At this stage of pregnancy, how long do you give yourself before freaking out about not feeling the baby?
I have higher anxiety this time around and after having a good baby movement day, I get really anxious over a no movement day. Or was that a baby movement or not type of movement.
I can feel him transverse in me and push on him, but then don't feel him move. I have a couple inches of fat, so I'm definitely not feeling movement on the outside yet. Plus most of the movement is down.
Anyway, anyone want to reassure me that it's normal to not feel regular movement at this point? I'm almost 20 weeks, so I feel like it should be getting regular!
My mom said she didn't feel regular movement until well into the 5th month with me, and today my midwife confirmed that this is normal (I'm just 16+4, but I expressed concern that I felt the baby move three days in a row last week and then nothing since then...she said it will be at least a month or more before I can feel it everyday, and it all depends on the position the baby is in right now until he's bigger). I bet you'll start feeling it regularly in the next couple of weeks though!
This thread made me feel better. Last weekend and a few days after, I felt SO much fluttery/bubbly movement. Then nothing much at all the rest of the week. I chalk it up to week 16 growth spurt means more sleeping and just that it's so early. I know baby still moves bc I either see a bulge here or there or I have already got pressure on my lungs.
Movement! Yesterday! Lots! Woo~hoo! Baby was worrying me after I didn't feel movement for so long. I was starving after waiting for way too long at an appt. for my daughter and we stopped at Trader Joe's and I had 1 tiny bite of dark chocolate (when what I really wanted was salmon and full-fat yogurt and a steak with butter and sour cream!) and boy was she kicking on the way home! One of those kicks was a good one too, surprised me by the strength. :love DH and I quickly made dinner (bloody chesseburgers, green beans & potatoes drenched in butter - YUM!) and I ate two plates full. :lol Happy mama = happy baby.
I'm thinking they say its not until 28ish weeks that they expect you to track movement. They'd have us track as soon as it was reliable, right?
I haven't felt anything in about 2 days after a fair amount of movement too. When the movement is only internal, I have to be paying attention to feel it. I think I haven't been paying attention for the past few days. I'm sure our little beans are playing around gently in there
I'm pretty sure that I've heard 26 weeks, or somewhere around there, is when people typically start kick counts.
I'm not feeling the baby regularly, although it's always at least once a day now. I probably wouldn't be concerned about it until about 20 weeks, knowing my history of crazy babies. I am feeling on the outside, so it should be getting more regular I'd think.
I think since you've felt baby, and then not felt baby for a while, and then felt baby again, that it seems normal for you not to be continuously feeling movement and that things are okay regardless. Fifth baby and I can't remember when I can reliably feel baby throughout the day - but it's really fun when you begin to recognize baby's sleep/wake schedule!
I'm 16 or 17 weeks and I feel baby every day, but randomly. I can usually prompt movement by pushing one part of my belly - but then I feel guilty like I woke her up or something.
Glad to hear it! I'm in the same boat as you, feel the babe one day but not always the next. I'm 19 weeks and a bit on the plump side, so I'm trying to wait patiently until I can feel him or her more reliably and maybe even see a kick here or there. My midwife also says it's normal at this stage to not feel the baby from one day to the next.
Very normal but definitely freaky! :hug At this point so much depends on baby's position/where they are kicking, where the placenta is, the mother's body... after 24-26ish weeks the strength and size of the baby outweighs these other factors.
Now I'm waiting for movement! I don't think I've felt anything since yesterday morning. I've been prodding my belly but no luck. Maybe she's just in a position where I can't feel the kicks and wiggles. C'mon baby, give mama a little peace of mind!
I finally felt movement again yesterday after 4 days of nothing, but then so far haven't felt anything today. I'm really glad to know it's normal and I just have to be patient!
Since the day after I posted I have had all busy, active days. Which will make a slow day even harder! Peru sin though baby will be quite large and not so easy to not feel.
I think I felt two kicks last night as I was going to sleep. It felt like somebody was inside of my body, very lightly poking me from the inside. Weird!
Movement! Yesterday! Lots! Woo~hoo! Baby was worrying me after I didn't feel movement for so long. I was starving after waiting for way too long at an appt. for my daughter and we stopped at Trader Joe's and I had 1 tiny bite of dark chocolate (when what I really wanted was salmon and full-fat yogurt and a steak with butter and sour cream!) and boy was she kicking on the way home! One of those kicks was a good one too, surprised me by the strength. :love DH and I quickly made dinner (bloody chesseburgers, green beans & potatoes drenched in butter - YUM!) and I ate two plates full. :lol Happy mama = happy baby.
