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Hello all and welcome!

The original "Sane 2ww" thread was started by zenquaker and you can find it here: original thread. This is a continuation of the "Sane 2ww" thread and we felt "A Saner TTC" was a natural evolution. We will start a new thread each new moon and name it for the upcoming full moon.

 

Here's the gist of the original thread: this is a space to re-conceive the 2ww as a time of waiting and contemplation. Although we don't judge those who wish to poas frequently, symptom-spot, or do chart analysis, this a space set apart from that activity. We share our thoughts about other ways to approach the 2ww and all parts of our cycles. We encourage each other to feel our feelings fully and to greet all possible outcomes with openness.

 

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Here we are, a new moon, another month going by, seasons changing as we are heading into fall.

Months of waiting: waiting to O, waiting to know, always waiting though.

What does it meant to take a break from TTC? I feel like I'm on a break simply because I've given up on the possibility of conceiving naturally and I haven't started taking any medication yet. So this month I'm feeling pretty detached from the whole TTC experience...

And there is a practice of non-attachment in zen, but being detached feels different. Maybe, I might just be rambling.


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Hi dakipode - I don't know what taking a break looks like (aside from completely abstaining from sex)!

 

Question for you: what are you feeling detached from, specifically? I feel for you, in that if we are not pregnant by the end of the year, DH and I are going to have the reassessment talk - fertility interventions, meds, adoption, nothing?? I actually feel quite anxious about even having to make a decision since honestly, I just want it to happen THIS way (I can see my child self tantrumming, "BUT I WANT IT THISSSSSS WAY!"). So, even though I'm asking you what you specifically feel detached from, I can completely understand not feeling attached when making a change that you didn't necessarily want to have to make.

 

AFM: My period has pretty much shown its face today and I imagine it will fully start tomorrow. There is always a part of me that's like, "Wait, it could just be late implantation spotting or maybe I'll be that one woman that has a tiny period..." but I have a good feeling it's a no go this time. I am pissed. And sad. And feeling a little bit sorry for myself. I don't know of anyone in real life who is going through this. And, it's not something I like to share about, so I kind of feel like I'm in my own little hell sometimes and no one else can get it. The good news is that since starting acupuncture, my periods have become really nice. Good blood quality, longer luteal phase, not as intense. But there's a part of me that thinks, "Then why isn't it happening still? If all things are lovely in there, why isn't it working??" But then I just focus on what is working and how that's a step in the right direction.

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I am so glad to see this thread!  I really need it!

 

Dakipode, I can imagine you feeling detached as you wait to move onto a new way of TTC.  I am not sure how to find the non-attached vs detached.  Hmmmm.

 

Happy2bamama, I am sorry for your struggles.  I don't have too many IRL friends who are going through it either.  I know a few but I don't see them IRL regularly so it's hard.  It does often feel like a thing we go through alone.  I like the idea of focusing on what IS working.

 

AFM: I so need help figuring out how to approach things from a saner perspective.  I am letting msyelf get anxious and angry.  I lost a pregnancy in  June at 11 weeks (baby only measuring 7 weeks so it was a missed m/c).  We were told to wait two cycles before TTC again during which I had very clear O signs (and I have always had VERY clear O signs).  And then since we started TTC again I have had no clear O signs.  In the past we have always gotten pregnant easily (3 pregnancies total with two of them ending in losses) but last month we tried and nothing.  I am not sure I even O'd since I had no signs.  Now I am right at O time again (CD12) with no signs AGAIN.  My DH also has trouble with frequent BDing and so we had essentially tried on CD8 and then last night CD11 which he almost didn't maange.  So that is going to end up being it for this cycle.  I don't know if I have O'd or will.  It is making me sad and crazy.

 

I would love any advice on how to take a deep breath and get more zen!


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Question for you: what are you feeling detached from, specifically? I feel for you, in that if we are not pregnant by the end of the year, DH and I are going to have the reassessment talk - fertility interventions, meds, adoption, nothing?? I actually feel quite anxious about even having to make a decision since honestly, I just want it to happen THIS way (I can see my child self tantrumming, "BUT I WANT IT THISSSSSS WAY!"). So, even though I'm asking you what you specifically feel detached from, I can completely understand not feeling attached when making a change that you didn't necessarily want to have to make.

 

AFM: My period has pretty much shown its face today and I imagine it will fully start tomorrow. There is always a part of me that's like, "Wait, it could just be late implantation spotting or maybe I'll be that one woman that has a tiny period..." but I have a good feeling it's a no go this time. I am pissed. And sad. And feeling a little bit sorry for myself. I don't know of anyone in real life who is going through this. And, it's not something I like to share about, so I kind of feel like I'm in my own little hell sometimes and no one else can get it. The good news is that since starting acupuncture, my periods have become really nice. Good blood quality, longer luteal phase, not as intense. But there's a part of me that thinks, "Then why isn't it happening still? If all things are lovely in there, why isn't it working??" But then I just focus on what is working and how that's a step in the right direction.

