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When did/will you tell work?

I'm just wondering, for those of you who work outside the home, when are you planning on telling your manager and HR about your pregnancy? Or have you already? I'm 13 weeks now, and with my encouraging NIPT results I've been slowly telling family and friends. I'm not really one for big announcements, and I know they don't really need to know this far in advance that I'm taking maternity leave in January, but I'd like to stop feeling like I'm hiding something every day.

I'm not really showing yet (depending on what I wear, I just look like I'm gaining weight or like normal), but I think pretty soon I will and people will start to guess anyway. I'm just not sure how to approach the conversation. I do have a mid-year performance evaluation meeting coming up within the next couple of weeks, so maybe after that? I'm not worried about getting a bad reaction from my announcement that might affect my review, but better safe than sorry, right?
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@ajoye - This is your first? I would definitely say the most important thing is not to apologize. I know that sounds weird, but you don't want to start off by making it sound like a bad thing or that it'll be a burden on them. Say, "Boss! I've got great news! My husband and I are expecting!!!! We're SO exciting. I wanted to tell you first." I think it's prudent to wait until after the review. Maybe you could do it right after the performance review when you've read the review and signed everything and they ask if there's anything else you want to add.

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When I was working, I told about now, after my first trimester was over. I agree with Xerxella's advice on both not apologizing and waiting until after the review.
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@ajoye - This is your first? I would definitely say the most important thing is not to apologize. I know that sounds weird, but you don't want to start off by making it sound like a bad thing or that it'll be a burden on them. Say, "Boss! I've got great news! My husband and I are expecting!!!! We're SO exciting. I wanted to tell you first." I think it's prudent to wait until after the review. Maybe you could do it right after the performance review when you've read the review and signed everything and they ask if there's anything else you want to add.
Absolutely this.

With my first I told at about 15 weeks. This time I told my boss about a week after I found out LOL But this is a different company & people here are extremely supportive & wonderful.

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Thanks for the advice! I wasn't planning on apologizing - but good instincts on the suggestion anyway. I usually have an overly developed sense of guilt, so it's kind of surprising that I feel absolutely no guilt whatsoever about taking a few months off for maternity leave. I'll wait until after the review (which hasn't been scheduled yet, but I think has to be done by the end of next week).
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Good for you, and good luck!

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I told them at 6 weeks. I didn't want to but I was ended up sick quite a bit. They found out before most of my family and friends!

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