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#331 of 461 Old 06-20-2014, 09:01 AM
 
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Yah, I don't get your point seeing as how you were first in line to thank me for calling out the last person...but I'm sure it's easier for you to take it now. Funny how people change their attitudes to accommodate their particular situation.....

But the rest of us that are still TTC, are not pregnant - and it's a slap in the face. Did she intend on slapping us in the face? No. But is it still a shitty move? Absolutely.
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Smile I'm so sorry, completely joking

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Sorry, not trying to "rub it in"? I actually legit wanted some help. I'm sorry, you probably don't know this about me but I'm very, very sensitive to people throwing me bad vibes. It actually took me a long time to join this forum just because I'm superstitious.

I am so sorry, never in a million years did I mean to be nasty. I have been trying to link my own chart for days and can't figure out how. I would never say something like that. Please accept my apology. I do often suffer from foot in mouth syndrome. But seriously, I never thought you were trying to rub your actual chart in, just the fact that you could figure out how to link it to your post. I had asked for some help a few times in linking my own chart. So, I was joking when I saw that you actually know how to link a chart and I still can't even figure that out. Again, please accept my deepest apology if I hurt your feelings. I guess I assumed that it was known that I'm a bit of a song bat when it comes to linking stuff and was honestly just being playful. I want to link my chart for the same reason, I need help and haven't been charting for long and wanted some input from the experts. I've definitely have tried to get to know all the ladies that have been here a while, I only joined this thread in may and want to be a positive source of encouragement and hope to develop trusting and kind friendships. Please let me know if I've removed my foot from my proverbial mouth. I hope you accept my apology. I was being playful . Hurting someone's feelings was my last intention. Hopefully once I figure out how to link my chart we can both try to help each other out. I don't want there to be any feelings of insecurity or hurt. This is a safe haven for us all and don't want to mess that up. I'm pretty much a wimp when it comes to being mean...it's just not me. I truly pray that you accept my apology and understand that I was joking about my own inability to figure out simple technology. Not about your actual chart, which I think looks really good, and lengthening your lp.

I'm going to search where I found my info about lengthening lp. The ladies on the +40 club are a wealth of knowledge (I'm over 40 but don't possess the same.knowledge). At the beginning of the thread there is a ton of info on supplements. Thank you again for your input on the CBE. You and a few others saved me from throwing out $200+...I really think that if I get my charting knowledge and my supplements straight that I'll be ok, praying. Definitely going to get tcoyf. Have and awesome day and please don't let my stupid, meant to be funny, comment, hurt your feelings in any way. I feel.awful....and really was referring to the ability to link, not the chart itself.
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I'm sorry if my post was inappropriate. I know this is the TTC forum not therapy for young adults with dysfunctional families. I'm sorry guys. I'm in a total fog. I'll try to be more active in coming through and supporting you all in your journeys. Forgive me.

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Yah, I don't get your point seeing as how you were first in line to thank me for calling out the last person...but I'm sure it's easier for you to take it now. Funny how people change their attitudes to accommodate their particular situation.....

But the rest of us that are still TTC, are not pregnant - and it's a slap in the face. Did she intend on slapping us in the face? No. But is it still a shitty move? Absolutely.
I figured that would be your reaction. I guess I tried to grow after how the last one went.

Anyway I think I'll avoid the bad karma and stress this thread is now about since it's stressful enough being barely pregnant after a miscarriage. If I happen to lose this one I'll fend for myself.
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I am so sorry, never in a million years did I mean to be nasty. I have been trying to link my own chart for days and can't figure out how. I would never say something like that. Please accept my apology. I do often suffer from foot in mouth syndrome. But seriously, I never thought you were trying to rub your actual chart in, just the fact that you could figure out how to link it to your post. I had asked for some help a few times in linking my own chart. So, I was joking when I saw that you actually know how to link a chart and I still can't even figure that out. Again, please accept my deepest apology if I hurt your feelings. I guess I assumed that it was known that I'm a bit of a song bat when it comes to linking stuff and was honestly just being playful. I want to link my chart for the same reason, I need help and haven't been charting for long and wanted some input from the experts. I've definitely have tried to get to know all the ladies that have been here a while, I only joined this thread in may and want to be a positive source of encouragement and hope to develop trusting and kind friendships. Please let me know if I've removed my foot from my proverbial mouth. I hope you accept my apology. I was being playful . Hurting someone's feelings was my last intention. Hopefully once I figure out how to link my chart we can both try to help each other out. I don't want there to be any feelings of insecurity or hurt. This is a safe haven for us all and don't want to mess that up. I'm pretty much a wimp when it comes to being mean...it's just not me. I truly pray that you accept my apology and understand that I was joking about my own inability to figure out simple technology. Not about your actual chart, which I think looks really good, and lengthening your lp.

