd love to know the juicy gossip behind this one!) and the one hospital they are still covering is absolutely NOT one I would ever consider delivering at.
It depends on the parent company that owns the hospital and whenever their insurance contracts run out. This is a new thing all over the country, many hospitals are now owned by a parent company, in order to be run more efficiently. The revenue cycle departments (billing department, patient access, medical records) all being forced into another company rather than owned by the same chain as the hospital. So basically, there is a lot of administrative 'remodeling' going on, and when a rate contract expires, and the parent company and insurance company cannot agree to new terms (for every single hospital now owned by that entity), they hit gridlock and now the hospital is out of network unless and until an agreement can be reached and a new contract made. And don't hold your breath, it could be a year or more until they settle on one. One hospital system in a nation of hospitals can ruin it with their rates. The sad thing is, in some cases the hospital was never overcharging and in fact was receiving underpayment because of a crappy contract it was stuck with and now no contract at all.

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@Valerie11 - my you're knowledgable about this stuff! It's such politics. The whole system is so political, and I general just feel disgust when I think about it. We are mandated to have insurance, so that's why I have it, but we also don't use it! I have a midwife as a back up in case an emergency happens with the birth, but am planning on a home birth, negating the need to be a real part of the system.
I joke that the only time my family gets sick is after I take one of the boys to the doctor for the mandated "well child check-up". Well child my ass! I know that my children are healthy, and thriving... and get so frustrated with the whole doctor experience, only to have my kid come down with a cold or the flu afterward.

Of course, this whole transition is proving to be much more of a pain in the ass than I originally anticipated. Breath in, breath out.

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I know, if insurance wasn't mandated I think I would probably skip it, too. And I definitely skip the pediatrician altogether. If this baby has a serious problem that needs medical attention, we will see a specialist, but definitely going to keep him out of the Ped system and only go to a family doctor if/when there is a problem.

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I know, if insurance wasn't mandated I think I would probably skip it, too. And I definitely skip the pediatrician altogether. If this baby has a serious problem that needs medical attention, we will see a specialist, but definitely going to keep him out of the Ped system and only go to a family doctor if/when there is a problem.
I'd love to know how to do that! When I had Caleb I opted not to take him to his 6 week check-up because I wasn't going to vaccinate, he was nursing quite well, pooping daily and just generally seemed to be in good health for a little fella. At about 8 weeks I got a call from.... to be honest, I'm not sure who it was from! But somebody in the system, and they threatened to call DSS if I didn't get him in to see a doc. In theory, I understand that not everybody is going to take care of their babies, and neglect could be happening, but in reality I think more people DO take good care of these precious little ones that they chose to carry for all these months, and to be mandated to go in to be told what you already know, and to feel ridiculed for your non-vax stance just sucks. To be mandated to do ANYTHING just sucks, actually. Something I get more and more irate about the older I become, especially when our entire lifestyle is not in alignment with the mainstream culture.

For this one, I'm hoping because we are home birthing nobody will know when he enters the world, and I can live by my own good judgement and inner wisdom.

But we keep getting the "you're child has not had his regular well child check-in, and this is required of all 8th grade students". I'm ignoring it for now. We'll see how long I can keep this tactic going!

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I am so angry right now I could scream. My DH can be such an f*ing jerk. I don't know if hormones are instigating how angry I am, but probably. He works in a school and the rule in my house is that he and my older son MUST take their shoes off at the door and wash their hands well right when they come home. Easy. It is the same rule we've had for ages. But he always f*ing fights it. I don't want a zillion school germs on my floor when I've got toddlers that lay and crawl all over it and yes even lick it!!!!


