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Weekly Chat Thread 7/28-8/4

Can you believe it is almost AUGUST??? Where has the summer gone??

I had a nice weekend-- I didn't have to work (yay!) and I was able to go to a dancing for birth class and to a doula networking meeting and it was so nice to be able to fellowship with other birthy people. We also had a church picnic yesterday and that was so much fun for the kids!

I am sitting at the computer trying to write up my IHIP (individualized home instruction plan) for my son for homeschool this year. I wanted to begin teaching today, but realized I have some more supply shopping to do!


How is everyone?

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Doing great, enjoying baby acrobatics pretty frequently now. He's going crazy in there! And he is strong!

I CANT believe August is already here. I'm kind of nervous about bills, plus we want to move by September 1st.. This is going to be a crazy month, I'm hoping for some miracles.
I haven't been working out as much as I'd like to be.. I want to fix that this week. I'm not over eating though, so I'm not too worried about my weight gain.. Just noticed my thighs lookin a little cottage-cheesy and realized I need to be doing my squats instead of being so lazy. I think my nerves about finances have immobilized me haha but I'm sure exercising would help them too.

I have gathered a bunch of free (or dirt cheap) baby clothes.. I need to collect more, plus a car seat and changing table. It's fun hunting down free/low cost baby gear, that's for sure. It gets me excited.

Today I will probably try to declutter something, since we are moving. I really need to start organizing and boxing things up so I'm not trying to do it frantically later.

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No I can't. I refuse to believe July is almost over.... . I haven't even gotten a single tomato out of my garden yet! It was so cold this past spring that everything was so late getting in though... we're enjoying cucumbers and I made another jar of fridge pickles today!
Not a whole lot of news on the pregnancy front here, other than I sat and weeded an old greenhouse yesterday to get it ready and now my hips are killing me.

This morning was very frustrating. We have a 5 month old border collie that keeps chasing our chickens and it's been really frustrating. She has a very dominant personality, and absolutely refuses to obey commands from myself or my 8 year old. She'll listen to hubby, but he's only home on the weekends! so I found myself screaming at the dog this morning which threw off my entire day... I get so testy and grumpy so easily at everyone and everything when I'm pregnant. I'm sure I'm great fun to be around.... :P
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I'm SO STRESSED. We're closing on a new house tomorrow and found a bunch of issues at the final walk through. We also found out that there might be issues wiring the closing money to our attorney's bank because we use an online bank. We also found out today that the POD with all our stuff in it won't be delivered until Saturday and ALL of my family is going out of town on Friday, so we will just have my almost 70 year old FIL to help us move. OMG. And I lost my car keys and we can't find them anywhere and we don't have a backup. I'm so stressed I just want to curl up under something. I'm not sure what we're going to do, to be honest. The car keys are the most immediate concern, but if closing is delayed again because of a stupid wire transfer hiccup, I'm going to start crying. Really really stressful. I'm trying to take deep breaths for the baby's sake, but it's tough to keep everything in perspective.

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Oh @LilyTiger , I feel your pain! We sold our old house and purchased a new one when I was pregnant with my last baby. It was SO stressful! You'd think buying a house would be easy, but I swear it gets harder and harder.... prayers and thoughts sent your way!
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@LilyTiger I hope everything resolves itself quickly. We are in the process of trying to buy a house ourselves, and it looks like we have to push that back another year. These things never go how they should. I hope you find your keys soon!

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What's going on here... I'm pushing myself to get things done on my own, despite the foot issue. I can't stand waiting around for someone else to do it, let alone do it one way just for me to want to re-do. OCD much? Yes. So since we are stuck in this rental till February, I did some kitchen organizing and cleaning. It needed it. Next is my living room, if hubby will take me to Ikea anytime soon. I need fresh and uniformed furniture in here. Meantime, I'm looking to throw a tag sale. If I have to be stuck in this house most of the time, it's time to get rid of things none of us are ever using again!

I have my gestational diabeties test on the 20th. And I don't have to go to the hospital for anymore anatomy/placenta/yada yada scans until September 16th. I have no issues with my OB. I hate that certain things have to be done at our local hospital. And that "specialist" is such a jerk, but the other one isn't much better.

