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Hello everyone!  Just wanted to chime in on the new winter thread.  For an update to the first page - I am 41 and will be 9 weeks preg tomorrow with an edd of June 30.love.gif

 

I do have some more comments/questions but will have to come back later. 

 

Congratulations! joy.gif

 

Sending you lots of baby dust and sticky dust! dust.gif

 

Keep us posted on how you are doing!


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Hello all. It's been awhile since I posted but I thought I'd say hi and check in. I am so glad to see some familiar names here and also glad to see some babies and BFP's!

 

I went to see an RE who did some labs. Low (but not awful) AMH and unclear numbers with the FSH and E2. I am hopeful that when we get back on the TTC wagon we will get pregnant again (despite my age...45). I am also scheduled to have an Saline Infused Sonogram soon.

 

I thought I'd share my supplements/treatment based on early posts

CoQ10 - 400 mg/day

Fish Oil Caps

Vit D

Folic Acid

Chinese Meds (vary during cycle)

Weekly Acupuncture

**going to add l-arginine and myo-inositol

 

 

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nice to see you again music...

 

 


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I have to have a place to SCREAM about First response digital OPK.  IT SUCKS.

The first time I got the "?" = error, I thought OK, maybe I did not do it right.   Now 5 stickes later.  THIS IS A DAMAGED TESTING KIT! 

(or I am a moron)  Either way, I am pretending I got an OPK + sign & going to dtd again tonight.  (we are on an everyother day)  Sorry, tmi.

 

I really was depending on the kit because my temps have been screwed up by having to get up way too early & totally jacked schedule.

 

Thanks for the vent.

 

 


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Music mama, I am from Battle ground near you! If you are still from PDX


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Good to see you musicmama! Wishing you really well on your journey blowkiss.gif.

 

hug2.gif Hug, skeemama. Have you tried and are you able to read your cervical fluid?


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Skeemama, I use test strips I buy in bulk off Amazon.  I got 40 OPK and 10 pregnancy strips for like $10, and they are individually packaged so they don't expire like the drugstore strips in the canister do.

 

You can actually see the lines themselves rather than counting on the smiley face or question mark.

 

Here's the link for the batch I bought, they come in different numbers of strips packaged together depending on how many you want:

 

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001FYLNVU/ref=oh_o01_s00_i00_details

 

AFM, the meeting with the RE went pretty well.  He seems to be pretty optimistic that we can be successful because I got pregnant easily in the past and still have regular cycles.  I am doing a "diagnostic cycle" where they do ultrasounds & bloodwork throughout my cycle to monitor follicle development and hormone levels.  I had 13 follicles on CD 2, and as of Tuesday morning, the right side seemed to be getting ready to ovulate.  My OPK yesterday & today were negative, though, so I have to go back in tomorrow for another u/s.  A week after we think I ovulate, I have to do more bloodwork to see where my progesterone levels are.

 

Then I have an appointment again with him on 12/13 to review the results and determine the next steps.  

 

Between now & then I have to get DH in for his analysis.  

 

It seems so clinical, but I just want to make sure things are working the way they should.

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I think I'm 17 dpo and no blood. My temps were a little confusing this month. If I'm not 17 dpo, I'm probably 12 dpo. Either way is positive because if I'm 12 dpo, my symptoms got very strong early. I've had plenty of achy/senso-boobs and nausea the past few days. I've been laying low because I've been down this road so many times before now. I'm trying to resist getting so many steps ahead. I'm not sure that that would save me any disappointment, but I am a bit superstitious at this moment.

 

I am curious, what folks add to their regimen when they think they might be pg and hope to sustain it. The only thing I have added is baby aspirin. I am continuing my red raspberry leaf/oatstraw/nettle infusion, prenatal vitamins, fish oil.


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WaturMama...   I would consider adding Natural Progesterone Cream... And there are many supplements I take now that I would wean off of.


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Waturmama, one thing I remember that was important, was to stay hydrated.

 

I also bought welcome womb herbs for when/if I get a bfp. Here is a link: http://www.chapteroneherbs.com/index.php/vmchk/Tinctures/Welcome-Womb.html

 

I hope you are pregnant! When will you test?

 

I'm 7 DPO and have a steady rise in my temps, but I have no symptoms, so I'm not feeling positive about a positive.I'll probably test later next week.


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Thanks Stevi and gumblossom.

 

gumblossom, at 7 dpo implantation might not have happened yet, so I think there's still a lot of hope. I didn't have a lot of symptoms last week and really posting here that I didn't have a lot of hope, but I sure have had a lot of symptoms the last few days. At this moment I'm having the radical thought of not testing at all unless I am fortunate enough to get to the point where I am quite sure it would be positive. I am feeling kind of tender about the whole thing, and just really tired of bfns and disappointments. I may feel differently in a few days, though! :)


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Good to see you musicmama! Wishing you really well on your journey blowkiss.gif.

