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#811 of 824 Old 01-16-2010, 03:56 AM
 
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Waturmama, I'm so so sorry about the loss of your dog. I've been there (with my dear kitty) and know how painful that is.

I've not keeping up quite as much the past couple of weeks, but am sending good vibes to all of you ladies!

AFM, I'm CD15 with no sign of O yet (although my temping has been less than ideal). We decided to have a civil ceremony next month (!) and start TTC with my Feb or March cycle (followed by a larger wedding in May). There is so much to think about and do, my head is spinning.

First up, do we try Clomid or not? Even though I'm ovulating and conceiving (and m/c is my issue), we've been thinking maybe we should try for twins, as we know we want two more eventually anyway and this could be our last shot (yet, I'm ambivalent about twins). And, do we see a fertility doc or just ask DH's dad (an MD) to write us an Rx? Do we really *need* to see a fertility specialist, who might just discourage us??

On top of everything else, I'm changing jobs (a good thing) and am working 24/7 trying to finish up at the old one, while my sweet DD is recovering from walking pneumonia. Why does it all happen at once? She's in good hands with her dad and grandparents, but it just feels so wrong to not be caring for her. Today her dad took her to see a Chi Nei Tsang practitioner, hopefully the essential oils he prescribed for her lungs will help.

Take care, all!

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Hello everyone!

38 weeks, 5 days. Waiting....

Pitchfork: I know it's hard to be grateful for feeling sick, but for good sticky bean signs! Congratulations again!!!

Waturmama: Condolences on the loss of your dog. I know how much our non-human friends and family can mean to us.

Litmama: Yay for a quick wedding and starting TTC! I hope your DD is feeling better soon. Try not to feel guilty about not being the one to directly care for her at the moment. You know she's in good hands. According to Randine Lewis, Clomid should only be used for anovulatory women with yang or spleen qi deficiency and should be avoided by women with yin deficiency (most of us 40+'s). I think it's probably a good idea to see a fertility specialist. Just my 2 cents.

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Thanks for being the thread keeper for so long. I hope someone can take over for you soon.

Shy: It's pretty normal for the first few cycles after m/c to be out of whack, yes? I've also read that you are actually more fertile in the months in the months following a miscarriage. (I've also read that this *isn't* true, but I got spontaneously pg three months after a m/c at 10.5 weeks after getting pregnant via IVF.) Anyway, I hope it's true and your upcoming cycle is super fertile in spite of a light blood flow.

NYmomma: Good luck with charting! I loved it and it probably saved me lots of money on HPT's. The only times I tested in 19 months of TTC (not including after 2 IVF attempts) were when my temps stayed elevated longer than normal.

Edwardsmom: Have fun with the casual TTC!

Good luck Gerlassie!

Karen1968: How's the 2ww going?

DS 31/01/10, TTC #2
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LitMama, I hope your DD is well soon.

I know it seems easy to do clomid, get a scrip etc, but I think you need to be monitored closely with ultrasound while you do it to make sure you are not overstimulated (haven't done it myself)? Your regular ob should be able to do a clomid cycle.
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Thank you for all your sweet condolences.

Nymomma, I'm happy for you that you are temping--there is so much useful information there.

Litmama, healing wishes to your dd and to you. When you do get time with her I hope it is really mama-heart satisfying. Congrats on the job!

Stealthee so many good wishes to you! Very exciting!

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Also want to share with you, that Tuesday morning one of my beloved dogs passed on. She was pretty old, but it was unexpected at that time--so shocking. I miss her so, so much.
I had to put down my 17-year-old "pup" in October. It's so hard when they've been with you so long. I thought I was doing OK, but a couple of days ago, DS left a dark blanket crumpled on the floor, exactly in the place my old black dog used to curl up and sleep during the day. Everytime I glanced over, I thought it was her. After about the third time, I got up and put the blanket away. :

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LitMama, I hope your DD is well soon.

I know it seems easy to do clomid, get a scrip etc, but I think you need to be monitored closely with ultrasound while you do it to make sure you are not overstimulated (haven't done it myself)? Your regular ob should be able to do a clomid cycle.
I would second this. And Clomid is not always a nice prescription. I have a friend who would love another baby, but refuses to take Clomid again because of how it affected her, esp. emotionally. Do your research! I'm sure there is a Clomid thread over on the Infertility board; you can check there or post your own ?? thread.

AFM, AF arrived this morning, after a BFN two days ago and cramps last night. No big surprise, and I'm kind of glad to be at CD1 again. It hasn't been a good month : this is the month - I'd love to be able to present DH with a on his birthday!

