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#61 of 164 Old 09-28-2012, 07:31 AM
 
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beingmommy - I've got to read the Hunger Games and I'll have to check out those other books. It looks good. YA, yep, those books are some of the best reads. I'm not trying to look for some deep meaning as I'm trying to go to sleep, I'm just looking for some escapism. Goof for you for being crafty! I have NO crafty in me. :P Except maybe for the wiley sort of crafty, that might be in me. smile.gif

pokey - Sorry about the false + OPK, that's got t be VERY stressful, but it sounds like in the end everything was timed well. I hope this is a lucky cycle for you! I'll have to try the Twilight series, I had forgotten about them! I bet they're good.

jj - Here's to Vegas! It always seems to work that way, right? When it just happens, but when you plan it, you get nothing and yet we plan....

jenny - How's the project at work coming along?

amlikeh - I hope we get to know you soon! smile.gif

happy - Good luck with everything. I also just don't know what the "right" answer is anymore. So, I just figure I'll do whatever. That's kind of why we're "trying" this month even though we just had the D&C and you're "supposed" to wait a month before trying. Well, I've done all the "right" things in the past and didn't get anywhere, so I might as well do all the wrong things and see if it all turns out better. (Of course, I'm not doing ALL the wrong things, but you know what I mean.)

lidamoma - What are some good handmade things to make for loved ones? Everyone I know has a crocheted blanket and what other kinds of things are there? In the past, I HAVE done some needlepoint, but it's mostly art and not everyone's tastes run as mine. So, what do you make for people?

dakipode - I guess I should switch back to decaf. I really don't get anything out of the caffeine, but it feels like "I'm trying" again and I want to try to feel more like I'm whatevering, but I guess that's not realistic either. Congrats on the new shoes! You should post a pic!!!

AFM - hhhmmmm - So caffeinated coffee or decaf????

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Well, I've done all the "right" things in the past and didn't get anywhere, so I might as well do all the wrong things and see if it all turns out better. (Of course, I'm not doing ALL the wrong things, but you know what I mean.)
 

YES to this! There is no right way! I volunteered at a alcohol and drug rehab/safe house and did birthing classes for those women and they all had tons of kids and were NOT on a fertility diet or doing yoga (or whatever else we think of as being right)! They were doing hard drugs, eating terribly and not manifesting shit! Although I know there is a middle ground - it doesn't mean that I have go doing those things, of course - but it does give some perspective as to there not being one way to make it happen. That's what has been freeing me lately - the idea that whatever I do is fine and is not impeding this process. When we first started TTC, I wasn't working a lot and I thought, "Oh this will be good because I have space in my life for another baby," and then as it went on, I got a job and have been pretty busy lately and I thought, "Oh this will be good because now I'm distracted and not waiting for a baby," but that hasn't "worked" yet either. I'm finally releasing the idea that my life decisions have an effect on if I get pregnant or not. I don't know how it will happen. So I'm just gonna live :)

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I absolutely agree, the "right" thing is relative. You see it all the time with mortality too: people who smoke and drink outliving people who exercise and eat "right"... You can do everything "right" and then in the end you still have to acknowledge that it's out of your hands. It sort of makes me wish DH and I hadn't spent so much time waiting to TTC, we were waiting for the "right" time...

Trying to do things "right" is what has me living in fear (of doing things "wrong" and being judged for it or worse, regretting it) and it adds so much stress to my life! But as you mentioned, you can't just go off the deep end and start doing things "wrong" for the hell of it either.

And even with this, staying zen, keeping my cool, understanding life and its purpose etc. I'm trying to get it "right". Oh, the irony! What I really need is a little OFF switch in my brain!

 

As for the caffeine: it hadn't even occurred to me that I could get decaf, thanks for reminding me. I'll do that next time I'm craving a caramel macchiato!


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Hmm, decaf versus regular? THAT's the big debate!!! I am a total coffee freak and I did cut down quite a bit with my last two babies, but each time I was induced for Small for Dates (grr), so this time I am going totally decaf as soon as we start TTCing, as well as following the Brewer Diet. I would like to go into labour on my own this time around thankyouverymuch! Especially as this may be our last. Oh, well.

