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Oh LitMama, here's a new test to check for sperm issues which can cause so many miscarriages too.

http://www.spermcomet.com/healthcare...ermcomet-test/

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Litmama good genes!

we are super broke...no financial freedom here...lol
misplaced my youth traveling and indulging in all sorts.

i had a hsg dye test today...blocked right tube. i was surprised.

1 tube, 12.5 fsh and 46 in a few months..
i would not gamble with those odds, but i will have sex with them

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Litmama good genes!

we are super broke...no financial freedom here...lol
misplaced my youth traveling and indulging in all sorts.

i had a hsg dye test today...blocked right tube. i was surprised.

1 tube, 12.5 fsh and 46 in a few months..
i would not gamble with those odds, but i will have sex with them
good luck saoirse, you just never know what might happen when you're having fun

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Thanks Litmama for your encouraging words! I know there are meds out there with no sexual side effects or ones with less sexual side effects - but convincing my partner to talk to his doctor and ask for a switch - that's no easy task.

nexxus -if ONLY I could get some sperm in a cup - that would be fantastic! You see, he just can't finish the deed if you know what I mean - with me or without me.

At this point, our only chance would be a pregnancy from pre-ejaculatory fluid from a 47 year old man and my 46 year old egg. THAT would be a miracle I think. I don't see how it could happen

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Hi all,

Nexxus, how are you doing? I think you are the only active one here on the thread that is pregnant at the moment...? Hope all is going well.

AF just came on Friday, and I'm trying not to be in a foul mood over it. We did an HMG IUI cycle and it clearly did not work... not sure why. I just keep asking 'why'. I mean, we had 4 follicles in the running the day of the IUI, my lining looked perfect, estrogen was measuring good and I was on progesterone supplements as per the protocol-- and nothing. I don't know if it's poor quality eggs (at age 45, the docs were so surprised at what I was producing in terms of numbers, but, the quality can't be assessed, so...) or if I have some scarring from the D&C they did in December...but I heard scarring is quite rare, and I had a really experienced doc who was aware of my fertility concerns so he said he would be extra careful. My husband says it's because I'm 45.5 and he's 43 and we are just 'old'... gawd, I wish he knew just how much that hurts to hear that). So this was three HMG IUI's since October... it just makes my heart hurt so much, knowing that the first one worked in that I at least got pregnant, even though it wasn't viable... and then nothing. This third attempt is the last one with treatments, so now I guess we are back to trying naturally... but what are my chances with that... I couldn't conceive with 4, now I'm going to be back to hoping I have a chance with 1. Still getting regular cycles, just like clockwork... although I do notice them getting a bit shorter which my RE says is normal as we age-- it's the body's way of getting 'one more kick at the can' before it's too late. Well, i guess it means that we try to have fun during sex and take the pressure off of.

But seriously... I really feel like my family is incomplete, and I so wanted one more... I just need to make peace with things, right? What do I do with the yearnings? I never did think that the last time I nursed my youngest, that it would be the last time I would ever hold a baby to my breast... so I never recognized the occasion when she weaned, I never said 'good-bye'. I realize I never honored the ''lasts', in the same way that I did the 'firsts', you know? I always thought I would be able to experience those special things again...

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Hi all,

Nexxus, how are you doing? I think you are the only active one here on the thread that is pregnant at the moment...? Hope all is going well.

AF just came on Friday, and I'm trying not to be in a foul mood over it. We did an HMG IUI cycle and it clearly did not work... not sure why. I just keep asking 'why'. I mean, we had 4 follicles in the running the day of the IUI, my lining looked perfect, estrogen was measuring good and I was on progesterone supplements as per the protocol-- and nothing. I don't know if it's poor quality eggs (at age 45, the docs were so surprised at what I was producing in terms of numbers, but, the quality can't be assessed, so...) or if I have some scarring from the D&C they did in December...but I heard scarring is quite rare, and I had a really experienced doc who was aware of my fertility concerns so he said he would be extra careful. My husband says it's because I'm 45.5 and he's 43 and we are just 'old'... gawd, I wish he knew just how much that hurts to hear that). So this was three HMG IUI's since October... it just makes my heart hurt so much, knowing that the first one worked in that I at least got pregnant, even though it wasn't viable... and then nothing. This third attempt is the last one with treatments, so now I guess we are back to trying naturally... but what are my chances with that... I couldn't conceive with 4, now I'm going to be back to hoping I have a chance with 1. Still getting regular cycles, just like clockwork... although I do notice them getting a bit shorter which my RE says is normal as we age-- it's the body's way of getting 'one more kick at the can' before it's too late. Well, i guess it means that we try to have fun during sex and take the pressure off of.

