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Chapsie 08-03-2014 11:24 PM

*~*~*~Spotlight on Bracha04~*~*~*
 
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@Bracha04 Sorry it's late!


Tell us about yourself! Do you have any brothers or sisters? What was your favorite thing to do as a child? What is your favorite hobby now as an adult? What did you want to be when you grew up?

Bracha04 08-04-2014 06:18 AM

This weekend was busy, so late is good! :grin:

I'm an only child and I longed for siblings! I spent hours at my neighbor's home. They had three kids. I grew up in a rural area and I went barefoot many days, climbed trees, spent time in the woods, picked wild blackberries, and I loved the freedom. I even went barefoot as much as possible into my teenage years. It was just more comfortable. As an adult, I've worn shoes regularly, although I missed being barefoot. Lately I've been reading as much as I can about being barefoot, since I was told this year that my arches are falling. We also noticed that my daughter (age 7) has feet that turn in. So, right now my hobby is learning about feet and how to strengthen them. I never knew there were shoes that let your feet feel so free, and I'm obsessed! It's like my journey to natural birth. I never knew birth could be so blissful! I wonder now what other secrets the universe is keeping from me!

When my 1st grade teacher did a book project, we were told to write a page that explained what we want to be when we grow up. I drew myself holding a baby boy. This was always my first ambition. :smile: Thankfully, I am pregnant with my sixth and I have been enjoying homeschooling them!

Chapsie 08-04-2014 08:08 AM

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How old are your kids? Do you still live in a rural area? Tell us what a typical (homeschooling) day looks like at your house!

zjande 08-04-2014 08:47 AM

What are some of your favorite curricula and favorite subjects to teach?
What area did you grow up in?
How did you meet your husband?

Bracha04 08-04-2014 11:21 AM

@Chapsie My kids are 14(d), 9(d), 7(d), 4(s), and 2(s). I no longer live in a rural area. I appreciate some aspects of the location we live now, but the pollution and crowding are difficult for me. I would love to live on a collective farm somewhere with pure water in a creek or spring nearby! We took a trip to NY city recently to visit family. The trip was nice, but our area feels less crowded compared! It was good for perspective :smile:

A typical homeshooling day for us has changed each year and sometimes during the year. We make a schedule sometimes and then drop it when it doesn't work anymore. I like the flexibility! @other -homeschooers What does it look like for your family? How long have you been doing it?

@zjande I recently found Shurley English Homeschool and my girls have really grown in their grammar and writing skills with this curriculum. It's been working well for us and I love the results. I also have used the Saxon curriculum for a long time. Those also fit well with my kids interests and learning style. I don't ever use the curriculum in a strict sense though. We only have it to facilitate their needs. Thankfully, they love to read and that is a huge part of what helps them learn. We also love to go on field trips when possible for hands on learning.

I grew up in northern FL and I met my husband at college.

Chapsie 08-04-2014 07:58 PM

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Any specific plans for this birth? What is your favorite memory of birth? What is your favorite memory of being a mom?

Chapsie 08-04-2014 07:59 PM

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What was your wedding like? What did you study at college?

Galatea 08-04-2014 08:37 PM

What does your user name mean?

crunchymama27 08-04-2014 11:00 PM

How do you explain your large family's existence to those who question? I find myself copping out with my religion of record as an excuse, despite the fact that I'm not coming from that doctrinal root. (We're on baby #8 in utero here)

Bracha04 08-05-2014 05:48 AM

@Chapsie I'm planning my second homebirth. I think my favorite memory of my recent birth was being the only one to give a cervical check and the thrill of feeling my son's head. That moment was amazing and such a positive experience compared to some of the rough exams I've endured before. I forgot all about measurements and thought, "That's my baby!" He was born a few hours later!

I feel like every day is a blessing. I do not know that I could pick one memory. I love watching them grow, learn and work towards their goals.

My wedding was small and simple, yet perfect. I studied religion in college and I am still slowly working toward my BA in religion with the hope of someday becoming a nurse midwife. I am entering my last semester this fall. It is fascinating to me how different people think and process the world! That is why religion was interesting to me. I didn't even know about midwifery in college! It all works out for the best though. I really enjoyed the education and the opportunity to learn about so many different cultures.

@Galatea My username is my middle name. It means blessing. The number was half of my great grandmother's home address! She was a very special person.