 

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Things I am making for xmas:

-apron for DD1 cause she loves to cook, socks, hair detangler and maybe some doll clothes or a scrapbook if I have time.

-hair clips for DD2, a purse, a tutu or dress.

-scarf for DH

-for others: homemade candle in a teacup from value village, decorate picture frames with the kids, homemade soap, ice cream, a variety of chocolates, crocheted dishcloths. A very dear friend is having a baby in December, so I am trying to think of something original to make for her. I'm sure she'll have a million baby blankets. Does anyone have any ideas?? I'm toying with the idea of a mobile or something else for her room. Maybe a braided rug?

 

I am by no means a crafty person; I taught myself how to sew, crochet etc., but I am mediocre. I would love to have a store on Etsy or a blog one day...I would also love to be able to do needlework. I think I'll get better as I keep trying :D


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hello -

 

I've read this thread for a couple months now and now ready to officially join in.

 

conceiving DD1 and DD2 came easy for us. I got pregnant 3 months post mirena removal and then conceived again at 6 months PP (while EBFing, no PPAF, and in a bed that saw more attempts for desperate sleep than umm activities...). We have now been ttc #3 for 4 months, which I realize is not long for many, but I'm starting to feel extremely anxious.

 

I want to be very zen-like about this. I am very blessed and another child would be wonderful, but will happen when and if it is to be. But as someone who likes to take charge, it is very difficult not to symptom spot and want to try every wonderful and wacky suggestion for increasing our changes.

 

I hope you can all help me be calm and embrace this time in my life.

 

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dakipode  My hubby and I were married 14 years before we officially decided together that we were ready.  I didn't think back then about the age I may be when trying for #2, so I wish, like you, that we hadn't waited and just jumped in when we were younger.

 

I switched to decaf just so I can say I've done everything I could to try and make the best physical atmosphere for a pregnancy to occur.  I tried to cut down to just one cup of regular a day, but I kept warming it up with more and more hot coffee.  I am addicted, and I know I can return to that addiction once I am out of the woods.

 

I have figured out that I can take test on Oct 2, but I am not going to.  Someone said it seems to keep the hope alive a few extra days while you wait for AF, rather than the harsh hit of a BFN.  Today was a setback day.  I went to a consignment sale, and it seems everyone was carrying a tiny baby.  Still trying to focus on the positive, my DD and DH who love me.  

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Hello and welcome bearandotter! Glad you decided to join us, we can always use more perspectives on how to stay sane and appreciate what we've got.


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I'm having a hard time feeling balanced lately. I decided to just assume that the light spotting that I had on Sept 14th-17th was my period this month, which would mean I'd probably be ovulating this week. I totally DON'T feel like I'm ovulating, but then two days ago I got a little bit of EWCM at the cervix, so we have been acting like I'm within O territory since then. But I honestly just don't FEEL like that is what is happening. I've been temping this cycle, but I cosleep and nurse my 32 month old DD, so I haven't been able to temp consistently. I guess we'll just wait and see, but I dunno. Not feeling hopeful.


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Xerxella, I might have too much crafty in me (hee) but it's more that I want to do all sorts of crafty things and will try all sorts of crafty things but I am not amazingly stellar at any of them.  But I really just like doing things with my hands.  Hmmmm, no answer on the coffee thing.  I don't drink coffee.  I know!  So weird.

 

Happy2bamama, I love your attitude.  It's very inspiring.  Trying to get there myself too. 

 

Lidamama, I love your list of crafty gifts!  I am going to knit my dad an sweater, make my mom some sort of necklace with beads, knit some other things for relatives, and probably knit something for my DS.  I have not knit him anything in ages.  I am also making a stuffed llama toy for my niece, although I hope to do that long before Xmas.  I also would love to have a store on etsy and a blog.  I am getting all fired up to do some crafty stuff!  And it's so helpful for distratction.