I'm going to search where I found my info about lengthening lp. The ladies on the +40 club are a wealth of knowledge (I'm over 40 but don't possess the same.knowledge). At the beginning of the thread there is a ton of info on supplements. Thank you again for your input on the CBE. You and a few others saved me from throwing out $200+...I really think that if I get my charting knowledge and my supplements straight that I'll be ok, praying. Definitely going to get tcoyf. Have and awesome day and please don't let my stupid, meant to be funny, comment, hurt your feelings in any way. I feel.awful....and really was referring to the ability to link, not the chart itself.
Totally accepted I'm just a crazy superstitious woman, what can I say? I'm sure we all have our weird TTC quirks.
@bren94 I'm so sorry this is ruining your happy moment. MY MIL reacted similarly when I got pregnant with my son and I just decided to ignore her (potentially this is where my weird superstitions come from???). The only thing that's important is that you and your DH are on the same page, so work on that relationship first. Your husband is scared and panicking. Go out to dinner, talk this over, try to figure out what he's really afraid of, and try to work on a concrete plan of action. IMPE, men do best when there's a "plan."
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@SeattleRain Thank you. I'm going to keep working on it. I appreciate your input so much.

@alivewithyou PLEASE don't leave. That'd be totally crazy. You are loved and supported here. & our babies have due dates close to each other! You are virtually in the same stage of gestation as me so I need you, girl! I know things are difficult and emotional (for all of us) right now but please hold on. Let's just think positive! & others need your support here too. You've had a difficult journey and your experience helps others.

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Gosh ladies, it's sad to come onto this "support community" and see negativity spreading from what seems like an honest mistake. TTC is such a personal and sensitive journey and we all owe it to ourselves and others to be gentle. It seems that many of you were hurt by the "drop in BFP" announcement, and you are entitled to your feelings, as we all are. From my perspective the reactions seem harsh towards a woman who has had struggles and loss and is trying to navigate her own emotions during an uncertain time (the beginning of a pregnancy after a loss). Maybe this wasn't the best place to post her announcement, but there are kinder ways to let her know, and she very openly apologized immediately and asked for clarification so not to hurt anyone else, so to continue to fuel the fight against her seems to go against the supportive nature of this thread that so many have worked hard to establish. We can't all post daily or keep up as regularly as some members, but everyone has feelings and we are all imperfect humans.

Anyways, I am not trying to further the debate, or cause anymore backlashes. I hope my observations are a positive addition to the thread. It seems like some are now walking on egg-shells and that fear is taking away from the purpose of this group...to support and encourage.
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I'm an old-timer (relatively) and have been lurking on and off in this thread since last summer when we were supposed to start TTC. We're delaying until August this year for a few reasons and now that I'm almost back in the game I was considering posting soon and joining the community here.

It is my understanding that, historically, the ONE thread was the easy breezy TTC thread for those that were in their TWW and wanted company symptom spotting, or wanted more info on certain things like charting, or timing, or what have you and often stays were short, sometimes just a few posts worth. There were other threads for people that were TTC 6+ months or 1+ year, or are having fertility troubles, so that there isn't this kind of friction.

If I am incorrect, please let me know and I will post elsewhere when we decide to get down to business.
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I am on my way out to my ultrasound. I started back up with a hint of spotting this morning and my nausea is pretty much gone today. So they booked it asap even though I had originally wanted to wait until next week. I will try to figure out what I can from the screen but I know I will have to wait until later today for the doctor to call me with results.

Sorry about an all-about-me post. I want to reach out to everyone but I have to book it this morning and I will be back to post later.

