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Welcome back, I've missed your posts. I hope you get some answers. I don't remember what your cycle issues are, but at least for me, BC does a great job of regulating my cycles, ... WHILE I am on it lol. It just goes back to crazy after stopping it. So BC to regulate your cycle for fertility seems really questionable to me.Originally Posted by SimplyRochelle
Finally ready to really jump back in now that I feel like we have some forward momentum to talk about. Stasis just doesn't seem that interesting. But we had our first infertility appointment today with a local OB who was amazing. Hubby has an SA sometime next week, I have an ultrasound Thursday to check for cysts, fibroids, or any possible sign that could indicate endometriosis. If they do see anything abnormal I'll have a lap done sometime in the next few months. We told him we're really just interested in testing right now, but in about 6 months (once the due date would be after nursing school graduation) we'd be more open to medical intervention. He suggested birth control for 3 months which he thinks would regulate/shorten my cycles but I just don't really like that idea at all! He also said he'd want to try Clomid first but I'd really only want to give it one more shot since we did two cycles of it last year with a general practitioner who was happy to hand out drugs. I forgot to ask how much he could offer us and what he would try before referring us somewhere else. It's a shame the only RE in our state is in Little Rock which is about 3 and a half hours from here. I am planning on trying to find a job there when I graduate so if we still don't have a baby on the way by then, we'll begin pursuing IVF after we get settled in there. It just feels so great to be going forward towards some kind of answer. And to know that even if we don't get answers, I'll still be having a baby sometime in the next few years, which after this long is just the boost of hope I needed.
So yay! I'm back!
See, that was my feeling too. They get to go on and celebrate in their DDC, they get to go on and have a baby in their arms in 9 months... while some of us are still sitting back in the TTC section watching everyone else move on... I didn't think it was too much to ask to just make it a link instead of a big, blaring picture. It wasn't like I was asking them not to post it AT ALL... just post it with a little sensitivity. Anyway, I don't want to get all into it again but I appreciate having someone understand where I was coming from. I knew I should have just come here and left there a long time ago.I think there is plenty of room for celebration in, say, DDCs, where everyone is likely to be on the same wavelength.
I don't get that! I have been here maybe 6 months and I have never seen anything other than everyone being welcomed here. However, I do think that some people have a negative feeling towards this thread, not because of any of us, but because they within themselves do not want to end up here. It is easier to feel.. what... anger and pity? towards us than to admit you (anyone) might at some point end up really belonging here. I could be wrong... but I just don't see it how anyone would feel unwelcome here due to anyone's comments.Originally Posted by miriam_bat_avraham
I'm also sad to see that there are people who come to this thread for support but say they don't feel accepted here. I feel like we're pretty open and kind and welcoming here, and I put a lot into my BSL friendships because this is really the only place I can have in-depth conversations with a high level of emotional and mental investment when it comes to talking about TTC and treatment, and I try to give that back to the women in this forum by being truly supportive. It's hard to hear that I could be trying to reach out to someone and help them, only to find they have a less than favorable opinion of usfeels like I can't win on that one.
Yep, that's right. I know someone from P&BL (I think it was Monica), went through on a particularly lousy day, and counted all the bfps that had passed through since she joined. I could never, ever do that, because I would cry. But I know that I have this bitter side that thinks awful things sometimes. For example, (and I shudder to type this), when I see ladies posting that they can "relax" now, because they have seen the heartbeat, it drives me crazy. Really crazy. It's so evil of me, but I just think to myself, well "I know from experience that a heartbeat doesn't guarantee anything". It hurts me. I know that sounds insane, I really do. It's my own personal trigger, to know that I am the frickin "1%" whose body cannot keep my babies alive.Originally Posted by Tear78
A2E, you hit the nail on the head: it definitely became too much for me to continue to reach out to people and make connections and bonds with people who were just going to continually graduate and leave me behind. That's why I feel like the BSL and the Veterans Threads are so wonderful, because I think, (I hope!), that the bonds we make are lasting and go beyond a graduation. right?
I agree with you about what Miriam wrote.Originally Posted by Tear78
MBA - I think what you wrote about this thread is beautiful and might be really great as part of the blurb on the front page. I think people are hesitant because there is no set "join-time." But the thing is, bitterness and a need for emotional protection doesn't come at the same time for everybody, and I think that's the essence of this thread.