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#1 ·
I'm becoming a little obsessed with birth stories. One of the books I got from a book sale over the weekend has a bunch of birth stories in the back, and I've been reading a few every night before bed.

Anyone want to share your birth story/ies? And/or birth plans?

I don't have any stories yet, but plans include birthing at a freestanding birth center with a midwife, one of her assistants, DH (who I'm hoping will be very participatory throughout and catch the baby if possible), and my mom. My mom is an RN, which she and DH both think we should not tell the midwife, in case it makes her feel like I'm wanting my mom there for medical support/backup (which is definitely not the case - I'm imagining mom's role as doula-like). Hoping my dad will be nearby, because while I don't think he or i would want him in the room, he's an amazing photographer and has great camera equipment, so it would be neat if he could be there shortly after the birth to take a few photos and be part of things. Assuming things aren't medically scary/etc. I'm hoping other than that to limit visits at least the first 24-48hrs, which should be pretty easy because we live in a town several hours from most of our family. Mom will hopefully hang around a few days at least, but we'll see how things go.
 
#2 ·
For some great stories check out the birth without fear blog and laura shanley's unassisted childbirth blog. Lots of stories on both. Even if you don't plan on uc, I believe it is very empowering and eye opening to read stories from women who birthed alone or with a partner.(planned or accidentally!)

My third birth is my favorite, even though it was by far my hardest, most painful and exhausting birth, because I trusted my intuition and was super in-tune with my baby. He was a brow presentation (posterior), and had I had a midwife who i allowed to do internal exams, she would have transported for a cesarean or if I'd been in the hospital, it would have been a cesarean.

I'll share details later when I get on my laptop. :)
 
#3 ·
I'll find mine a little later when I have the chance, and copy and paste them. I wrote them each shortly (within a few days) after the birth, and purposely never edited or proofread them, because I wanted to remember how I felt about each birth that soon afterwards.
 
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my guy was born 11 years ago at an attached birth center in waterbury, connecticut. the layout was really cozy and, as a first timer, i felt more comfortable knowing the nicu was a floor away, just in case. there were only like 6 rooms and no one else was birthing during the 24 hours i was there.

my then husband, mother, a good friend, the midwife, and an rn were in the room. my father & brother were hanging out down the hall and my mother-, father-, and brother-in-law showed up right after. i was pretty chatty from adrenaline, phoning friends and such, so i didn't mind having a small crew around. at times the birthing room felt crowded but i'd just go hang out on the yoga ball in the tub (not a birthing one, just a jacuzzi). he was born in the bathroom with me on a fabulous birthing stool, which i didn't know existed until they brought it out.

i love the concept of homebirth but, well, this place i'm in now is grungy and temporary and doesn't feel like home. maybe i'll feel differently closer to delivery time. i got quoted $2000 last night from a highly recommended cnm in my mountain town, with super flexible payments & a sliding scale. i think the going rate around portland is like $3500. but the hospital's birth center is basically free because i'm on state insurance and that money could be better put towards getting a car that actually fits all five of us. so, unless they refuse a bunch of my requests and the facility is cramped or industrialized, i'll probably go for it.

my partner is concerned about being bullied by the staff but it's mostly because he wasn't as informed about the procedures when his daughter was born as he is now. i did all my research last time and my advocacy skills have only increased over the last decade. i'll choose a strong proxy (aka doula) to take over in the event that i'm unable. also i know that i'd simply have to whisper to my partner "that's it, we're fucking leaving NOW" if anything went awry and he'd scoop me up with the babe and carry us home. i do plan to read up on unassisted childbirth just in case.
 
#5 ·
caspian's mama love your reaction to the birthing stool - my mw showed us one (had me sit on it) during our first visit to the birthing center and i had a little moment of - "aha!" something so simple, but i imagine quite helpful...

i love the concept of homebirth but, well, this place i'm in now is grungy and temporary and doesn't feel like home.
I'm in a very similar boat -- ideally would prefer home birth, but we are renters and for some reason I just CANT picture giving birth here in our rented house. It's a nice place, but I just can't picture it. I also can't picture getting in a car while in labor...so it's feeling like nothing is the ideal option just yet.
 