I am so were you are happy2bamama. In fact that's why I haven't posted here in awhile. I have really lost all things peaceful. I'm anxious and angry and a bit resentful at DH for waiting to ttc for so long. (10 years!)  After 16 months of ttc I had a chemical loss in July.  We too will be doing the reassessment thing at the start of the new year. I want it my way damn it........and I don't want to have to grieve the loss of privacy and intervention on top of infertility. I guess I don't have anything positive to contribute to the thread right now, lol.  Just letting you all know I'm here :)


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beingmommy, welcome! Sorry to hear about your recent m/c. While I don't share that experience I can relate to the feelings of anxiousness and anger. This whole TTC gets me so up and down and I think the recent detachment is my mind's way of trying to deal with all of it.

 

JustJenny, I struggle periodically with feeling resentful as well. I try to tell myself, rationally, that there is no way that starting earlier would've guaranteed earlier success but I do wonder about it. At the same time I want to be careful of not falling prey to that emotion too often. I need to remind myself that I am in a partnership and delaying TTC was a joint decision, even though I may regret it at times.

 

happy2b, glad to see you here. It does feel a bit lonely, doesn't it, when your real life friends can't relate. My friends in town either don't have kids, got pregnant accidentally or on the first try. I feel bitter sometimes when my close friend insists that I'm being overly dramatic about the whole thing "as if my life depended on it". And they don't get it, some people just can't relate to the intensity of wanting to be a mother. Where does that come from anyway, that urge? I'm sure part of it is biology but somewhere along the way I think I started believing/attaching some other meaning to motherhood and that without it I could never be complete.

I am curious to hear more about the acupuncture. Did you find someone who specializes in fertility treatments? How long did it take for you to start noticing the changes? How often do you go etc.?

 

AFM: I hate thinking of myself as someone who waits for things to happen but that sure is what this whole TTC experience feels like, no control whatsoever. Maybe I tell myself I'm detached and don't care just so I don't have to feel so disappointed at the end of this month. Sort of a: "Of course nothing happened this month, did you expect anything else" preparation? Where/how do you find the balance between apathy, non-attachment and staying hopeful and open to the possibility? That is what I struggle with every month.


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This sounds great!  I'm in.

 

We're working on TTC #2 and just completed the first month of trying and unfortunately it didn't work out.  Even though it's a bummer, I really haven't been feeling well for the last 3 weeks and I'm glad to have some extra time to try to figure out what's going on with me.  Along with figuring out how to get well, I want to spend this time reevaluating my diet and exercise (or non existence of it) and overall life wholeness like hobbies, social time, relaxation, balancing my role as a mom of a toddler with my own identity....things like that.  I struggle with depression on and off throughout my life, and since moving to a new town a few months ago....it seems to have crept back up, to the point where I need to do something about it.  ...which I'm having a hard time accepting.

 

(also, what is "AFM"?)

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GuavaGirl, welcome! Love the name! AFM = as for myself. Yes, IDENTITY... Isn't that why TTC drives us all so nuts? Because we have so much of our perceived identity tied up in this?


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 Sort of a: "Of course nothing happened this month, did you expect anything else" preparation? Where/how do you find the balance between apathy, non-attachment and staying hopeful and open to the possibility? That is what I struggle with every month.

 Dakipode, I feel this too.  I want to be open and positive and manifest my dreams but the pain of disappointment is so raw.   I wish I knew how to do it.

 

GuavaGirl, I've struggled with depression too, off and on.  Especially the last few years.  It's very hard.  And balancing self and babies is such a hard task.  I haven't figured it out yet.

 

 

I started seeing a therapist after my recent loss and that has helped a bit. She is very into positive psychology so really working on gratitude and finding hope, postivity and so on. My husband and I started doing gratitude journals together every evening. We write down three things each day that we are grateful for and share. It's been really nice. I think it is helping in a subtle way.

 

But I still feel a lot of self-pity and anger around this TTC. My DS has autism and it's been a rough past few years. We were actually sure we would not have another as DS needed so much attention.  Then he started doing better late last year and we started hoping and then trying earlier this year. But I keep feeling like the universe hates us and only wants us to struggle. So silly. I want to have more faith in everything.

 

I will also be 40 next month so I feel a time pressure, though I have been working on that I bit and feel better about than before.