 

Bearandotter, welcome!  I also have not been trying super long but an feeling anxious already.  I use to think I got pregnant really easily (as we did right away on our first three tries - the first and third, unfortunately, wound up being losses but the second was our lovely DS).  But since my last loss I feel like I am not ovulating and last month we tried and nothing happened.  This month again I feel like I did not ovulate and so I can feel my headspace moving towards alarm.  But I am trying and relax about it and succeeding better than I expected.  At least for someone as generally anxious and liking to be in control of things as myself.  This thread has been VERY helpful.

 

Jjclifton, hugs!  Early testing can be such a difficult thing. I am trying to hold out too.  I was very resolute a few days ago.  Struggling with the urge a bit more now as I get closer to AF time.  Oh and there ARE so many tiny babies everywhere!

 

Kitteh, hugs for you too.  I know that not feeling hopeful feeling when you can't confirm O.  I feel like I live there right now.  BUT I am still a little hopeful.  Hang in there. 

 

Dakipode, how goes the reading?  Have you got any new books yet?  I keep meaning to sit down and do some reading but I have not managed it yet.

 

AFM: Trying very hard to keep myself sane and sage but struggling a little.  It's getting harder as AF looms.  Must. Keep. Distracting.


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kitteh - Sorry for the ambiguous signs. greensad.gif I hope the completely "wrong" cycle is the one that works for you.

jj - OK, you talked me into it, I'll switch back to decaf. (That was pretty easy, huh?) Part of me is more like saying screw you fertility gods, but then my brain kicks back in and puts me on the right path. Yeah, I guess I have alot of anger issues to work through from the losses.

bearandotter - Hi! I'm glad you decided to join us. smile.gif I think you can still know you're cycle and try and still be zen. That's my theory at least. So, try and time and everything, just don't set up any expectations.

lidamomma - I like the braided rug idea. I always liked those. But, don't they take a lot of work? I've never tried, but it looks really hard. BUT, you really never can have too many blankets...

happy2b - That's the attitude I'm trying to take. I just have to live life and take what comes along. So, I'm planning vacations out and NOT thinking where I'll be if.... And, I'm doing my best to just enjoy my 2 wonderful children and not think how I always wanted more. And, NOT be angry at those that think we're done because we had a boy and a girl and therefore you MUST be done, right? And, NOT regret the times we weren't TTC. Etc, etc,etc....

dakipode - HA! I see that you're right, well trying to be all zen, we're all still trying to "get it right." Sigh. Lately, I've really been struck by the age of innocence. It really is a nice time. It was back when if you had unprotected sex, you were DEFINITELY going to get pregnant and 9 months later have a baby and, of course, that's what was going to happen. That's what they told you in High School Health class, so there you go.... I think they also should tell you that that is far more likely to be a truth before 30 and far less likely as you get older. But, those early days of TTC were blissful. And, now I understand why no one tells you about all the bad things that can happen in pregnancy. I guess it doesn't matter if they did because surely all those bad things would happen to someone else... I digress.

being mommy - Be strong. Don't test now. You know if it's a BFN you'll doubt it anyways. Of course, if it's a BFP..... But, don't do it. Be strong. wink1.gif On the maybe not ovulating thing. I DO tend to think that ovulation is what leads to a period, so generally if you're having a period, you're ovulating. But, maybe it's just not a strong ovulation? I think you can be zen about TTC and still be actively pursuing it. I know I'll be following up with an RE regarding my losses and my age and TTC again, etc. I'm willing to do most anything for another baby and I'll still try to be zen about it. I guess what I'm saying is if you're concerned maybe you could speak to your doc about it and let them start running some tests. Just an idea....

AFM - I feel pretty confident (I hope) I ovulated about last Thursday, so that's good. I'll test next weekend sometime. I just like testing early, but I really have no expectations. I will follow up with my doc who's an RE and a RPL (Recurrent Pregnancy Loss) specialist. I'm setting low expectations and trying to just love life, but also actively pursuing my dream of another take home baby.

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jjclifton and xerxella: "the age of innocence" for me is the time when I believed that conception would happen within 3-4 months. At the same time I always had a fear, and maybe I'm just manifesting a self fulfilling prophecy, that I would have a hard time conceiving. I do remember learning about reproduction in high school biology and thinking that it's a miracle normal babies are born every day with so many steps that can go wrong along the way. I'm making peace, every day, with my decision to honor DH's request to wait. I can't hold it against him, I can't blame him, we are in a partnership and we make decisions together...

