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#1 of 14 Old 07-23-2014, 02:27 PM - Thread Starter
 
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exhaustion??

hello! i apologize if someone (or many) have already posted anything about this. i do not get much computer time, and only have a minute now. am hoping to be able to come back to a reply or two tonight, maybe. i am 18/19 weeks (i can't remember anymore), and just as exhausted as i was in the first trimester. this is #5 for me, and this has never been this bad. i had a week or two where i was feeling on top of the world (maybe 12-14 weeks), and now i'm back to miserable. i can barely keep my eyes open. and i mean that as in, every dish is dirty, all the clothes are unwashed, the kids have been living on pretzel sticks today, and my eyes are actually burning. i feel hungover when i wake up. i was thinking i need more iron, maybe? but it feels beyond anything like that. i'm still nauseous on and off as well, and again, that's not typical for me. i know they're all different, but this is so extreme, it's really bothering me. i've only seen the midwife once so far (i don't usually even bother til later on anyway), and she suggested iron, and we can do some blood stuff. (i usually opt out). sorry i'm so wordy. lol. just if there's something, even something really silly and basic that i'm likely overlooking, please let me know! before the family is malnourished, and the kids have to wear pillow cases or something. thank you!!
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I'm sorry you feel so cruddy. Everyone will say, "Well, it's your fifth!" and there is some truth to that, but for me, it turned out my thyroid was not working right, and I needed medicine. I felt better pretty much instantly after taking the medicine.

Having said that, I still am nauseous occasionally at 19 weeks, and still tired, but I can do the laundry/dishes/cooking.

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I'm sorry you feel so cruddy. Everyone will say, "Well, it's your fifth!" and there is some truth to that, but for me, it turned out my thyroid was not working right, and I needed medicine. I felt better pretty much instantly after taking the medicine.

Having said that, I still am nauseous occasionally at 19 weeks, and still tired, but I can do the laundry/dishes/cooking.
thank you for mentioning that!! someone else brought it up a while back, and i completely forgot. they also suggested adrenal fatigue. i'm telling ya', i am not on top of my game! at all. i am a lump of horribly tired uselessness. i'm writing this down right now. so there are thyroid meds ok for pregnancy? that's so awesome! i'm also an idiot with anything medical. i avoid doctors like the plague. lol. i assume everything is dangerous in pregnancy, and that i'll have to wait til after baby comes. (i know i sound like the dumbest person right now). i really appreciate you replying, you just have no idea how desperate i am. i'm a sahm, kids are homeschooled, etc. and i just can barely care for them. the oldest is 8, so bless her little heart, she's been helping to feed the others. but i really don't want to rely on her for everything. without making a huge pity party for myself, i gotta say, this has thrown me into some serious depression, too. i feel like there's no hope left in the world. LOL. dramatic, yes. :P thank you again!
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It's not dangerous. In fact, it's bad for the baby to not have enough thyroid hormone. Ask for GP or midwife to order test for TSH, T4, T3 and anti-thyroid antibodies.

I get how you feel. Some days I just doze in bed while the little ones watch tv and the big ones play video games. They all can make basic food. I think it's good for kids to be self sufficient. And you won't feel this way forever. For me, the depression ends with childbirth.

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Do you have any money or friends/relatives who could float you some supplements? Fish oil is supposed to be great for helping to reactivate thyroid and it's a great supplement during pregnancy in any case. I have had pregnant days incapacitated by lower back pain or round ligament pain in past pregnancies, so I know how draining it is to have a bunch of kids underfoot and no energy or little physical ability to care for them, and then having the housework back up takes away your emotional energy on top of it... Hope you are able to get answers and effective treatment soon!
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It's not dangerous. In fact, it's bad for the baby to not have enough thyroid hormone. Ask for GP or midwife to order test for TSH, T4, T3 and anti-thyroid antibodies.

I get how you feel. Some days I just doze in bed while the little ones watch tv and the big ones play video games. They all can make basic food. I think it's good for kids to be self sufficient. And you won't feel this way forever. For me, the depression ends with childbirth.
you are awesome!! i am writing this down, and asking my mw about those tests. i know i get that basic one sometimes? crap if i know what it's for. i opted out once or twice. it's only gonna tell me i'm still B+ and have no rubella antibodies, anyway. haha. i will definitely ask about those tests. i often doze off, but it's really awful. kids sitting on windowsills, sneaking around doing horrible things. i can not afford to close my eyes for one second around them, but it still happens from time to time. its very scary, and i know i need to have way more energy. thanks a bunch! this was very helpful!
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Do you have any money or friends/relatives who could float you some supplements? Fish oil is supposed to be great for helping to reactivate thyroid and it's a great supplement during pregnancy in any case. I have had pregnant days incapacitated by lower back pain or round ligament pain in past pregnancies, so I know how draining it is to have a bunch of kids underfoot and no energy or little physical ability to care for them, and then having the housework back up takes away your emotional energy on top of it... Hope you are able to get answers and effective treatment soon!
fish oil! thank you! you know what's funny, i tried it years back (maybe late teens, early 20s), and it made me very sick. now being older and wiser, i wonder if it was trying to work to fix something in my body? you know when sometimes things have to get worse before they get better? hmm.. i am going to try it again. thank you so much! i'm making a trip to the health food store monday. if i make it through the next few days. haha.
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I can feel your pain! I still cant eat much also! but im ok with doing the housework at last and there is a free summer camp at our village everyday so thank God I dont have to think about my kids for a month! ..
Fish oil comes in pills, it can't make you sick! It is VERY good just try it! There is also very good immune booster: Biostrath. It is great when you feel tired, great for pregnancy and totally natural. I take those with every pregnancy and also barley tablets. Definitely do the blood test! I am just like you, never do the blood tests and see my mw only when I get into 7th month lol! BUT when I feel like I am really tired I do some blood tests! they are simple, cheap (thyroid is a bit expensive I guess) and will not harm anyone.

