Originally Posted by Sleepymama
Not a good appt. u/s showed barely a fetal pole and no heartbeat when I should be 7w. I'm so sure of my dates there is no question. This is almost exactly what happened last year except I went in for an u/s when I started spotting. Same time frame. Doc says it's too early to say for certain but I'm sure. They want me back in 2 weeks. Unfortunately that's really close to the start of school and I'm a teacher and don't want to miss the first days of school so I'm really hoping for a smooth natural m/c in the next couple weeks.
This is loss #4
overall for us. Not sure if we will try again. Feeling old and I'd need the whole miscarriage workup.
On my chart it says "habitual aborter" which I am jaded enough to find funny.
Sorry ladies. I wish you all very very healthy and smooth pregnancies
I am so sorry for your loss!!! That is devastating. I wish I could give you a hug. I don't know what to tell you that might help. We lost our first son three years ago, and still miss him terribly.
In an effort to give you hope, I'd like to tell you about a few friends of mine who have had multiple miscarriages and then succeeded at having healthy babies. Not to say that trying again is the right option for you, but just to show how crazy off-the-wall the reasons for miscarriage can be, so that if you do decide to try again, maybe one of these atypical solutions would be helpful in your case.
was in her late twenties and had already had two children and then suddenly couldn't carry a baby to term anymore. She had six early miscarriages before she finally figured out that after her second child was born she had developed a thyroid condition. It didn't work properly. Once she was on thyroid medication she carried to term, and now has three healthy girls. She was one of those lucky (to me) people who is super skinny and petite, and I guess they just didn't think to check her thyroid because the standard symptoms for thyroid trouble also correspond to the way you feel raising two toddlers (vague tiredness, etc.), so it didn't occur to her there could be another cause. I don't know how many doctors she tried or how much testing they did before discovering this, but from the six miscarriages, you can see it took a while.
had two children and then four miscarriages before they figured out that her blood clots way too easily, and that the miscarriages were due to clotting in the umbilical cord. So she took an aspirin every day for the next pregnancy and had a healthy baby. And you know that doctors tell pregnant women to avoid aspirin at all costs. The only way she figured it out was that finally she got to thinking about the fact that her heartburn was really bad for the first two pregnancies and she had been taking Alka-Seltzer every day, which she didn't know at the time had aspirin in it, but for the other pregnancies she didn't have the heartburn, and so didn't get the aspirin she needed to prevent the clotting of her blood. She figured it out herself. I don't know how supportive her doctors were of her trying this, but she was right.
was finally able to conceive and carry a child at the age of 41 after having one of her ovaries removed because the whole ovary had basically turned into a cyst. Theory here is that her hormones were off and finally she got old enough that her hormones changed, or the removal of the one ovary changed her hormones enough that she was able to conceive and carry a child. They didn't have the money for expensive fertility treatments, so we may never know for sure, but they'd been trying for 20 years to have children. In addition, during this time, they had been foster parents and had almost been able to adopt several times but the birth parents or family involved backed out of the adoption. Talk about hard.
had 10 miscarriages over eight years for no known cause, then finally carried a son to almost full term. For a variety of reasons, she delivered via C-section. When they went in to get the baby they discovered that her uterus was formed wrong, and had basically a wall of tissue down the middle of it, which had prevented all previous pregnancies from progressing. Her son's healthy survival to term was a miracle. During the C-section, the doctors removed all the extra tissue and she went on to have six healthy children in rapid succession. But the doctors never knew what her problem was until during the C-section they saw it for themselves.
It really can get better. I hope it gets better soon for you. I wish you all the best in dealing with your loss. I don't know if you're religious or not, but I found that the support of my husband and lots of personal prayer and revelation from God was the most helpful way for me to process the loss of our son. And some good professional counseling really helped too. I still miss our son terribly, but I am at peace about where he is and I know he's doing well. I wish you well on your journey to find that same comfort and peace about your little ones, and I wish you well in your quest for children.