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dakipode - Thank you for starting this up again for the new month!  I went to see the social worker who works with my RE, and she said taking a break is one thing we can control.  So I think breaks can be good for the soul.  Sometimes you need to step back for a while.  I hope the rest brings you some peace before you dive into the world of medications and such.  I have noticed I am not as aware of cycle days anymore.  I think that is one way I can step back and not be so consumed. 

 

My month break is over.  For me a break is truly a break because I have to pay for my sperm.  I am waiting to O right now.  I feel like this is more stressful for me than the TWW sometimes because I want to make sure I do everything right and we get the timing as close to perfect as possible.  Although, it has been pretty perfect in the past and still not worked.  I have been feeling pretty stressed lately.  I am going to be working with some new people at work and the expectations on me will be higher.  But I will also be making more money, so that is good.  I am moving to a different cubicle this week which might work out great because I have a RE appointment the same day and it will be easy to sneak out for a few hours while my computer and phone are disconnected.  I have also just been feeling really sad and crying more easily.  My wife has been feeling sad too.  The process is wearing on us and we are trying to stay positive and faithful.  Keeping the faith is always a struggle.  I signed up for a singing class to help distract me and release some tension.  We do some relaxation and breath work before we sing and we are supposed to practice at home, so that's one more thing I can do to relax. 

 

I can relate to not having friends who understand.  None of my friends are tying to have kids, and none of my friends in the area have children.  My sisters all have children.  My younger sisters conceived all of their children the first month they tried.  One had a miscarriage, but she conceived the next month she tried after that.  My older sister took longer because she was older and has always had irregular cycles, but she didn't seek out treatments.  My mom is understanding, but she also did not have any trouble getting pregnant.  I think it's almost better to have "virtual" friends to talk to about all this because we aren't friends in real life.  The detachment makes it easier to put it all out there.  You all care, but you aren't personally invested in my life.  Does that make sense?




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PokeyAC, good to see you too! I honestly don't know if I can find peace, it's a continuous quest and every now and again I get a glimpse of what it could be like.

I agree that there is a certain level of surrender during 2ww, because there is nothing left to do but hope.

Reading between the lines it sounds like you got a promotion. Congrats!

I sort of get your virtual friends comment. The anonymity allows me to open up and speak so frankly.

 

beingmommy, your comment about having faith struck me. I think one of the key issues for me is that I don't have faith in myself, i.e. I don't believe that I could be fine if it never happened and that's why it feels like such a life and death issue. My mind tells me that of course I would be ok, I would make do, get through life and be fulfilled even if I never got to be a mommy, but my heart panics at the thought...


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Thanks for starting this thread! I am part of a few TTC threads, but as we are waiting a few months before TTC (although, we have had a couple of "you're probably not fertile, right?" sessions w/o BC), I am feeling sooo impatient to get started. Which is silly, because I have two DDs, ages 3 and 1, and I work full-time, we recently moved and our house needs a lot of renos, so I should be satisfied with my family, my life, but I just want to be a mommy again! My DH doesn't get it. He keeps saying we were so lucky to have two healthy pregnancies/babies, why tempt fate? Which makes me feel like if anything ever does go wrong, it will be my fault for wanting more. I can't help it. I want a big family (4 kids), because I have practically no family right now. I always dream about large family get-togethers at holiday times. My grandmother and mother both struggled with infertility, so I have no aunts or uncles, cousins, etc. Just one brother and we are not close.

 

I am not super into charting or temping or poas-ing (not to judge anyone who does!), although I do keep track of my cycle length and CM, just because when we do conceive I need to call the midwife office as soon as I poas. That's how quickly they are booked up. But once I poas and get a BFP, that's it for me. I don't keep testing or obssessing.

 

So far, my DH is on board for #3, sometime next year when we finish getting our ground floor reno'd. I am toying with the idea of trying supplements to encourage strong ovulation and maybe getting twins. Not sure how realistic this is, lol, but if I could have twins this time around, I think we would be done. Anyway, all this to say that I am doing my best to feel zen about TTC in the near future and am trying to feel the fullness of my life as it is, not as I would necessarily like to have it.

 

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Hi pokeyAC, I love the idea of singing to help relax.  It would be uplifting too.  I waas thinking about finding some fun things to do to distract myself during all the waiting times.  Like learn a new craft or find an engrossing book series.  Fingers crossed for you in your Waiting to O!

 

Dakipode, it IS so hard.  The having faith part.  I am so lucky to already have one beautiful child.  Sometimes I feel bad, like why do I want another so badly.  Isn't he enough?  But the drive for two is huge for me for some reason.  I think it's juse how I had always envisioned my life as a mom.   I feel desperately sad to think it might never happen.  But I am not sure yet how one lets go of those visions if you have to.  I guess it would be a day by day process if that time came.