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@suzywan Well, I haven't seen any TTC threads that are that specific but I'm fairly new so perhaps I'm wrong! I like that there are people with diverse pasts here. But I get it. I felt an underlying sense of guilt when posting my BFP news after 2 months (a little more than that before a break) of TTC. I felt like why would some women want to know I conceived with ease when they've been struggling for months or even years. But then I remembered these women are my FRIENDS. Truly they are. I know they feel happy for me even though it stings a little too. I know that they understand that everyone has struggles even when they don't have trouble conceiving. I like that we all join together. It's tough but rewarding. Also, on a somewhat unrelated note, I know there is a Over 40 TTC forum and I know @ayme371 could leave us for them but I'm SO grateful that she hasn't! She is such a great friend and support system.

@jenjy Good luck girl! Fx all is well. We're rooting for you!
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I'm an April/early may graduate of the TTC thread, I come back and peek to see how everyone's doing every now and then.
@bren94 and @alivewithyou (I still seem to have trouble tagging people ever since the switch to the new format...) - if and when you're ready, there is a thread for anyone who's graduated from the TTC forum. I know there's this in-between stage when you're *barely* pregnant and so anxious. I debated for a while whether or not to join the Grad thread this time around because I had a chemical/super early miscarriage and now at 11 1/2 weeks I still jump at every twinge and pull, but I've found that because everyone in the grad thread is a graduate of the TTC forum, everyone understands, usually more so than in the due date club, what worries and anxieties come with finally getting that BFP.
Grad Club: Where the group discussion continues after the ONE thread!
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I'm an old-timer (relatively) and have been lurking on and off in this thread since last summer when we were supposed to start TTC. We're delaying until August this year for a few reasons and now that I'm almost back in the game I was considering posting soon and joining the community here.

It is my understanding that, historically, the ONE thread was the easy breezy TTC thread for those that were in their TWW and wanted company symptom spotting, or wanted more info on certain things like charting, or timing, or what have you and often stays were short, sometimes just a few posts worth. There were other threads for people that were TTC 6+ months or 1+ year, or are having fertility troubles, so that there isn't this kind of friction.

If I am incorrect, please let me know and I will post elsewhere when we decide to get down to business.

You are correct...i forgot about the longer ttc forums, but there are not as many people on mdc anymore. it is very slow so the ONE thread has become almost literally the one thread


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@rosie2727 - I understand where you're coming from. This can be a very stressful and heartbreaking journey.
@SeattleRain - I had issues with a short LP (10 days) when we first started this journey. I started taking EPO to help with that up until I O. My naturopath also put me on vitex to help with my LP. We were able to get it to 12 days (sometimes 13).
@tinytina - good luck with your paper. I'd love to hear more about the donor process just in case DH and I have to go down that route.
@bren94 - Stupid people I'm pissed off on your behalf. My sister got pregnant when she was 17 and a lot of people thought she should give the baby up for adoption. She and the father decided to keep that baby and with support from my family and his they both finished high school. She's going to be finishing up a business degree this year. They both have good jobs. 1.5 years ago they had a second baby and will be getting married in October. That was only 5 years ago. Tell your mom that story next time she starts in on you.

AFM - well my temps dipped a little this morning but still above the cover line and i think they were high yesterday because I woke up super warm from being under my blanket and DH's. I'm feeling a little off this morning but I'm trying not to get my hopes up since AF is due any minute now. I think if she doesn't show by Sunday I will test and see what happens.

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@Bren sounds like you could do with a hug and some support from your mum and partner. I'm sure they will fall absolutely head-over-heels in love with the new life you are growing, it just might take them time to wrap their heads around it (which is pants for you in the meantime). Did your mum know you were ttc?

@jenjy I'm literally on edge waiting for your ultrasound results. There will be some happy tears when you log back in with good news- its hard not to feel so absolutely full of hope for you. And please know that if the news isn't good, we are all here to share some of that pain. I've been very moved by your story.
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Everything is going to be ok! :hugs

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I think the more important thing to focus on is intent . Did she really intend to offend everyone? No. And last time we got mad at someone for posting something like this they ended up miscarrying anyway. The fact is that I've been gutted plenty of times on this board but it's because of my own personal feelings related to ttc and the disappointment and frustration that had come along with it. I guess I just try not to judge a book by its cover especially when they have had a previous loss. Maybe she was trying to provide hope for those that have had miscarriages. Maybe next time we ask for clarification. Just my thoughts and I know they are not popular ones so I apologize in advance.
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I am on my way out to my ultrasound. I started back up with a hint of spotting this morning and my nausea is pretty much gone today. So they booked it asap even though I had originally wanted to wait until next week. I will try to figure out what I can from the screen but I know I will have to wait until later today for the doctor to call me with results.

