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#1 of 38 Old 03-23-2010, 03:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'd love to hear stories that defy statistics about women who have conceived easily at 43 or over. Im newly 43. I had no problems conceiving at 40, but that was a few years ago. Im still breastfeeding too.

I'd love to hear from anyone out there.
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none of us would be here if we were able to conceive easily. lol.

Married to my wonderful hubby since 12/31/08 and have been ttc for over a year. We have suffered one terribly disheartening ectopic that terminated on 9/25/09.
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Point taken. Sending everyone lots of baby dust right now :-)

Still want to hear stories tho....
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I'm 43, I have gotten pregnant, but didn't stay pregnant, however there are many stories about women in their 40s who conceived naturally and carried to term. You might want to check out the thread here 'conceiving over 40' don't have time to link it now.

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Conceive, yes. Keep, so far, no.
I had 2 m/c in the last 4 months, I've been trying for 6 months. I'm 44.
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My mom conceived me at 44 and had me one month before she turned 45.
It took a few years with my dad travelling a few weeks a month for work, but she never had a MC. I'm not sure she knows a whole lot about fetility either...to be honest.

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My cousin had a very beautiful little surprise in her mid 40s... aka not even trying... that counts as easily right? lol... but she wasn't breastfeeding... no matter your age breastfeeding can make it harder. (not necessarily WILL make it harder... just CAN make it harder...)

My grandmother was conceived just after her mother turned 40... and that was in the 1930s!

Good luck... it happens!

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i'm 42. no luck so far. but i do have an aunt who had one at 40 and a surprise at 44. this aunt actually had a child in the 1960s, the 70s, the 80s, and the 90s. The oldest is a year or two older than me, and the youngest is in highschool, which i think is pretty impressive.

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My cousin got pregnant with her first child at 44. She had not been trying before. Though I don't know the details, it think happened pretty easily. She is due in 2 months and the baby looks great wrt development.
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When my grandmother was 47 she was relieved that a new season in her life had begun. She already had 12 children. Much to her dismay she was not going through menopause but was pregnant with her 13th child! She most definitely conceive naturally.

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I am 41 about to become 42 in a couple weeks... My DH is 47 and we have been ttc#2 for over a year now. I am 12dpo..and waiting to miss AF before I test. Had an HSG this past month..so hoping for the best. If get BFN, starting 2.5mg of Femara this cycle..
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I was 46 when I got pregnant with my DD. I had 2 miscarriages, one about 6 months before and the other 2 years before. They put me on progesterone as soon as I got pregnant.
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I hope so!!! I'm turning 41 this summer and am very much looking forward to TTC with a vengence as soon as I find a willing partner. I had two miscarriages at 39 and no children. This will be my first, which seems pretty rare, I've seen very few other first timers over 40.

Hey! You're way ahead of me, you have a source of sperm and proof you can conceive and carry a baby!!!

Chin up and BD your heart out!!!

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Thanks for your encouraging stories. Bring them on!
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Well, I'm 42 and about to start TTC #2.

In my family, my mom had her last 2 children--my next oldest sister and me--when she was 41 and 45.

My oldest sister did have her only child in her mid 40s, no miscarriages or long months/years of trying.

It's hard. I am trying to think of this possible child as our "bonus baby." We just weren't ready again before now and I'm happy we went through the process we did, even if that means no more kids. The stats are depressing; not sure if I should be reading them. But it's hard to put everything out there for something that really may or may not happen. For me, that icludes going off meds for OCD that were really working; getting true relief was really hard to give up and for who knows how long?

Good luck, all.
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My mom had my sister at 42, and my brother at 45 - not sure if she was breastfeeding or not, but I know she conceived most of the 9 of us while breastfeeding, so it's possible! Now, I'm 27 and can't seem to stay pregnant... so I'm hoping you have much better luck

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We conceived #5 when I was 42. It was a surprise, as we only bd one time that whole month. I was still nursing #4. It happens
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I have a good friend who had her 1st child at 42 and 2nd child at 44, both naturally.

My grandmother had my mom at 40 and my aunt at 42.

also my best friend was conceived naturally when her mom was 43.

So hang in there! (i'm trying to hang in there myself and i am only 34 )
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I have two friends who concieved and bore thier first children naturally at age 44/45 a few years ago. One of them had/has a husband in his 60s, the other was with a slightly younger man. I don't know how "easy" it was for them, but they weren't doing fertility treatments, and I'm pretty sure that the one with the older husband wasn't especially trying.

I think a lot depends on genetics. Do you know when your mother went through menopause? I once read somewhere that your fertility tanks about 10 years before menopause, so if you have a family history of later (mid-late 50s or beyond) menopause, you may be in luck!
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My aunt had a surprise baby five years ago at 45. Her youngest was 20 at the time. She thought she was going through "the change" early until she was almost 5 months along.

So, yeah it happened in my family too.

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I conceived easily at 43! (Well, almost 43 - got the positive test on the morning of my 43rd birthday.) I had my first at 40, after trying unsuccessfully for a while and eventually doing IVF. It took a long time for me to get my first PP period - it finally happened just before DD turned 2. The first month I knew I was ovulating, it didn't work out to DTD at the right time. The second month, it did, we did, and that was all it took. (My infertility was unexplained, so it's not like getting pregnant on my own was a miracle, but I never would have guessed it would happen, not only naturally, but on the first try!)
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I conceived naturally at age 42 (gave birth to a healthy baby girl 4 days after turning 43).  I'd had two miscarriages in the 2 years prior to conceiving successfully, tried and failed with fertility treatments.  You ABSOLUTELY can.  Be healthy, exercise and let go. it will happen.

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Wow! These are encouraging posts! I had a tubal reversal in Feb and am hoping for another....seems like so much negativity out there on internet about conceiving after 40..but these are sooo encouraging!
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So funny! This thread caught my eye, and i was going to respond and say-i posted something similar a few years ago let me go dig up that thread!

 

This is that  thread!

 

I had just turned 43 when i started this thread,  and went on to try for 14 cycles, all BFN's, until the last, i was 44, and went on to give birth a week before my 45th birthday.

 

So no, i did not conceive easily at 43, but i did conceive easily when turning 44 :-)

 My beautiful baby was born at home without complications, came into the world with a curious look on her face, started nursing, and the rest is history. She's now newly 2, and i am newly 47.

 

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Yay! I had number 3 and 4 at 40 and 42. Hoping for number 4 will be 45 if that happens.
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I personally know someone who had a surprise healthy baby at 42, and the oldest client my former midwife took care of was 48! orngbiggrin.gif
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I think a lot depends on genetics. Do you know when your mother went through menopause? I once read somewhere that your fertility tanks about 10 years before menopause, so if you have a family history of later (mid-late 50s or beyond) menopause, you may be in luck!

What about at what age menses started - anyone know if that is a factor in how long in life one is fertile?  Any of these posts about women getting pregnant in their 40's - do you know at what age menses started?

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First period..hmm...12?
Cant remember that far back...no idea about family history
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