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lilacvioletiris 12-02-2012 05:36 PM

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lilacvioletiris 12-02-2012 05:56 PM

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So what does everyone have planned for Christmas?

JustJenny 12-02-2012 09:05 PM

Wow, December got here fast!  Not sure what dh and I will do this year. We've been talking about taking a special little trip. Just something cheap and fun to change up the pace a bit. All of our family live out of state so its just us here.  Just to update me a bit - I'm 13dpo. Tested on the 11 dpo and got a bfn. I'm calling a fertility clinic tomorrow to get us both a appointment and start getting some tests done. Looking forward to it and feeling positive :)

librarygirl 12-02-2012 09:50 PM

Hi everyone!

Lots of Christmas stuff planned- parties, family reunions, etc. I told DH that all I want is two pink lines.

Sooo, I am a day late! With weird pinchy/twingy cramps for more than a week now, but not dull achy AF cramps. And maybe TMI, but I feel like a yeast infection is coming on and I haven't done any of the usual yeast triggers. I didn't have any tests at home so I didn't POAS today.

Trying not to get too excited because I am still just 12dpo (13, I guess, since its after midnight) but I have had a 12 day LP for over a year. Could be nothing.....could be something!

I just wanted to share my potential excitement with you guys, since you get it. DH says I shouldn't get too excited. He's right... But he's no fun. smile.gif

lilacvioletiris 12-03-2012 02:46 AM

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JustJenny, sounds like an excellent plan. I am trying to convince my DH that a short trip with some relaxing time at home would be a great way to spend my Christmas vacation. He wants to spend the whole time at his parents. I am okay with a little time but more than 4 days can be a bit much.


librarygirl, I hope your unconventional feelings mean that a BFP is on the way. Keep us posted.

JustJenny 12-03-2012 08:46 AM

librarygirl- fingers crossed for you!! goodvibes.gif


Lilac- Doesn't it seem like anytime over 2-3 days is just too much for a visit?  I know when my dad comes out it is just agony sometimes, lol. Ironically dh's family is who I enjoy the most. Mom passed sometime ago and he is remarried. It is just such bad chemistry with dh and I. If we weren't related we wouldn't associate, you know? When we go to visit I stay only 1 day with them! Hope it turns out fun for you whatever happens :)

dakipode 12-03-2012 09:07 AM

JustJenny: I hope that the appt at the clinic brings you the peace of mind and the answers you need. I know it helped me quite a bit, to know that from a medical standpoint everything was fine and I just needed to have a little more faith...


Librarygirl: any news yet?


Lilac: I don't mind spending time with my family, I get to see them so rarely that we usually visit for at least 10 days or so. The transatlantic trip and 8 hour time change make anything less not worth it. It's the in-laws I worry about. I get along just fine, DH has always had a strained relationship with his parents. The hard part is we just don't have much in common. We're planning on a rather long visit from the 24th till the 31st and I have this image in my head that we'll be sitting on the couch watching tv all day long, every day... *shudder* I can't believe that's already coming up in three weeks! DH says we'll need to buy all sorts of Christmas presents for relatives too. I'm not so worried about spending the money but I have absolutely no idea what to get these complete strangers...

baileymarie 12-03-2012 09:54 AM

Hi! I'm new here. I'm 32 and have been actively trying to conceive since October 2012. I had a miscarriage at six weeks in June 2012 and waited a few cycles to start trying again. Prior to that we were "letting things happen" (or not happen, as the case was) for over a year. I think I had a lot of ambivalence about getting pregnant. I'm in a doctoral program and there have been constant pressures related to that. Also, my husband was working various part-time jobs and we had opposite schedules, which was not really conducive to strengthening our marriage or making babies. Thankfully, those pressures have eased somewhat now that I am in the dissertation stage and my husband has a regular full-time job with a normal schedule. Getting pregnant and then miscarrying brought with it a lot of lessons. I realized, after being so happy to be pregnant and so devastated to lose the pregnancy, how much I really wanted to have a family and be a mother. I also felt that perhaps the pregnancy loss was carrying a message.


I know the doctors all say that it is nothing to be concerned about and that plenty of women go on to have healthy pregnancies after a miscarriage--but intuitively I felt that for whatever reason my body was not ready. So, I reached out to a friend of mine who had told me over a year ago about a sobadora (Mexican healer, primarilly abdominal/uterine massage) who was a very helpful for woman wanting to get pregnant. Interestingly, my friend was just about to tell me that the sobadora was no longer coming much to LA (evidently she was having some trouble with crossing over from Mexico), but the very same day I asked for the referral, she received an email from the sobadora stating she would be in LA soon and was accepting new clients. Serendipity!


The first time I saw Rita, the sobadora, I did not know what to expect. Within seconds of seeing me she noted that I had scoliosis. I was quite surprised since I was fully dressed and no one had ever noticed this just by looking at me. That first visit she spent most of the session working on my spine. She told me that my uterus was not in the right position, and that because of that old blood would get trapped, making it hard for the pregnancy to stay. She also soothed me tremendously, with her caring words and touch, and told me not to be sad, telling me that the spirit of my lost son did not want me to be sad. I was comforted when she told me that, though I miscarried, I was fortunate to have gotten pregnant at all, even if it was brief like a falling star. 