Sorry about an all-about-me post. I want to reach out to everyone but I have to book it this morning and I will be back to post later.

Hugs everyone.
Hi jenjy... I'm seriously praying for you (I hope your not offended, I'm not sure what your beliefs are). But prayer and just talking to Him have brought me much relief and a sense of peace in times like these. Hand your worries over to Him, if that isn't your belief...hand your fears over to who ever you do believe in, please don't be scared or discouraged, I'm sure that is next to impossible right now, but I have faith that everything WILL BE WONDERFULL FOR YOU! I "see" you and your family celebrating the new life that you are meant to bring into this world. I know that the signs point in a negative direction, but please keep your thoughts/faith heading in a positive direction....that this baby is growing healthy and strong. Please keep us posted as much as you can.

I'm sure most of us would like to be by your side right now to reassure and give you strength! You are in my thoughts and prayers!
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I do understand where you guys are coming from. Honestly, after I lost my last pregnancy. I was pretty upset. I deleted all of the pregnancy apps off my phone and tried to move on and forget what happened. That included no longer logging in to mothering while I had to wait. I've never been successful (up to this point) in having a baby. In my mind, though I have recd a bfp, I am no where near in the safe zone. Last time I was pregnant, I had constant cramping up until 6 weeks when I began to actively miscarry. That is already present now. I have read that cramping is normal, and maybe it is. I have never had an actual baby, so I have nothing to go off of here. Until I actually make it past the first trimester--I still feel like I'm trying to conceive, trying to be successful and have my first baby. And especially when my cycle has been nothing short of abnormal. I assumed coming to a forum where others have also had issues with abnormality would be ok.

However, I do see your point that because I wasn't posting previously, I seem incredibly insensitive. I'll go ahead and delete my other post, in hopes that maybe some regulars haven't read the post and will safe even just a few people the heart ache.

I have to say though, I came here for encouragement and support and I'm still incredibly anxious, afraid, inexperienced, never had the joy of a child myself that I am being cast out because I'm a new person. Maybe I'm just being emotional, but it really has hurt my feelings--assuming the worst of my character. And with that, I'll find another forum. I am truly very sorry if I've caused anyone pain--I promise it wasn't my intentions, but I'll own my actions and try to learn from it and do better next time. Thanks Rosie for explaining the issue. I wouldn't be able to learn without the explanation.
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@jenjy - sending you good thoughts right now!! hope it goes ok. @Bren - congrats!!! I'm sorry your mom is acting that way! How disappointing. And your hubby. Hang in there. It's none of your mom's business and calling your husband to say you're going to leave him is completely uncalled for and inappropriate! I would be so pissed.




I'm on my way out to go camping for the weekend, just wanted to check in on everyone. I'm on cd5, so AF is on her way out just in time for camping, thank goodness! I hope you all have a good weekend.
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I am holding a picture of my little bean who has a heartbeat and measures exactly on at 6 weeks 1 day. I am crying tears of disbelief. Seriously unbelievable. I am so very thankful for you all!!!! I will post more when I get home.
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@seweiland I hope you haven't been "scared" away. Understand there are many emotions running high on this forum. A few of the women here have suffered loss after loss and it is an incredibly painful journey for them. Congratulations on your BFP, I understand it's a challenge to feel comfortable so early on. I'm also struggling with that. As far as the cramps, I've had them pretty bad since my BFP. They come and go but feel just like menstrual cramps. I keep expecting to see a bloody mess every time I use the restroom because that's just what my body associates cramping with. I'm reassured that this early on it's normal and that if anything should happen so early, it's just natures painful way of letting me know something wasn't right, and to try again. Of course I don't suspect it is abnormal. There's a lot going on in there! We're bound to notice one way or another. I hope that if you feel comfortable staying you will. You are welcome. EDIT: I'd like to add that I spoke without thinking. I know you are not an unkind person and didn't mean to offend anyone. I'm personally sorry for my hand in things.

