My third party take on epidurals
First let me say I'm not judging anyone who has or will have one, and I'm not trying to change anyone's mind. I know one person who an epidural really helped, and prevented a CS... I guess I could start with that story.
My SIL was set for a natural hospital birth. Her water broke about a week before her due date and labor started. Her OB would only let her go 18 hours before doing a CS, so after 15 hours of labor she told her an epidural would help her relax (because my SIL was fighting her contractions, I really think a dula would have helped a lot) and keep progressing she was stuck at a 5 or something. Sure enough 2 hours later she gave birth to my nephew.
Where as with my cousin it delayed her labor for 12 hours.
So the idea of being numb anywhere kinda grosses me out. Needle in the spine, no thank you. Not being able to move while in labor, no thank you. Those where my simple reasons for staying away from one the first time.
But after seeing what my friend went threw this past weekend I think I'm scarred for life.
First what they used to numb the site didn't work, so she was in pain the whole time they where putting it in. Then when it started to work she felt as if her bottom half was in an ice bath. She said that was more painful then labor and wanted to stop the epidural, so they gave her more drugs for that pain. When she could finally walk again 8 hours later, she felt sicker then she had been her whole pregnancy. Her head started hurting and would not stop. She kept feeling worse. They gave her caffeine pills but they didn't seem to help. She went to the ER twice. The epidural site started bleeding 3 days after she had it. And had to have a blood patch...I don't know how much of that is normal. But none of it sounds worth it to me.
So I will gladly welcome labor pain, even if it's that lovely back labor again. Because at least there is a simple reason for it, and it ends just when it is supposed to.