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#1 of 4 Old 12-12-2013, 12:56 AM - Thread Starter
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I guess I should start with the fact that my last period started on November 8th (on my birthday-yippie!) I wasn't 100% sure when I was ovulating, (not even thinking much about it because of the upcoming holidays)  but I suspected it would have been around Nov. 21st. 


On November 29th, I woke up with some light bleeding. I thought it was the start of an early arrival of AF, but that never happens to me so I thought.. " maybe it's just because of stress." even though I wasn't really stressed and throughout the day it disappeared.

The next week was very interesting.. I got extremely emotional.. cried over one little piece of trash I found in my yard. I just chalked it up to be connected to the spotting I previously had. I noticed I had really bad gas..went on for days.. (TMI I know, sorry!) but I figured that was just some sort of stomach bug, because I had the big D one time during that week and felt nauseated. Overall, I felt fine.  By this point I wasn't thinking about pregnancy, until... I got moody with my sister and she said "Jeeze, you must be pregnant" .. Then it all added up.. and I decided I should do the math,  


AF was due back December 5th or sometime that following weekend. (I've had irregular periods before) but I took a test on the 6th and it was negative. 

Now, Almost a week after the BFN the "symptoms" are practically gone..Except I have a lingering dull headache and STILL no AF.  


Could it have just been too early for a +? 

Symptoms= a coincidence? 

So many questions running through my head. lol

I want to test again, but I'm afraid of the result.. I feel hopeless. 

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#2 of 4 Old 12-15-2013, 03:47 PM
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:Hug to you. That sounds very confusing. I don't have any specific experiences to share, but I couldn't read and not reply. I hope others will be able to chime in with more helpful experiences. Do you have a midwife or OB that you'd feeling comfortable seeing; they could do a blood test for pregnant and also check your hormone levels which might help you know more about what is happening. Good luck!

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I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. :Hug


The cycle before this one, my first cycle actively TTC, I had very similar circumstances. That cycle ended up being 45 days long, I got 3 BFN's and tons of uncomfortable symptoms. My own research pointed to a functional cyst (basically means when you are due to ovulate the cyst that releases the egg and turns into corpus luteum doesn't perform all of its correct functions, gets big, sometimes fluid filled and can make AF irregular, sore breasts, and other uncomfortable stuff.) Its not PCOS, just a fluke that can happen during childbearing years at ovulation time. Sometimes its good to actually go into your doctor with this and they can see the cyst on U/S to see if it will pass on its own or a medical measure is needed. I told my DP that I'd see a doctor if AF didn't start in the next day or so but meanwhile started doing some stuff I had learned about like progesterone cream, Vitex, Maca, pineapple core, and nightly castor oil packs. (I already take B6 in a complex). AF appeared on her own shortly thereafter and my symptoms disappeared. This cycle was normal and comfortable and my temps showed me clearly that I ovulated on time.  


I hope you find your answers and eventually your BFP.  Maybe my info above will point you in a direction to start?  Take good care of yourself.

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Thanks for the support. I really appreciate it. :)


 It's cycle day 39 for me right now and I plan to take another test (if AF hasn't come by then) on the 20th. I want to be sure there has definitely been enough time for HcG levels to be high enough to detect.  But whether it's + or - I'm making an appointment either way to get checked out. 


I'm currently experiencing some clear discharge, and I have felt like AF is coming all day.. with a million trips to the bathroom to check, but it's clear. I'm still extremely moody.. . lol I don't know if it's stress causing moodiness, or moodiness causing stress though. 

 I've been trying to put it in the back of my mind and relax, and it seems to help, but then something will happen that resembles pregnancy symptoms and I'm back to thinking about it again. lol 


I honestly don't feel like I am pregnant now... I just know something is up, and I want to eliminate the possibility before I make appointments. Plus, I have a slight phobia of needles and people (should say strangers) prodding around my lady parts so I'm delaying going to the OB as long as I can. Awful right? lol ahh.. 

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