Whoever has "proven" that babies in the womb sleep 12-14 hours a day needs to go check their facts and references. My little girl sleeps maybe 6 hours a day. I can feel her kicking at my sides all day long, and it wakes me up all night.

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oh July where did you go?! I work in the public schools and have an eleven month contract so July is my only month off. Next Monday, not only do I have the rude awakening of going back to work but I have to work the hours of 7-5 (4 day work week) for the rest of the summer - I hate it!
LilyTiger- sorry about the stress of buying a house and moving... I think I might be giving everyone here an earfull as we get closer to December. We have been renovating our house for something like 9 months now, and it's not even close to being finished. My dh is a general contractor and he's doing all the work himself - turning our 3 bedroom rancher into a 5 bedroom cape cod with a big added great room on the back of the house. It should be great when its finished but it is taking forever! I stayed in an apartment with the 4 kids for 7 months, but then we couldn't afford that rent any longer. So we are shoved into 3 bedrooms, one bath and a make-shift kitchen (no oven/stovetop) I thought I could be a trooper in the summer, since we could grill out and eat from the garden, but this is getting really old.
I'm 19 weeks this week and finally started to feel some convincing baby movements - hopefully they will get even stronger, love it!

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I'm sorry @LilyTiger .. My mom is falling part right now because they're in the middle of buying a new home in her hometown that needs a BILLION renovations, plus they've got to sell their old place back in MY hometown, and she's trying to find a teaching job in the town they're moving to while she tries to get the "new" house in a livable condition so they can actually move in.. So she has been apologizing to me for not being for invested in the baby stuff.. I talked to her a week and a half ago and she was very flustered and busy and told me she would call me back on a few days.. But she never did. She's just too stressed with the other things going on. so I know it can take up so much energy.

Well I found a very cheap rental in Eugene that I am hoping is still available in a few days, when i will be able to tell them for sure when we could have the money and move in. PLEASE help me out by praying/sending out good vibes that we will be able to this home I have found! It is too perfect I'm hoping the universe has sent us a wonderful blessing!!

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Chapsie that's interesting about the IHIP. I've not heard of that but it sounds kinda fun. I'm so anxious to get my lesson planning for the year seriously underway. I seem to only manage a few minutes here and there. Like, I was flipping through our science books during dinner, contemplating how I'll divide them up this year. (We use Apologia for science, what do you guys use?) We're taking 6 wks for break and starting up again sept 2nd.

Well it's official. I don't enjoy my OB appts. LOL. Exactly like I predicted. I've been to 2 so far. I won't bore everyone with a big whiny rant, but I will share that I've waited a solid 45 mins both times before being seen. At my last appt the OB then saw me for exactly 5 minutes. And secondly, she is quite young and I'm just not sure she's ever had experience with women that aren't birth control users. She spends quite a bit of time pushing a tubal ligation during my appts. I've not expressed interest in one! But she entirely assumes (without ever asking) that I never want to conceive again. It's rather odd! But I guess I am too.

I'm 18 weeks and just tired, tired, tired. I simply don't get enough chances for sleep. But I sure enjoy feeling that wiggly little person in there having a disco party!
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Hi ladies,

I'm 19w+4d and I too am soo tired the past few weeks. I haven't felt much movement, which worries me on times as I convince myself that something is wrong.....just overly paranoid I think

Has anybody else had sore nipples lately? Or just me? My nipples have been pretty sore and sensitive which I assume is down to the breasts preparing for the milk to come in. I'm just hoping this isn't a sign of things to come as I am dreading the nipple pain and discomfort from feeding.