 

Lidamama, hi!  Trying to feel the fulness of your life as it is - I like that.  I am going to try that too.


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Hello all. Can I join? I had 2 healthy children no problems and then lots of problems in seeking our third. I'm not ready to completely give up, but I am slowly deciding to focus on what I have instead of what I don't. KWIM? Happy2bamama and everyone else, I totally feel my inner toddler throwing a tantrum about how "this is NOT how I wanted things to go!!!!!!" But, what are you going to do?

So, in my efforts to accept where I stand right now, I'm planning vacations and (trying) not to think about how pregnant I will be or where in my cycle I'll be if, if , if. It's always an IF. Trying to get myself to consider a trip to Yellowstone with the kids for next June. (But, if we get pregnant this cycle, the bean would be due in June. Quiet! LOL)

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Awww, huge hugs, Xerxella, I have been thinking of you.  I am always doing that too, thinking of the future in terms of where'd I'll be IF I get pregnant this cycle. 

 

I do wonder how to quiet all the fussing my head does around it.  I guess distraction is good.  Probably meditation too. 


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Hi all! This thread blew up the past couple of days!

 

Something that I am noticing and feeling is that the attachment, non-attachment, doing and not doing all changes on a day to day basis. I think it's unrealistic for us to think in overall terms, such as, "If I could just be zen about this whole thing" or "I have to always take my vitamins and herbs." That is WAY too much pressure! I have come to understand that I will have moments of zen-ness, but not months of zen-ness. Days where I take my stuff and days where I don't. It's just not possible to do everything all the time and be zen about it. Nothing lasts continually (even the good feelings).

 

When AF showed a few days ago, I was sad and frustrated and felt hopeless and I saw DH and I having the fertility options talks at the end of the year. But today, I already feel more hopeful - in fact, I have this strange sense of feeling closer to it. Like when you're playing a dice game and someone keeps rolling a seven, the longer they keep rolling a seven, the more you know that the odds are getting greater and greater that they WON'T roll a seven again. I guess I am feeling like we can't possibly roll a seven again. Even though I know it is possible, today I feel like the odds of us conceiving keep getting greater. But this just goes to show you - tomorrow I may feel completely differently. I may run into yet another newly pregnant friend or have someone ask me if we're "one and done" or have my mom ask if I could donate some baby things to a friend and not know what to say and then feel sad again. I've realized that my connectedness to this process depends on many things and few of which I can control. So, rather than try to make myself be any one way, I am going to embrace feeling all different ways - even the messy ways.

 

This last month, I was feeling like going to acupuncture was a bit of a chore, so even though my inner judge was telling me that I was lowering my odds if I canceled some of my appointments, I did it anyway. I want to be true to me (not my inner judge). And I found myself wanting to make some sort of rule, like, "I only do acupuncture once a week now," but when I started bleeding this month, my outlook changed and I set up appointments to go twice a week again because it no longer felt like a chore. It shifts! And the shifting doesn't mean I am wacked out or unstable or can't get a grip on this, it means that I am doing whatever I need to do to navigate this rocky path.

 

dakipode - I have been doing acupuncture for about 3 months. I have a neighbor who owns a clinic and although it's not specifically a fertility clinic, she is trained in that and works with it a lot. She is also the mom of two kids (who she got pregnant with on the first try both times). I usually go twice a week and this last cycle, I didn't schedule any appointments during my period so that I could have a nice break from doing (and my body is more sensitive to the needles when I'm on my period - talk about insult to injury!). I go to a place that does community acupuncture, so everyone is one big room with little areas to themselves during their treatment. This keeps the cost down - I only pay $25 per treatment. I pretty much immediately noticed a difference. My period has really changed. TMI alert: I used to have a short luteal phase and my periods started with days of brown spotting and then my flow tended to be dark with clots. Now, I have moved my luteal phase back to where it should be (most cycles - last cycle was kinda wonky), I have way less clots, less pre-spotting and the blood coming out of me is bright red and healthy looking. I also used to have one or two days of my period where I was just dead to the world. And now it's evened out so that I am not down for the count one or two days. It feels more balanced and manageable. And my digestion is amazing! But the pitfall of this is that it can easily lead one to think that they will get pregnant because everything is really healthy in there and it can make the not getting pregnant more frustrating. But it is making me happier and healthier overall, so I'll take it!

