Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: San Fransisco Bay area, Northern California
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I loved my doula experiences. With my 2nd she helped me to stay relaxed and go inside myself, allowing me my blissful birth. I used a different doula with my 3rd,but my birth was so fast that she didn't arrive until right before the baby was born. She took beautiful photos of our post birth, and literally spoon fed me eggs when my body was struggling to catch up with what had just happened.
With this birth I was concerned that I couldn't afford one, but my midwife said that her assistant would be there for what I need. That's a relief. At this time, I expect I'll need my doula to just remind me when I need direction to stay centered.
My husband and I are incredibly close, like ridiculously. We've been together for twenty years, and I need to know that he's near when I labor. That being said, he's not helpful to me when I'm laboring. He gets so excited. Even though he tries to stay calm, I just know him too well. I can feel his energy and it's distracting.
I like everything super quiet, I don't want to be talked to. I prefer having someone who knows what they are doing, but does not have an emotional attachment to me. I'm too empathic, and I don't want to go there emotionally with someone. I need to just be.
For dealing with birth baggage, I'd try one of the hypno programs, art, birth affirmations, talking to your midwife, or maybe even seeing a therapist.