 

kitteh: I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Remember: there is no "right" or "wrong" thing to do and BDing is a great way to connect to your partner even when you don't have ulterior motives in mind... winky.gif

 

beingmommy: I finished The Unknown Ajax by Georgette Heyer but it wasn't what I was expecting, I would've preferred more romance, less intrigue. It was also hard to read, with the archaic language and local dialects... I've been reading Sherlock Holmes also, after watching the BBC Sherlock series, which is absolutely excellent! I wanted to read the stories they adapted so I could compare them. Trying not to spend money on books, I still have plenty of reading material waiting for me. I've been neglecting my knitting projects too and I should really get back into those. The funny thing is I got an e-reader because you can adjust the font size and I thought I could read and knit at the same time!

 

Everyone else, have a great week. The full moon is upon us tonight!

 

Oh, and on the decaf subject: I was watching the Roast of Roseanne yesterday (great distraction!) and of course someone made a joke about Seth Green's height and that it was because his mom liked to drink coffee, it reminded me of this group.


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Xerxella, thanks!  I was able to stay strong (heh heh).  Yesterday was just a bad day and I was having so many "symptoms" (exhausted, crabby, weepy, crampy) which I knew were probably nothing but it was messing with my head a bit.  Today I feel totally normal so I think I was just fighting off a bug my DS has had all week.   My fingers are super crossed for you testing next weekend. hug2.gif

 

Dakipode, I LOVE the BBC Sherlock!  I've been watching shows a lot more lately as my distraction,  though I really need to make more time for reading!

 

Edited to add AFM: I spent some time today making up a long list of knitting projects.  Now I need to get some yarn! Also worked on a stuffed llama for my niece. Well tried.  I was hoping to design a pattern for a more realistically shaped llama but it went badly.  I have all the crafty inspiration with none of the skill.  So I am now going to do a more rag doll version (ie. llama shaped head on a doll shaped body).  I guess that is fine but I am still a llittle bummed I couldn't figure it out the way I wanted.  And feeling more at peace again with waiting and whatever the outcome is.  It was harder yesterday when I started thinking about the possibility of a positive.  Today I am back to expecting a negatvie and being okay with that.  I think that is just where my brain operates the best. 


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So I'm waiting for my shipment to arrive from Amazon.  A package of Preseed "fertility-friendly" lubricant, some OPK's and some pregnancy tests.  I tried really hard to "wing it" this time and be casual about it, but I just couldn't.  eyesroll.gif  We got pregnant with DS the first month using Preseed, so hey, it can't hurt to try to reproduce magic, right?  smile.gif

 

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thanks for all the warm welcomes.

 

I'm not organized enought to keep everyone straight at this point. So I'll throw this out to everyone:

 

1- great ideas about crafting and fiction reading. I've loads of both that I should use to keep my mind off things. A friend is finally pregnant after 3 years of ttc - I'm thinking of being mindful of her journey as I knit up some baby gifts for her will keep my own path in perspective.

 

2- I'm not a fan of decaf (I swear it tastes funny), but I know a local tea farmer (yes, here in Canada) who says that pouring off the tea after 20 seconds of steeping and then making the tea you will drink removes >80% of the caffeine. I am going to start being more diligent about doing this with my tea. I wonder if doing this with coffee in a bodum would do the same?

 

3- and a question for you all: How do you keep things exciting while ttc? I'm not sure if it is the anxiety or just 'having' to do it in the window - but I am just not in the mood for things. I am deeply in love with my hubby, but years of kids, and no sleep, and huge life changes has changed our relationship from when we were ttcing 4 years ago - how do I find the spark again?


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thanks for all the warm welcomes.

 

I'm not organized enought to keep everyone straight at this point. So I'll throw this out to everyone:

 

1- great ideas about crafting and fiction reading. I've loads of both that I should use to keep my mind off things. A friend is finally pregnant after 3 years of ttc - I'm thinking of being mindful of her journey as I knit up some baby gifts for her will keep my own path in perspective.

