I hate to wait another month but I can't imagine that DS would want to share his b-day or b-day parties with a little brother of sister.
If they were at least a week apart it might not be too bad but you never know, right? WWYD?
After thinking and talking about it for a while, we realized there is no guarantee of anything...when I'll get pregnant, how my job will react, when the baby will actually arrive, etc. At my age (37) we decided it would be best not to waste time and just to begin trying.
We talked about what would happen if we are not still pregnant in November, since that would give me an August due date, right when school starts. I figure we'll cross that bridge when/if we come to it and right now we'll just do our best to try!
So few babies actually come on their due date. I think if you're comfortable with your children having the same birth month, I would go ahead and try.
So, to answer you question, no, I don't think avoiding TTC to space b-days apart is bad. I also think it's fine to avoid the holiday season (a lot of people I know with December b-days hate the "this is both your birthday and Xmas present" thing) or trying to make sure your pregnancy isn't at a difficult point at a really uncomfortable season/event. I know women who planned to give birth a couple of months after a move so that they didn't have to juggle a newborn and packing. I have a friend who planned to give birth in fall/winter to maximize the amount of time she'd have before fitting into a bathing suit again!
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if it's worth giving up a month of TTC for convenience. It's taken me so long that I'm pretty much trying hard every month now and throwing my concerns about compatible signs to the wind! Of course I say that now, because if I got preggo this month I'd have an Aquarius, and next month would be a Pisces. I'd be happy with either of those!
Good luck making your decision!
It's just how it worked out, and now that we have been TTC for going on two years, I realize there is no way to plan it out perfectly. Now watch, I finally get a BFP in a couple months with another March due date.
ETA: since babies don't tend to come on their due dates - I would say even if that is what happens, your DS likely won't have to share his special day.
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so no, i dont think its a crazy idea! lol
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My dd was born Oct 6 and ds Oct 18 so apparently the odds where pretty darn high
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eta they were born 2 years and 5 days apart. lol.
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Good luck with whatever you decide.
Otherwise, no. This baby is due right around my birthday... if I avoided birthdays we could never TTC!
This baby is also due right around when my loss was due... but that doesnt bother me.
TBH Im hoping baby gets MY birthday so I can stay 27 the rest of my life ... she can have the day for all i care!
Surviving sleep deprivation one day at a time with dd (Oct '11) & ds (Oct '08).
so we do a big birthday thing every May and a big birthday thing every late September (dad and step-mom are both Octobers)
but thats NOW. When we were younger we all got seperate birthdays. I would get labor day weekend no matter when my birthday fell, my brother whos birthday is 5 days after mine would get the next weekend no matter when his birthday fell.
my son rarely has his birthday on the weekend so we only can celebrate the weekend before/after anyway (as I HATE to do a birthday party on a weeknight!)
and DD has a late June birthday so we usually mix her birthday with our 4th of July celebrations...
So really, the worst problem is if the kids end up with the same exact birthdate... and while that can happen, the risk of it is REALLY small. Otherwise... you dont have to celebrate on the exact day!