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We have a 6 and 8 year old but started dreaming baby again after I got unexpectantly pregnant this summer.  I am in the middle of a missed miscarriage and so sad about it.  However, it does have me thinking about actually *trying* again.  I thought we were done but now not so sure.  Does anyone know what the odds are of us having a healthy babe at our advanced age :) (me 43 and hubby 46).  Thanks!

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I don't know the odds per se but plenty of women have healthy babies at 43. My friend in France just had a beautiful baby boy at 43! Sorry about your miscarriage. It's good your are acknowledging your feelings and grieving! ( hugs to you)
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This article indirectly will help you with some answers. The author has done extensive reviews of available literature regarding TTC at an "advanced maternal age". Best of luck!

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/2/

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And blessing to you while you are greiving. Sorry for your loss. xoxo
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I am so sorry for what you are going through.  I couldn't read your post without responding.  Two years ago, I was where you are now.

 

At that time, dd was 4 1/2 years old.  Dh and I had made the tough decision that she would be our only.  When I found myself unexpectedly pregnant, I went through a gamut of feelings, but in the end I was overjoyed for my "second chance".  Then, I miscarried at 9 weeks.  I was devastated.  I was so afraid that I was too old to have another child.

 

I gave myself time to grieve, went on a "fertility cleanse," and made dh (who was 50 at the time) go on a "fertility cleanse" as well.  (I don't know if the fertility cleanse helped or not, but it made me feel empowered for the months I was grieving before we TTC).  Five months after the miscarriage, I was pregnant!  I was 44 when I gave birth to my amazing, wonderful, pure bundle of joy - dd2.  I had a picture perfect pregnancy and had an easy birth.

 

We are getting ready to celebrate dd2 1st at the end of this month.  :love 

 

BTW - I have a good friend, who is 44 and pregnant.  The pregnancy was a surprise for them too.  She is in her 2nd trimester and everything is going beautifully!

 

There is hope.  Sending :stillheart your way.

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Thank you so much for your kind responses.  I am grateful.  It is such a painful time right now.

 

Isaoma - what fertility cleanse did you go on?  That sounds like a good thing to do :).

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Isaoma - what fertility cleanse did you go on?  That sounds like a good thing to do :).

 

I did a lot of reading and came across this website:

http://natural-fertility-info.com/prepare-for-conception

 

The article focuses on getting your body ready for conception by cleansingexcess hormones (psuedo-estrogens for example).  Basically, it is a liver cleanse by itself or with a uterine cleanse  I felt it helped my body recover from the miscarriage as well.  I didn't buy their cleanse products, but took their advice.  Along with the herbs they recommended, I also ate greens, sprouts, and wheatgrass.  I'll write more later - by 11 month old wants my full attention.

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