1. Have any of you done counseling if you are having a tough time ttc?
No, I did not see a counselor but I did go through some very dark days and a good therapist might have helped. I basically relied on DH for support (which was hard because I know he was hurting too).
2. What can I expect from the wtf appointment? All I know is that the gyn brushed off my concern at 6 mo and said, "see you and your husband back in 6 mo if you're not pregnant" (I am seeing a different doc 5/9)
Depending on your age, it's not uncommon for doctors to want to wait until the 12 month mark. My first infertility apps (I went to an RE) consisted of blood tests for myself and DH, spermanalysis, and after, an HSG (this was after several failed IUIs).
3. Do your friends know that you are ttc or trouble ttc? (only a few do for us)
I was pretty reserved about the whole thing. However, the longer it took, the more I opened up. I tended to open up more around other women who had difficulty. It was just annoying talking about it with women who conceived easily because they just couldn't get what I was going through and would often say something insensitive (albeit, unintentionally). Eventually, all my friends knew. When it takes as long as we took and they already know we've been trying, it's not hard to put 2 and 2 together.