Yesterday I had my first actual "kick" or anything besides fluttery bubbles... I was watching my dd8 perform with her choir in a church with a beautiful organ playing (they were singing Morning Has Broken, love that song) and I had tears rolling down my cheeks and baby thumped, hard. Pretty special. :heartbeat
Yesterday I had my first actual "kick" or anything besides fluttery bubbles... I was watching my dd8 perform with her choir in a church with a beautiful organ playing (they were singing Morning Has Broken, love that song) and I had tears rolling down my cheeks and baby thumped, hard. Pretty special. :heartbeat
I'm 17 weeks today, and I still haven't felt real movement this is my fourth baby, so on the one hand, I feel like I should be feeling it more by now, but on the other hand, I think maybe I'm so busy im missing it? Or perhaps I have anterior placenta... I *think* I've felt some fluttery movement, but so light I'm not positive it isnt just gas...
My 4th and I'm a week ahead of you and I still haven't felt anything that wasn't so subtle that I could be sure it wasn't digestion. So you're not alone!
That stinks americanjuly. It really could be where your placenta is. I feel the most movement when I am sitting and leaning forward. Baby gets a little squished then.
Thanks guys- that does make me feel better I think I'm having a hard time emotionally connecting to this pregnancy (it was a surprise, and we thought we were done...) and I keep waiting for something to make it click. I think when I start feeling her move regularly, that will help, you know?
And no, we don't officially know it's a girl yet...but we already have three girls and are just kind of assuming
Are you team green?
I have had a hard time getting attached /connected to this one and the last (first two were a decade ago so I can't remember), too. Movement would help, I think. I just hate being pregnant so much and get awful depression during it as well as physical difficulty so I can relate to not being "happy" about the baby when I can't even really quite grasp there is a baby attached to this hell. Luckily for me I am instantly in baby bliss land after the birth and stay flying high for a long time (well I'm an upbeat person so it doesn't really noticeably stop), but I am never a happy camper while pregnant. This delayed movement situation isn't helping to see the bright side either! Grumble Grumble!
I totally understand all this. My first baby I had a ton of nonstop movement from the time it started (when, I do not know!) Until birth.
Then my next two I struggled to feel any movement, even in the 30+ weeks. With each pregnancy my mood gets worse and my attitude gets worse. I was headed on the same track, but I have actually been feeling consistent movement throughout the day everyday for over a week now and my attitude is SO much better. I feel myself coming out of my fog of bad feelings and able to look forward to the rest of the pregnancy. I am also functioning better in daily life too.
Coincidentally, both of my in-utero active babies are my boys. If this one does stay active.
I too, have just had "was that...?" moments I think. I just started my 18th week. We lost our first one early on, so I wonder if I have felt it, but am subconsciously doubting/denying bc I can't believe it? Idk I keep hoping and going maybe? and wondering if that is what it was. I am also thrown off by everything else moving around too!
We are having a 20 weeks US, and if baby cooperates, we will find out then. My older two are hoping for a boy, my husband is hoping for another girl, and I think either one would be fun and my two year old doesn't care haha.
I think that since my other three were all planned, I had an easier time bonding to them earlier on- I was happy to be pregnant even though I felt like crap. This time it's harder to hold on to anything when I feel like crap, and plus I'm a little bit getting over the irritation of not being able to "do" all the stuff I was planning to do this winter, esp with my older daughters whine whine whine
We are having a 20 weeks US, and if baby cooperates, we will find out then. My older two are hoping for a boy, my husband is hoping for another girl, and I think either one would be fun and my two year old doesn't care haha.
I think that since my other three were all planned, I had an easier time bonding to them earlier on- I was happy to be pregnant even though I felt like crap. This time it's harder to hold on to anything when I feel like crap, and plus I'm a little bit getting over the irritation of not being able to "do" all the stuff I was planning to do this winter, esp with my older daughters whine whine whine
This is o/t, but we are in the same boat with the surprise 4th. I am having a really hard time connecting, am slightly bitter, and just generally a grump about being pregnant this time around. I just wanted to validate your feelings.
In regards to movement, I'm 17.5 weeks and feeling movement more days than not. My MW said it sounded normal for this stage when I brought it up Friday.
18 weeks tomorrow or 19 weeks Wednesday and I feel baby CONSTANTLY!! :love
Instead of feeling a really light poke here or there on occasion, I now feel definite cycles of wake and sleep! When she's awake, there's lots of consistent movement that goes on for long stretches of time. I LOVE THIS!!! :love
AmericanJuly - I'm also on the fourth, and I always feel mine super early - like at about 10 weeks. I'm 17 and a half weeks now and I'm lucky if I get one or two mild squirms in daily. I don't know if he/she is just lazier than my other LO's or if it's placenta related or what. (Two of my kids have ADHD and the nurses were always laughing at NST's about how quickly they got their required kick counts in, they'd hook me up and then they were ready to take it down again before leaving the room. So they were super active. And D3 isn't really hyper, but she is STRONG, and was born that way. (Holding her head straight up during belly time the day she came home from the hospital, standing at 2 months when you propped her up.) So when she kicked, she kicked HARD, from very early on. But this one? Not much of anything happening yet. It is definitely harder to connect with them without the movement part. I can't even tell if he/she is awake or asleep. I'm sure it's just a matter of time, though...
I only feel the baby about every 3-4 days but last night and today I've felt it so much! Always in the same place. Exciting!
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