#6 ·
*sighs* I had a horrible birth. Only good things were me & Nathan were ok.
Went in planning for all natural birth.
My water broke when I was 37 weeks, and we went to the hospital. I had planned on laboring at home for awhile, but I wasn't expecting my water to break FIRST.
When I wanted my doctor, I was told I wouldn't see her till the actual delivery - which is bad cause I don't do well with medical personnel I've never met.

The nurse tried to bully me into taking the Pitocin, and I couldn't be up and moving the way I wanted. (I drove them crazy needing to be up to pee so often - it was an excuse so I could walk!)

I finally asked for an epidural around hour 18. At one point, probably around 25 hours or so, they came flying in, dropped the bed, and tried to spread my legs. They wouldn't talk to me, didn't tell me a THING. I made them put me back up & talk to me before I let them do anything. By this point I was terrified, of course. Turns out Nate's heart rate was starting to drop, and they wanted me on the internal monitor. Which was fine of course. but if they had told me as they were doing it, it wouldn't have been so traumatic!

Well, after all was said and done, I had a c-section 28 hours after I arrived. Baby and I both had (or were told we had - later found my son didn't) have an infection and had to stay longer for antibiotics. Luckily the Nicu was able to move Nate to the Pediatric ward so we could stay with him.

I had trouble nursing, the hospital lactation showed up once, handed me a nipple shield, briefly showed me how to use it, and was never seen again, despite my repeated requests for more help.

Nothing went how we planned. I'm desperately trying to avoid a repeat, but I don't honestly know what to do differently. If anyone actually has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them!!!
 
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*sighs* I had a horrible birth. Only good things were me & Nathan were ok.
Went in planning for all natural birth.
My water broke when I was 37 weeks, and we went to the hospital. I had planned on laboring at home for awhile, but I wasn't expecting my water to break FIRST.
When I wanted my doctor, I was told I wouldn't see her till the actual delivery - which is bad cause I don't do well with medical personnel I've never met.

The nurse tried to bully me into taking the Pitocin, and I couldn't be up and moving the way I wanted. (I drove them crazy needing to be up to pee so often - it was an excuse so I could walk!)

I finally asked for an epidural around hour 18. At one point, probably around 25 hours or so, they came flying in, dropped the bed, and tried to spread my legs. They wouldn't talk to me, didn't tell me a THING. I made them put me back up & talk to me before I let them do anything. By this point I was terrified, of course. Turns out Nate's heart rate was starting to drop, and they wanted me on the internal monitor. Which was fine of course. but if they had told me as they were doing it, it wouldn't have been so traumatic!

Well, after all was said and done, I had a c-section 28 hours after I arrived. Baby and I both had (or were told we had - later found my son didn't) have an infection and had to stay longer for antibiotics. Luckily the Nicu was able to move Nate to the Pediatric ward so we could stay with him.

I had trouble nursing, the hospital lactation showed up once, handed me a nipple shield, briefly showed me how to use it, and was never seen again, despite my repeated requests for more help.

Nothing went how we planned. I'm desperately trying to avoid a repeat, but I don't honestly know what to do differently. If anyone actually has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them!!!
So sorry the birth didn't go as planned and the lactition was a dud. My advise, you went 18 hours without an epidural, i bet you could make out without one.? Everyone responds differently, some moms do fine, some babies do fine with epidural s. However, some don't and it can lead to dropping heartrate and subsequent csec. The statistics on interventions following epidural or pitocin ar quite staggering. If you want a natural birth, you can have one. Find yourself a cnm that has experience with vbacs and go for it. With my first, thankfully i did have a natural birth, BUT it was like fighting of a pack of wolves to get it. I got stuck with a bully cnm that had never met. She talked me into breaking my membranes, which was more painful than all labor and birth combined and then told her to back off for the rest of it. Its hard, but if you find a good cnm and get a doula to advocate for you, then you've got a great chance at having the birth you desire.
 