@crunchymamma 27 That is a common issue! Many mainstream American people (my family especially) think we're very strange. We homeschool, homebirth, don't conform to cultural expectations and have lots of kids. Ironically, I feel like our family is very small :grin: so it's all about perspective. What usually comes out of my mouth in these conversations is that I feel the world is full of potential and uncertainty. I do not feel that the culture or economy should dictate our procreative choices. It might sound odd to some people, but I feel my children's presence before their born and I believe that they are waiting to join us. They are part of us before conception. To someone immersed in the concrete thinking that pervades American society this does not always make sense, but that is the best way I can explain my choices. I could not imagine being old looking back with the regret of limiting them for fear or social reasons which fleet like the wind and shift with a moment's notice. The world is inherently dangerous and uncertain, but this does not dictate my decisions or family choices. We have one moment, a very small amount of time here and they are precious to us, nothing we could work towards in our lives is more meaningful and fulfilling. There is absolutely nothing more important to me. For all of the things that money and resources get wasted on in this world, it surprises me that people make such a big deal about having children. The world is backwards in my opinion, but each person has to evaluate what they feel is right and important.

Even though I feel these things strongly, it terrified me to tell my m-i-l, but my four year old son spilled the beans before we could decide how to share the news. He said, "guess what?!" She said, "what?" Then he told her, "My mommy has a baby in her tummy!!!!" She said, "OH!" He said with a huge grin, "YES!! We don't know if it is a boy or a girl!" His enthusiasm was contagious and she responded positively for a change. My life is complete because of them. There really are not enough words to explain that! :smile: My mom expresses her concern often, so I asked her which one she would give back! She was stumped by that question, but it exemplified to her how we feel about them before they are even conceived.

It's a tough topic, but a good question!

Chapsie 08-05-2014 07:16 AM

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"There is absolutely nothing more important to me. For all of the things that money and resources get wasted on in this world, it surprises me that people make such a big deal about having children."

^^ YES! That is so good and so true! Thank you for such an awesome response! I love your 4 y.o.'s excitement! So sweet!

badwolf092087 08-05-2014 07:42 AM

I'm sure you've talked about this before and mentioned it many times but my memory sucks. How many children do you have? I'm a fan of big families, especially since my mother had remarried and I gained a HUGE extended lot of people to call family. I also admire anyone who can pursue their dream of family. :grin:

zjande 08-05-2014 10:23 AM

Oh Bracha I enjoyed reading your thoughts on children very much. ❤️ I couldn't agree more.

Funny thing, it's uncomfortable telling my MIL about new babies as well. Her responses are weird, and not positive. And my mother (who recently passed) was the same as yours also, slipping in comments about "how blessed only children are" and other non-large family supporting things.

It makes me chuckle how many people see us as a "large Catholic family". We only decided to join the church this year, and decided to have lots of children long before god and religion were even on our minds! :p But since we never go places with our whole family (except to church) people aren't usually aware how many children I have. Since moving to north idaho where large families are common, I can't think of a single time anyone around here has said anything unsupportive. I'm grateful for that.

What are your favorite foods?
Do you enjoy cooking and baking?

Bracha04 08-05-2014 12:24 PM

@badwolf092087 Thankfully, we have five children.

@zjande I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I hope that you are able to find comfort in her memory during your pregnancy. It's nice that your family found a community that is more supportive. The most common comment people make to us is, "Isn't it hard to have such a big family?" and I always tell them that it would be much harder not to have them!

My favorite food is usually chocolate, but it has been unappealing this pregnancy. That is very weird for me! I love cooking and baking!

zjande 08-05-2014 12:35 PM

What grade students will you have this year?
What are some of your kids' favorite things to do?

(I really don't like cooking or baking!! Which is funny since I do soo much of it every day for so many people! LOL)

Bracha04 08-05-2014 12:59 PM

This year we have 9th, 4th, 2nd and K. My kids love to do anything messy and artistic, which challenges me a lot! They also love to move, run and play. I'm lucky that they also enjoy reading and science.

That is funny you don't like cooking and baking :grin: I am only opposed to the clean up process involved, but I love making and eating food!

crunchymama27 08-06-2014 09:35 AM

Thanks so much for your response to that tough question Bracha! The pre-existence (what the LDS church would call it) is also a very real place to me. I do feel that our babies are alive in spirit before they are born into their bodies, and that they are choosing their family. I struggle mostly with the financial aspect of a large family and adjusting the standards I was raised with- we don't have trust funds for the kids, or college savings. It's a struggle to make sure they have a bikes. But I come from an upper class middle income sort of family with a lot of educated privileges- like, antique furniture, shelves with books in every room, real art (not just prints from Michaels) on the walls, a piano, home computer in the 80's. Having children without a career, a car (our oldest!) a mortgage and a degree is just not DONE. My sweet husband (from a similar family background, except he was raised in the church and youngest of 9 kids) convinced me to listen to my ovaries despite our youth and circumstances. He said, (paraphrasing, I don't remember exactly) people are having large families in Guatemala with dirt floors and no running water. You have electricity and indoor plumbing, you are rich enough to have a baby- we just need to get married first! So here we are being improvident again. The world seems to think that children require a lot more than we give them, and a lot less. A lot more space, !!stuff!!, routine cultural and taboo indoctrinations and control, but many fewer siblings, and much less time with mama and daddy. Breakfast cereal and Goldfish crackers- how can I raise kids without food from a box!? Trips to Disneyworld, or Six Flags, ballet lessons (oh I had those) and karate- they'd be nice to afford, but is not affording them a reason to limit my family size? My poor deprived kids who will grow up with no memories of big family vacations and birthday parties just for them with ponies and bounce houses! I think they'll be ok. We pick a LOT of blackberries. ;) And that is probably healthier for them than the electronic kind.

