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We lived above a woman once who continuously called the cops on us because my daughter would scream and cry at bedtime (my daughter was 2-3 at the time). One time she even told the cops that my husband was hurting me and that he jumped off the balcony and ran off when they showed up. Actually, he was at work and hadn't even been home yet. The cops came through and searched my apartment. It was pretty embarrassing, but they seemed about as embarrassed as me. They ended up writing me a noise violation because she insisted. So I had to show up to court, but she never showed so the charges were dismissed. (This same lady also complained to the apartment manager b/c my husband showered at 1 or 2 in the morning when he got home from work, and also b/c I washed clothes too late at night for her liking.)Originally Posted by objet_trouve
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And yeah, my state is TERRIBLE about responding to domestic abuse cases properly. I wouldn't really be terribly surprised if the cops just didn't report finding something the other day, it happens here often enough. Being a homebody, I stand a good chance of being here if cops need to be called again, so that makes me feel a little better.
Congratulations Rachel!
That seems so odd to me. Did you have an exam or anything at all? Or did he just say it was normal without checking anything? (And since when is missing 2 periods normal? I mean, is it really normal? I've never heard that.)Originally Posted by Smilesarefree
So just writing to complain, I am now on cd 58, totally unheard for me. So I've now missed 2 periods, I saw the doctor this morning who assured me that it is completely normal, nothing to worry about and to come back in 5 weeks if I still haven't gotten my period, no blood work, no pills to help af along nothing, he assured me that I would be cancelling my apt. because I would have gotten my period by then. I'm sure he's probably right but I just expected some kind of action now. 5 weeks that seems like forever away. AF better show up before then I need to get back on the TTC Bus
No exam just sat and had a chat, he won't 'investigate' unless I've missed 3 periods. I am having streaky pink cm everynow and then when I wipe now so it looks like something is finally happening...I hope.Originally Posted by jennabella
Congratulations Rachel!
That seems so odd to me. Did you have an exam or anything at all? Or did he just say it was normal without checking anything? (And since when is missing 2 periods normal? I mean, is it really normal? I've never heard that.)
AFM: I am exhausted with all of this. I've had my saline infusion sonohysterography and it was just ridiculously painful. My heart goes out to everyone having to go through procedures and fertility treatments, etc...cause seriously I just had no idea how awful it can be. I'm very glad that IVF and IUI and all of those are not in our future because right now I can't even imagine it. I just wish it wasn't so difficult. I feel like I need something to help me have a more positive attitude about all of this, because right now I just feel pretty awful.
This is pretty much how I feel as well.Originally Posted by LessTraveledBy
You know, this place is not just for those who are bitter. I am sometimes, sometimes not. Right now this is a safe haven from all the insensitive comments and actions. A safe place, which I so appreciare in this world where those comments can come at any time, from just about anyone, when I least expect them. Thank you for being there, everyone, as much I would hope you did not need to be...
I hope something is finally happening for you. I do still think it's a bit weird that he didn't check anything at all, but maybe it's not.
I just had to laugh at this because FF does the same thing to me all the time. You would think giving us the free trial when it's actually useful would make it more of a selling point.
The wait for the letter is due to our medical system here in Northern Europe: We pay next to nothing but there is always a line to these sort of things. However, we do also have private clinics, meaning we would pay everything out of pocket. (The prices are not as crazy as in North America, though, due to no one having insurance that would cover this.) Since I am thinking we would only have a post coital or something to test dh and the test (whatever it is called) to check that my tubes are open, I might find out what those would cost at the private clinic. I doubt that the problem is my tubes, though... Maybe getting dh tested is the last piece of this puzzle before moving on... to what... maybe to nothing (if adoption does not seem possible), just acceptance.Originally Posted by lilmom
LTB I too am curious about why the wait for the letter? I am sorry it didn't go how you were hoping. I think it's very unfair that they won't do testing unless you want treatments. That doesn't make sense to me. I am glad to hear though that you are feeling some peace about the entire situation, and i hope that does continue. Also, glad to hear your DD had a nice birthday.
Well I thought af was coming but it looks like that was a false alarm, I have never wanted her so bad in my life. As disheartening as TTCing can be and the monthly emotional roller coaster ride that comes with, at least you're trying and hoping, it sucks not be able to that right now. I honestly didn't think that he would do anything I was just hoping that he would.Originally Posted by jennabella
I hope something is finally happening for you. I do still think it's a bit weird that he didn't check anything at all, but maybe it's not.
I just had to laugh at this because FF does the same thing to me all the time. You would think giving us the free trial when it's actually useful would make it more of a selling point.