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Wow, I am glad I read this thread.  I have been TTC#2 since March 2011.  I had a m/c in April 2012.  I am 38 and getting to a point where I feel I should just bury and mourn the idea of having a second child.  Each month I get very crying upset, probably since the mc was so recent.  I feel alone in this battle against myself.  I have put everything on hold, from buying clothing for my post baby #1 body to getting involved with other moms since I don't want to get sick from other kids while I am pregnant.  Ours is a painful journey that takes up more of our days and nights than it should.  I don't think that is healthy, so I think taking a break from actively TTC is a good idea.  Thing is, I may enjoy the break so much that I don't come back from it. 

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Which makes me feel like if anything ever does go wrong, it will be my fault for wanting more.

 

to feel the fullness of my life as it is, not as I would necessarily like to have it.

Wow, yes, that guilt. Why do we put that pressure on ourselves?

I very much appreciate the sentiment as you put it: the fullness of life as it is. I see it as being similar to the gratitude practice, something to help you acknowledge the things you have rather than putting the emphasis on what you don't have. Thanks for that insight.

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So, in my efforts to accept where I stand right now, I'm planning vacations and (trying) not to think about how pregnant I will be or where in my cycle I'll be if, if , if. It's always an IF. Trying to get myself to consider a trip to Yellowstone with the kids for next June. (But, if we get pregnant this cycle, the bean would be due in June. Quiet! LOL)

Welcome! I'm so with you on the whole planning thing. This year I've definitely put some things on hold because we're TTC. Now I'm feeling like I missed out... There was a quote circulating on Facebook ascribed to Paulo Coehlo: "Life has many ways of testing a person's will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once." In that spirit should I then start other projects so that everything can happen all at once and I will get pregnant? I do recognize that I can't just put my life on hold anymore. There is being prepared and being responsible and then there's living in fear, for lack of a better word. I'm done with the latter and I'm making plans for March 2013.

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Something that I am noticing and feeling is that the attachment, non-attachment, doing and not doing all changes on a day to day basis. I think it's unrealistic for us to think in overall terms, such as, "If I could just be zen about this whole thing" or "I have to always take my vitamins and herbs." That is WAY too much pressure! I have come to understand that I will have moments of zen-ness, but not months of zen-ness. Days where I take my stuff and days where I don't. It's just not possible to do everything all the time and be zen about it. Nothing lasts continually (even the good feelings).

 

Like when you're playing a dice game and someone keeps rolling a seven, the longer they keep rolling a seven, the more you know that the odds are getting greater and greater that they WON'T roll a seven again. I guess I am feeling like we can't possibly roll a seven again.

Yes to the day to day feeling. I don't think zen is a state that I will ever attain and sustain...

So funny about the odds comment but I'm totally on the same page: it must happen some time right? Aren't we overdue for our bit of luck?

I may look into acupuncture. DH and I have had our specialist appt but we haven't seriously discussed how we will move forward. I'm all for medication and concentrated sperm injections but I would be ok with doing anything that could help, even if it was more subtle.

 

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Can I join? I think this is just the place I need :-)

 

We are really NTNP right now - got my first PPAF back in August (DD will be 11 mos this weekend). I miss the days of being like, "Oh, I'm late. Hmmmm, I guess I'll get a test." Now that I know my body so much better, it's hard to fight the urge to know as. soon. as. possible. But really, what difference does it make (except for the mamas who have medical conditions where the days do make a difference, of course!), other than the added stress, the daily testing, the disappointment at BFNs, etc. 

 

I just want to go with it and enjoy life for what it is *today*, kwim? I want to value everything in my life right now, and not worry about all the what ifs - just deal with them when they become facts. 

 

So, I thought if I joined, I could use this thread to hold myself accountable to those goals :-) I *think* I am 7dpo today, but don't really know, as it's my first cycle, like I said. So, I'm going to wait until next week, Wednesday at least, to test, because I *think* I expect AF next Tuesday. I'm going to actually try to wait until that weekend to test. So every day before then, I'll just remember this group when I feel like POAS, to remind myself to chill out :-) 


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Welcome klemomma!  I hope the next 2 weeks are totally chill for you!  There are so many what if's that you could drive yourself crazy trying to worry about all of them.  It's not worth it, but it's hard to avoid sometimes.




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klemomma, welcome!

 

PokeyAC, how are you doing?

 

I'm having a tough day today. A client brought up the TTC conversation and it threw me in a funk. I wish I hadn't told so many people. I was so excited about this process when we started and I told some of my close clients, the ones who have been with me for years, and now they ask me about it since they can obviously tell from week to week that things aren't happening. On days like these I feel like I need to treat myself, in fact I think a nice cup of tea might pick me up.

 

How's everyone else? What are some of your simple tricks (tea, singing w the radio, a pastry,...) that help you appreciate the moment?