I love cooking. With whole foods, for grown-ups who don't have fussy palates and who are not time sensitive in their need to eat, since the meals I enjoy preparing usually take about 3 hours longer than I thought they would, and often contain things like onions, garlic, and vegetables. :P My picky eaters have take a lot of energy from my desire to cook. Eventually they will either out grow it, or grow up and move out!

I feel like I'm taking over your thread, but I do have one more story to share about foot health- My husband had flat feet his whole life. Shortly after the birth of our 2nd, his big toe on one foot swelled up and he couldn't walk on it. He went to a specialist who prescribed special fitted insoles for his shoes. When picking up the insoles, the specialist mentioned Birkenstocks as an option if dh wanted to wear sandals ever. Well not only did Birks fix the toe issue but they have also developed his feet to the point that just 5 years later he noticed his footprint now had arches, and he has arches today! I started wearing them at the same time- I was also a barefoot child, but then I had cancelled that out by spending a lot of time in pointe shoes and my beloved granny boots. Birks were the most comfortable shoes ever. After 2 weeks in them I tried wearing a different pair of shoes (you know, vanity, the desire to coordinate outfits?) and discovered that all my other shoes, even china flats, scrunched up my feet and made them hurt in various ways. I'd just been blocking out my foot comfort for so long. Also my back would start hurting after a few hours of walking in shoes with even a minor heel. So I've been Birkenstocks only (except for hiking boots when needed, which always make my feet and back hurt too) for over 14 years. Barefooting is so healthy- I was still doing it in high school, but at some point in adulthood I got squeamish about wet grass, and cold, and of course, stepping on rocks hurts more when you are taller and heavier- but I've been working lately on being barefoot more outdoors out of the desire to be grounded. Wet grass is good for me! I think if Birkenstocks were grounding they would be the perfect shoe. Have you read much about reflexology? Invented by doctors and therapists (classically trained medicos of their time) it is classified as alternative health, but it's all about feet and how connected they are to every other part of the body.

~Alison

Bracha04 08-06-2014 01:18 PM

My kids have fussy tastes too. :smile:

Thank you for sharing the story of your husband's feet. I'm learning a lot about how the elevated heel, even the slight one on running shoes, interferes with your entire body's alignment and functioning! I am working on being well aligned for practical purposes and pregnancy related ones. I read a book by Katy Bowman about feet and lots of articles online. I think it may help with ideal positioning of the baby if my posture is better and I have an easier time walking. I hope so at least!

I have not read much about reflexology, but I'm interested in how it works. I have read a few things here or there, but I am not sure if the sources are reliable. The feet are incredible. I know there are acupressure points on the feet that release endorphines during labor! Do you have any good sources on reflexology? I would love to know more!

DBurri 08-15-2014 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by crunchymama27 (Post 17895402)
Thanks so much for your response to that tough question Bracha! The pre-existence (what the LDS church would call it) is also a very real place to me. I do feel that our babies are alive in spirit before they are born into their bodies, and that they are choosing their family. I struggle mostly with the financial aspect of a large family and adjusting the standards I was raised with- we don't have trust funds for the kids, or college savings. It's a struggle to make sure they have a bikes. But I come from an upper class middle income sort of family with a lot of educated privileges- like, antique furniture, shelves with books in every room, real art (not just prints from Michaels) on the walls, a piano, home computer in the 80's. Having children without a career, a car (our oldest!) a mortgage and a degree is just not DONE. My sweet husband (from a similar family background, except he was raised in the church and youngest of 9 kids) convinced me to listen to my ovaries despite our youth and circumstances. He said, (paraphrasing, I don't remember exactly) people are having large families in Guatemala with dirt floors and no running water. You have electricity and indoor plumbing, you are rich enough to have a baby- we just need to get married first! So here we are being improvident again. The world seems to think that children require a lot more than we give them, and a lot less. A lot more space, !!stuff!!, routine cultural and taboo indoctrinations and control, but many fewer siblings, and much less time with mama and daddy. Breakfast cereal and Goldfish crackers- how can I raise kids without food from a box!? Trips to Disneyworld, or Six Flags, ballet lessons (oh I had those) and karate- they'd be nice to afford, but is not affording them a reason to limit my family size? My poor deprived kids who will grow up with no memories of big family vacations and birthday parties just for them with ponies and bounce houses! I think they'll be ok. We pick a LOT of blackberries. ;) And that is probably healthier for them than the electronic kind.

