My son will be two in September and is still nursing a few times a day, usually morning, night and nap times when he's with me. I don't envision myself tandem nursing but the idea of weaning seems pretty daunting right now. I'd also like to have him sleeping in his own bed (or at least his own little bed beside our bed) by the time baby arrives too, and I can't seem to figure out which to prioritize.
My son was 25 months old and still nursing a lot when his sister was born. I tandem nursed them for a year and a half. Then I weaned him and continued nursing her. Everything was fine.
I am..however, I am not envisioning it lasting long. It's a lot for me this time (I often nurse while pregnant) because this twin pregnancy is more taxing. I have my little guy drinking raw goats milk, and will probably transition to that completely very soon, as he is a very good eater and takes a good multivitamin.
My 16 month old nurses on demand and sleeps in bed with us. I plan to continue nursing and hope to tandem, as well. My nipples have been sore, but not while nursing so far. He will be 2 on April 8 and my due date is April 17, so I hope tandem nursing will be a way to help him transition to being a big brother. As for sleeping arrangements, my husband suggested getting a twin bed for him to sleep in next to our Queen, where I would sleep with both little ones. My 7.5 year old still wanders into our room to sleep on the floor every night, so we are going to work on having her stay in her room by the time the baby is born.
My daughter is 2.5 and still nurses multiple times per day and night and I have no plans on changing that. So far I haven't had any issues, but I literally just got my BFP a few days ago, so we'll see. She still sleeps with us, too, and I don't plan on changing that either. I'm actually quite excited to tandem nurse. I love breastfeeding my baby girl...it's such a special time for me and her to connect because I work outside of the home a few days per week and am on-call for births pretty much all the time. :love
Speaking of tandem nursing...has anyone read Adventures in Tandem Nursing? I just ordered it and am excited for it to get here. http://store.llli.org/public/profile/77
I am still nursing my almost 16 month old on demand, so far all good, my one boob hurts when he latches sometimes but nothing major! I plan to tandem; I definitely think it will help him to transition into being a big bro; he's still such a mommy's boy; I'm worried how he will handle this.
I'm still nursing my 2 1/2 year old ds. I'm not going to force weaning but if my milk dries up and he weans I'll be ok with it.
When I was pg with my ds, I was nursing dd (who was just over 3 when he was born). My milk dried up completely, which i've read often happens in the 2nd or 3rd trimester. A lot of babies will wean when the milk dries up. My dd did not - she was very much a comfort nurser. I never would have imagined I'd be tandem nursing but it worked out that way. WHen my milk came in DD was in heaven and increased her frequency a LOT. I let her do that for the first few weeks to help with the new baby adjustment but then limited her to bedtime and morning, then just bedtime, then finally weaned her after a year and a half of tandem nursing.
We tried to move DD to her own bed - she would almost always wake up in the middle of the night and crawl into our bed. The trip to our bed would wake her up and she would sometimes be awake for 1 or 2 hours. BY the third trimester, I was so exhausted I just gave up and let her sleep with me. I slept with both kids for a while. It was easiest for me.
now I don't know what I will do when this little one gets here. I am going to try to move ds to his own bed in the same room as dd. Ds sleeps with us and DD almost always joins us in the middle of hte night. I often wake up with one arm around each baby. But I don't have any arms left! I am praying one or both of my kiddos is regularly sleeping in their own bed.
my son is 16 months and still nursing. i hope to tandem nurse if he doesn't self-wean during the pregnancy. i'm only 5 weeks and haven't had any sensitivity yet - i hope it isn't too bad!
i also really hope he doesn't get really upset if my milk dries up. he likes to comfort nurse but he also really loves the milk, so i'm not sure how he will react. that's one of my biggest worries right now, other than the usual first trimester nerves! i love our nursing snuggle times and will be so sad if that goes away. we also co-sleep after his first wake up and he nurses back to sleep, so not sure how that is going to go if there's no milk. so, fingers crossed i guess.
Im still breastfeeding my son, he will be 2 in November, and I don't foresee us being done any time soon.
Ive been having VERY sore nipples the past week or so(just figured out today that Im expecting)….but worse is him being so horridly upset when he can't nurse.
My midwife explained nursing while pregnant will decrease the amount of nutrients that the nursing baby actually receives, because nutrients first go to growing fetus, then to mom's stores, then last priority is breastmilk. I've received several opinions that is hard on the Mother's body and she has to be very diligent in maintaining her energy/caloric/vitamin intake (and ensure she doesn't have absorption issues). I am still nursing my 15 month old and she comfort nurses a lot. We successfully night weaned after I discovered I was pregnant... it was only three nights of protest, and then she accepted the new routine quite gracefully after that! I thought it was going to be worse! Although, she upped her intake of milk during the day because she was feeling a little insecure, but the frequency is slowly decreasing now that it's been a few weeks. I may not stop entirely unless I dry up, but decreasing to 1 or 2 nursing's a day (to still reconnect/have quite time) sounds ideal and hopefully won't deplete my body too badly, ha! We will see!
so much misinformation about nursing while pregnant. "adventures in tandem nursing" is a great book to start with
im lurking from the may 2015 group, I tandem nurse my 2.5 year old and 6year old, plan to let them all self wean. New baby will just be more of the same oh and we will all just continue to sleep in 1 huge bed.