Initially I was able to see Rita once a month, and I found that my periods were improving. Over the last few years my periods have been getting farther apart (35 or more days), and my cramping has become more severe. I didn't see Rita for about two months because of schedule conflicts, and suffered a terrible period on Thanksgiving, with truly dreadful cramps that could not be helped with the usual Ibuprofen and heating pad. Fortunately, I was able to see Rita again last weekend and she assured me my uterus is now in a good position. However, given the horrible cramps I've been having and brown (old) blood, she recommended that I take herbs to cleanse the womb. She also said not to think about when I am ovulating and "just make love."


At this point I am focusing on trying to make some dietary changes. I'm cutting down on alcohol, caffeine, sugar, wheat, meat, and dairy. Sugar is that hardest for me. I am trying to eat more fresh fruits and vegetables. I have a consultation this week with a woman in town who practices Mayan abdominal massage and provides dietary recommendations and herbal tinctures to women trying to conceive. I hope that I can improve my health and well-being so that the next time I become pregnant it is a happy and healthy experience. 


Anyway, as for holiday plans--I'll be going up to Oregon shortly to spend time with family (Dec. 13). My mom has been having a lot of health problems and I wanted to be there when she starts a new course of treatment. If I ovulate late in my cycle, as I did last time, then I will probably miss the window since my husband can't join me in Oregon until the following week. 


lilacvioletiris 12-04-2012 03:06 AM

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Welcome baileymarie, I hope your stay here with us is short and that great things happen because you have gotten your body ready for pregnancy! Hope is the greatest thing with TTC!


Thanks for the encouragement about family. I love DH's parents - they are great - I just don't like having to wake up at 6 a.m. on a holiday because "breakfast is served".


AFM, I went to my sister's gender reveal party last night and she is having a GIRL!  My sister cried she was so excited. It was an awesome little party with a white fondant covered cake that when she sliced into it and lifted up the piece it was pink.  It was so cute. On my TTC front, I keep hoping that this month will be the month.  I am thinking baby thoughts and trying to be around babies and mommies as much as I can.

hermesgoddess 12-04-2012 06:18 AM

Hi, I am 34 and started to TTC November 2012. I don't have a chart yet online, but I am working on that. smile.gif

BlueEyedBaby007 12-04-2012 04:46 PM

Hi all! I'm 33years old TTC since 9/2012

lilacvioletiris 12-05-2012 03:50 AM

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hermessgoddess and blueeyedbaby007 I hope both of your stays are short here and that BFPs come your way soon.  Welcome!


One of our bajingo mamas had her baby a couple days ago.

Check out link

JustJenny 12-05-2012 08:52 AM

Welcome.gif  hermesgoddess and blueeyedbaby007! I hope you both get bfp's real soon!  

BlueEyedBaby007 12-05-2012 04:33 PM

Thanks gals! Trying to stay positive... Hope things work out this month!

hermesgoddess 12-06-2012 05:30 AM



This may end up being a VERY short stay... I tested positive the AM at home... Have to wait a few more minutes before I can call doctor (not open yet). I have been shaking & crying now all morning. LOL!

librarygirl 12-07-2012 08:09 AM

Well, AF showed her ugly face 13dpo. I guess my herbs are lengthening my LP, which is good, but still disappointing. I texted DH from work when I started. I think he was as sad as I was. We just both thought this was our month.

On to a new month....

Home sick with a headache today and have the first of the holiday celebrations this weekend so trying to just lay low and feel better so I can enjoy the weekend.

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

lilacvioletiris 12-07-2012 02:49 PM

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hermessgoddess, that is exciting!  Sometimes a surprise is just what is needed.  Keep us posted!  When you are ready head on over to the graduates thread with other ladies are exciting, There are some great ladies that are at different stages of pregnancy over there to chat with.


librarygirl, sorry that AF showed up.  Glad that your LP has lengthened. That is a good thing!


AFM, I am still thinking baby thoughts and hoping for a BFP surprise this month.

JustJenny 12-07-2012 03:33 PM

hermesgoddess- Wow!! Congrats.jumpers.gif I hope your hcg numbers continue to climb and you have a easy pregnancy and birth!! 



Librarygirlgloomy.gif Sorry for AF and being sick. Hope you have a quick recovery so you can enjoy your weekend.



Lilac- fingers crossed for your bfp! 



Afm- cd5 looking forward to af leaving and my first RE appointment on Tuesday! I'm expecting a hsg to be scheduled soon thereafter. Glad to be moving forward.

lilacvioletiris 12-07-2012 04:10 PM

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Jenny, hope your RE appointment goes well. I am sure after visiting with the doctor you will have lots of questions - I sure did. My RE's nurses are great when it came to our phone calls.  Each day gets us closer to our bfps.


AFM, I was looking at the link that I have on here of my "blog". It takes you to a graphic that says how long my DH and I have been TTC.  Today it is 1 year and 8 months. Every time I turn around I think in my mind "baby thoughts, baby thoughts".

doularebekah 12-08-2012 03:03 PM

Hey ladies, just checking in! Welcome to all the new ladies, I'm sure you'll love this group but hopefully your stay is short! 


