! I'm a low-volume participant here, as I'm starting to step away from TTC. But I like to stop in and check up on everyone
, I'm so glad to hear you didn't have a clot in your leg! But so sorry you're still having difficulties with providers.
Also sorry that others mamas planning UCs are being judgey with you, what's up with that? You have a lot of experience with this, and you know how your body works and how it births.
I know you were concerned about seeing an OB in the event that your blood pressure stabilizes and baby turns (prayers being sent your way for both!) and you can go ahead with plan A. But... couldn't you do that anyway? I mean, what if you found an OB you liked, started seeing her, and birthed in a hospital if you have wacky BP/breech baby... but if BP normalizes and baby turns, you go ahead and have your UC at home? Is the problem that for that you would need a midwife on call, not an OB? I do think it's important to have a provider you like and trust, whether midwife or OB.
I personally, for my body and the way it works and births, would most definitely want a hospital very close at hand... although I had a beautiful drug-free vaginal birth with DD, there were also unexpected complications at the last minute that made me actually glad to be in a hospital (shoulder dystocia, massive blood loss... I fear one or both of us might have perished at home without medical help). So I think if I ever have another baby, I'll probably just try to find the most pro-natural-childbirth OB I can find and do it in a hospital (which is what I did with #1
). BUT you have a very different situation, having successfully birthed a few babies at home. So you know what's best for you!
What does your partner feel about all of this?
BTW, my two cents'... there is absolutely nothing in any way hurtful or offensive about a wonderfully pregnant mama staying on board here! I personally love to hear your updates and I suspect that seeing a 40+ mama pregnant is nothing but inspiring to others. In the "old days" (that Chilee and I remember) there were a number of women who got pregnant and stayed so we could cheer them on.