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Here is DS's birth story- Our little boy was born on June 4th at 11:02am. I first started feeling irregular contractions on Sunday, June 1st around 1:45 pm. These irregular contractions lasted the rest of that afternoon and all of the next day, but would stop and start, and weren’t really getting intense at all; just annoying.. Finally, around 4am on Tuesday, June 3rd, (his due date,) they started coming stronger and more regularly. We thought that this was the day. The midwife arrived at our house at 7am, and checked me. After a day and a half of irregular contractions, and 3 hours of stronger, regular ones, I was only dilated to 1 cm, and I was only 90 % effaced. I was disappointed. After that, I totally lost track of time, so I don’t really know at what point everything happened. I labored all that day, and all through the night. Glen was the best birthing partner I could possibly have had. He stayed with me the whole time, except when I sent him to the store. He pushed on my back for hours, and helped me to move into whatever positions I felt that I wanted to be in. At some point, he filled the birthing pool with warm water, and convinced me to try getting in it, as I was beginning to get discouraged with the seemingly never ending contractions. I felt so much better in the water that I stayed there for almost of the rest of the time. At some point, I told Glen to call Chris, our midwife, and let her know that it was time to come back over. It seemed that I had just recently gotten in the pool that she arrived. After a few more contractions in the pool, I had to get out so that she could check my progress. I didn’t want to get out of the pool, but at this point, I had been in hard labor for over 24 hours, and I really needed to know if I was close. She checked me, and I was at a 9, with just an anterior lip in the way! That really gave me the encouragement I needed to keep going. After several more contractions in the birthing pool, the anterior lip was still in the way. Glen suggested that we try a different position to try to get the baby to descend, and after pushing through a couple contractions that way, Chris broke my water. I got back into the birthing pool, my favorite place to labor. Soon I was in transition. I could tell because I had 3 or 4 contractions that were really ramped up. Luckily I knew that while transition is generally the most painful part of labor, it’s also the shortest, and that it meant I would soon be pushing. I’m not sure how many times I pushed, but at one point, Chris suggested I get out of the pool to try pushing in few different positions. I did that for a little bit, but was soon back in the pool again, on my hands and knees, pushing. It just felt better in there. It seemed that every time I pushed, he would start to come out, and then he would slide back in. I finally decided that I was going to really push and get him out on the next contraction. I pushed with all my might, and the contraction stopped right as his head was half way out, which burned until the next contraction, when Chris and Glen helped the rest of him come out. A few short seconds later, I heard the little cry of my newborn son! It was such a beautiful sound! I had to maneuver a bit to turn around, and Glen handed me our baby boy. It is so wonderful to finally have him here! He is just a perfect little boy, with an adorable face, and red hair; like his dad.
 
#8 ·
Here is DD's- Let me start out by saying that my labor with my son was 31 hours, so even hoping for a faster labor, I was planning on at least 18 hours. I was at work Saturday, which is my regular day to work a double shift. At 8 o'clock, 14 hours into my shift, I started getting contractions. I remembered my contractions with my son being more painful, though, so I wasn't sure if these were just Braxton-Hicks contractions that felt a little more intense because I'd been on my feet so long, or if it was actual labor. So, I continued working. By then time I was giving report to the night nurse at around 10:30pm, I was pretty sure it was real labor, as the contractions had been coming every 10 minutes for the last 2 hours. I drove home, which is luckily 5 minutes away, and told Glen I thought I was in labor, but I wasn't sure, so I was going to see if the contractions went away when I laid down, and try to get some sleep. I ate a snack, and went to bed. Over the next hour, the contractions were stronger, and coming more frequently. I texted out midwife to let her know that I was in early labor, but told her not worry about coming over yet, and that we would call as things picked up and we needed her. She texted back, "Okay..but please call." I sent Glen to get our birthing tub, which was still in storage from our son's birth, and I took a shower. I had a dozen more contractions in the shower, and I remember thinking, "Either I've been in the shower for a long time, or else these contractions are getting really close together." Glen got back around 1:30am and asked me if I thought he should get the birthing pool set-up, or try to get some sleep. I told him to try to get some sleep because things were still early, and he may not have a chance to later. He laid down by me in bed for a little while, but couldn't sleep, so he got up and went downstairs and started getting things ready. Around 2:30am, I called him back upstairs to help me to the bathroom, because I was feeling a little unsteady. Once on the toilet, I told him, "I think you need to call Chris," (our midwife,) and he said, "Are you sure?" I said, "Well, let me think." Things were feeling more intense, but I was still worried it was "just" early labor. At that point, however, my water broke, and I started feeling like I needed to push. "Yeah, you need to call Chris. My water just broke," I told Glen. He called her, and told her what was going on. "Sh*#. Glen, you're going to be delivering a baby. I'm on my way." She later apologized for the expletive. Glen finished getting the tub inflated, and started putting water in it. Then he came upstairs to help me get downstairs. I tried to get into the birthing pool, but the water was too hot, so I stepped back out. Immediately after that I felt the absolutely overwhelming urge to push. In fact, overwhelming doesn't even really describe how intense the sensation was to push. Glen was frantically trying to cool down the water by putting ice in it. I squatted down on my robe and told Glen, "The baby's coming!" He then switched from getting ice to putting chux pads from the birthing kit all under and around me. I'm not sure when in all this he called Chris back, or if she'd been on the phone the whole time, but I know she was on the phone with him over the next three pushes, which is all it took for our baby to be born, right into Daddy's waiting arms. She was born at 2:57am. After this, I climbed into the birthing tub, and just held our little girl and waited for Chris to arrive. Chris arrived and helped with the delivery of the placenta, and did her newborn assessments, and made sure we were doing alright. We were all doing wonderfully, so she went home, we went to bed. Our son woke up later that morning and was delighted to see his new baby sister in our bed. He exclaimed, "My baby come out!" and spent the next few hours wanting to hold her, and talking about her little ears, and elbows, and fingers, which he counted. It was a perfect experience, and we are all doing very well.
 