I have to wait another 2 weeks for our next scan to find out the sex.....ahhh I want to know already lol my husband was unable to make the last scan 2 wks ago and due to his work commitments we had to schedule the next one for 13/08. The specialist asked me at my last scan if I wanted to know and I stupidly said no I want to find out with dh together. Why oh why didn't I just get her to write it on some paper so we could open it together later that day. Pregnancy brain doesn't allow me to think of these things until it's way way too late I was considering calling up the specialist and begging her to let me know but I doubt she would be able to remember me as I'm sure she has many many patients. So I shall have to wait it out as with everything in pregnancy.....a 9 month waiting game

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I wanted to start school on Monday. I've been staying up so late, and sleeping so late so I tried to fix that. Sunday I went to bed at 12:30, which isn't too bad for me. Then I woke up to take care of my four year old at 4:30 and couldn't go back to bed! I took a nap Monday morning 8:30 till 12 noon. Oh my goodness. SO much for starting school. I felt terrible yesterday, so out of it and tired. So, last night I was exhausted, and I was worried I'd take a late night nap, and ended up falling asleep around 9pm. My 4 year old woke me up at 3! Now, here I sit at four thirty in the morning. I just ate some toast, so I'm hoping maybe it will help me rest.
Thank you for letting me vent about my weird, and terrible sleep patterns. I like to think of this as my body's way of getting ready for having a newborn.

@zjande we use Building Foundations For Scientific Understanding. It's very adaptable While I sometimes wish for something that I could just 'open up and have every thing laid out for me word for word' I've been pretty happy with the book, and it's results.

@DBurri my breasts have been achy, and my nipples sensitive this whole pregnancy. This week they've taken things to a whole new level. I have to shield them from shower spray. It's terrible. I can't wait to start nursing, and put all this build up behind me. This is my fourth time with babies, and I've never experienced such sensitivity before.

I'm 19 weeks, and 5 days today. My midwife comes in about 4 hours. She's not going to be pleased about my sleep. I think it's funny how each of my midwives seem to have a "thing" that they focus on. This midwife definitely focuses on sleep, my last midwife focused on food. I am super excited to hear my little boy's heart beat. Thursday I'll see my OB. I see her once a trimester to check on my thyroid, although I'm sure she wishes she had more input. And on Friday we go to our anomaly scan. I'm sure everything is going to be great, and healthy. I also have a sense of paranoia that I can't possibly have 4 perfectly healthy babies, and that something bad is going to happen. I have to let that fear go.

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I am impressed by all you homeschoolers. I did it for only 1.5 years with one child and that was enough. I am happy when school starts so it is quieter and cleaner around here. School will start I think August 27th?

I saw the OB practice I'm switching to for the first time yesterday. First doc was very nice, a young man with a wife and kid. There are seven of them. They seem to be very client-focused, and the hospital they deliver at gets rave reviews, so I feel good about it. If my CNMs had privileges at a hospital that took my insurance, I would have stayed with them, but the insurance situation in my town is so messed up, and I just wanted to be in a hospital.
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@DBurri I am so there with you with the sore nipples and breasts. Even the water from the shower makes them hurt

Today is the day ladies! My scan is at 3:30 and we will officially (fingers crossed) find out if this baby is a boy or girl. I'm just praying for a healthy and happy baby that comes on December 20

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@DBurri I am so there with you with the sore nipples and breasts. Even the water from the shower makes them hurt

Today is the day ladies! My scan is at 3:30 and we will officially (fingers crossed) find out if this baby is a boy or girl. I'm just praying for a healthy and happy baby that comes on December 20
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@zjande , an IHIP is a state regulation. I have to send it into the district-- our learning goals/ resources and a statement saying we will school the equivalent of a public school year (in regards to attendance) which is 180 days and 900 hours. (ha).

We had our first day today and it went great! I am so grateful that my littlest still takes a long morning nap!


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Hi everyone! I've been on a major reorganizing kick the last couple weeks, and this last weekend I cleaned out the garage. The closets and the garage are all just packed with stuff, and I'm getting really realistic about what we actually need, and moving things along so that others can use them. It's been a ton of work, but totally satisfying.