Also seeing a messy house around you can really make you more tired and down. Can you get a help to clean your house? When it is cleaned it is a bit easier to keep it clean. . I also think kids should depend on themselves. Mine can even load the washing machine and hang out the laundry. (they are 6 and 9). Kisses and hugs your way! really hope you feel better soon!
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Try B12, vitamin D (4,000 + IUs a day), and look into Floradix liquid iron and herbs (you can buy on amazon) if your hemoglobin is a bit low. That stuff is AMAZING.

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Thank you guys so much! i really hate that i can't scroll up while i do this, so i make sure i address everything you said. dang it. i will def try the fish oil again. i really did not feel well when i took it years back, but maybe it was psychosomatic, seeing as i really hate fish?? LOL. might all be in my head. :P and vitamin D, yes! i never thought about it til recently i had a friend (my mw actually) who had a blood test saying she was low. we live in florida, i did not even think it was an option to be low. haha. but apparently, it really is! amazing. and i am remembering floradex (sp?) was mentioned. wow, really wish i could scroll up... ha.. but i am going back to write all of it down! i do wish i had some help around the house more, i know depression over the squalor we're living in is not helping exhaustion. the kids are so nice and kind, generally speaking, but they can smell weakness, and they are also opportunists. the 3yo has always been a wicked little beast, but is approaching 4 now, and showing improvement, but he was the one i had to really stay on top of all day long. there's a 2yo as well, who is very good for a 2yo, but that being said, still a bit typical and gets into things. not that you guys wanna hear allll my problems (there are plenty! haha), but the bf is also working 50-60hr weeks. he comes home and speeds through as much cleaning as he can, but he is also really worn down. he keeps a smile on, but he's aged recently, i can tell life is getting to him as well. i'm just in an all-'round funk, and its effecting all of us. the kids even seem kinda depressed. the dog looks sad. i also have all these paranoias that prevent us from getting out more. we've had a lot of recent rattlesnake warnings around town, and now i'm all creeped out by going outside. yes, i know i'm nuts. lol. but its one of those things here. like, can we just have alligators?! 'cause i can see those, they don't hide in the grass! lol. anyway, i guess its just a vicious cycle. i got too worn down to do my regular mom duties, then too depressed to do them, in turn being more tired again. i am happy about the pregnancy and all that, but i am overwhelmed. we've always homeschooled, but i actually have been fantasizing about sending the 2 big ones to a school. i can't do it, they're 'behind' where they should be by regular standards, but i see the appeal now. anyway, thank you again!! everyone! i'm writing this all down, it's going in my purse, and i'm headed to a store monday. you're all really awesome!
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hope you are getting better! hugs! and yes,, if you can do go outside! we have a lot of snakes here too, but i just make sure to warn the kids not to step on one. snakes here never attack! If that is the case where u live, dont worry much I'd say, and walk with your dog, he should be able to bark at least if there is one around Try to do one thing in a day. Like say: today I am doing only the living room. It helps! That is what I do till now. Somedays like today (i've got a cold and was sleeping all day) are "no cleaning days" but others are ok. When you see some work done, you will feel better I promise!

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hope you are getting better! hugs! and yes,, if you can do go outside! we have a lot of snakes here too, but i just make sure to warn the kids not to step on one. snakes here never attack! If that is the case where u live, dont worry much I'd say, and walk with your dog, he should be able to bark at least if there is one around Try to do one thing in a day. Like say: today I am doing only the living room. It helps! That is what I do till now. Somedays like today (i've got a cold and was sleeping all day) are "no cleaning days" but others are ok. When you see some work done, you will feel better I promise!
oh man, you're awesome! thank you. and yes, i should take the dog, i'm sure he'd totally bark at snakes. i did not even think about that. honest to god, i am brain dead. lol. and true about making goals to do one thing a day. i try to tell myself all the time, that something is better than nothing. i'm one of those all-or-nothing people, the house is prefect, or it's a landfill. but if i did anything, it would be better! well, i did just put the washer on again. that 2 day old laundry might make it to the dryer yet! hahaha. thank you again for kind words, ideas and support!
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I have been really struggling with exhaustion as well. I mentioned it at my last OB appt and he mentioned checking my thyroid. I need to go get that test done. It's so hard being so tired all the time!! Hugs!

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so sorry i didn't see this last reply! i thought my email would let me know. boo. well, as an update, i've figured it out! well, most of it, anyway. i'm having problems with sugar/carbs. i can't wait for my glucose test to tell me i have all the diabetes. LOL. asides from not being able to open my eyes, i was also having serious heart pain. like, it would beat out of my chest and i'd lose my breath after i ate. and yes, it took me weeks to put this all together. haha. the last 2 or 3 days have been miraculous! i've done more in 2 days than i have in 3 or 4 months. no joke. i ate mostly veggies one day, then had a piece of toast. i had to actually lay down for 3 hours after the toast, b/c i was so sick feeling, and my heart was racing so bad. yesterday i had tons of celery and peanut butter (the only freaking things in the house that weren't carbs!), and i felt amazing. hungry, but amazing. today i woke up, and was actually not cursing the day. lol. i don't have it all sorted out yet, but i think potatoes are ok. i had vegetable soup, and didn't feel weird. so i'm thinking just refined carbs? i really don't know enough yet. anyway, thanks for all the advice! i'm still gonna ask about thyroid testing, and i think i'll have my iron checked, just in case. i'm sure there's more going on, but based on how i feel cutting the processed carbs, i'm guessing this was 75% of my problem. thanks again, everyone!
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