oh my gosh, you gals are awesome! i'm so sorry i disappeared. i can't seem to get on the computer for more than 30 seconds before a kid freaks out. things have been pretty rough around here. the depression is unbearable. anyhoo... not the point, the point of this is decluttering! lol.
i love everything everyone said! the "ruthless decluttering" sounds absolutely awesome to me. i have some weird crap. i did downsize my wardrobe recently. we don't have real closets, but the house we rented came up with a little stand up one. i can say, all my clothes fit in there no prob, and i also have extra linens hanging in half. so i suppose i've taken one baby step towards decluttering?
my other issues- and please feel free to laugh, i can make fun of myself no problem-lol. hmm... kids clothes, books, toys, coffee mugs (where do they all come from??!!), cloth diapers. asides from sentimental things, those are a few to start. i have 4 kids, #5
on the way, so i do save clothes. we're super poor, and i can not donate and re-buy for every age, even thrift. however, that being said, i really only need half of what i have. and books, i feel like i'm throwing an old friend to the curb when i get rid of them, but i need to get over it. lol. toys are a tough one. i'll probably blab a little about why i'm neurotic, so bear with me... first off, when we started having kids, i begged people to not buy toys. i had these dreamy plans of a waldorf-type-life. wooden blocks, paints, funny dolls, etc. now, i'm not hardcore, i love legos, they're plastic and all that, but they're pretty spectacular, so i'm ok with those. all the other crap, though??!! lord have mercy. i want to sob just looking in the kids' rooms. here's the thing, its a sensitive thing for me. my own mother would constantly break my things when she got mad. i did not have much (she's a super minimalist, probably why i'm a hoarder now LOL), but she'd still break my stuff, throw it away, set it on fire, etc. i can not do that to my kids. i won't just dump their things w/o their approval. and maybe i'm giving them too much power, etc etc, but it hurts my heart to hurt them like that. i'd love to get them on board with what we give away. now, i have sneaked in in the night, and tossed broken bits, things with peeling paint, etc. that's been ok. but other stuff, i just can't take away and have them asking where their things are. they also haven't had it very easy. my oldest is 8, and we've lived in 7 places since she's been born. so, taking a constant in their lives away again, w/o their consent, might throw them over the edge. i homeschool, and they're behind in everything. its just been a rocky existence. so you see how i have weirdo issues with some things. lol.
ok, i'm long winded, i apologize. but i love the ruthless declutter idea!!! i can start with my own crap, and go from there with the kids. i have mailed 2 huge boxes of cloth diapers to a friend. and i managed to throw out the ones that were literal rags. i mean, as in, i couldn't even use a snappi on them anymore b/c of the holes. HAHA. but you know, it took me 3 months of staring at them before i could do it. this has to be my last kid, so i'm really trying to learn to let go of things like that. little diapers that all 4 kids have worn, it shouldn't be a big deal b/c they just poop in them, but its still sentimental.
i wish i knew how to tag people! and crap, i can't scroll up to the thread! ack. so, i'm gonna muck up this name... zandhe? zanjde? shoot, i'm sorry. i wanted to tell you, you put a link to your blog a few weeks back, and i totally trolled the entire thing! lol. so amazing!!!
and i'll try to respond more quickly from now on, i'm so sorry it took this long. <3 all you guys are really awesome!