AFM - I'm onto my next cycle, I had high hopes (as always) for the last one but no such luck. I'll be off to see the doctor this week to look over my fertility blood work up and see if we can come up with a plan. Oh, and lilac I've been meaning to mention this for ages but keep forgetting - I'm 31 now :)

lilacvioletiris 12-08-2012 06:54 PM

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Doula, I changed you age.  I hope you can find out what is going on with your body and hopefully get a bfp soon.

lilacvioletiris 12-10-2012 03:02 AM

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I know I shouldn't have done it, but yesterday,  was just feeling so nauseous and my breasts were tender so I did one of the internet cheapie pregnancy tests.  It was negative. Today my temp dropped below my coverline.  AF will likely be here today or tomorrow. 

hermesgoddess 12-10-2012 06:49 AM

Thank you... I hope the blood results (which I should have4 tomorrow) confirm everything & I can finally formally get excited. I can honetly say that i have never been so happy to feel so darn nauseous  (and I finally learned how to spell it consistently accurate  winky.gif).   I look forwward to jumping over to that other forum. Thanks for the link!

thebyr 12-10-2012 10:36 AM

I feel some kind of way - being back here... a year later.... in the same place. Some of you may remember me, some I've seen over in the loss section. 

Anyway - the short story is that... I started here out here in Sept 2011, got my BFP in November, suffered a 18 week loss in March, had uterine surgery in July and am now (finally) able to TTC again this cycle. I'm at CD8 and last month I O'd on day 18 of my 32 day cycle. Just Waiting to O. I'm 31 and hoping for a rainbow1284.gif.

It's kind of surreal to be back... but I'm glad I had somewhere to come back to. 


hola.gif to everyone! Sending you each the preggy juicegoodvibes.gif!

dakipode 12-10-2012 11:26 AM

librarygirl, doularebekah, lilac: sorry AF showed up. I hope this next month is luckier.


thebyr: I was stalking you in the waiting to TTC thread. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that your recovery went well and that you may get your baby soon!


AFM: been hanging back a bit lately. Not sure where we are this cycle. Doc told me to wait "a couple of months" but didn't stress to absolutely not do anything this month so I'm feeling a bit more NTNP. Still spotting a bit every day and temps are somewhat high though below my usual cover line. Need to go have more blood drawn today to make sure my hcg numbers reach zero.

Haven't done any christmas shopping yet either. My family tends to send things when it's convenient and usually we end up getting christmas presents around Mardh/April...

thebyr 12-10-2012 11:49 AM

Thank you dakipode! I had no idea that anyone knew I was hanging out round - feels like I've been in limbo SO long. Thank you for the thoughts - I appreciate that. I see you just had your loss - I hope your healing is swift and that your levels are back to normal. hug2.gif

dakipode 12-10-2012 12:30 PM

Thebyr: yes, I read september, october and november but was a bit intimidated to jump in given the length of the thread. Also I guess I sort of decided I'm going to ignore the doc regarding the waiting so I don't want to become part of a group that is geared towards supporting women who are following their doctor's orders... redface.gif

baileymarie 12-10-2012 12:36 PM

Hi everyone! Thanks for the warm welcomes.


justjenny--I'm inspired by your positive outlook! I also had a miscarriage around the same time as you. I hope all goes well with your appointment.


library girl--I'm sorry to hear this was not your month. What herbs have you been taking?


lilac--Keep thinking baby thoughts! Sorry to hear about the negative test. It's so hard to resist taking those. 


hermesgoddess--congrats and blessings to you!


doula--I hope you get some answers soon!


thebyr--welcome back! I'm sorry to hear of your loss.


dakipode--Hang in there. I like your family's laid back approach to gifts.



AFM--I am a CD 17. I may have ovulated around CD 15. I took an OPK that looked rather inconclusive that morning, but when I looked at the strip later the test line looked darker than the cover line. When I took another one in the evening it was negative. Unfortunately, our weekend was such that we didn't have sex. I was out all day Saturday and then we were so tired when we finally got to bed it just wasn't in the cards. But, we did make love on CD 13 so I guess there's a chance--we'll see. I had been hoping to start taking an herbal tincture to cleanse the womb this month, but it's not recommended if you are pregnant so now I guess I'll have to wait. Evidently it's ideal to start when you are bleeding since that is a cleansing time already. Everyone keeps telling me to RELAX, but it's easier said than done. I'm headed up to Oregon to deal with some difficult family situations on Thursday, so I guess that will at least distract me from obsessing in this waiting period. 

thebyr 12-10-2012 12:44 PM

ROTFLMAO.gif I like that! I probably wouldn't have either if my DH wasn't so gung-ho about being so cautious per the doc's orders. I like your attitude. At some point we have to take back our fertility. There is a book about that, right? 

thebyr 12-10-2012 02:19 PM

Hello baileymarie, thank you. Fingers crossed that you caught the egg. Sorry that you have to deal with difficult family stuff. Hopefully, you'll get some good news in a few weeks.

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