A close friend of mine is 40 and wants to have another baby. She never had any problems conceiving in the past and in fact was pregnant recently too but miscarried. She says he current OB is not supportive of TTC over 35 at all but she doesn't know how to go about finding someone who is. Does anyone have any suggestions that I can pass along?
Why not a midwife, instead of an OB? They tend to be more supportive in general...
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It isnt uncommon to have children over 40, and over 35, well thats very very common. Her OB is an idiot. I would encourage her to change to a different one on for that reason alone. Find another OB, or a midwife. Dont let an idiot like that discourage her.
DDX5 '88 '90 '92 '97 '99. TR 5/2011. HSG 9/2011 R TUBE OPEN. HSG 5/12 both tubes closed. SECOND tubal reversal surgery 7/12 , CP 3/2013 ttc "our" first @40 DH 46.
I'm going to go ahead and agree. I've already had one of my kids over 35 and when I told my OB that we were going to try for one more, he didn't even blink. Cheez Liouse.
As to how to find another OB, tell her to go to her health insurance website and perform a search for providers in her area. She could also ask her friends about their doctors.
Thanks everyone! Sorry for the late replies, I have had some personal things come up and hadn't been back here in a while. Anyway...
She can't afford a midwife and there aren't many options in her area anyway. The state she's in is rather restrictive regarding midwives too (though not as bad as some, but still not terribly easy going) and I think she would risk out, even though she'd had perfect pregnancies before. She's also on state insurance so that limits her to OBs only as well. (Not legally married and her state won't let her on her husband's insurance unless they officially get married.) I will suggest she start checking with high risk obs. She feels confident about her decision, just needs to find a doc that isn't going to give her a really hard time about it.
Sadly it is different in her state. State insurance won't cover midwives, unless it's a CNM and a hospital birth. The only CNM in her area (3 hour radius) works with her current OB and can't take patients over 35, per the OBs rules.
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