I love cooking. With whole foods, for grown-ups who don't have fussy palates and who are not time sensitive in their need to eat, since the meals I enjoy preparing usually take about 3 hours longer than I thought they would, and often contain things like onions, garlic, and vegetables. :P My picky eaters have take a lot of energy from my desire to cook. Eventually they will either out grow it, or grow up and move out!

I feel like I'm taking over your thread, but I do have one more story to share about foot health- My husband had flat feet his whole life. Shortly after the birth of our 2nd, his big toe on one foot swelled up and he couldn't walk on it. He went to a specialist who prescribed special fitted insoles for his shoes. When picking up the insoles, the specialist mentioned Birkenstocks as an option if dh wanted to wear sandals ever. Well not only did Birks fix the toe issue but they have also developed his feet to the point that just 5 years later he noticed his footprint now had arches, and he has arches today! I started wearing them at the same time- I was also a barefoot child, but then I had cancelled that out by spending a lot of time in pointe shoes and my beloved granny boots. Birks were the most comfortable shoes ever. After 2 weeks in them I tried wearing a different pair of shoes (you know, vanity, the desire to coordinate outfits?) and discovered that all my other shoes, even china flats, scrunched up my feet and made them hurt in various ways. I'd just been blocking out my foot comfort for so long. Also my back would start hurting after a few hours of walking in shoes with even a minor heel. So I've been Birkenstocks only (except for hiking boots when needed, which always make my feet and back hurt too) for over 14 years. Barefooting is so healthy- I was still doing it in high school, but at some point in adulthood I got squeamish about wet grass, and cold, and of course, stepping on rocks hurts more when you are taller and heavier- but I've been working lately on being barefoot more outdoors out of the desire to be grounded. Wet grass is good for me! I think if Birkenstocks were grounding they would be the perfect shoe. Have you read much about reflexology? Invented by doctors and therapists (classically trained medicos of their time) it is classified as alternative health, but it's all about feet and how connected they are to every other part of the body.

~Alison

Hi Alison
Are you an LDS member?

crunchymama27 08-16-2014 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by DBurri (Post 17924154)
Hi Alison
Are you an LDS member?

Bracha, I haven't studied reflexology much, but recently came across information that it was started by an MD and promulgated and spread by a PT? who worked with him. It (much like more recent studies that measure EMF fields) confirms the existence of meridians in the body.

Delia, yes, my husband was raised LDS but was quite inactive when we met! I spent about a year investigating Christianity and LDS after meeting him, and then converted when our oldest was 4 months, we were sealed after I'd been a member for the requisite year, went to church with dh and family weekly for almost 3 years then on my own with just the kids for another 5 years. But we are currently not active (almost 9 years) and have no plans to become so. I feel that the church has become institutionalized and riddled with corruption, which my family's presence would not change or improve. Women's issues and gay rights led me out, it would take a lot of changes to bring me back in.

KatelynRose 08-18-2014 05:56 AM

Oh wow, I am LOVING this thread you guys!!! So much wonderful conversation. I see eye to eye with so many of you and it's making me feel less crazy :)

@Bracha04 - what is your favorite thing to cook and what is your favorite thing to bake? :D I also love cooking and baking and eating whole foods haha
I've been a curry maniac lately because we don't have a grill. It's easy, but I really want a big juicy steak these days... I'm craving the iron and protein I guess. I also keep craving lox and bagels but it's out of our budget atm...

Bracha04 08-18-2014 08:08 AM

@KatelynRose I love making muffins, breads and soups. I would love some cranberry and apple muffins right now!

One of my recent pregnancy favorites is chicken baked in a large pan on top of greens (a bed of collards or kale) with some rice (1 cup with water poured over the whole dish for moisture), quartered onion, broccoli and potato placed around the chicken. I season it with honey, salt, pepper, sage (very small amount) and rosemary. It bakes for 2 - 2.5 hrs at 350 degrees and it's so yummy!

I would also love a big juicy steak. That sounds awesome right now @ 10:00 in the morning!! :grin:

KatelynRose 08-21-2014 08:19 AM

Ooh I've also been craving broccoli and cheese soup lately but I need to make some broth for that.. What's your favorite soup to make?

That baked chicken and vegetable in a pan meal sounds awesome I'm stealing it :thumb

Bracha04 08-21-2014 01:28 PM

My mom makes really a good broccoli soup! :grin: I made white bean soup this week with zucchini, squash, carrots, onion, celery, tomato, thyme, oregano and pepper! I really love this recipe. I also love to make lentil soup.


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