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#1231 of 1250 Old 04-26-2017, 01:21 PM
 
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Ah @Xerxella I'm sorry... That would feel so frustrating!! Do you have anything you feel like you want or need to add to what you are doing or are you good with what you have? Honestly the "do all the things" really can just be insane stressful with ttc...

I don't have any new pictures really... I had hcg numbers drawn last week expecting that they had maybe leveled out now that the second empty sack was probably absorbing, but they're still really elevated outside of normal. I have had to pull up my big girl undies and just focus on what I DO know right now... which is I'm still pg (10w this week) and there's no sense in panicking about something I don't know yet (abnormalities).

I have my NIPT genetic/gender screen bloodwork taken tomorrow, and in two weeks, a super good maternal-fetal-medicine ultrasound.

What I really really really want in my heart of hearts is the twin sack to have a magical growing baby in it along with the peanut we saw last time, for this upcoming scan, but if I can't have that, I'll take one very healthy baby, of course!
(I'm a twin).

I am grateful, and hopeful. I'll let you know if the genetic screen is ok and share a picture... I think I won't get results back for at least a week, maybe longer...
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Hi ladies. I'm in the same boat, no positive since we started TTC. So....I stopped temping and taking HPT. Not sure if it's worth still trying. I go through the motions, but don't expect much at this point. I've made peace with it, but don't think DH has/will. 😟 I'll be 42 in a few short months so, what will be will be.

I keeping my fingers crossed for you though @Xerxella ! 😜

@BirthFree do keep us updated! I pray that your scan will reveal 2 healthy beans. ❤💙❤💙 Be good to yourself.

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Our genetic screen was totally normal and... it's a girl!!!

We cried big huge happy tears together.
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Hi @superseeps and welcome! Happy you found us 😁 please feel free to post anything here.

I don't have much advice for your particular situation, but I'd suggest looking into vitex to help bring AF along.
I'm new here also @superseeps ...very early in the process of TTC. I'm 39 and he's 36, but still feel a bit of pressure. Just stopped taking the pill and all seems normal so far. Tried this past ovulation, so fingers crossed!!! Excited and nervous all at the same time.
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Hi @lizzabeth . Welcome and good luck.

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Thank you.

I'm on CD 58 and getting very frustrated. I've ordered my own blood work and I'm having my hormones tested on Monday. Depending on what I find I'll decide then if I need to involve my doctor or not. I hate going unless it's absolutely necessary.


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@AnnMarie - you have to type it (the name) yourself

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@AnnMarie - you have to type it (the name) yourself

@BirthFree <-- I meant would what I just did tag you? I think it's this though.... @BirthFree Or maybe that's not right either?

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I guess they both work. lol
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@BirthFree - Awesome news!!!! Wow! A little girl. How wonderful. Do you have a mix of boys and girls now? I think you've had the u/s by now. Hopefully, everything comes out ok.


Hi @AnnMarie and @lizzabeth - Hopefully you are both successful quickly.

@MeanVeggie - How's it going for you?

@superseeps - How are you doing?


AFM - I threw everything at this cycle and I'm 2 dpo today, so we'll see how it goes. Next cycle, we'll just try on our own and then the cycle after that I think we'll put back our last frozen embryo. It's a genetically normal boy. (But, we put back a genetically normal girl nine months ago and just got a chemical pregnancy.) After that we're done. It'll be time to hang up the old uterus and move on.
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@Xerxella sorry to hear about your chemical. I hope this cycle is better for you. How are you emotionally?

I'm not focused on TTC most of the month, but I am 10 dpo and had a bfn. Why I tested? I think it's habit. I have about 5 tests and figured I'll just use them up. Maybe 41.5 is just too late for me to get pregnant again. I still have mixed emotions...but what will be, will be.

I laughed 🤣at the "old uterus" comment. About time to hang my old one up too?
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Hello, ladies! I am excited to join you. DH and I decided to try for a third last year that ended in a MC in April 2016. I was 38 at the time and we thought maybe it was a sign and stopped TTC (we currently parent DD, 10 and DS, almost 7). Over the past year my desire for a third child has been growing. I recently had a moment of clarity where I felt absolutely certain that I want to start TTC again. I will be turning 40 in the next month and just started taking prenatals again with tentative plans to start TTC in August (I'm an academic and trying to work around my semester schedule to minimize unpaid leave when the baby comes).

