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#1 of 5 Old 07-31-2014, 07:29 AM - Thread Starter
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A first trimester revelation!

Here it is:

I'm pregnant.

That means I won't find a miracle cure for morning sickness or fatigue or pregnancy rhinitis or bloating. I've found all the remedies I can find and they've taken the edge off, thank goodness. Now it's time to accept the fact that I'm pregnant, and this is how my body is doing it. I have to leave it to time to heal, because it's the only thing that can - and it will.

Last night it occurred to me that my body simply doesn't know how to be right now. It's never done this before. And that's fair. My heart and soul have never done this before and they don't know how to be or feel, either. Body and heart are both having some trouble learning how to be pregnant, and that's OK.

Saying it's OK won't make the symptoms go away, but that's exactly the point. They're not going to - not yet. I think it's at least time to exercise some compassion and trust and just let this be. I need to remember that my body is working harder than it ever has before and if it's forgetting how to digest food because it's busy figuring out how to build a placenta, I've got to go with that. And maybe, when I can remember to, I can actually rejoice that all of these symptoms mean there's a baby in there.

Plus, I'm really tired, and fighting is just wasting what little energy I have. It's time to put that energy into those DIY maternity pants I pinned weeks ago.
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#2 of 5 Old 07-31-2014, 04:51 PM
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DIY you say???? Link me!!

First pregnancies are a lot of revelations.
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Good for you! What a great attitude.

With my first pregnancy, I remember feeling really in awe of everything my body was going through. I think maybe I was/am romanticizing it a bit! I'm trying to get back to that place (I think I was actually there) of gratitude and joy, as opposed to just feeling crummy and guilty that I'm not doing everything I was 2 months ago.
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Great sentiment, indiana! We all need to read and remember this. Even those of us whose bodies have done it a few times are having to re-learn, because every time is different, and for many of us it's been quite a while.

Wife to since '98; Homeschooling, just completed my doctorate & becoming crunchier by the day; Mom to DSs: 06/10,12/05, & 1/99 & (3/15)
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#5 of 5 Old 08-04-2014, 04:34 PM
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Love this. The phrase "whole body trip" keeps floating through my head. It is the new normal.

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