Today he walks in and tracks his shoes across the floor. I tell him to take them off and he ignores that I said it. Two minutes later as he's playing with the little ones, I see that he still has them on. I tell him to take them off and he gets all nasty with me and says he's about to take them outside. Fine, I say, but don't walk all over the house in them. Next, he goes to eat and I ask if he's washed his hands. He doesn't respond and walks away to put sweaters on the boys. I ask him why the heck he keeps ignoring me and why he hasn't washed his hands and he gets really nasty again and says he stopped eating since he didn't wash them. I tell him it is pretty simple: takes your shoes off, wash your hands. Why isn't he doing it? He turns it all around on me and says brining in the car keys is easy too but I leave them in the car. Well, that isn't fair. Both the napping toddlers woke up at the same time and I had to carry them both in at the same time since they didn't want to be left there and I couldn't even close the doors because my youngest nursed right back to sleep and spent the following hour in my arm. I only just got them both something to eat and dinner in the oven when he got home. His turning it back on me when leaving keys on my seat has nothing to do with hygiene and germs really pisses me off. Like so much I don't even want to eat dinner with him. Am I just being too hormonal over this or would you be pissed too?

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I'd love to know how to do that! When I had Caleb I opted not to take him to his 6 week check-up because I wasn't going to vaccinate, he was nursing quite well, pooping daily and just generally seemed to be in good health for a little fella. At about 8 weeks I got a call from.... to be honest, I'm not sure who it was from! But somebody in the system, and they threatened to call DSS if I didn't get him in to see a doc.
I know they were very serious about everything in the hospital with my last one (4 years ago). They wouldn't even let me check out until I had made a ped appointment and they had confirmed it. They were also very adamant about breastfeeding, even though the baby was not really in the mood to eat right after the birth. Ever 2-3 hours they would come in the room and force me to pump instead of just letting us both sleep. It felt like quite the ordeal to get out of there. I am all for feeding the baby, but I have also read that it's possible for the baby to be wiped out and not eat immediately after (24 hours). This time I have a family doctor that will act as the pediatrician, so I think it will be easier. And I don't mind going to the office after 6 weeks or whatever so he can measure the baby and I can decline vaccinations. They always ask, but they never threaten me when I say no, so that's good!

Added: Oh, and I cancelled the pediatrician appointment after I made it after I left. I put it off for a few months and eventually just decided against pediatricians altogether for him. He maybe went to one twice in his first 2 years.

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writermama12, I hear you. I would be the same way, hormones or not. And most of the time, my husband complies or at least hears what I am saying. But I will also say that germs are everywhere. Obviously, we don't want to be exposed to some of them, because why take the risk? But also, you're not guaranteed to get sick if you are exposed to the type of germs on hands and feet, your body can and will take care of them if it is strong enough. Germs that are transmitted through bodily fluids I would be more worried about. Not trying to take his side, just trying to make it easier to deal with his non-compliance. Maybe get a different perspective. My husband also works in a school, so we are especially worried about him bringing home pertussis in the first 3 months after the baby is born. But older kids, toddlers, I am less worried about germs and more worried about fortifying their immune systems.

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My GP has a great setup. Well appointments are only certain days and times, and no sick appointments are done during those times. Also, if you have a fever, they have you wait in the car until they're ready to call you, and you enter through the back door to the office instead of walking through the waiting room. My kids have never gotten sick from this doctor's office.

I had my OB appointment yesterday. I'm a little over 24 weeks. Blood pressure was high over the weekend, but it settled down to normal levels Monday and has stayed that way so far. Very strange. So no med change needed yet. That's a first! I was spilling 4+ glucose in my urine, so I'm checking blood sugar at home now instead of waiting 2 more weeks. So far, fasting was wonderful (actually on the verge of low) and 2 hours after my breakfast was perfectly normal. Not a lot of carbs in my breakfast though, so I ate a pb&j sandwich and a full glass of milk a bit ago. We'll see what it is after that. I spiked glucose after eating that last week before a midwife appointment. I've always spilled glucose during pregnancy while having normal blood sugar, so I'm hoping that's the case again this time, but since this pregnancy seems to hate me, I'm not holding my breath. But fasting number was very good, so I'm cautiously optimistic.

