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#1 of 4 Old 10-06-2012, 07:22 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi,

I'm new here. Hope I'm putting this in the right section.

I am a 45 yo straight single female. I was recently told by my gyn that if I want to have a baby I need to do it NOW. I'm not in a serious relationship yet and had planned on waiting a couple years but now I feel I need to have a baby now because of my gyn's advice. So, I've been thinking of a sperm donor. There is really only one person I would even consider at this time. He is my psychiatrist. I've been going to him for a year now. I like his looks, his intelligence and his personality. He is married with 2 young children. How do I go about asking him if he would be a sperm donor?

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Ummm.... You could tell him about your desire to be a parent, your decision to do so using a donor, and then jokingly say that he would be perfect. Then just see what his reaction is,


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I'm fairly sure any psychiatrist would be ethically barred from donating sperm for a client, so if I were you, I wouldn't ask him at all.  Even if he and his wife were ok with it, it could cost him his job.  There are other good-looking intelligent men with nice personalities.

 

If you're 45 though, it's unlikely you'd be able to get pregnant without the help of a clinic, so I'd ask your gyn for more information, and possibly for a referral.  Google "fertility math" for a discussion of the difficulties getting pregnant after 40 (or even 35).

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Don't let anyone tell you it's a waste of time to try!

Try for 6 months on your own, and then if it hasn't worked you can go through the Fertility Clinics.

 

If you cannot find a local donor, you can get sperm fairly easily through a sperm bank, and do at home inseminations. Do some Googling and find out what banks are near you, and/or will ship to you. Also find out if they will ship to your home, or only to your doctor.

 

There are also donors around the country who will donate if you supply the shipping container. This site has some more information about that http://www.knowndonorregistry.com.


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