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#10 ·
I rent and have had a home birth. Risks of hospital outweighed any negative feelings I had about giving birth in a home we rented. We plan to buy in the spring and I am really looking forward to giving birth in 'our' home. Last place was teeny two bed but it was perfect.
I still have dd2s placenta and intend to plant it, along with this baba's in the backyard. I feel sad I don't have dd1s!
 
#11 ·
I wanted to do a birth center but it is not covered by my insurance. So, I would pay out of pocket, but the hospital they transfer to for emergencies is not in network for my insurance, which means if there was an emergency they would not cover it at all and we'd be on the hook for tens of thousands of dollars.


I called the billing and coverage specialist today and she said that they do not cover any obstetrical procedure in an out-of-network hospital that is a result of "inadequate preparation for labor and birth." She said this includes travelling too far from a network hospital, attempting home birth, or emergency transport to an out-of-network hospital in any case where getting to my own hospital earlier would be possible. So, cord prolapse would be covered as a spontaneous emergency, but if I stay home or go to a birth center, I am out of luck if something happens and I was not "adequately prepared" to get to a network hospital.


Now, the network hospital is 20 minutes from my home, so I still could do homebirth and just go there if something went wrong, but my husband is totally opposed to home birth and we are cut from the same cloth - if he felt anxious, I would feel anxious. Plus we share our home with my mom and I don't want her around during the birth. No reason, I am just private and only want dh there. So it looks like I am going to the hospital, which was a disaster last time. I think if I get a doula and don't arrive so early at the hospital it will go better.
 
#12 ·
I really lucked out. There is a holistic birthing center attached to a hospital that is only 15 minutes away from our house. I know that labor complications are prevalent on my Mom's side of the family but I don't know specifics. This coupled by the fact that H is not at all comfortable with Homebirth makes the BC the best possible choice. I plan to wait through a few hours of contractions at home and then have H drive me to the BC for delivery.
 
#13 ·
I had an elective c-section with my daughter. They used my illness to scare me into it and being a first time mom I trusted them. I didnt do any research. My c-section went well, and I healed perfectly, but I hated the experience and I dont like to think about my daughters birth.

I am hoping for a VBAC. We dont have any midwives around here so I am going to get a doula. The hospital the delivers babies is a 90 minute drive. I plan to get a hotel and labor as long as possible before going to the hospital. My mom had 4 natural hospital births that were 6-12 hours long. I am hoping I am like her. I really do not want another c-section.
 
#14 ·
I have had one of each, I feel like. But I would really prefer to repeat birth #3 every time from here on out. Really really really really. So, midwife at the birth center is the plan. And honestly considering the difference in recovery I would pick the ubac over another cesarean any day.

Baby #1 , elective cesarean due to coming in on a Sunday when my ob was not on shift. Baby girl was breech (there are providers at a different local hospital that do breech births), and the intake nurse decided that I would have a cesarean. It went all kinds of bad from my perspective, although I have since learned that they could have been much meaner about it. Highlights include the operating ob commented that I would be a good good vbac candidate because I have great abs, and the last nurse helped me out even though it had been only 36 hours since the surgery. Lowlights were more numerous, starting with the nurse checking me for dilation during a contraction despite being told NO, and having my family all locked out of the room. I asked for my mom and husband repeatedly, (they were outside the room being told that I didn't want to see them), they would not even try to contact my ob or anything else I asked for. After the surgery I got all manner of well meaning gestures that didn't help, like advice to stop breastfeeding when she was ten hours old, and a full bottle of oxytocin with directions that this was to help prevent scar tissue. Recovery, nursing, and the whole thing we're just very rough. I'm very blessed that we both made it through, and my husband flat refused to go back to that hospital (smart man).

