20 weeks here too. Got the pregnancy confirmed at clinic so I'm free to register for the prenatal clinic now which could eventually lead to me seeing the doctor I'd want for backup, but of course (rolls eyes) they have the new modern franchise idea of prenatal care so you never know who you will see and if you are in labor your doctor may not be on call. WHATEVER. Why did the majority of women give into this bullshit and accept it as normal, that is what I want to know. You are paying for the care, you should be able to choose your care provider, period. In any case I now have legal proof that this baby exists, and I don't have to do anything further medically unless I feel it is a need. I've gained at least 8 pounds, possibly 13 (don't know my starting weight exactly but I'm typically between 120 and 125) and BP is good despite me having a minor headache before and during my appointment.
Money woes- we are so blessed, we have a comfortable rental home, still have power and water and internet and a phone, and are still managing to feed everyone and all the pets. Keeping the power on has been a major struggle. The trash bill wasn't paid and was supposed to be cut off last week but they picked it up! So that's another small blessing. Dh's main business closed down this year (wasn't breaking even) so we've had no steady income for months, bills are all piled up, got food stamps but they are inadequate, (we would get over $400 more if my youngest 3 kids had SS numbers, but SS is not working with our lack of birth certificates. Still chipping away at the bureaucracy, trying to make progress there.) We are all suffering a little affording so much less organic produce and cheese and yogurt, my kids main go-to snacks- but we're blessed too to be having so much food made from scratch (bread, tortillas, sauces) the incentive to switch to family wipes (why didn't I do this before, it really isn't that hard!) and to have an amazing source for raw milk that has been giving us our milk and eggs for the last month and a half after we could no longer afford to buy it due to the loss of income. 10 gallons a week y'all. So blessed. We have a truck that seats 5 for a 9 person family, needs service and gets probably 10 miles to the gallon with gas over $4 all the time, no savings, no retirement, usually no medical insurance (we just got Medi-Cal, but that will be gone next month if we can't get those SS #'s for the kids, we need them on last years taxes) my life insurance lapsed last fall and I can't afford to reinstate it, we sold our wedding rings to pay the water bill a couple years ago- lots of medical bills from last year (two kids broke bones) and no real assets to speak of except these beautiful exuberant children. Many people who have been through our last 5 years journey in canna-business might also have court cases to deal with, so really we are quite blessed to still be where we are. I see the ocean everyday if I want to make the walk or when I drive out. My husband has had a variety of jobs over the years and I counted back in time, out of 8 pregnancies (counting this one, not counting miscarriages) only 2 had solid employment throughout the pregnancy and postpartum. For all the rest he was losing a job, the business was closing, changing jobs, job was inadequate to meet bills- with unemployment at least once during the pregnant and postpartum months. Yet we are all still here together, healthy and growing our family. This gives me hope that we will get through this hard time too. It was a lot easier to be this broke when the rent was $350 instead of $2200, and I worry that we will end up having to leave my garden before the fall harvest, but we will get through this too.
, Tell me how you take your magnesium. I have a coral cal-mag powder from Radiant Life that I take mixed with ACV and water, or mixed into yogurt. And I take epsom salt baths. I always find them helpful when I have a headache, but hadn't tried taking the minerals for a headache, usually it is leg cramps that motivate me to take them. Have you tried magnesium oil? I haven't yet.