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anyalily's Avatar anyalily 10:41 PM 09-22-2012

WELCOME TO THE "ONE" THREAD  for Sept. 23 - 29

posted by alexisyael in 2004:

The One Thread is designed for all on the MDC board. No matter where you are in your cycle, you are welcome to join the One Thread! We are also open to those who are "Waiting to be Ready" for one reason or another. We continue to embrace those of us who have become pregnant as well. Feel free to jump in at any time and introduce yourself!

To help keep the list current and manageable, members will be deleted after a month of not posting to a One thread.

Please make add/remove/change requests in Bold.

 

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Big congrats to you all!!

 

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http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1352182/one-graduates-may-june/20

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dakipode's Avatar dakipode 09:54 AM 09-23-2012

anyalily, thanks for the new thread. Can you please move me to waiting to know? Thanks.


kitteh's Avatar kitteh 10:02 AM 09-23-2012

Well, I continue to get BFNs and I'm starting to think that September might have been an anovulatory month for me. In that case my spotting last week would have been breakthrough bleeding and not implantation spotting. I'm leaning toward the anovulation because I had my right ovary removed when I was a senior in HS, due to a dermoid cyst that torqued the ovary and cut off blood supply, basically killing it. I know I'm still fertile (and have a Surprise! DD to show for it) but maybe I don't ovulate every month? Does anyone know how that sort of thing works? I recall being told in HS that the ovaries alternate months, so maybe the fact that I only have one now means I only ovulate e/o month? I dunno, but it seems plausible to me.

 

So I tucked a thermometer under my pillow (just a Vicks brand drugstore thermometer, but it measures in tenths of a degree, will that be sufficient?) Today was my first morning of temping and I was 97.1 which seems a little low to me. But it will be interesting to have this extra insight into my cycles. I think we're going to take a few months "off" from TTC. Not that we're going to use protection or avoid or anything, but it's more of a mindset thing for me. I'm going to look at the next month or two as an opportunity to get back in touch with my body and learn about my BC-free cycles, instead of looking at them as OMG BABY MAKING OPPORTUNITIES. Hopefully the shift in perspective will help me find peace and serenity.

 

Oh, and I need to be more disciplined with my eating. I'm right with you, Anyalily, when it comes to emotional eating. I'm also definitely an "excuse" eater as well, and the stress from TTC has given me plenty of (unwarranted) excuses to overindulge and I've gained 4 lbs this month. It's not a lot, but I want to be at my lowest weight before getting knocked up, and I really want to keep my baby weight-gain down to a more reasonable amount (like, not the almost 40 lbs I gained with DD!) So that means being more disciplined and trying not to gain a bunch of weight in the first trimester. Which also means not gaining a bunch of weight before I'm even pregnant! Whoops.

 

One question about breakthrough bleeding and anovulatory cycles, for those who might know--do I count the first day of spotting as my period for this cycle? That's what I plan to do, so hopefully its right.

 

Baby Dust !


dakipode's Avatar dakipode 10:08 AM 09-23-2012

kitteh, I don't believe it's an alternating schedule, just either/or but not necessarily L-R-L-R... I don't have any insight to offer as far as anovulatory cycles go, but wanted to extend the invitation to join us over in the Saner TTC thread. It might be a nice place for you to hang out while giving yourself a mental break from things.


JustJenny's Avatar JustJenny 10:24 AM 09-23-2012

Anyalily- Could you move me to waiting to know please :) I ovulated yesterday and the chart looks good for conception so my fingers are crossed....goodvibes.gif


anyalily's Avatar anyalily 11:33 PM 09-23-2012

Dakipode and JustJenny, welcome to the 2WW! Good luck!

 

Kitteh, it could have been anovulatory. I have always thought I am only working with one ovary because I seem to alternate between short cycles and normal cycles and because I only feel MS on one side. A little while before menarche when I was 11, I had a badly impacted ovary on the right side. It sent me to the hospital and I got a scrip for codeine... Ah, alopathic medicine. Years later, I had what I thought was a miscarriage, but never tested positive and my Dr. vowed I was never pregnant. I sometimes wonder if I threw a big cyst or something... I remember learning that the ovaries alternate, but since then I have heard that sometimes one ovary runs the show every month, or that they alternate, but not R-L-R-L, as you said. I hope this cycle gets back to normal for you!