 

hug2.gif Hug, skeemama. Have you tried and are you able to read your cervical fluid?



Usually, I can check & know with the cervical mucous.  Not with my crazy schedule this week.  :-(

Finally, my week is done! Hopefully we have DtD enough!!

 

It feels so good to unwind & hang out with my family listening to music and chatting tonight.

 

Gr8fulmama, thanks for the amazon tip! Boy have I been burning $!!!!

 

 

Just fyi for future notice the digital OPK  is CRAP.  Never again. 


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AF today. Sigh. I have an appt with a new (to me) RE that was recommended by another patient of my TCM person. So hopefully some illumination will come.


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I am 8 dpo today, and have highest temps I have had in 6 months. I know this doesn't mean much, but I'm happy about it.. Not sure if I am going to conceive or not, but glad my temps are a bit better since that means my progesterone is higher! 

 

Waturmama, sorry the witch got you!! 

gunblossom hope your cycle goes well and you get a positive this month!


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oh shucks, waturmama, I was catching up on a couple weeks worth of posts and hoping to see a bfp for you at the end. 

 

fingers crossed for you amommyTTC and gumblossom!

 

I had my first prenatal last Monday at 9 weeks, 2 days.  We could hear a heartbeat with doppler heartbeat.gif thankfully!  I had a bunch of blood drawn and will have the nuchal screen in 2 weeks (just a few days before christmas) 

I have been feeling okay - but with a weird hunger/nausea combo that I don't recall having before, and I'm pretty exhausted in the evenings.  Hoping for some renewed energy in a few weeks.  We've decided to tell only a select few people including our oldest 2 boys, and maybe after the nuchal we will feel better about sharing with everyone.       


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Sending some Christmas Santa baby vibes to all my 40+ girls ;)

 

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Great picture!  Yummy baby!!

 

Keep your fingers crossed that all the stars are in alignment for me tonight!!  

 


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Crossing my crossables..

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Just wanted to pass this along -- so cool. About the beneficial effect of fetal cells on mom. Even if you've had a miscarriage, the fetal cells are still in your body -- and can still help you.  I found that really touching.

 

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=5195551

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Hi everyone, just dropping in to say a quick hello. Had my NT scan 6 days ago and it went very well (just waiting on B/W results now), little one was dancing around and posing like crazy and the measurements looked good. Feeling more hopeful now that all will be fine this time. Here is our U/S photo:

 

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fuller2- Interesting, will have to read more about that.

 

saoirse- Simply beautiful!!

 

skeemama- Best of luck!

 

3surfboys- That is wonderful, such an amazing and reassurung sound. Best of luck with your upcoming scan, they look so amazing by that point!

 

waturmama- So sorry about AF...hope the RE can help!

 

Best of luck to all of you that are in the TWW and those gearing up for another cycle.


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saoirse - AWW!  So cute! 

 

 

halifax - precious pic of your little one.  I'm so hoping to see such a picture in a couple weeks.   I can't help but have a fear/hope mix of emotions when I walk in the ultrasound room.   DH will be with me at least.


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I am curious what people do if they get a nuchal fold scan that is bad? I know that having a baby with downs syndrome is harder than having an average child, but it still can be so rewarding and delightful! 

 

My temp took a nose dive today, and 9 dpo my tests are negative.. Saw a glimmer of a line yesterday but nothing today :( Kinda thought since my temps were higher this month, maybe that was a good sign.

 

Not sure I will keep trying, I am 47, and pretty sure my window is almost shut.. 

 

Thanks for the well wishes


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Completely off the track...did anyone see that the 4th wife on Sister Wives on TLC is having a home birth???? 

Wow.

Very Cool.


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amommyTTC- Regarding your nuchal scan question:

 

This U/S (or more commonly combined U/S and bloodwork), does not just assess for risk of Down Syndrome (Trisomy 21), it can also show increased risk for other trisomies and chromosomal issues such as Trisomy 13, 18, Triploidy, etc, some of which are 100% fatal or have severe health problems and very poor prognosis. Increased NT is common with a number of issues and other measurements taken during the scan can also show growth restriction that may occur with certain serious chromosomal issues. This scan can also detect issues like anencephaly (absence of a large part of the brain and the skull). Down Sydrome is of course less straight forward than some of the chromosomal issues that are truly not compatible with life, a large percentage miscarry naturally, but a number do survive and of those some will have severe health issues and/or severe developmental issues, and some will be very high functioning with few health issues and the ability to become independent adults, there is no way to know which of these categories your baby might fit, and any decisions made with a diagnosis would be very personal. Anyway the main thing I wanted to post is that the test screens for more issues than Down Syndrome, so many people find it useful testing. Of course this scan is only screening (gives odds), if the odds look bad then one can decide to find out with certainty via CVS or amnio, look for further markers at anatomy scan around 18-20 weeks, or simply take a wait and see approach.