Baby girl has continued to be super active. She kicked my DH in the leg the other night.

And I got my cloth diaper covers from Assunta and totally love them. I also picked up a diaper lot locally that had some prefolds, workhorses, and fitteds, plus some covers and snappis. I'm selling the covers to a friend with a brand new grandbaby, as I really don't need 15 covers for the newborn stage.
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I have been MIA for a couple of weeks. Super crazy busy over here!

I'm 26 weeks, and hoping the next 14 or so weeks go reallllllllllllly slowly. Weird, I know. I have a huge to-do list to get done before the baby comes, stuff that I feel like will NEVER happen if I don't do it before I have five kids. At the very least, I don't want to have to wait another two years to do stuff like finish cleaning out and organizing my spare bedroom (where all of the "what the heck should we do with this?" stuff went when we moved in 2.5 years ago, plus a lot of stuff after that), and finally putting up some photos on our walls. And I'd really like to start knitting at some point...

I was measuring right at 26 weeks at my appt on Monday, which is funny, since I was measuring the same at my 22 week visit. Ha! My kids finally got to hear the hb, so that was really cool.

I hope to be able to be here more regularly, without just popping in every so often and blabbing until the cows go home, and then going silent for two weeks!

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Same here, nesting. I have to clean up the storage room and the garage. And mostly because when I do, I find all kinds of things that I forgot I had or couldn't find, like hardware to put the crib together and stuff like that. So it actually is worth doing before the baby gets here.

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I need to have the room ready to put a bed in for my mom. She usually spends the night a couple of times in the first week. Right now, I have nowhere for her to sleep!

I really just want it to be functional, too.


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While pregnant, I usually drive myself and everyone in my family crazy about getting things cleaned, organized, and settled before the new baby. Last time, for no good reason, we painted the whole kitchen and cabinets at 39 weeks. This time, I don't feel like taking on huge projects that need getting done (like downsizing the stuff in the garage or organizing the basement stuff)...but sanitizing stuff is my main drive this go. We did the fridge and freezer last weekend, and this weekend we will wash all the moldy windows in every room and vacuum and mop the upstairs, which happens only once a season around here. Also, I am so itchy to buy new sheets for every bed and set up the room the baby and I will recover in and live in for the next 6 months. But some of this stuff takes money we don't have yet, so I've got to wait. It is hard being patient when you are super nesty. I have been feeding my nesting need by putting things I want to buy into online carts where they'll stay until I have cash to blow.


BTW, my last angry post was sooooo hormonally driven. Little annoying thoughtless things my DH does have been getting under my skin. We talked about the issue right after I posted and were fine after that. Little things --like being too loud or clumsy when the toddlers are sleeping or ignoring me or acting mindless or distracted in general--become big things when I am pregnant. It is always like this. After the baby, I go back to normal mother (still bossy, but less passionate about it).

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We have to do the same(getting a bed ready for guests) We haven't had visitors since we put all the toys in the guest room.... Wonder how well that's going to go....

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Oh, I so wish I had time for nesting right now. That sounds so appealing. Soon!

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My mom will be here for around three weeks total, a week before my EDD. This will be the first time she's here around the birth. Usually she comes to visit about a month or two after the birth. So we have a bed set up in what will be the nursery and we'll set up the crib after she leaves. But I need to buy a new bedspread for it because the one on there now has all of these stains from diaper rash cream. Needs to be thrown out. I've had it for like almost ten years now and it's been through at least two kids.

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#25 of 36 Old 11-07-2014, 11:13 PM
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I'm so glad this week is over. I had a traffic ticket to take care of, so I had to drag my kids with me to the DMV, the police department, and the traffic court (just to see the clerk, not a judge). Tomorrow, the kids and I are helping my BFF and her kids with a yard sale (in prep for her move across the country at the end I the month. Waaaah!). Other than church, I am keeping my schedule clear for Sunday. I need a nap!