 

2- I'm not a fan of decaf (I swear it tastes funny), but I know a local tea farmer (yes, here in Canada) who says that pouring off the tea after 20 seconds of steeping and then making the tea you will drink removes >80% of the caffeine. I am going to start being more diligent about doing this with my tea. I wonder if doing this with coffee in a bodum would do the same?

 

3- and a question for you all: How do you keep things exciting while ttc? I'm not sure if it is the anxiety or just 'having' to do it in the window - but I am just not in the mood for things. I am deeply in love with my hubby, but years of kids, and no sleep, and huge life changes has changed our relationship from when we were ttcing 4 years ago - how do I find the spark again?

 

Number 3 is a tough one, I agree.  "Fake it 'til I make it" goes through my head a lot...

 

Last month I gathered up all my candles and put on that sexy nightgown that got stuffed in the back of the drawer, I hadn't done that in ages.  Or there's always movies that happen to have hot men in them.  *haha*


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dakipode - I always thought I would have trouble conceiving, too. But, low and behold the first 2 came so easy, but #3 is fulfilling my prophecy. But, who knew that would happen. We can only do the best we can do as we go along and make the best decisions we can at the time. I'm sure you enjoyed the years you spent child free and maybe being older and wiser will make you a better parent. That's what I keep telling myself at least....

GISDiva - I think it's too hard to just be NTNP-ing. It's like I know too much about the way this all works anymore to just be winging it. Good for the people who can actually turn off their knowledge, but I can't. I'll start in with the OPKs next cycle, but I think they'll just confirm what I already know....

bearandotter - Luckily for me the drive kicks way up right when I'm most fertile. I think most women have that to some extent. So, when the guy in front of you at the grocery line suddenly seems hot take that home to dh and enjoy it.

beingmommy - Yeah for staying strong. I'm all about the "expecting the worst." I think it helps in planning for the future.

AFM - Did I mention I've been trying to lose weight. For the past year or 2, I kept saying to myself, why bother because you're going to be pregnant any second now and you'll just have to lose the weight after the baby's born anyways.... Well, I've now said that obviously isn't working, so I joined weight watchers 3 weeks ago and I'm down 5 pounds and really starting to look better. I'm feeling pretty good about it. It's not a bad plan, but I DO eat a LOT of fruits and vegetables. I guess that's good. (Fruit and vegatables are "free" so you can eat as much as you want.) It DOES seem to be working. Can anyone else commisurate (sp?) on a weight loss routine?

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Xerxella, I totally hear you on the weight loss front!!! I gained about 20 extra lbs with dd1 that I never managed to lose. After I went back to work we started trying almost right away, so yeah....BUT yesterday I took stock of my life and decided that we are going to wait until next year (August) before we start TTCing again. I think a 3 year gap between any future children will be better for our sanity. That way, when I go back to work after a year and a half off that I'm planning to take next time, I will have only 1 kid in daycare full-time. We figure now that our oldest has a companion, the pressure is off to have more kids close together smile.gif

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beingmommy: I also recently watched Jekyll, I thought that was good too. I haven't seen Elementary, just read a review of the pilot and they didn't have high hopes for it...

Shopping for yarn, what a treat! I don't need any yarn for a very long time, I've got so many projects lined up and a big stash of "oooh, that's so pretty, I'll figure out a project for it later" yarn.

 

GISDiva: I'm assuming you like Preseed since you've ordered it before. Do you have any experience with Conceive Plus?

 

bearandotter: re question #3, getting in the mood for me can be hard too. As silly as it is, I've found that reading romance novels helps. It gets my imagination going, mostly thinking back to how exciting things were when we first met etc. For me it's like recreating that falling in love feeling through reading about it.

 

Xerxella: good for you for no longer putting an aspect of your life on hold! I haven't tried any diet plans, a lot of them seem to be selling the magic formula for weight loss when in my opinion it comes down to eat less bad stuff, eat more good stuff and exercise to stay sane.