But seriously... I really feel like my family is incomplete, and I so wanted one more... I just need to make peace with things, right? What do I do with the yearnings? I never did think that the last time I nursed my youngest, that it would be the last time I would ever hold a baby to my breast... so I never recognized the occasion when she weaned, I never said 'good-bye'. I realize I never honored the ''lasts', in the same way that I did the 'firsts', you know? I always thought I would be able to experience those special things again...
Hi tenzinsmama, yes i am still preggo, now almost 15.5 weeks. My 18 week Level 1 ultrasound will be on June 4. I think your best chance is the old fashioned way. Those who got pregnant at age 48 with own eggs did it naturally, also for us it was natural, me 44.5 and him 46.5 at conception. IMO it comes down to the timing, I knew we had a chance of it working in Feb. based on the astrology (position of Jupiter and outer planets). I think it happened on the second try for us because the timing was right. They say you only get 1-3 chances each year based on the astrology. Some years you only get one chance and some years are so bad you get zero chances which would make some feel like they losing hope but really it is just the timing of things. I think this explains why some people have multiple IVF's and IUI, only to get pregnant naturally later (timing was right). It's like catching a wave of energy in the universe that makes a baby possible. Also some people are born with far better fertility than others and some born with lousy fertility which can all be seen in the natal chart. Some people are destined to only have a child later in life after a huge delay. I think the best way to deal with the yearning for that baby is to keep trying and catch the next wave! Best of luck to you

Sorry to hear that orangemomma , He may be okay with you using donor sperm? If he has a brother, you could get donor sperm that way. Also there is ISCI.

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Hey good story here for older females and having babies. It says you have the same chances as a 20 year old if you time it right!

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/...a-baby/309374/

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Thanks for posting that article. How are things going?

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Thanks for posting that article. How are things going?
Hi tenzinsmama, I'll be 20 weeks on Saturday and I feel lots of movement since 17 weeks. Nausea is gone as of 13-14 weeks and I can eat healthy again... YAY. My 20 week scan got moved to next week. I'm taking "Baby and Me" by MegaFood vitamins. I just turned 45 on June 3

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Holy crap guys what do we have to be worried about...this lady got pregnant at age 52 with twins naturally:
http://www.parents.com/getting-pregn...regnant-at-50/

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Litmama good genes!

we are super broke...no financial freedom here...lol
misplaced my youth traveling and indulging in all sorts.

i had a hsg dye test today...blocked right tube. i was surprised.

1 tube, 12.5 fsh and 46 in a few months..
i would not gamble with those odds, but i will have sex with them
My HSG showed both my tubes were blocked. I had laparoscopic surgery to remove them in preparation for IVF, but it turned out they were totally fine. My situation is actually not that uncommon. The HSG is not that accurate of a test. I wish the doctors wouldn't present the results as definitive.
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My HSG showed both my tubes were blocked. I had laparoscopic surgery to remove them in preparation for IVF, but it turned out they were totally fine. My situation is actually not that uncommon. The HSG is not that accurate of a test. I wish the doctors wouldn't present the results as definitive.
Also, don't forget you can actually feel the egg going down the tube. At first you feel the egg burst from the follicle, then you'll feel it go down the tube, it takes 12 hours. And if you do feel this...you'll know the hsg test they did was BS. I only get pregnant from my right side ovary, because for some strange reason I mostly ovulate from this side, but the left side WORKS too because i can feel it (could feel it before I got pregnant)

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I'm 24 weeks now with baby boy just to give you guys hope! age 45!

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Thanks for checking in nexxus, I had been wondering how things were going for you! :-) yay!!
Nothing to report for me- we havent had sex in a few months- relationship issues surrounding DP's ED and other stuff. Sigh
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Thanks for checking in nexxus, I had been wondering how things were going for you! :-) yay!!
Nothing to report for me- we havent had sex in a few months- relationship issues surrounding DP's ED and other stuff. Sigh
Thanks orangemomma! I hope you are able to give it a try soon that's just so unfair...my younger sister (43) is on the other end of the spectrum ...afraid to have sex because she doesn't want another baby and her cut off age is 43, anything over that is too old. Her son is 6 and she thinks one is enough for her. I told her I think I'm one of those females who can have a baby in the late 40's (because my mom was preggo at age 48 and my Great Aunt at 58) and if it happens again I'd be happy...she thinks I'm crazy and so does my mom (who had 5 kids and thinks she should have stopped at 2!)

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