 

AFM, I am doing this annoying thing I do every month, thinking that I should hold off on trying and lose some weight, but just not wanting to wait! It is getting so old, and I am sure you are all sick of hearing about it, too. LOL. I am not so afraid of being fat, I am afraid of chronic pain, weakness and depression. Sigh.


SweetMama34's Avatar SweetMama34 09:07 AM 09-24-2012

Anya - what do you need in order to feel at peace with things? Do you need help starting a fitness/nutrition regime? Or just acceptance that you are where you are? Whatever the case, I know you aren't alone - I waffle back and forth for my own reasons, too.

 

I'm just trying to figure out what's up with my body post m/c - I've had tons of EWCM, distinct O symptoms, but no temp rise. I'm on CD 15 and pretty confused. Most of the time, I'm okay with the fact that it may take some time to conceive again - but other times, I'm really sad that we lost that pregnancy and wish we were just on track - I'd be coming up on 9 weeks this week, and it just kind of sucks to realize that.


anyalily's Avatar anyalily 11:08 AM 09-24-2012
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Anya - what do you need in order to feel at peace with things? Do you need help starting a fitness/nutrition regime? Or just acceptance that you are where you are? Whatever the case, I know you aren't alone - I waffle back and forth for my own reasons, too.

 

I'm just trying to figure out what's up with my body post m/c - I've had tons of EWCM, distinct O symptoms, but no temp rise. I'm on CD 15 and pretty confused. Most of the time, I'm okay with the fact that it may take some time to conceive again - but other times, I'm really sad that we lost that pregnancy and wish we were just on track - I'd be coming up on 9 weeks this week, and it just kind of sucks to realize that.

That's a great question. I think the reason I am so frantic about all this is because I am not in the habit of including self-care. I take care of my daughter, I take care of my cat, I am so-so at my relationship, I am letting my garden die and my house is chaotic 90% of the time. I meet my obligations at work - barely. I want to be more functional, and for that I see that I need to be stronger and more balanced. namaste.gif

 

So I guess the answer is, I need to have a period of self-care and balance before I will feel at peace. I have started that, actually. I realize that I cannot do a total overhaul of my lifestyle choices overnight. So I am focusing on two habits a week. This week is to make my lunch every day (or make a healthy lunch choice) and to take Zumba or Aqua-aerobics 5 times this week. Next week I will continue with Zumba and lunches, and add not eating after 8pm and doing some resistance training. The third week I will add in Pilates and avoiding sweets (1 meal off). The fourth week will be to start going dancing once a week and avoiding refined flours. BABY-STEPS toward making a baby!

 

So that being said, I think we will TTA this cycle, and I will focus on myself and meeting my existing obligations. I will reassess next month, which would be the last month I could conceive until trying again after the new year, because of work obligations. If we skip two cycles, we will end up having to skip 5, but if I am making progress, my life could be very different in 2013, and I could be poised to enjoy a pregnancy much more.

 

The other thing I realized is that I should just ask myself if I should TTC this cycle, rather than trying to plan out my entire life.

 

SweetMama, it sounds like your body is gearing up but hasn't released the eggie yet. Keep charting and keep trying! I remember reading that stress can delay ovulation. Maybe your grief is delaying things. What can you do for yourself? Spa day?


SweetMama34's Avatar SweetMama34 12:07 PM 09-24-2012

anya - You have such a great plan! Best of luck on your path toward better self care. Sometimes, for me, the best thing I can do is to SLOW down...I do so much, usually for others, and when I slow down I can better see what it is I need for me. Tough to do, for sure - us mamas are hard wired to care for the rest of the world and sacrifice our own well-being. When I practice self care right now, I think of it as caring for our next child - the healthier a vehicle I can be, the healthier my unborn child is going to be.

 

I'm going to get a swim or two in this week for sure. I'm also picking up a volunteer position that I've missed so much (I know, I know - that's helping someone else, too - but I really do love it!) I need to write a gratitude list, and maybe another one specific to why I'm grateful that I'm NOT pregnant today (there are reasons, you know - I can drink Diet soda guilt free, no nausea, more energy, focus available for other areas...like school that just started today!)

 

I usually don't O until CD 21 or so - I was really hoping the m/c would reset things and I'd O sooner - so I got really excited with all of the ewcm. Maybe I'll still O earlier? I've been taking B6 daily for a few months now without noticing a change. I just really, really want to extend my LP by a few days - it's been 8-11 days (hard to tell, as I didn't chart cycles meticulously when I had my IUD in - but they seemed to be on the short side always). I'll be devestated if another conception ends in m/c and I'm nervous that it's due to the shorter LP. My midwife says my LP is fine, though - so I doubt she's interested in further testing. Still, I'll request progesterone levels to be drawn ASAP after my next BFP.

