Has anyone told their families yet? We haven't. I've only told my best friend and sister. He wants to do a Christmas announcement. I'm unsure of dropping a Christmas bomb on our families.
I think we are waiting until early amDecember or so to announce. DH is worried about another miscarriage, and after him talking about it recently, he has me all worried about it too. The week of the 8th is probably the earliest we'll announce it to everyone, though it's possible that I'll explode before then and just tell everyone anyway. ;-) It's really hard for me to be joyful and enjoy being pregnant between the worry and the constant nausea and food aversions. Anyway...I'm going a bit off topic. Sorry...
I'm waiting. I'll be 10 weeks at Christmastime and I'm not sure I'll even want to say anything that early. My two early losses in Jan. and last Nov. happened at 6 weeks and then 5.5 weeks, so these next 2-3 weeks are going to be a bit nerve-wracking (I'm 4 wks, 3 days today.) The latest m/c I ever had (I've had 3 in my life - over the last 12 years) was 8 weeks, but I suspect the baby had stopped growing long before that because I never had much in the way of symptoms at all and that's unusual for me. January 6th is when I'll be 12 weeks...
I haven't told a soul yet, just DH and I know.
However, I really doubt I'll be able to hide the belly until Jan. 6th! Someone guessed me out at 8 weeks with my last baby...
I've told 3 friends. They don't know each other and I mostly talked to them because we will be moving when I am about 6.5 months so I thought these friends in particular could help me with finding a midwife and then hopefully transferring later when we move. it's somethkng I'm really stressed about and I wouldnt have told them except for that. We will probably tell family on Christmas when I'll be 10.5 weeks. I'm going to try to wait until 14 weeks to tell anyone else- I had an early mc before my daughter and really don't want to go through telling people of it happens again I wish I could just feel relaxed and excited- can't wait to be passed 12 weeks!
We're telling family on Sunday. I'll be pretty early (4.5 weeks), but DH is going to be travelling again the beginning of January so I'm probably going to need some help with my older two. It's DS1's 5th birthday party, and everyone will be coming to our house for dinner. We're taking advantage of the opportunity.
I'll probably tell some of my close friends in the next few weeks, but it'll be under wraps from everyone else until Christmas, at the earliest.
Basically, we're telling the people that I would want help/encouragement from if something were to happen.
I've only told one person so far (I was the first to know about her pregnancy, so I thought it would be fun for her to be my first). We are thinking a Christmastime announcement because we have family all over the country but will actually be seeing most of them around Christmas. A good friend is traveling to see me this evening, so I'll probably tell her tonight. She'll wonder why I'm not having wine with dinner!
The plan is to let my kids unwrap "big sibling" shirts on Christmas when we are at my parents', but it's going to be hard to wait that long! MY husband and I are the only ones who currently know. I think my 4-year-old daughter is going to be very excited. She'll be great with a baby. She's very gentle, thoughtful, and affectionate. :love The other kids will be happy, too, I think, but the 4-year-old will be ecstatic.
Edit: I just ordered the shirts. I might let the kids unwrap them on Thanksgiving in front of the grandparents! I don't think I can wait until Christmas!
I've told a few friends (a few doula friends specifically, and my BFF) however we won't be telling family for quite a while. We had a birth diagnosis of Down syndrome for my son and it kind of traumatized the whole family a bit, so we will be doing the new cell free DNA test before we tell anyone. Won't make a difference on whether we bring home a baby in July, but we just want to announce, tell if the baby has the typical number of chromosomes or not, and boom, no one has to spend weeks worrying about it.
I am strangely at peace with it all. :love Our son is so wonderful I wouldn't mind another baby with Ds. His babyhood was such a special time in my life.
Also I am spotting so that's another reason we are keeping it under wraps. Hope all is ok with the baby!
Which test are you going to do? I'm looking at early screenings and am not too familiar with the options.
Sorry about the spotting; that's so unnerving. :hug
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