No long cycles are not the norm for me, I average a 26 day cycle, I can't think of anything that happened to make me o late or not at all. I'm trying too not think about it - I think that maybe my obsessing over it it making it later and later!!Originally Posted by InWaiting
Congrats Rachel! I hope that luck extends to newly returning BSLs as well. Hope you have a happy, healthy 9 months!
Smilesarefree, I am so sorry for what must be an excruciating wait! Remind me-are long cycles typical for you? If not, is there a reason for extended cycles now? I can't imagine having to go on waiting! I can't believe that your doc won't induce a period
Jennabella, I hate all of these invasive treatments too. As if being "infertile" isn't bad enough we have to be "violated" by some procedure seemingly every month. I'm so sorry for your pain!
Kparker,
Lesstraveledby, I hate that your appointment today was so unproductive. Why the wait for the "letter?"
MBA, I love your sense of humor and the way you retell stories. When you describe it I can just feel the tension that must have been in the room during that meeting! You are such an asset to this thread-I'm glad you are staying!
Question to all: Does anyone else have a weird obsession about running to fertility friend soon after a BD session just to record said BD session??
Another question to all: What are your thoughts/feelings/convictions about drinking during the TWW?? I'm currently 7 dpo and my hubby and I are in New Orleans and I would love to partake of a hurricane or a St. Patty's day treat on Thursday. I keep thinking but what if I'm pregnant? But then I think if I forgo the drinky drink for nothing I'll regret snubbing said drinky drink. What would YOU do?I'll probably abstain because I'm a chicken, but I am curious what your practices are.
Maybe this is just my ignorance speaking, but it sounds nice to have the choice between waiting for free or next to nothing or paying at a private clinic. I have insurance that covers some diagnostics, but no treatment, ultrasounds or drugs are covered (if they are labeled specifically for infertility-I've gotten away with Femara since it's a breast cancer drug). I'm sure there are pros and cons to both medical systems though. I'm with you-I'd have to find out the cost of the private clinic. Peace of mind is worth a little too.Originally Posted by LessTraveledBy
The wait for the letter is due to our medical system here in Northern Europe: We pay next to nothing but there is always a line to these sort of things. However, we do also have private clinics, meaning we would pay everything out of pocket. (The prices are not as crazy as in North America, though, due to no one having insurance that would cover this.) Since I am thinking we would only have a post coital or something to test dh and the test (whatever it is called) to check that my tubes are open, I might find out what those would cost at the private clinic. I doubt that the problem is my tubes, though... Maybe getting dh tested is the last piece of this puzzle before moving on... to what... maybe to nothing (if adoption does not seem possible), just acceptance.
Hoping for those testing soon!!!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on drinking! It's hard for me not to over-obsess sometimes. Your chart looks great!!Originally Posted by kparker
Drinking: I don't go nuts drinking very often but when I do really drink, I drink hard. I have a glass or two of wine a week otherwise. When in a 2ww, I don't drink hard and I try to only have 1 glass of wine if I really need it. I don't think it will hurt but I'm paranoid.
Littlest birds: I have been having the most steady temps I have ever had this cycle, with one dip on 7dpo (trying not to read too much into that, either). http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/pupten
I know 10po is early. I'm pessimistic. But I think I'll go ahead and try again on 13 or 14 dpo before I get depressed for the weekend.
I hope you get some af action soon. I know you are ready to try again!Originally Posted by Smilesarefree
Well I thought af was coming but it looks like that was a false alarm, I have never wanted her so bad in my life. As disheartening as TTCing can be and the monthly emotional roller coaster ride that comes with, at least you're trying and hoping, it sucks not be able to that right now. I honestly didn't think that he would do anything I was just hoping that he would.
No long cycles are not the norm for me, I average a 26 day cycle, I can't think of anything that happened to make me o late or not at all. I'm trying too not think about it - I think that maybe my obsessing over it it making it later and later!!
I do have the occasional drink during the TWW, my dh and I usually have a beer or 2 or glass of wine Friday's after work, nothing too crazy, in the tww I usually do a test every Friday am just to be sure because I am paranoid.
Yes... While it won't be fun if the wait is very long, I so prefer this system. As a matter of fact, the whole health insurance thing is among the biggest reasons we prefer living in Europe. I gave birth in the States and it took many (stressful) months until everything was clear with health insurance and the hospital, with me being the person in the middle, as neither would deal directly with the other.Originally Posted by InWaiting
Maybe this is just my ignorance speaking, but it sounds nice to have the choice between waiting for free or next to nothing or paying at a private clinic. I have insurance that covers some diagnostics, but no treatment, ultrasounds or drugs are covered (if they are labeled specifically for infertility-I've gotten away with Femara since it's a breast cancer drug). I'm sure there are pros and cons to both medical systems though. I'm with you-I'd have to find out the cost of the private clinic. Peace of mind is worth a little too.