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Hi dakipode!  That does sound like a tough day.  I'm sorry.  hug2.gif  I think that's why I did not tell many people I am TTC.  I didn't want to have to answer questions.  I am also a very private person who keeps things inside.  Sometimes that is good, but sometimes it is not helpful.  It's good to be able to talk to close friends about our struggles.  My wife calls me a lone wolf because I keep to myself a lot.  Being on here is one way I can reach out and talk about everything.  It's been very helpful to have all of you here.  grouphug.gif

I'm doing fine.  I'm taking my meds and not having any bad side effects.  My follies are growing.  I see the RE tomorrow for an u/s to see what's happening and discuss when to trigger.  I tend to get very stressed out at this point, but I have been working on having more of a "que sera, sera" attitude.  I am going with the flow and not freaking out.  I read somewhere that reducing stress during the waiting to O part is more important than the TWW.  I don't know if it's true, but I have been trying to reduce my stress more.  Usually I do relaxing things during the TWW, but this time I am pampering myself now.  The other day I got a mani/pedi with extra massage.  It was nice.  It made me kind of sleepy.  I worked out yesterday and I am going to yoga tonight.  I am trying to stay active.  Sunday I'm going to bake some cookies for a bake sale and to bring to people at work.  I like to listen to loud music and sing when I bake so that will be fun.  How are you dakipode?




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Wow so many new posts!

 

Jjclifton, hugs!  I feel the same way sometimes.  We have a beautiful DS and thought we would not try for a #2 for a long time (DS has many health/dev issues).  But then earlier this year things were going well so we decided to and wound up having a m/c.  We just started trying again last month but some days I think we should just throw in the towel as I get so stressed about it.   But then I feel so wretchedly sad to think I might never have a second.  It's hard.  Currently I am trying to be grateful for what I do have and stay open to the hope for more.

 

Dakipode, I am so sorry you had a rough day.  That is so hard.  I mean, it helps to let some people know so you are not all alone ont he journey but then it can be hard when they bring it up unexpectedly on a hard day. Oh and you asked a ways back about crafts and books for distraction.  I have not been doing anything yet.  I use to be super crafty and a bookworm but with my DS I don't get a lot of down time.  I'd love to learn how to make beaded jewelry.  I have a few books that I have never looked through.  I also want to start playing the guitar again (I am not very good and then haven't picked it up in years).  If this TTC journey takes much longer than expected I will definitely try to bring some music back into my life.  I have a b-day in October (my 40th - eeek!) and I think I am going to get a guitar.  So if there is still no BFP at least I will have that to distract me in future cycles.  Books, I may read the Harry Potter series again.  Fun and fast. 

 

Happy2bamama, yay for the acupuncture feeling good again!  I have a tilted uterus and found this woman who does the Maya Abdominal Massage technique and acupuncture.  I called her but she was booked up until October.  I made an appt with her for the second week of Oct and either I will be able to do the Maya Ab or, if I am miraculously pregnant, we'll just do some acupunture.  Feels good to at least have one positive thing waiting for me if I get a BFN.

 

Klemomma, hi!  This thread is really helping me be accountable to not wanting to POAS every five minutes.  It helps me be more at peace. 

 

PokeyAC, love that you are pampering yourself!  I have been singning in the car when I drive DS around.  He use to hate when I sang but lately he's been fine with it which is nice.  It makes me feel good.  Interesting about being less stressed during the waiting to O time. Hmmmm, I will have to remember that next cycle. I was definitely letting myself get stressed this last time. 

 

AFM: Just trying to be calm.  Doing pretty well.  I actually am so sure nothing will happen this cycle I am not even particularly hopeful.  So maybe that is why I am calmer.  I won't be testing unless I am late with AF. 


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beingmommy - The Maya Abdominal Massage/acupuncture sounds wonderful.  I would love to hear how it goes and if you find it helpful.  I have considered the massage but haven't yet felt like I could spend that amount of money on it.  Hopefully, neither of us will have to consider it because we will both be pregnant soon.  I love acupuncture.  It is very relaxing, and I did notice changes in my cycle.  I'm proud of you for not POAS every five minutes.  smile.gif  Hang in there.




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Beingmommy  The abdominal massage sounds interesting.  What is the theory behind it?  

 

And for those of you who choose acupuncture, what do you look for in a provider?  I have a good friend who is an acupuncturist, but she doesn't seem to want to help me.  It may be because she went through such a journey to have her two kids, both after 40.  It might hit too close to home.

 

I think the ticking clock is the hardest thing for me right now.  I feel if I don't have a second child, I will always have a sadness in my life.  Or will I be ok?  I just don't know.

