Caritasrainbow - sorry for your loss :-(
For me, I don't really know where I am at with all of this on a mental level. I think that our chances would be better if we just BD'ed more, ya know? But with my partner's ED the opportunities don't happen all that frequently (this is with ED meds, without there are NO opportunities)
There was a slim chance this month but I have the most raging case of PMS - I am beyond belief irritable. This has happened to me monthly since hitting my 40's - not really ever a problem in my 20's and 30's. I will bleed soon. I just want AF to arrive already.
LitMama and MamadeRumi - Again ladies, thank you so much for advice and sharing your stories. I have an appointment next week with my OB/GYN so we can get to the bottom of things. Right now on CD 16 which is 1 dpo. Considering my 24 day cycle, it just isn't going to work! I'll take my data and list of tests and see what comes of it. If labs are drawn, it will be immediate as they have full lab services in her office. Will update after my appointment.
caritasrainbow - I was sorry to read you didn't keep the BFP... I had so much hope! At least now you are sure about what you want and don't want to give up.
BTW - I am loving the Ovacue. It gave a 7-day advance indication of O-day. I could track the trends of my increasing estrogen levels leading up to the LH surge, and could also confirm ovulation by following the rise of progesterone! My CBFM gave me 3 bars (peak fertility) the morning that the Ovacue said I ovulated. Considering we usually BD at night, I might have missed the window completely! However, with a projected short LP I have low hopes for a good outcome this time around. Darn it... I'm ready to get this show on the road!
Wow. I honestly never thought I'd find myself on this site again. My journey began in May of this year when I was shocked and elated to find out I was pregnant with my first child at 40. It wasn't planned -- I was on birth control pills. Somehow, I managed to defy all the odds of conception given this and my age, but I did. At eight weeks, I miscarried and had to have a D&C procedure. It was just about the most awful experience of my life.
After the miscarriage, I had pretty much resolved myself to motherhood not being in the cards for me. I felt like mother nature had sent me a message of sorts and that my window of fertility was finally closing. I wasn't happy about it, but I suppose I had to learn to accept it. I did everything I could to put it out of my mind and move on. Through both of my siblings having babies through the years, I have always been there...wearing my 'Super Aunt' hat with love and pride.
This month, my fiance and I decided to chart my cycle to determine my fertile window. It honestly was kind of a game. He dared me to entertain the idea that I could actually get pregnant again and I agreed to play along. Much to our surprise and astonishment, I tested positive on three different tests yesterday and today. We are overjoyed and truly stunned that it happened so quickly.
I pray that this time my pregnancy is successful and there are no complications. I want so badly to have a child and watching the years go by knowing my biological clock is probably teetering and sputtering is incredibly daunting. I'm doing my best to be calm and positive, but I also know that nothing is ever a guarantee.
I'm very happy to be here with all of you and hope we all become friends throughout this journey.
My best wishes to all my fellow 40 somethings who, like me, are determined to defy the odds.
I hope it's a sticky little bean caritasrainbow! Keep us posted.
I dropped by here the other day to read about other 40+ moms and their experiences with conception and IVF and suddenly I find myself in an unexpected place: I think I'm pregnant. I'm a few days late and we've definitely been trying but we didn't think it was going to happen. We had visited a fertility doc at the recommendation of my midwife. (Our son born last November was conceived on the first try.) The doc was planning to get me started with IVF, so we were sure we had a super slim chance of conceiving. They were expecting me to call to announce the arrival of my period and I had to call to tell them it never came. I thought I could just test at home and proceed with my midwife but they wanted to confirm the positive with a blood test. I'm excited and extremely nervous as I wait for results later today. I don't know what to think and I'm not feeling the symptoms I had with our son. If I am indeed pregnant and all goes well, we will be SO thrilled. I can't share this news with anyone because I have a younger sister trying to conceive her first via IVF right now and it's been a very tough road for her.
Hugs and warm wishes to all!
Caritasrainbow, I'm right there with you! I'm somewhat shocked, a bit anxious, and also feeling tired and hungry. I go for my second blood test tomorrow. First one (obviously) went well and the nurse scheduled the second and told me an ultrasound will follow if all is well. Exciting and a little scary.
I've already had to dodge a question from my mother about this. Ugh. So thankful I can write here and feel like I'm expressing my excitement and joy. I'm a little overwhelmed with guilt because my sister has been trying so hard for so long. Sigh...