 

Whew....was that a novel or what? I guess I had stuff on my mind. :)


LivingSky's Avatar LivingSky 02:46 PM 09-24-2012
Can I please be moved to Waiting to Know 2WW?

Though I think I'm actually just waiting for AF - terrible timing this month with being away from home.
anyalily's Avatar anyalily 02:56 PM 09-24-2012

SweetMama, I like what you said about self-care is like caring for the unborn child. I just got to my office after a great Zumba class and I feel like a million bucks. I can do this! I agree about being thankful that I am not pregnant at this moment. I feel a little guilty when I feel that way, but it is what it is! NOT looking forward to nausea and fatigue... Well, I've bought some time, anyway. I am still going to hang out here and be thread-keeper, if no one objects. I am moving back over to waiting to be ready. duck.gifI'll still be charting, just so there is no lag time when I do start up again.


anyalily's Avatar anyalily 02:57 PM 09-24-2012
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Can I please be moved to Waiting to Know 2WW?
Though I think I'm actually just waiting for AF - terrible timing this month with being away from home.

Maybe you'll get surprised!


LivingSky's Avatar LivingSky 04:38 PM 09-24-2012
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Maybe you'll get surprised!

I suppose anything is possible! I don't even really know when I ovulated. My temps originally rose like I O'ed on CD11, and my CM dried up. Then CD14 they dropped for one day (though I temped very early after only a couple of hours of sleep) then I missed a day or two of temping, then they started back up again. My CM came back for one day (CD16) then gone again. So who knows! I guess I'll know when AF arrives (or not)
InLove2009's Avatar InLove2009 07:56 PM 09-24-2012

Hi, can I be moved to Waiting to know? I am not sure if I ovulated yet, but as soon as we dropped our visitor off last night we pulled into a rest area Sheepish.gif

 

I think maybe there was something there to get the egg if there was an egg yet earlier last week. We will see, I am not expecting much this month... 


SweetMama34's Avatar SweetMama34 09:16 AM 09-25-2012

Alright - can you please move me to Waiting to Know? I'm really going to be shocked if this was a successful cycle - I know it can happen right after a miscarriage, but I don't think it did. Plus, we totally missed dtd for the two days before I O'd....I don't ever O this early and thought we had time this weekend to make a baby! Maybe the B6 really is helping? We'll see....


amlikam's Avatar amlikam 10:38 AM 09-25-2012

Hey ladies, I am taking a risk since a few people in my real life follow MDC board and might find this out this way, even though not announce because- well, I don't even know WTF IS GOING ON?!?! Which is where I guess I fit in- though possibly I am Waiting to Know? (but inside I say WTF is going on?!!!)

 

What was an oh I miss counted this month has turned into a "it's time to try again".... I am 15 DPO and we had sex 1.5 days before ovulation. 

 

My body is acting like something is going on, but I am wondering if my cycles are starting to change [serious nausea for the last week, tender boobs, wanting sex (which is not typical for me this time of my cycle), wild dreams, just a feeling...]  Really wanting to know what is going on, I am usually a 28 day cycle like clockwork.... tick tock...

 

so if you could add me to WTF IS GOING ON?!?! :-) even though waiting to know migh tbe apropo?  -am


anyalily's Avatar anyalily 02:21 PM 09-25-2012

Amilaken, SweetMama and InLove, you have all been moved. Good luck in your 2WW!


MyKidKissTrees's Avatar MyKidKissTrees 06:08 AM 09-27-2012

Id love to join you ladies!!  We are TTC #3.  Im Waiting to O!!  Just got my first PPAF!  Never been so excited to get a period in my life :)


anyalily's Avatar anyalily 03:30 PM 09-28-2012
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Id love to join you ladies!!  We are TTC #3.  Im Waiting to O!!  Just got my first PPAF!  Never been so excited to get a period in my life :)

Welcome MyKidKissTrees! How many months PP are you? I didn't get AF for 15 or so months. We only started trying when DD was 3.

 

We were going to hold off this month and then last night we just sort of went for it without talking about it. Oh well. The madness continues. I am only CD8, but sometimes I O on day 11, so we'll see. 


SweetMama34's Avatar SweetMama34 03:55 PM 09-28-2012
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We were going to hold off this month and then last night we just sort of went for it without talking about it. Oh well. The madness continues. I am only CD8, but sometimes I O on day 11, so we'll see. 

