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#1 of 3 Old 11-22-2011, 05:02 PM - Thread Starter
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I tried posting this elsewhere and got no response....maybe I posted it in the wrong thread....



A little background.  We have a 16 yo, an almost 13 yo......and an almost 20 MONTH old.  ds#2 was a total surprise.  We were shocked.  We weren't trying.  But he has been a total blessing and as soon as we had him we decided we wanted another despite our ages.  We are both 42 right now....I'm turning 43 next week.  And that's part of the frustration.  We've been trying for at least over a year now.  We had a miscarriage back in the spring...before Mother's Day.  :(  I was only about 7 weeks.  So weve been trying ever since.  I've had bloodwork done.....nothing is amiss.  My periods were very irregular though after the miscarriage so I've been seeking homeopathic help for about three months now and trying the blood type diet as that has been indicated to help with fertility.  So now my periods are at least more regular now.  Last month was actually a totally normal one, but I think I may be getting my period just a bit early this month.  All the signs are here except the actual start so I know conception hasn't occurred again.  And wouldn't you know it, according to we had tried every day that week EXCEPT the actual day of ovulation.  :(.   DH has NOT been tested.  It's a male thing....... I sort of understand but it's very frustrating to me.  He said he would but hasn't.  I don't know how much longer to try.  I don't want to be so overwhelmed with this that I miss out on enjoying what we have.  Sometimes I think I let it overtake my life (at least my mood) and other times, I'm like whatever...if it happens great, but otherwise it's just not meant to be.  I guess it's the age factor that bothers me the most.   I know I really really want another baby.  I know right now we are both very healthy parents.....but should we be doing this lingers in my mind.  I don't know what I'm seeking from all of you.....advice, empathy, just someone to vent with?  But I'll take whatever I can get.  Well----off to try to accomplish something today and hopefully not dwell on another month without success.

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#2 of 3 Old 11-22-2011, 05:54 PM
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I'm sorry that you didn't get any responses to your post before, I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you're having trouble TTC again.  At your ages, TTC can be a very long journey- usually counted in years, not months.  But I think it's very promising that you did get pregnant last spring- that indicates that you are ovulating and that your hormones are probably good for the most part.  I would assume it's most likely that there was an issue with the egg... it happens and happens more frequently the older we get. 


You mentioned that you're charting... can you share your charts?  Hitting every day except O still gives you a great chance- it's not over until AF arrives.  FX for you!


Maybe join the 40+ TTC thread?  You'll get lots of support there!

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Sending hugs to you, organicmom!  I'm sorry TTC #4 has been a long journey so far.  I hope you don't have much longer to wait - just keep up with the BDing during your fertile time then let whatever happens happens.  Although I want to give my DS a sibling SOOO much, I still have to think of the option of that maybe it doesn't work out and I need to be happy with what I have.  I am young, but I still have to think of that possibility if there's a fertility issue (I've already had 2 m/c and that scares me).  I am sooooo blessed with DS and I have to remind myself that I may need to be content with my little family I have now and be happy.  I guess what I'm trying to say is you are so blessed to have 3 children, and I really hope and pray you can have that 4th little one, but also try to think of your 3 beautiful blessings you have now and be content if things don't work out with having a 4th.


I hope that BFP is just around the corner for you though!  Hugs.

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