Baby #2 we spent the first half of the pregnancy researching providers. It was worth the effort to find a vbac friendly midwife. Due to legal issues and red tape and (unbeknownst to us, great providence), we chose homebirth. I had two early rounds of labour and three weeks of light contractions. I woke up from a nap four days after the due date, and I had one strong contraction. I attempted to call all the pertinent people in the next 45 minutes, and mom, dad, and my husband made it with about ten minutes to go. I was still wet from the shower, on the bathroom floor, trying to articulate what they needed to do, and my mom had the midwife on the phone, when my water broke. And at the same time her head came out. Mom caught the baby and hubs encouraged me and I had all manner of good advice for them in my head. Fortunately they rocked it, and the midwife assistant arrived ten minutes later and insisted that we start skin on skin (I had thought of that!). I learned that I had had a ubac / oopsbac, unassisted birth after cesarean, and it was triumphant (and the recovery was a breeze comparatively. Even people who didn't know me well commented on how much healthier I looked afterwards).

Having now established "proof" that I could vbac, we were able to plan for the third baby what I wanted since the second baby, a birth center birth. There were the false alarms, but this time I went regularly to the chiropractor. So they were less painful. We were in a restaurant, on a date, about to be seated, when I got one really painful contraction. But, at least the kids already had a sitter! An hour later, the midwife, assistants, mom, hubby, and everyone was there. I was in a hot tub, warm, relaxed, and mentally ready to be done being pregnant. Fifteen minutes later, we got a boy. It hurt like a freight train hitting a marathoner on her last leg, but, recovery was infinitely easier than either of my other births.

Interesting side note, both natural births were more expensive than the cesarean. Well worth it but kinda crazy considering neither the vbac or the ubac involved a hospital stay or medication or even stitches.
 
#16 ·
CorrianderBells, That was one of the wake-up calls to DH and I that we didn't want to buy health insurance anymore; they wouldn't pay for any of the things we wanted. The insurance we were able to get didn't cover chiropractic, or homebirth. We haven't had health insurance in over 7 years, and we have paid for every health expense out of pocket, and we have still come out ahead.
 
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It's totally a racket. We get "free" health insurance through my husband's work. But of course they won't cover any healthcare that would not only keep us healthier, but higher quality, less expensive health care, like midwifery. Good for you guys for getting out of the constraints and saving money!
 
#17 ·
I can give the 'reader's digest' version of my births.
I used EPO pessaries for about 24 hours with DD1, at 41+2. My stomach felt 'tight' as I lie in bed that night, after having gone for a hike in a ravine earlier that day. Woke at 5am n labour. Made oatmeal with maple syrup and apples, took a gravol and went back to bed. Woke at 7, and contractions had n rhyme or reason and were super painful, every 2-3 mins apart. Midwife came late morning (I think) and I spent my time laboring and pacing...getting very discouraged as she kept doing cervical exams. Finally at about 11 when I was only 5 cms, I was losing the will to carry on. I said I wanted to go o the hospital and get an epidural - that I couldn't take it anymore. My midwife was very new and didn attempt to reassure me that I was just hitting wall and transitioning very soon.We hd my mom drive us to the hospital, someone ran a red light and we swerved. By the time I got there I was ready to push an refused any interventions . I had about 20 mins of pushing and that stage was BLISS compared to the rest. I was resting b/t ctrx and they were further apart. I had major adrenaline and euphoria. DD was born and it was amazing. Home 4 hours later. I did tear a lot.
 
