I also find it hard to keep quiet about it since it is always on my mind, but we will probably wait about a month to tell family and work, though I will likely tell one or two close friends soon.
Our situation is a little complicated - we are working in Uganda and my family is going to freak out about our health and safety, especially when we tell them we plan to have the baby here. So we want to at least decide on who our care provider will be and make a few big decisions before we get a lot of questions and anxiety from them. I can't wait too long cuz I'll need them to mail my maternity clothes! I gave away most of them before we moved to Uganda but thankfully kept a few of my favorites.
For work, we are on a multiiyear contract where we travel a lot, so it's not work that is conducive to a new baby. We are trying to decide if we want to finish our contract, or just have my husband continue, or what...so we want to think through a little of that before we approach work. Our supervisors have two grown adopted children and were not able to have biological children, so i am a little concerned to tell them. We want them to know it was not planned because it wouldn't have been very responsible for us to plan for a baby with our current job, but I know it can be painful for people who have dealt with infertility to hear about people who get pregnant without even trying.
tm0sweet - sorry to hear your family will be negative, that's really hard! Can you make it clear that you are excited about the baby and if they don't have anything positive to say then you won't be discussing it with them? I know, easier said than done!
Loving wife to DH and
mama to DD (11/08) and DS (2/12) and expecting another little boy (4/15)