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NYmomma, hope your temping is illuminating and empowering!

Stealthee, wow, so close! Good good wishes coming your way.

Karen1968, oh drat that the painters showed up! But it sounds like you feel very positive, yay! Fingers crossed Feb is your month.

Stealthee, Buzzer Beater, WaturMama, and Karen1968, thank you all so much for your input on Clomid! It's so helpful to hear your perspectives. I'll definitely do my research, check the MDC infertility boards, ask my TCM practitioner what she thinks, and make an appts. w/my OB and a fertility specialist. One of the reasons I'm so excited about my new job is it's only 30 hours per week, so I feel like I'll finally have time to do this research and take a more mindful approach (not to mention exercise, eat healthfully, get some sleep).

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Let me also thank MassaginMommy. I wish I could volunteer to take it over but I I am struggling with time management (to put it mildly). This is a great place of comfort and support.

Waturmama, condolences on the loss of your dog. I can only think of Marley and Me, since I have never had a dog. But I saw how the dog comforted the mama after her miscarriage.
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I've also read that you are actually more fertile in the months in the months following a miscarriage.
Then I would like to know why my doctor recommended that I wait 3 cycles?? I asked him directly if it was only for knowing dates accurately and he said that was part of it, but also to make sure uterus was "ready" ... implying that if it wasn't it would increase likelihood of miscarrying again.

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Then I would like to know why my doctor recommended that I wait 3 cycles?? I asked him directly if it was only for knowing dates accurately and he said that was part of it, but also to make sure uterus was "ready" ... implying that if it wasn't it would increase likelihood of miscarrying again.
I've also heard about being more fertile after a pregnancy. I listenened to that and got pregnant again "naturally" after my Apr. '08 m/c and a few months, later I had another m/c in Sept. '08. I was 43 at the time. Now at almost 45 I don't listen to anyone and do what I think is right for me. Currently, we are ttc#2 and I'm being very proactive in preparing my uterus for a babe - ie: supplements, teas, acupuncture, chiropractic, visualization, etc. I guess I do think that over 40 our bodies may need a little "extra attention" and care for everything to work out

Here's some ttc positive vibes -

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waitin' for my baby

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pls. take me off the bfp. lost pg. :-(

41 yr. old : Mom to MW (5/20/06) and RM (02/05/2011), m/c at 5w6d (9/07/09)
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2bpeaceful - I am sorry for your loss. I see that it was in September. I hope you are doing ok. It is so hard and so not fair.
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2bpeaceful - - I am so sorry.

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2bpeaceful, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. back to the you of Sept and to you now.

Karen1968, thank you very much for your dog story. You are so right about one who has been there for a long time. Somehow it is comforting to me right now to think I might still mistakenly think she's there 3 months from now.

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Then I would like to know why my doctor recommended that I wait 3 cycles?? I asked him directly if it was only for knowing dates accurately and he said that was part of it, but also to make sure uterus was "ready" ... implying that if it wasn't it would increase likelihood of miscarrying again.
Shy, I have heard that women are both more likely to get pg and more likely to m/c in the cycle after the m/c. Also heard that both of those effects aren't strong. The 3 cycles number seems to be what Some People have decided it takes emotionally. After my 1st m/c my mw told me she had plenty of stories of women who got pg the cycle after the m/c and had
healthy babies. She encouraged me to go for it if it felt right--so we did but did not have success and then took a break from TTC for other reasons. After my 2nd m/c I felt completely exhausted and it was clear to me my body needed to recupe. All this is to say, I would follow your wise mama intuition/knowledge of yourself on this one and I send baby dust for whenever the time seems right to you.

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OMG, I did it! I started the new thread!! Please send me some energy that this doesn't somehow be the straw that is just too much for my life!! Really I think it will be okay. I do check frequently. I love this place. I am so grateful to MM and happy to give her a break. So here I go. We'll see how it is. No promises that it is more than once.

Here is the link to the new thread: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1185367

massaginmommy Yay you!! For your long reign, thankyouthankyouthankyou

2bpeaceful, do you want to be on the hopefuls list?

Anyone!, I am open to other thread title ideas.

I'll repeat this post at the beginning of the other thread so we can continue the conversation there. See ya over in the new thread!

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Awww, thanks for the dear post, expectant-mom and wonderful to hear you are the daughter of a Mom who gave birth at 45. You found our thread from last fall and winter. Our current thread is here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1208226

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