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Hi ladies. Sorry I went off the map again for a couple days. Didn't mean to get a BFP and run. I'm only 4 weeks and a day. Still so early and so uncertain. I really need to reach out to someone right now and not sure who else but all of you. When I saw my tests, I was overwhelmed with joy. I stupidly told some friends out of excitement and most were really happy for me. I told my mom yesterday and she kind of freaked out (because I'm not done with school). All of the sudden I was being bombarded with texts from my mom saying how disappointed in me she is and that I ruined my life...I was shocked. I feel like I'm on 16 and pregnant!! I am an adult and here I am being treated like a teen mom. She called DH (who was excited) and started spouting off statistics and she actually told him I'd end up leaving him and it would ruin our marriage. Now DH is freaked and is suddenly saying we aren't prepared financially...well gee that would have been good to know before you DTD with me knowing I was ovulating! I feel so hurt and betrayed. My mom is encouraging me to have an abortion and DH is pulling the "I want whatever you want but..." card. I'm terrified. I feel all alone. This should not be happening to me in my twenties!! I am so so sorry to come on here and rant all about me but please understand I am in a state of utter panic and disparity.

For making me feel welcome even though I am over 40. I did check in over there and learned a bunch. I've just found that this spot is more active and right now I need as much support as possible. I know I don't say it much...I like coming to a place where I can be excited, obsessed, worried, supportive and supported......at home things are not as positive and supportive as they are here and I'm so grateful to have a place where I can be open with my feelings and surrounded by friends who are in similar yet unique situations. I really hope that the recent stress will not tarnish the solidarity and supportive friendships we have nurtured. We are all emotional and understanding of one anothers' feelings. I hope nobody feels the need to leave because of something that is relatively small in comparison to the strong and caring friendships that already exist. I would hate for that to tear apart what have. Sometimes people disagree with others. Life would be so boring if we all were exactly the same.
So let's put it in the past and move forward together. Im not one to hold a grudge and honestly sometimes i think life should have a rewind button and if she chooses to try again, in a different way, we would be welcoming and supportive, like we would be to anyone else. But right now we need each other. This is no time to fall apart.

@bren94...I am so.sorry about the way your mother has reacted to the wonderful news. A growing life is a blessing whenever it happens. So the situation may not be perfect in her eyes, she has a right to feel that way. Honestly I would say something similar to your mom...but at the same time ask her to respectfully keep those feelings to herself. You and your husband are a unit and nobody should place their own feelings between the bond of husband and wife. Marriage is a sacred bond and honestly I think your mom stepped WAY out of bounds. I dont mean to be disrespectful to your mom. I feel VERY strongly that this is between you and DH. And her reaction really was out of line. I'm sorry it has caused your DH to worry more. I would try to talk to him and be strong in this time together. Celebrate the new life you created and be happy and excited. Don't let anyone stand in the way of your happiness. Sorry if I am just rambling now...I just feel so bad that this happened to you. Try your best to put her opinions out of your minds. I've been in a similar situation and when I became prego with DS my now ex and I were in a rocky spot even then and family was less than supportive and excited for us. It was hard...especially after having watched other family members, in much worse circumstances become pregnant and the family acted like it was the best thing since sliced pie. It hurt a lot...still stings 10 yrs later. It's even one reason I long for a pregnancy that will be celebrated and have a partner who is excited and joyous watching our child grow. For my belly to be rubbed and those first kicks felt together. I want the fairy tale. Sorry, didn't mean to get off track with my own experience, maybe that is why I feel so strongly about your situation. I know how it feels to have your happiness stomped on and I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I don't know how your relationship is with your mom is but if you feel comfortable. .I would kindly and calmly ask her to keep her opinions to herself and ask her to share in your happiness. If she is unable to do that...ask her to let you know when she is ready to be positive about you and your DH's decision to start a family...but until then you do not want any negativity surrounding you. She should get the message. (Back off with your negative opinions and horrid advice, if she can't do that...keep your distance). I hope my strong opinions about this don't put you off...I just hate to see another person step between the bond of husband and wife. Celebrate and please stick around, we are all in different places but that does not mean that we can't support one another.