Am I crazy for wanting a third baby at 40? There are so many reasons why this decision doesn't make sense (it will surely slow me down professionally and then the big one - can we REALLY afford another one???). But despite not knowing how, I just have a strong feeling we are meant to be a family of five. I LOVED being pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding...I felt stronger and happier than at any other time in my life. We LOVE having a baby in the house. It's just hard for me to accept that I'm "done." And approaching 40 has me realizing that time is going to start running out and if we are going to do this again, the time is now.

Anyway, I'm a longtime supporter and once-frequent contributor to Mothering and thought I'd get my feet wet again by jumping in here with y'all. Would love to hear some thoughts on how you came to the decision about TTC in your forties.
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I didn't feel done... not only that but I REALLY really didn't feel done... my heart ached for our missing person, and I'm healthy, we have lots of love (maybe not lots of $ ), and when my husband was agreeable it was awesome (that took a year in and of itself).

I have a 15, 13, 11, 9, and 5yo... I don't care if it starts us over... there's nothing more I'd prefer to invest in than the little/big people we raise. They are amazing (and make me nuts, sometimes too).

I was (we were) very done, 5y ago, but life changed some things and here we are.

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Hello, ladies! I am excited to join you. DH and I decided to try for a third last year that ended in a MC in April 2016. I was 38 at the time and we thought maybe it was a sign and stopped TTC (we currently parent DD, 10 and DS, almost 7). Over the past year my desire for a third child has been growing. I recently had a moment of clarity where I felt absolutely certain that I want to start TTC again. I will be turning 40 in the next month and just started taking prenatals again with tentative plans to start TTC in August (I'm an academic and trying to work around my semester schedule to minimize unpaid leave when the baby comes).

Am I crazy for wanting a third baby at 40? There are so many reasons why this decision doesn't make sense (it will surely slow me down professionally and then the big one - can we REALLY afford another one???). But despite not knowing how, I just have a strong feeling we are meant to be a family of five. I LOVED being pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding...I felt stronger and happier than at any other time in my life. We LOVE having a baby in the house. It's just hard for me to accept that I'm "done." And approaching 40 has me realizing that time is going to start running out and if we are going to do this again, the time is now.

Anyway, I'm a longtime supporter and once-frequent contributor to Mothering and thought I'd get my feet wet again by jumping in here with y'all. Would love to hear some thoughts on how you came to the decision about TTC in your forties.
You're not yet 40? You are still young. Of course you are not crazy. You are normal. Many women have babies 40 and up. I had my second child at age 41, conceiving on the first try at age 40.

Age 43 was where my fertility dropped. It took me 14mths to conceive number 3 (I was active on this list when ttc for my dd now 5yrs old) I did eventually conceive at 44 and gave birth a week shy of my 45th birthday.

I admit that age 44/45 is unusual, and I feel blessed ( I used artificial insemination because Im single but otherwise the conceptions pregnancies and births were drug free . I took natural progesterone cream as a precaution during the first trimester when age 40 and 44)

Dont think you're crazy. My experience at age 40 is common. My cycle was robust at that age, as is the case for many women.
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A desire for a new child is great, but for me it's also important to have enough recourses to feed and raise a baby..
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Well of course it is for all of us.

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Of course! I would never consider bearing a child I couldn't responsibly care for. We are very fortunate to live comfortably, with two professional incomes. But we also have two children in private school and having a third would definitely necessitate some financial sacrifices (as it does for everyone), since it would mean spreading our resources across three kids instead of two. And that feels a little scary to me.

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This thread is for those in their 40's ttc. Of course, it is desirable to be able support a child. But what has that to do with this thread?

I call troll

Baby dust to those ttc.
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Wow! I've been away for awhile and there are lots of new members! Awesome! Baby dust to all!


AFM - This is our last month trying on our own and the timing was fine, but the cycle didn't feel like a good one. (Basically no EWCM). Anyway. After this I go on BCP and we put back our last frostie (eek!) at about the end of August. Our previous frostie didn't work, so we'll see how this one goes.
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