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I am also needing to set up a guest room. Our extra room currently serves as an office/homeschool storage space. I think I will still keep the desk in there, but we will remove the shelves to somewhere else and put a queen bed in the room. Perhaps clear out the closet so it is useable space rather than office and computer junk. I need a new larger mattress so we're going to order a king for ourselves and put our queen in the guest room, and ten get our oldest a twin xl because he currently is on our old king and it takes up the entire room and I want to put his little brother in there with him. So yea, all bed stuff here too. And we all need new sheets. Good sheets and blankets are so expensive!

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Same here on the room set-up. We have a guest room, but it is also going to be the baby's room so it needs to be dual purpose. I am brainstorming on a nook idea. I need a crib mattress, and I want a different duvet but don't *need* it. Sheets are so dang expensive! The duvet is so pretty but it is very girly. I also realized I don't have a chair I can nurse in. I am so sick of buying stuff for my house already. I am hoping to go thrifting with good results soon.

I'm also up at the crack of dawn freaking out because I have about 2 and a half months left and I don't have a single.thing.ready. No diapers, clothes, nada. I usually just have diapers and clothes ready to go, and their nursery nooks all decorated because that is how I nest and connect with them during pregnancy. My nesting urges are kicking in strong this week-- I took a broom to my ceilings and dusted the crap off of them! Soon the crazed cleaning will begin....And I have to get serious about stocking the freezer. No one has offered to come help, and I am unwilling to ask, so I need to prepare for it just being me and the kids....I hate it when the hormonal urges to prepare for a new baby bring all kinds of early morning and late night freak-outs.

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Duchess, wait a sec...are you saying you don't have *any* help at all while recovering with your newborn and taking care of your kids??? I might have missed something about this previously. Why won't you ask for help if no one has offered it? I cannot imagine the first week without help cooking and cleaning up since I can barely walk or even sit upright in a normal chair for a few days at least.


As for meals, I prepared a Shepherd's pie and a Super fatty Paleo Apple crisp last weekend. I plan to freeze another meal today if I can manage...but I AM going to ask my friends and family to bring us meals for first month. AND I'm going to ask that they come and play with my kids while I rest and nurse. Any help they can offer is better than me on my own! The thing I'm most worried about is illness brought into my house that will make the transition hellish. January and February are rampant with bad bugs! ugh.

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I think obsessing over what to buy is my way of nesting. I already have a lot of stuff this pregnancy, so I'm able to spend on some new things like a glider and a crib mattress. I was looking at crib mattresses and it's between the Moonlight Slumber Little Dreamer at $180 that got very very good reviews and the Naturepedic No Compromises 150 coil blah blah blah for anywhere from $250-299. The only difference is Naturepedic is organic all the way through. I'm leaning toward the cheaper one since I had an even crummier mattress last time and that worked out fine.

For bed sheets, I usually get whatever is on clearance at Target or wherever I happen to be. But for a comforter, cover, etc, this time I'm looking at IKEA. They have a lot of duvets that I could just put over my old comforter for only $20 and they even sell comforters for as low as $10. That's insanely cheap (for a twin bed).

I also think it's more important to have help immediately after giving birth. My main concern this time was loading myself and the baby up in the car just to take one of them to school and pick them up every day. That's twice a day that I would have to get into the car and drive. And in those 2-3 weeks after birth, that's the last thing I would want to do. Cooking I could see being easier than that.

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I did not have any help last time and it was really hard, especially since I was recovering from a Csection. This time I have had people offering help ahead of time, so hopefully they will come through. I am bummed that my BFF had to move back to PA. We figured that her moving here was perfect timing and that she would be a great help. My stepmom wants me to birth at their home which is an hour away from mine, so that she can help out. While there are definite advantages (they live a lot closer to my midwife), I don't see driving myself there during labor. Or having to be dependent on someone to get me there and back when I am ready to go home. Also if it turns into an emergency, the hospital by my home is much better to birth at. They will at least give me a chance to VBAC where the two hospitals by them will not.
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