Funny that you mention enjoying my child free years because when I think about it I don't know if I've ever truly appreciated them. Sure I've had my share of fun and games and irresponsible behavior but I've always been in a hurry/longed to become a parent. I have a tendency to always be looking for the next thing. Again it comes down to that balance: How do you set goals/strive to accomplish things in your life, while also appreciating what you have/accepting what is without becoming complacent?

 

Lidamama84: best of luck on your journey. I'm glad you were able to put things in perspective and get some clarity. Send some of your wisdom my way please.

 

AFM: my own mother, who struggled with infertility and adopted me, told me yesterday "just stop thinking about it". AAARGH! Really, mom?! I told her that was the least helpful advice I've gotten so far!

I catch myself reading into symptoms but in a negative way. It's very hard for me to just be open to possibility, I feel like I have to prepare myself for disappointment every month. Just a couple more days...

 

How's everyone else: PokeyAC, happy2bamama, jjclifton, JustJenny, kitteh...?


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AFM (first): Caved and tested and got a BFN.  Expected but still bummed.  The getting pregnant part has always been easy in the past so it is stressing me out that it doesn't seem to be anymore.  Trying to find ways to be at peace with it but I am struggling today.  AND I turn 40 in less than two weeks.  Sigh.

 

GISDiva, looks like I'll be trying OPKs for the first time this next cycle since I need a little help timing things."Fake it till you make it"  - heh.  I think that too sometimes. I have been having trouble with keeping the spark too.

 

Bearandotter, thanks for that pouring off the first brew tea tip!  I don't do well with caffeine.  And like I said above, we've kinda lost the spark too.  We had it when we first started trying last spring but since the m/c we both feel much more pressure.  And with my age.  I guess deep breaths and maybe doing some mediating connected before BD to get into the zone or something?

 

Xerxella, I am not on a big weight loss thing or anything but I could stand to lose a few. I have been putting it off since DS was born thinking I'd wait until we had our next baby (even during the time when we had pretty much decided NOT to have another - whoops!).  I'd like to eat more veg and exercise a bit more.  Well, actaully exercise at all.  Heh heh. eyesroll.gif

 

Lidamama, that is great that you have made a decision that feels good.  Yay!

 

Dakipode, I have not seen Jekyll but heard good things about it.  I started watching Elementary but haven't finished it yet.  I do like Johnny Lee ****** so I want it to be good but how can it compare to the brilliance of Sherlock?  Sorry about your mom being irritating.  That would bother me a lot too!  And don't open up to possibiloity very well either.  It just feel seasier to expect the worst.  I am not sure if it really is, I mean I still get disappointed.  But I do not know any other way to do it.


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Hi all -

 

I too, like another poster, has a hard time remembering everyone's names and stories, so I'm sorry that I don't do the bulleted list and reply to each person's posts specifically. Just know that I'm here and listening and holding the space for you all :)

 

The "fake it till you make it" thing made me laugh because I found myself saying that in my head while DH and I had our sex-athon while I O'd this last week. The first couple days are fine but this time we tried to go even longer than we thought necessary (and I was secretly thinking that maybe the full moon energy would give us a boost!) and I was so over it near the end that I felt a bit like I was just going through the motions (which I'm okay with). Last night was the first sex-free night in about 6 or 7 days and it was glorious!!! 

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2whistle.gif 10 dpo. Feeling everything but Zen, lol.  Yesterday I could swear I was pregnant. Today I dunno. Basically I'm driving myself nuts. I've got 6 more days til AF may visit. I'll test around then. There are a ton of things I need to get done but I feel pretty distracted and unfocused. I'm going to buckle down today and get some done.....


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GISDiva: I'm assuming you like Preseed since you've ordered it before. Do you have any experience with Conceive Plus?

 I don't have any experience with the other brand.  I didn't mind it last time, so I went with it again.

 

Regarding keeping the spark up...looking back, I don't think we've had sex since the last O time.  Oy.  It doesn't help that we only have sex with one goal in mind, does it... *sigh*


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Good to hear other people also experience loss of 'excitment' about things. I am going to blow the dust off my lacy nightie, find some new reading materials, and switch my meditation practice from am to evening - hoping it helps.