From what I read, nursing while pregnant should be absolutely fine during the first two trimesters, but during the third trimester caution is advised and one should wean at the first sign of pre-term labour as nipple stimulation DOES produce oxytocin that causes uterine contractions - that much has been scientifically proven.
That said, it's obviously your business and you have to sole decisive power in what you're going to do and what you are comfortable with.
We're all individuals. What's right for you may not be right for me. That should be the main concern - after the facts are reviewed, of course.
I read a study that showed 0% increase of preterm labor in healthy mothers who were also nursing. I suspect that if a woman has risk factors, she will have issues with preterm labor whether she's nursing or not. There is so much fear mongering geared towards pregnant women, I think we should trust or intuition and listen to our bodies, and that certainly means different things for different women.
My son has been sleeping terribly the last few nights so I thin it may be time for night weaning....I night weaned my DD when I was pregnant with DS and it went amazingly better than I expected - one night of mild complaining and then she fell right in step with it. SHe was about the same age (2 1/2) as my son is now. I told him this morning that soon he wouldn't be drinking milk in the middle of the night because my "milkah" also need to sleep - he just looked at me with big eyes, lol!
Anyone else planning to wean or night wean older nurslings? I don't mind continuing with the other feedings as long as he wants to but waking up in the middle of the night multiple times to nurse is draining me!
My 18 month old had been sleeping very poorly, as well. I think he's going through a sleep regression, Teething, and getting over a cold, so I'm going to stick it out for a while, but will reevaluate later. I am so tired, though. He was awake for 2 hours in the middle of the night last night, nursing and not going to sleep. It was rough. I hope wr both get some sleep tonight!
I have been thinking about night weaning because I am going crazy getting woken up every few hours, but I just don't know if I have it in me, DS is still only 16 months, I just don't know if I'm ready yet, though I can't imagine being up all night with two little night nursers so I might have to night wean before the new baby.
We did Dr Jay Gordon's nightweaning method at 16-17 months, and it was not half as scary or negative an experience as I imagined. We had one difficult night (I think on day 4 or 5) but otherwise, it went really well.
Yep...that's why I had to be done. Besides, my milk took a huge nosedive..I've tandem nursed before no problem, but this time not so much. I would feel extremely nauseated, fatigued and lose my appetite for a long time after..none of which is good when it's recommended to get 3500 calories with twins. My supply went way down very quickly. My LO is doing well on goats milk and tons of healthy solid table foods. I gave him all I had!
Great news! After feeling like I wouldn't be up for tandem nursing, my son has self-weaned over the past few weeks - I think supply dropped big time (I'm 13 weeks now). It's a huge relief to have our journey end in this healthy, mutually agreed way. I knew I couldn't tandem nurse a newborn and a toddler, but I also couldn't imagine myself actively weaning.
And like you, MyFillingQuiver, my son has stepped up his goat milk consumption and is quite happy.
Well, after a 10 day trip to Big Island, Hawaii to visit Grandma ('Tutu' in Hawaiian), DD is officially weaned. She only asked to nurse a couple times and was otherwise distracted by a new enviroment...new people... new weather. I feel good about it and she adjusted just fine... I also feel relieved because for many weeks she was clamping down something fierce every time she would latch...Ouch! I can't wait to nurse a sweet little toothless mouth, haha
Clem - that's great that your lo weaned so easily!
Anyone else still nursing?
My DS is still nursing, usually only at night, but he's started telling me there is no milk. I'm trying to decide whether I should take this opportunity to encourage him to try to wean. I did tandem with my DD and DS and felt it helped DD a lot with the jealousy, but DD was a LOT more attached to bfing than ds is so it would have been a lot more effort to encourage her to wean and she would have had a harder time seeing the baby bfing and not be able to.
I would prefer not to tandem, but would be open to it if DS is very resistant to weaning. We are already planning to get him sleeping with dd in another room (he is currently in our bed) and out of diapers in Jan/Feb so there are already a lot of changes on his horizon!
What about the rest of you? anyone with plans to tandem? anyone who has a child who weaned during this pregnancy?
We are still nursing here. I'm experiencing some aversion, but trying to plow through it. DS had been sleeping very poorly, so I'm considering not weaning because he wakes to nurse a LOT like, 8 times a night. We all need a little more sleep and I wouldn't mind nursing during the day if I could get some sleep at night. I do hope to tandem nurse to help with the transition.
I think my milk is pretty much gone. When I try to manual express only a few drops form. Before I was able to get streams from manually expressing. My son still nurses just as much as before though so I am a bit confused. Needless to say I am pretty upset since I wanted to nurse till at least 2yrs old, since family had made remarks about nursing after 2 I wanted to shove it in their face lmao. I also wanted to tandem nurse
I think my milk is pretty much gone. When I try to manual express only a few drops form. Before I was able to get streams from manually expressing. My son still nurses just as much as before though so I am a bit confused. Needless to say I am pretty upset since I wanted to nurse till at least 2yrs old, since family have make remarks about nursing after 2 I wanted to shove it in their fave lmao. I also wanted to tandem nurse
My milk is gone, too. I think that's partly why he wants to nurse so much. Maybe he's hoping it will suddenly come back. I am concerned about him missing some immunities and I hope we can go back to enjoying nursing when the baby is born. Luckily, he's a super healthy kid so far!
How old is your son @MommyRuth ? Mine will be 17mo on the 11th
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