Hey Ladies, I started following this group a couple of weeks ago and am finally finding some time to introduce myself. I was feeling a little helpless and alone in my pregnancy as I live in a foreign country & am totally homesick. I came across this group and just reading a couple of threads, really gives me the feeling that I am not going this alone. Of course my dh is fantastic and my MIL is fab too......but my husband cant quite appreciate exactly how I'm feeling or answer some of my questions/anxieties. Oh & the MIL somehow thinks that everything is exactly how it was when she had her 5 children....and as she has had 5 kids, then she is the expert on everything! It's funny though that when I have said on 3 seperate occasions over these past few weeks, that I am sooo tired.......her response is 'Why?' and 'Why are you so tired?' .......ummm Hello.....Pregnant lady here! I think she has fallen to the 'pregnancy amnesia' in which one completely forgets about all pregnancy related feelings/symptoms after a few years of last pregnancy.
So a little about me.......I'm 37, British (Welsh) and married a Swiss 4 years ago and so we moved to Switzerland 3 years ago. Although its a lovely country and his family are great....most of the time!...I feel so disconnected from everyone and have come to dislike the whole antenatal experience here. I have a 20 year old son (yes I was a young mommy....the ripe old age of 16!) My son is in the British Army......and I miss him terribly!
My journey to conceiving.........I have had some health issues and a few operations due to a condition, Uterus didelphis and Stage 4 Endometriosis. I was very lucky actually, as I was due to have my tubes and ovaries removed and had to have part of my intestines removed and would of had a colostomy bag......however when I awoke from the operation, I was ecstatic to learn that no colostomy bag and they left my tubes and most of ovaries in place so that I would not need HRT at my age (35 at the time) However due to low fertility and my tubes were too destroyed from Endometriosis, we had to go down the IVF route. Healthcare here in Switzerland is very expensive & IVF is even more so......so it has been financially stressful, especially for my dh.
Unfortunately with the first IVF cycle I miscarried in Feb 2014 and was so devastated. But...........After all the struggle and pain, we are so so so happy to be finally 19 weeks pregnant!!!!
We had been TTC for over 2 years and still sometimes I can hardly believe that a little baby is growing right inside me....it still amazes me!
I was so young when I was pregnant with my son, that I didn't really pay attention to anything and I took everything in my stride.....I must say I wish I was as laid back about the whole experience this time around. We did not have any emphasis on information on the web as it was still quite a new thing and we did not have apps as we do now. I just had one book that I was given free at an antenatal appointment that I read and let my body take care of the rest. I am slightly envious of 16 yr old me, but somehow I cant stop myself from overloading myself with information......that somehow always leads me to the complications and worse case scenarios........why is that!!?
This pregnancy has been more stressful than my first though....I had some bleeding in 10th week, which totally freaked me out. I called the hospital and was told its normal and call back if I have bad pain. What the heck!....I'm freaking out here! I was not too amused with the midwives or doctors lack of compassion or understanding and the following day I insisted on an appointment, to check for a heart beat....although we couldn't find one with a doppler, the doc did an u/s and all was well
The preconception to being pregnant over the age of 35, coupled with IVF apparently causes for concern. We had tested as high risk for Trisomy 18 and the doctors pushed for me to have invasive procedures such as an amniocentesis. But after sticking to my guns, we agreed on regular u/s carried out by a chromosomal defect specialist.......and after a tough few weeks, we were given the all clear last week
Now all I have to worry about is the preeclampsia they have me as high risk for and so am taking aspirin daily for that. Fingers crossed we are plain sailing from here on out
I hope i have not babbled on too long haha.
I look forward to getting to know you ladies better and enjoying this journey with you