 

I LOVE 'fake it till you make it'. It made me laugh.

 

I guess the great thing is that DH doesn't appear to be having the same problem. And I guess that is really the key to this baby-making game, right ;)

 

GISDiva and others: Tell me more about the preseed. I know the premise, having read their website, but ummm... wondering if it helps add some spice to the big event? (I'm soooo sorry if I am asking TMI).
 


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I guess the great thing is that DH doesn't appear to be having the same problem. And I guess that is really the key to this baby-making game, right ;)

 

GISDiva and others: Tell me more about the preseed. I know the premise, having read their website, but ummm... wondering if it helps add some spice to the big event? (I'm soooo sorry if I am asking TMI).
 

Haha - the other night I said to my husband something like, "Can I just sleep and you can do your thing?!" He has no problem anytime. He doesn't get worn out. So, when I am laying on my side thinking, "Fake it till you make it," he is totally in heaven. And I can usually get there once we get going, but sometimes it takes me a while. He knows he has to get me in the mood and that could be like a 15 minute back rub!

 

About the Preseed - I used it one cycle and it did not add any spice to the big event. In fact, jamming a syringe full of lube up yourself can have the opposite effect! I also found that things were so slippery that it was hard to get a good sensation. It wasn't bad, but if you're expecting to have it spice things up, I don't know that I would count on that. 

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AFM: my own mother, who struggled with infertility and adopted me, told me yesterday "just stop thinking about it". AAARGH! Really, mom?! I told her that was the least helpful advice I've gotten so far!

 

 

I got the same advice yesterday from my MIL.  Hard to stop thinking about it when the clock is ticking soooo hard.  She had a very hard time and many losses while trying to conceive my DH.  It all worked out, but she was much younger than I am now too.  

 

happy2bamama- My husband went out of town a few days after my O, and I was sooooo happy to take some time off.  

 

AFM- I still haven't tested, and expect AF by the weekend.  I don't feel the signs I felt last time, hip pain and tiredness.  I had a panic attack a few days ago while thinking that maybe we REALLY won't have any more children.  I have always been more hopeful than that, but I feel the hope fading.  I do think someone in this group will get a BFP soon!  I do hope they post the good news.  

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There was a streak of ladies on this thread getting BFPs a few months ago! The odds are that some of us will, soon :) Isn't that exciting!! The probability of all of us being here in 6 months is not high. Yay for hope for this one moment! It's like sitting in the Price is Right audience - it could be any one of us that gets to go to "contestant row"!!

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     GISDiva and others: Tell me more about the preseed. I know the premise, having read their website, but ummm... wondering if it helps add some spice to the big event? (I'm soooo sorry if I am asking TMI).

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About the Preseed - I used it one cycle and it did not add any spice to the big event. In fact, jamming a syringe full of lube up yourself can have the opposite effect! I also found that things were so slippery that it was hard to get a good sensation. It wasn't bad, but if you're expecting to have it spice things up, I don't know that I would count on that. 

 

 

I use Preseed as well and really like it. However I don't use the syringes just for the reasons mentioned by happy2bamama. I just put some on dh and away we go. Feels very natural to me.  It also makes the tube last so much longer. Which is great at $15 each! 


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I use Preseed as well and really like it. However I don't use the syringes just for the reasons mentioned by happy2bamama. I just put some on dh and away we go. Feels very natural to me.  It also makes the tube last so much longer. Which is great at $15 each! 

Great idea! Thank you for that :)

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dakipode - I'm sorry mom was so non-helpful. I wonder if no one ever supported her during her struggles and she doesn't know how to help someone else while they're struggling wit fertility issues?

Everyone - Well, it DOES look like everyone is expecting some sort of news come this weekend. Hopefully, SOMEBODY will get the good news!

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I use the Preseed strictly to create a more sperm-friendly environment, all spice has to be conjured by me and DH.  *haha*  I don't get gobs of EWCM, so I figured it would help.  Seemed to the first time around...I honestly don't remember if we bothered with the syringes or not...


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