 

 

Hehe! Love this, anya....and I SO hope this month works out for you, because it'd make an awesome story. Plus, how many times have you heard someone say, "we stopped trying...and BAM!" :)


MyKidKissTrees's Avatar MyKidKissTrees 07:49 PM 09-28-2012
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Welcome MyKidKissTrees! How many months PP are you? I didn't get AF for 15 or so months. We only started trying when DD was 3.

 

We were going to hold off this month and then last night we just sort of went for it without talking about it. Oh well. The madness continues. I am only CD8, but sometimes I O on day 11, so we'll see. 

Hey Anya!  I was 21 mos PP on the 17th and just got AF on the 24th :)  

We were plannıng to waıt untıl DS was 3 too.  Then decıded we would just do thıngs wıth my bodıes schedule.  (DH ıs a real "thıngs happen for a reason" kınd of guy- ım less so, but ıts hard not to be wıth such a fervent belıever).  ROTFLMAO.gif

 

Plus DD ıs turnıng 6 and ıs super helpful.  (lıke I was as the oldest chıld). :) I feel lıke havıng that extra paır of hands to help DS ıf he needs somethıng wıll be enough once #3 arrıves.  we unschool too.  so she wıll be home all day wıth us.


SweetMama34's Avatar SweetMama34 08:30 PM 09-28-2012

Ah, man...I'm sick. Fever and all. Does that mean conceiving this cycle is next to impossible? I'm 4 dpo today...so implantation is probably skewed even if there is a fertilzed egg in there. Or not? I wish I had energy to do some reading.

 

Just popping in to complain, I guess. orngtongue.gif


kitteh's Avatar kitteh 05:59 PM 09-30-2012

SweetMama, I responded in your other thread, but I think you definitely still have a chance this cycle. Take care, and get well soon!

 

I'm waiting to O. I had EWCM on the 26th and 27th with a high, open cervix. Then on the 28th I had what I thought was a +OPK, but I didn't FEEL like I was Oing. I usually feel randy and sexy arounf O time, but this week I've been feeling fat and bloated and cranky. So I wasn't really feeling hopeful. Then yesterday I had the urge to jump DH's bones all morning long, and sure enough I got a DEFINITE +OPK that afternoon. We've been BDing every day since I saw the EWCM and plan to BD again tonight and tomorrow.

 

This is my first month taking my temperature, and I was a little dismayed to wake up with a significant drop in my temp this morning after yesterday's bold +OPK. But then I got on google and found that some women have a sharp temp dip the day of ovulation, followed by high temps. So I'm hopeful. Fingers crossed that I get my high temps the rest of this week!

 

Oh and, I also woke up with a bit of a sore/thick feeling in my throat so I skipped the 5k race that I had planned and just slept in. I'm glad I did, because I'm definitely fighting off a slight head cold. I'm hoping that it doesn't get any worse, and that it doesn't delay O. I'm not sure how many days in a row DH and I can keep this up. We're running out of popsicles! (used as distraction for DD, lol)


SweetMama34's Avatar SweetMama34 06:02 PM 09-30-2012

LOL, kitteh - I have the same distinct sexy/randy feeling when I'm fertile. It's my favorite signal...duh, right? :)


Stevi's Avatar Stevi 06:29 PM 09-30-2012

kitteh...   I get that big dip on ovulation when I temp properly.


kitteh's Avatar kitteh 06:45 PM 09-30-2012

Well, I can't say I'm temping properly. I try to do it around the same time each morning, but it generally happens somewhere between 6 and 7AM with a few as late as 8AM. I'm cosleeping and nursing my 2.5 yr old, so I rarely have 3-4 hours of uninterrupted sleep right before I wake up. Also DH works nights and gets home a little after 6AM, so I tend to wake up around then sometimes. The few times I DO get that steady stretch of sleep before temping is on days when I sleep in til 8, and then I'm not temping at the same time. So I'm not sure how reliable my chart is. But I'm hoping to get a distinct temp spike soon.

 

Also I took another OPK just now, because I had one cheapie left, and it is a VERY dark positive. Probably darker than the other two. I hope that doesn't mean my body is gearing up to release the egg but just can't, for whatever reason (like my head cold)


Stevi's Avatar Stevi 08:43 PM 09-30-2012

kitteh...   I get multiple days of positive OPK's, I think you're supposed to only count the first one.


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