This sounds completely within normal range! American Preg association lists a range of 5-426, and I found a fertility clinic and some websites that all list the hcg average for 14dpo as being 48 with a range of 17-119.
Also, in my math nerdyness, I did some calculations.
Starting at 76, if you double every 3 days then by 7 wks that would put you around 9728 (very close to what the nurse mentioned as your number last time).
However, if your hcg doubles every 2 days that would give you a 7 week figure of around 77,000. So looking at that initial number it looks like you're plenty within range to see some very nice hcg numbers.
Don't be bummed about the start and what some dodo said. Have faith that this IS that special pregnancy and enjoy it for all the potential it holds!
Hello All: Mind if I join in? My name is Tabitha, and I'm a military spouse who is currently living in Wiesbaden, Germany with my DH and family. I turned 40 on November 18, and we've been casually TTC for the last three months. I have six wonderful DSs (see signature), ranging in age from almost 14 yrs to 15 months. I've also had six MCs, so I know that getting pregnant and staying pregnant are definitely not one and the same!
Anyhow, it's nice to find a group of mamas who are going down a similar path. We would love to grow our family, but are realistic about our chances of conceiving again at our ages (DH is 44), so we are also open to foster/adopt when we get back to the states in 2.5 years. That said, my Day 3 fertility testing #s from last month were essentially the same as they were four years ago, so I have some hope of success. I'm currently 12 DPO, and woke up feeling kinda drowsy, warm, and mildly queasy as well (which is how I usually feel right around the time that I get a BFP) with sore breasts. I've decided I don't want to see a BFN again, so I'm not testing until 15 DPO. This is a huge week for my DH, work-wise, so I'd kinda like to surprise him with a BFP :).
Nice to meet you, and BFP wishes to all!
OK so 76 to 146.8 is as close to doubling as it needs to be... it's a guideline, not a decree! I read some studies showing hcg doubling and boy babies tend to walk right on that line of exactly double, where girls tend to speed up and do a little more than double. So maybe it's a boy.
I did my nerdy calculations and if you had done that hcg second sample around noon, your number would likely have been 151.5 which is right at the doubling mark (of 152).
Be happy my dear! Things look good, although your doc's office sounds a bit wacky!
I'm not well versed on progesterone, but I know above 15 is considered A-OK in early pregnancy. I'll do a little digging to see if I can find any research with more info. I'm super excited for you!
carita - here's the info on progesterone and hcg during early pregnancy from the APA.
Progesterone levels can have quite a variance. They can range from 9-47ng/ml in the first trimester, with an average of 12-20ng/ml in the first 5-6 weeks of pregnancy.
With both hCG levels and progesterone levels, it is not the single value that can predict a healthy pregnancy outcome. It is more important to evaluate two different values to see if the numbers are increasing. Levels of hCG should be increasing by at least 60 % every 2-3 days, but ideally doubling every 48-72 hours.
Accordingly, your stats so far are perfect. Woohoo!
carita - I totally get where you're coming from about joking but we DO have to live a little. It can't all be serious. I was an ICU nurse in one of the most high acuity units in the country. It was bad in there - 1 in 5 patients died, even with the best in US medical care. We gave blood, sweat and tears every day and it sucked the life out of me. That being said, we still joked. It's life - and it feels good to let loose of the reigns a little bit and be a goof sometimes.
I look forward to your update with new blood results. I bet you're going to find they look great and hopefully that will make you start to feel a little more optimistic. Realizing your history, there will never be zero worry, but you can't live life in that shadow!
I've been lurking and really not sure where I stand... I'll be 43 in 2 weeks. I have 4 kids ranging from 14-23. I got remarried this summer and we conceived in July on the 1st try. I miscarried at 11 weeks in September. We conceived again the next cycle and I miscarried at 6 weeks on November 30th. I'm close to ovulating again and I know conceiving isn't my issue, so I've just been trying to decide if I'm ready to try again. I think I came to the conclusion today that trying again is more helpful to my healing process than sitting out a cycle and feeling sad. I know I'm healthy and that this is just my healthy body eliminating unhealthy embryos.... I'm tired of hearing statistics and horror stories. I was really relieved to read of some success stories in this thread. I know that positive attitude has such a huge impact. So I guess I'm here... and I hope that I can be a productive and supportive addition to the group :)