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#1 of 6 Old 11-13-2011, 12:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm a little bit upset, and I know I shouldn't let things of this nature get to me, but I think its just human nature that they do!
I decided that I wanted my closest friends to know my plans of TTC with a donor, most of them are ecstatic and completely supportive about it, but a select few refuse to support me in my decision, they are telling me I'm stupid, asking why in the world I would want a baby when I could go out and party instead, and its a little upsetting.
Ive only shared this news with people I am incredibly close with, who I support in any decision they make... I suppose it just sucks a little bit to be told its a dumb idea, especially because its something that i truly do want and am over the moon about.
Oh well though, not everyone is going to think it is a great idea and I just need to take the positive feedback I get rather then the negative!!!

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Hey, if they are reasoning that motherhood is a bad idea because it interferes with partying, then I honestly don't see their opinions as very valid! Seriously? Partying?


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Hey, if they are reasoning that motherhood is a bad idea because it interferes with partying, then I honestly don't see their opinions as very valid! Seriously? Partying?



Yes! Its ridiculous, I am not into partying anyway so im not really sure how it would have any way of interfering with motherhood!

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Agreed... if their only reason is that you won't be able to party anymore, then I question that person.  That being said, you're going to get some bad reactions b/c you're so young and it's unconventional.  The important part is that you are solid in your own reasoning and feel certain this is what is right for you.  Then just radiate that confidence and thicken your skin b/c parenthood is a LONG road and you will meet people all along the way that do not understand this type of decision.  Good luck.


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I found that being a parent changes the dynamic between yourself and your old friends... some friends become closer, and some drift away because you no longer have as much in common - these may be friends you don't want to really hang on to?
 

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