 

3surfboys - I was very nervous as well (given my past history), but it ended up being a wonderful, happy experience to see our little one dancing around. I look forward to hearing about yours :-)


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At 44, i was offered all of these tests but declined them. I was offered them with my first child and 2nd, and  again now. I have never been pregnant and not considered 'high risk'due to my age.

 

 

So for me its simple, i decline the tests, because i cant imagine a scenario where i would terminate.  I figured any problems that would require advance preparation would come up in the 20 week ultrasound.

 

There werre no soft markers, or any indicators of something wrong at my 20 week ultrasound.

 

33 weeks now btw

 

 

 

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contactmaya- So glad your pregnancy is going so well. You are getting close! :-)

 

As I mentioned, such choices are very personal and lots of factors can come into play. For myself I have had felt a need to know, especially after losing our little girl to Triploidy (100% fatal) at almost 19 weeks, that was my first pregnancy at 40 years old. Since then I have had three miscarriages that have likely been random chromosomal issues as well, my history has not left me confident of being on the good side of the statistics.  Testing is right for some people and not for others, my previous post was simply for those who think that the screening is only to look for Down Syndrome. There are lots of chromosomal issues that can occur and even though the odds are in ones favor of all being fine, (even at our age) there are some of us that unfortunately end up being the "one".


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I guess for me I figure if the life is meant to be, even if the baby has issues, then that life is worth enjoying. Of course even if you know your baby has triploidy you can't do anything about it, you are either going to miscarry early or have a late term m/c, either way the decision is something that happens naturally. 

 

I comment because I have been in this situation, faced with a baby who had a 10% chance to live, and the option to terminate and "spare" myself the heartache of having a child with health issues, we choice to give our daughter life, however long she lived, whether it would be one breath, days or weeks, it was not up to us to decide her course. 

She lived for 29 days, and we spent that time looking at her, gathering information about her features, and generally getting to know this little being that was place on this Earth, for a special reason. 

Most babies with trisomy 21 are not born with severe physical issues, yes the mental issues can be profound, but that doesn't mean their lives are any less meaningful than our own. 

I tend to believe that even the seemingly genetically healthy child can turn out to be profoundly retarded, disabled or have health issues, I have seen this many many times. Our daughter did not have a genetic condition, but eventually secumbed to her physical abnormality. 

My friend has a son with DS, he is 12, and has some issues, behavioral, is on the autism spectrum, and mostly just things that go along with having an extra chromosome.. BUT out of her seven children she would not have traded him for the world, not for a genetically perfect child, or any other child....Because he has taught her so much about unconditional love, being special and worthwhile even if you don't have a high IQ, and generally all the things that make us wonderfully made.. Not always are the answers clear as to why some people are born with issues, and some are not, BUT none of us is perfect, there is not one of us who does not have our own set of issues.. 

For me, I have depression, 2 of my sons have Aspergers, my 11 yr old almost died due to a placental abruption and was dev delayed and still has speech issues.. None of which we had prior knowledge of. 

I think because we all struggle so hard to conceive, it bothers me that we don't just enjoy what we are given, instead of trying to have a "perfect" baby. 

 

I just think that every life deserves a chance. 


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I am so sorry for your loss by the way Halifax, I know how difficiult losing a baby can be!! 


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About the to-test-or-not issue... I've never been in these shoes (my DD was born when I was 32, so all we did was some very basic bloodwork). However I do have friends who have been down this road. I just want to point out that having the option to terminate rather than "going through a funeral" (in the words of my friend whose baby had a 100% fatal condition) is valid and important. My friend made this choice because it was the best, most compassionate choice for her family and for her own dear mama's heart that had suffered a great deal already. Of course it did not "spare her" -- there was still plenty of heartache. But it was what felt right to her from her own innate wisdom.

 

So, I guess my wish is that regardless of spiritual beliefs or personal convictions -- everyone here can hold a safe and loving space for mamas who choose to test and who have gone through what Halifax and my friend have gone through.

 

I'm grateful to Halifax for offering us all some helpful information about testing. And regarding the responses to her post -- of course I welcome hearing about everyone's different processes with this, but I do think that a debate about the definition of life probably belongs on the spirituality boards rather than here. I really cherish the safe place this has always been for all mamas to share what they're going through, and I worry that such a discussion will inevitably have a divisive, polarizing effect and will shut down the open, safe feeling here.  


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If I am lucky enough to get be in the position to be offered those tests, I will refuse them. I would rather not know, and therefore not have to even think about such options.


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