#18 ·
Dd2 was very different. I was only 2 days over and had my membranes swept at noon. Went to bed at 10, woke at midnight with contractions every 10 mins apart. Had a bath, they kept coming. Soon enough they picked up pace and followed the same pattern that they had with DD1 - close together! DD1 woke at about 4am and sat with me. I didn't want to wake my mom or Dh as I knew they would have a long day ahead. I think I had a few more baths. Called the midwife and she came at about 9ish. I cant remember where I was at, but I kept laboring and she was a friend of ours so stayed and hung out. It was nice. Eventually filled the pool. I got in around 2. I had the urge to push and was 8 cm (had the urge on dd1 at 7.5cm and went with it). SO I was pushing and could feel DD twirling around inside of me between contractions. It was weird. They were monitoring her heartbeat. After a while the second midwife was called and Dh was instructed to put towels in the dryer so I knew birth was imminent. I was so relieved. I knew baby would be born by 4 at the latest. 2nd midwife arrived and they didn't like the way DDs heartbeat was behaving, super fast, then super slow. I was asked to get out of the pool and sit on the toilet (which I had said I did NOT want to do), but I did it. I think that helped things. Then I ended up in bed. The funny thing is that as euphoric as this stage was on DD1, it was woeful this time. I was really weepy and was trying to block out my senses by putting cold towels over my eyes and ears. I remember being on the bed and having this sensation that I was being examined and I freaked out as I had asked for NO internal exams. I made everyone show me their hands, but I could still feel something.
In the end, after hours of pushing, my DD2 came through, in the caul, with the sac bulging. She was extremely tangled in her cord, and it had been nearly prolapsed and almost compressed against the side of her head as she was emerging, which was the sensation I felt. It was exactly like a pulsating sensation. They realized and broke the sac and untangled her. Her arm was purple, but it was ok. I didn't have a single tear and was blissful from that moment on. The craziest thing about the whole experience is that we had talked about my tendency for long prodromal labours and I had hesitantly agreed to have my membranes broken if things were going that way again. My midwife said she had been thinking about it and wanting to ask, b ut something had kept her from doing it. If we had broke my waters there most certainly would have been a prolapse which isn't good.
 
#19 ·
this time around I plan to have a pool, and see how it goes. Im not married to a water birth, but I found being in the water very helpful. I wont have any internal exams and will hopefully not have the crappy prodromal labour, but I will prepare for it.
 
#24 ·
littlebear3- Have you looked into a natural birthing center, or a homebirth? For me, some of the major reasons we opted for a homebirth was to avoid to pushiness, and bullying, and interventions that they seem to push in so many hospital births, which then lead to more interventions, and unwanted actions. At home, nobody bothers me, unless I ask them for something. The midwife was always very respectful about speaking in low, soothing tones, and waiting until I was between contractions, to do any fetal monitoring, which she only did with a fetoscope, and only after asking first; it was very non-threatening and respectful. I actually think that achieving a natural childbirth in a hospital would be much more difficult than a homebirth, because I would feel more anxious, and would have to spend the energy I need for labor and birthing on fighting, and arguing to get things the way I want them.
 
#28 ·
I would LOVE love love a homebirth! Unfortunately my husband is absolutely terrified of that prospect. After many debates about it, i respected his fear decision lol. Concidering how much hes ok with me making decisions on things like not vaccinating, EBF, and co sleeping, Im ok with it. Although the thought does cross my mind of "accidentally" laboring at home too long with the next one lol. I am going to look into birth centers, supposedly the city ifs finally looking into building one. You are right though, it is a ton of stress to get a natural birth in a hospital. Its easy to laugh about out now and feel more prepared the next time around. However, it doesn't mean I look forward to it and we really should be to the point in medical history where a woman can look forward to giving birth and not worry about whether or not her wishes are met. Thank you for your suggestions 😀
 
#29 ·
Would he be up for some reading? "The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth" by Henci Goer has some great studies and statistics showing that planning out-of-hospital births actually have better outcomes with safety and mortality in ever group, except for very-high risk (including very low risk, low risk, medium risk, and high risk.) Maybe the safety aspect would be a way to get him thinking about it?
 
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I second that book by henci goer, it's a great read and is the family favorite of the vbac books on my shelf. It's helpful to be able to explain scientifically and statistically why homebirth/natural birth is a good choice, even if you are more invested emotionally. More people understand that, I found, than the more common "I am more comfortable/calm/relaxed/feel safe at home" (which is equally legitimate, just, not as culturally accepted in my area of the world).
 
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Welcome Lizzysbean! I know what you mean about finding a place with women with similar views. It's nice not to have to brace myself for people's reactions to finding out we are planning a homebirth, and that we've already had 2 homebirths before this one!
 
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