Rosie, please don't apologize for feeling how you do. I'm sure that's how we all feel. It's really unkind to come in here, not knowing any of us or our struggles just to announce a BFP. That's what DDC's are for.
I agree completely

Keeping an eye out for updates jenjy!
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@jenjy - YAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYY!!!! I'm so happy for you. I teared up at your update! Makes my heart happy.


Oh, and regarding the CBE fertility monitor question from above...I haven't had the best luck with it myself. But I kinda feel like Rosie, like it's my hormones that are screwed up, not the monitor. Last cycle it didn't pick up anything, but I know I didn't ovulate and only had a 18 day cycle. It also never picked up anything on the cycle before, which was my 38 day cycle that I'm almost positive I did ovulate that one (but who knows, my cycles are so screwed up I almost never know for sure). So anyway, I think they work well for people whose bodies are functioning correctly, but I think my hormones are too wacky. It did work the first month I used it. I honestly think if you're charting and using OPKs, the monitor probably won't add too much info, except maybe it will give you a little more notice about O coming. But if you are ovulating regularly and your cycles are pretty normal, you already have some idea of when it's going to come. It's expensive and the sticks are expensive. I could see it being very helpful for someone who doesn't chart bbt or check CM.
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Thanks all of you! @ayme371 I'm so glad you're here, whatever the reason you are so important to me (hope that doesn't sound weird since we've never met)! I'm praying for a BFP for you soon! @jennsies I'm glad you're camping trip will be AF free!

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@jenjy YES!! Congratulations!

I took the last of the Clomid last night, thank cats that's over. Hopefully it sticks so I don't have to do that again. Now the fun part!
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Sorry to go AWOL, guys. Work is crazy and we're prepping for a holiday next week and a giant 6 month late post-wedding reception party directly after we return (what was I thinking?!)

@tinytina Good luck finishing your papers! Is today the day you finished? If so, wow, congrats!! You have lots going on at once! Thanks for managing to keep the thread as well. I almost went down the donor route another lifetime ago (life has changed A LOT in the last 6 years!!) but for a different situation than yours. I'm not sure how much I remember about the process but I'll try to remember anything useful!

@discalceata Glad the Clomid bit's over. Have fun!

@jenjy YES!!! Was sitting here with everything crossed for you and I am so so happy for you!!!

@radiowave Hello! So sorry to hear about your loss. Is the info about DH's motility what you expected to hear? It's always useful to have facts that are leading in the right direction, I guess.


Hello @alittlemischief and @HappyMama2013 !

@bren94 Wait what?! Oh no! I don't want to say bad things about someone else's mom but your mom totally overstepped!! You are MARRIED, sister, and totally a grown woman. What is she worried about or afraid of that's making her act that way? Geniunely? Is it that you won't finish school, that you will struggle? Was she a very young mom or had hard times when you were small? You will be fine, absolutely fine. I am so sorry that your mom is not celebrating this with you. For the record, all of us here are really, really happy for you, and even though we don't know you personally, we know you will be an awesome mom, and most likely will continue to be an awesome wife to your DH at the same time. In the eternal words of my favourite internet meme, ain't nobody got time for that [craziness your mom is giving you]. PM me just to moan, if it's helpful. I will listen!

@jennsies Have fun camping! Super pleased for you that there's not going to be an intersection of camping and AF. That is never fun.


Hello @ayme371 and so many others that I've not tagged...happy Friday!


AFM, yesterday AF finally did show. I wasn't really expecting anything this month since it was our first try and we decided so last minute, and I didn't do any more monitoring than I usually do for TTA. I feel hopeful about next month. I've started temping again, and have ordered an OPK so we can be a bit more precise. I think I may have o'd later than expected this past month and we didn't carry on DTD long enough, or something. Who knows. I think I've managed to extend my work contract for an extra 3 months which buys me some more time. As long as I've started my maternity leave before the end of June 15, all is well. Here's hoping!
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Thank you again so much everyone. I have the official details now. Everything measured great. I have a subchorionic hemorrhage, which apparently explains the spotting. That seems like a thing that typically resolves. We'll just have to keep an eye on it!