I'm 20 weeks this week, so halfway there, or nearly as my babies seem to be slow at joining us. Been worrying a lot lately about going past 42 weeks and having to be induced. My plan is to refuse induction unless there's a strong medical reason to do so, and I'm nervous about that. I have my regular midwife appointment next Tuesday, so I will bring it up then. I know it's early to worry about, but it's weighing on my mind heavily. I was induced at 41w5d and 42w with the first 2, both times with pitocin, and both times I hemorrhaged after birth. I don't have any way to know for sure, but I feel like the pitocin may be related to the hemorrhage, and It's scary and debilitating. Also my partner and my dad have both expressed serious concern about the risk of hemorrhaging again. Anyway feels good just to get the concern out a little, as I try not to show any concern in front of my partner, as he's worried enough already.

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Chapsie, I love drooling over the MFW catalog. (And every other HS catalog, ha!)

BrokenFish, I totally hear your worries. Funny thing, I have similar but opposite worries. . For unknown reasons my last baby suddenly came at 33 weeks. I also severely hemorrhaged afterwards. I too worry a lot about it- what if this baby comes early too?? Why did I hemorrhage?? Will I have a peaceful birth this time? I know I'll worry more and more as the weeks go by, but I don't want to stress myself so bad that I cause early labor!

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hemorrhage is scary. I never had a postpartum hemorrhage, but I did hemorrhage after a miscarriage and lost over 2 L (half my blood volume). I had to do a lot of fear clearing and praying before my next pregnancy and birth. I just kept reaffirming to myself that "this is a new baby and a new birth!" :::

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Hey ladies! I had a great week last week. We went on vacation and found out the sex of the baby. It's a boy..... (as I posted on another thread.)
We are pretty much all set with what we need as I already have one of each my youngest who is 21 months is a boy so I'm just leaving the nursery the same.
I'm praying for everyone's worries and concerns.
I've also been waking at about 4 or so every morning and can't get back to sleep.
I'm worried about my youngest. He's been very cranky lately. He's always been very happy and laid back. But for the last week he cries all day long!!!! It's totally opposite from his normal personality. I suspect teeth bc he did cry a few times and say teeth and pulled at his mouth. If he's not better by the end of the week I'm going to take him to the dr to get his ears and stuff looked at. He has no fever but he's had an ear infection before without a fever. Pray for my sweet little guy. He's never been like this.
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Apeydef, could it be his molars? Poor little guy. My toddler's couple angry molars FiNaLLy popped through just recently. They looked swollen and painful. One even had this ugly blood blister over it. My poor boy was sooo fussy.

Also, I can't recommend enough having a home otoscope! I happened to order this one,
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. Then I researched pictures of healthy and not healthy ear drums online. It has been wonderfully convenient!

ETA: I can't figure out why my link doesn't work. You'll see it if you search for "dr mom otoscope" at Amazon.

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Apeydef, could it be his molars? Poor little guy. My toddler's couple angry molars FiNaLLy popped through just recently. They looked swollen and painful. One even had this ugly blood blister over it. My poor boy was sooo fussy.

Also, I can't recommend enough having a home otoscope! I happened to order this one, http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003Q2...&pi=SY200_QL40. Then I researched pictures of healthy and not healthy ear drums online. It has been wonderfully convenient!

ETA: I can't figure out why my link doesn't work. You'll see it if you search for "dr mom otoscope" at Amazon.
Thanks for the tip. I never thought of getting one. I think it is molars but he won't let me look. I know he doesn't have the back ones yet bc I counted my 5 yr olds teeth and then his lol
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U/S went well. Have to go back next week to do it again. Baby moved too much to get all of the pictures. Initially she told us it was a girl but it looks like its a boy again. So we're having a boy.

I'm happy but honestly I'm feeling really letdown. Everyone around us has said nothing but girl for MONTHS and then the tech says girl and then completely throws us for an emotional rollercoaster with saying boy. Hubby was really upset with her for that. I almost wish I had never found out at this point. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy about this baby but I need a moment to accept the fact that I will not have a girl.

We told DS who really didn't care and walked off to play with his toys. Go figure. DH told his parents and we haven't heard from them. He suspects that if said girl they would have called but its another boy and I guess his family just really doesn't make girls at all. If this was a girl, it would be the first girl in three generations.