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klemoma - Oh, I SO miss the days of "Well if we just have sex every other day, nine months later we'll have a baby." LOL Ah, those days were wonderful. Now, I really DO know when I'm ovulating and when I'm pregnant and when I'm not. I even know when it's a loss and when the baby's gone. I DO wish I still lived back in the days of ignorance.

jjclifton - I used an accupucturist while I was pg with my dd. I would just look for an accupuncturist who says they do fertility accupuncture. They seem to advertise it.

beingmommy - I hope this is a lucky month for you anyways. I think I'm going to *try* to go into every month with the feeling that, of course, it won't work and then be ready to be surprised. That's the plan at least....

dakipode - As far as telling people, there's nothing wrong with telling people that ask about your fertility that it's not going as smoothly as you wished and we're considering different options and when/if we have any good news, we'll tell you ASAP. smile.gif It's a nice way of telling people to quit asking. We've flat out told everyone for years now, that we're probably done. And, then they quit asking. I like you're idea of planning a bunch of things, because then surely, you'll get pregnant with a take home baby and throw a wrench into all your plans. Maybe, I'll start working on a doctorate in something. That's sure to make things happen.

happy2b - Surely you won't role a 7 again, right..... Sigh. I, too, wish it was that easy.

pokeyac - Can I ask what you're trying? right before we got pregnant this last time, the doc said she'd start the "infertility" work up and start me on a low dose clomid regiment. Sigh. I wonder if we'll jump right into that plan now or does the clock start again and we wait 6 more months? I'm 37, too.

wave.gif to everyone else. Sorry if I miss you. I'll try harder to keep up with the thread. There seem to be alot of us who are trying for a saner TTC wait. grouphug.gif

AFM - I'm making plans and trying to embrace the truly wonderful life I have. I REALLY am grateful for them and my whole family. I think ovulation is creeping up on me, but since this is a D&C cycle, it seriously has little chance of being successful. I'll try to just run with it and let what happens, happen.

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My follies are growing.  I see the RE tomorrow for an u/s to see what's happening and discuss when to trigger.  I tend to get very stressed out at this point, but I have been working on having more of a "que sera, sera" attitude.  I am going with the flow and not freaking out.  I read somewhere that reducing stress during the waiting to O part is more important than the TWW.  I don't know if it's true, but I have been trying to reduce my stress more.  Usually I do relaxing things during the TWW, but this time I am pampering myself now.  The other day I got a mani/pedi with extra massage.  It was nice.  It made me kind of sleepy.  I worked out yesterday and I am going to yoga tonight.  I am trying to stay active.  Sunday I'm going to bake some cookies for a bake sale and to bring to people at work.  I like to listen to loud music and sing when I bake so that will be fun.  How are you dakipode?

I can't remember who posted that they see the sperm waiting for the main act, the diva egg to show up. That's what I pictured when I read your post. The trigger is the big reveal!

I like your idea of pampering during waiting to O, maybe I should just pamper myself all the time, LOL!

I've always been active (not crazy Ironman training active) but in the past two months cut down on exercise, and the specialist agreed that it might be affecting my late O. So now I have some stress around "to work out or not work out"... And the irony is I do it because it keeps me happy and sane... This cycle, since I consider it the "eh, whatever" cycle I decided to just get back into my normal routine, i.e. work out 5-6 days a week, and we'll see what happens. If I start medication next cycle I'll probably cut down on exercise again.

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I use to be super crafty and a bookworm but with my DS I don't get a lot of down time.  I'd love to learn how to make beaded jewelry.  I have a few books that I have never looked through.  I also want to start playing the guitar again (I am not very good and then haven't picked it up in years).  If this TTC journey takes much longer than expected I will definitely try to bring some music back into my life.  I have a b-day in October (my 40th - eeek!) and I think I am going to get a guitar.  So if there is still no BFP at least I will have that to distract me in future cycles.  Books, I may read the Harry Potter series again.  Fun and fast.

 

I actually am so sure nothing will happen this cycle I am not even particularly hopeful.  So maybe that is why I am calmer.  I won't be testing unless I am late with AF. 

I'm a bookworm too! I like lots of alone time and I wonder sometimes how I will do with someone who requires constant attention though at the same time I look forward to it.

I want to be a crafty person but never get around to it. I bought some clay over a year ago to try and make those tiny desert jewelry thingies, they're sooo cute, but now it's still sitting here. I think it's something I need to schedule. I don't feel as guilty about reading because you can read 10 minutes at a time, but crafts really require a couple of hours and I find it harder to justify to take that much time.

And regarding your testing comment: I bought a bag of 40 Wondfo's a while back and I think I've used 2, back in April... Now I don't test, I find I don't need it. I'll probably pass them onto someone after I get a success, that is if they haven't expired by then...

