My husband said I could select my own gift as well. My mom got a gold band with diamond pave for each of me and my sisters. She had them dipped to be white-gold and my sisters and I each wear them now. I guess it's whatever you want, depending on your budget. I'm looking into a light necklace that I can always wear to remind me of my birth. I had thought about getting something with the birthstone, but I don't really like January's stones (garnet) haha! My friend got additional charms for her pandora bracelet too.