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U/S went well. Have to go back next week to do it again. Baby moved too much to get all of the pictures. Initially she told us it was a girl but it looks like its a boy again. So we're having a boy.

I'm happy but honestly I'm feeling really letdown. Everyone around us has said nothing but girl for MONTHS and then the tech says girl and then completely throws us for an emotional rollercoaster with saying boy. Hubby was really upset with her for that. I almost wish I had never found out at this point. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy about this baby but I need a moment to accept the fact that I will not have a girl.

We told DS who really didn't care and walked off to play with his toys. Go figure. DH told his parents and we haven't heard from them. He suspects that if said girl they would have called but its another boy and I guess his family just really doesn't make girls at all. If this was a girl, it would be the first girl in three generations.
I'm sorry. I had really bad gender disappointment with one of my kids and it sucked. It lasted the whole second half of my pregnancy and I was really depressed. Looking backward, I should not have found out the sex that time; also, I tend to just be depressed while pg, and I should know that; and finally, when he was born, it ended and I love him so much. So hang in there. You will love the baby so, so much.

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hmm, Mo - I'm not so sure I would trust that u/s tech. You would think they are trained not to say anything unless they know for sure! Maybe next time it will change again! Anyway, I'm sorry you are disappointed. I have 3 boys that came in a row, and I do think there is something special about brothers Yay for a healthy baby!
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Mo, I totally empathize! We were told by a doctor friend that it was a boy (which I was really hoping for!!) and for two weeks, I fantasized about my new baby boy (we have one son and two daughters). Then, at my anatomy scan, they told me it was definitely a girl and I was SHOCKED. I am still, two weeks later, trying to wrap my brain around it. I'm going to have three daughters. Of course, I'm so thrilled she is healthy and happy in there, but I had my heart set on evening out the family. Oh well, God knows best!! Happy to hear your baby is doing well.

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U/S went well. Have to go back next week to do it again. Baby moved too much to get all of the pictures. Initially she told us it was a girl but it looks like its a boy again. So we're having a boy.

I'm happy but honestly I'm feeling really letdown. Everyone around us has said nothing but girl for MONTHS and then the tech says girl and then completely throws us for an emotional rollercoaster with saying boy. Hubby was really upset with her for that. I almost wish I had never found out at this point. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy about this baby but I need a moment to accept the fact that I will not have a girl.

We told DS who really didn't care and walked off to play with his toys. Go figure. DH told his parents and we haven't heard from them. He suspects that if said girl they would have called but its another boy and I guess his family just really doesn't make girls at all. If this was a girl, it would be the first girl in three generations.
We're expecting our fourth boy in a row, and I've been wanting a sister for Lydia for three pregnancies now, so I'm always a little disappointed at first when it's another boy. Your feelings are totally normal.

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Thanks everyone for letting me know my feelings are normal. I was starting to feel kinda guilty about it. I'm doing much better and I'm happy that this is a healthy baby. I've decided that we are not going to share the sex with anyone else until we know for sure what we are having. I just think it will be best. In the meantime, I have a doctor's appointment today for my regular 4 week checkup and see if she can do an ultrasound too.

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I too had 4 boys in a row. During my next pregnancy I decided to find out he gender before hand just because I knew that if it was going to be a boy I would need a little mourning time. I understand gender disappointment. But it goes away and you'll enjoy your little boy with all your heart. ❤️❤️

After those 4 boys I did manage to have a girl. And then another boy. Lol!

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Had my regular maternal check- upyesterday. I have gained one pound so far this pregnancy, which is goodaccording to midwife. She suspects I will see some slight increase over thenext few months. Since I had a little extra cushioning beforehand, they don’t want me to gain too too much weight.

Baby Boy’s heart rate was 159 and he was kicking up a storm.She said I’m doing just fine. Oh by the way, my placenta is posterior, whichexplains why I feel everything.

Busy busy weekend ahead with DS’s birthday party and myin-laws arriving in town later today for the festivities. I’m pretty much goingto be on the go for the next 4 days so I’ll catch with you guys later!

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