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I think the ticking clock is the hardest thing for me right now.  I feel if I don't have a second child, I will always have a sadness in my life.  Or will I be ok?  I just don't know.

hug2.gifYou describe exactly how I feel. Rationally I know life will be fine but emotionally it just throws me for a loop to think that I might never have a child (or in your case a second one).

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 As far as telling people, there's nothing wrong with telling people that ask about your fertility that it's not going as smoothly as you wished and we're considering different options and when/if we have any good news, we'll tell you ASAP. smile.gif It's a nice way of telling people to quit asking.

Xerxella - I agree.  I tell people that when I have some news I will tell them.  That's my subtle way of saying I don't want to go into detail now but when I have good news, you will know. 

This cycle I am doing a letrozole (Femara is the brand name) and Menopur injections combo.  I took letrozole CD 3-7 and Menopur starting on day 5.  I used Clomid for 3 cycles in the past.  I responded well and didn't have any of the yucky side effects, but my lining did get progressively thinner.  I became pregnant on the 3rd cycle and had an early loss.  Then I tried letrozole by itself for one cycle.  Then we moved on to the pill/injectable combo.  This is our second time trying the combo.  We have been more aggressive partly because of my age and because sperm is so expensive. 

I'm so sorry for your losses.  I don't think the 6 months should have to start over for you.  At our age, we don't have much time to waste.  It's entirely possible to get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy, but it's just a little harder sometimes.  You might just need a tiny boost and nothing more.  Maybe starting that doctorate will do the trick. 

 

jjclifton - My acupuncturist has a definite focus on fertility, but it is not her only specialty.  I found reviews on Yelp where people said she is the reason they have their baby now.  She is also a member of a regional fertility group for health practitioners. 

 

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About Maya Abdominal Therapy: https://arvigotherapy.com/content/definition-and-history
They have a practitioner search on their website. I would look for one that's had additional training in Pregnancy treatment. They've learned additional specifics on how to help fertility. XO!
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 I'm proud of you for not POAS every five minutes.  smile.gif  Hang in there.

 

Hee!  This totally made me laugh!  I use to be so good at not testing early and then since we started trying for #2 I have had trouble.  Ug.  But doing better this time.  I really do want to wait and not waste tests. 

 

Jjclifton, oh that ticking clock!  Me too!  I turn 40 in 3 weeks.  I feel time running out.  And yet, I am also trying to be zen about it.  I now know of many women who have had healthy pregnancies well past 40.  I want to believe I can be one of them.  But it's hard to adjust my old vision on having all my kids before 40.

And I think a few people have already chimed in but for an acupuncturist, yes look for someone who specializes in fertility and pregnancy.  There are acupuncture points that are not good during pregnancy and you want to make sure the person really knows their stuff. 

And about the Maya Abdominal Massage.  It is suppose to help with all sorts of things increasing blood flow to the uterus, help with endometriosis, righting a tilted uterus.  And I think you usually get a self-care routine that teaches you how to keep up the massage yoursefl at home.  But you cannot do it in the 1st trimester or during your period.

 

Xerxella, thanks for the good wishes!  I would love if this were the cycle.  I just don't know anymore.  My intuition has gone right out the window since the m/c.  I guess because I went an entire month thinking it was fine.  An entire month!  How could I have not known at least somewhere deep down.  Anyway, I AM trying not to dwell on it.  And trying to be calm and let things be what they will be.

And hugs for you!  You have really been through the wringer lately.  I have my fingers super crossed for you (in as relaxed and zen a manner as possible).  I actually had a clear ovulation for the two cycles right after my D&C but we weren't TTC then.  Sort of wonder what would've happened if we had. 

Oh and I love that idea that if you plan a bunch of things you are sure to get pregnant.  Hee!  In the spring when I got pregnant I had just bought an expensive OPK for the coming cycle and I even thought, this is sure to MAKE me end up being pregnant now.

 

Dakipode, that is exactly my trouble with crafts.  I cannot find a good chunk of uninterrupted time.  Knitting I can usually do, though, I go on and off knitting.  But it is pretty easy to pick up and put down in some increments.  I am a huge introvert and I do find it challenging to be "on" all day with my DS.  I'm a stay-at-home mom and homeschooling and he's got autism.  BUT it's turning out okay.  It's been better recently as he is doing better and I am getting better about taking care of myself too.  It actually was much easier when he was an infant.  People talk so much about how hard the the newborn stage is but I found that a breeze.  It's toddlers and preschoolers and now this often indignant 5 yr old that I find challenging.

 

Okay, deep breaths.  Gratitude.  Hugs to all!


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