@radiowave , I am very sorry for the loss of your son. I am sorry for the continuing struggles. I hope things can proceed as smoothly as possible and I wish you lots of good luck.

@HappyMama2013 , I don't have any ideas about nursing while TTC -- my DD and DS had weaned by the time I TTC'd for the next... I'm sorry things aren't going as planned. All I know is that I've read BFing while TTC can affect hormones, but hopefully there are some natural things you can try so you can continue to BF as long as you'd like.

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I was wondering if you chart divas could look at mine? I'm concerned about my post-o temps, they're so low and not rising... Combined with my short (10days last time) luteal phase... But I don't have any breakthrough bleeding or spotting?
My thought is maybe check progesterone and thyroid? I've heard B6 for lengthening LP but I don't think it did anything for me.

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Good morning ladies! I've *finally* got internet in my new home, and I'm back on the ttc bus after a cycle of ntnp. My first af after my early mc came with reassuring predictability- and I think I O'd a couple of days ago (which sounds like there may be some cycle buddies for me here, interestingly the month of my small faint positive was the trifecta month). I've scrolled back a page or three, want to just shout a hi to all, and hope that I'm still welcome even though I'm a long-term subscriber who only posts a handful of times each month. As reassuring as it is to check in and see all these familiar faces, I wish you'd all be in the grad club already! Really want to offer up lots of personals on my return but this new format isn't great on my blackberry....
Of course it is nice to see you back here - well, that's not quite what I mean - I'd rather you could've stayed a graduate. Keep posting, even if it's every now and then, because we want to know how things are going with you. Hoping things are getting more settled in your new home!

@tinytina , thanks for your kind words. Enjoy that weekend you have coming up - it sounds lovely.

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All of the sudden I was being bombarded with texts from my mom saying how disappointed in me she is and that I ruined my life...I was shocked. I feel like I'm on 16 and pregnant!!
Oh bren, what a horrible response you got. I'm so sorry. I know for sure she will come around. She probably had a specific idea of how things were going to go but it's not like you are obligated to follow her script. You are obviously stable adults ... and babies are not mutually exclusive from school. I told practically no one about TTC because I feared kind of the opposite reaction -- that since I'm 40, I'd be treated like I'm 80 and trying to get pregnant. LOL. And thank you so much for the sweet post. My heart is filled with so much joy, too.

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I only joined this thread in may and want to be a positive source of encouragement and hope to develop trusting and kind friendships.
You are a sweetie and you are an amazing source of encouragement.

Hi, @suzywan . Welcome - I'm sorry to hear you've had to have a delay in TTC from your original plan. Please come on in and post whenever you'd like.

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AFM - well my temps dipped a little this morning but still above the cover line and i think they were high yesterday because I woke up super warm from being under my blanket and DH's. I'm feeling a little off this morning but I'm trying not to get my hopes up since AF is due any minute now. I think if she doesn't show by Sunday I will test and see what happens.
Oh Anna! Fingers crossed!!! And thank you for the sweet smiley parade!

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I "see" you and your family celebrating the new life that you are meant to bring into this world.
This is such a sweet thing to say - I mean, your whole post was amazing, but I just had to say that this really is such an amazing sentiment and I really appreciate it.

@seweiland , I'm sorry about your loss. Thank you for coming back and telling us more about yourself. I can understand not feeling like a TTC graduate. I have been a "graduate" for about three weeks now but I pretty much haven't felt like one at all that whole time.

Thank you, @jennsies ! I hope you enjoy your trip.

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Keeping an eye out for updates jenjy!
Aw amy! You must've missed my earlier update! Shocking good news.

Thank you @discalceata !! And yay for the end of Clomid!! Good luck this cycle!

@perkier , thank you so much. And I'm sorry about AF. Even if you were kind of expecting it, it still hurts. It sounds like you have a good plan for your upcoming cycle. Good luck!

@rosie2727 , you asked about progesterone -- yes I am on oral P. I was on suppositories at the end of my pg last fall and oh my gosh they are horrible. I was thrilled when I was put on oral this spring because that's so much easier. And with the high P numbers in the spring I thought I was gold. Ugh. Now I'm contemplating asking about doing maybe half oral and half suppositories. What's your dose?? Thinking of you...

Hugs everyone!!

Jen , mom to DD12  and DS7   and six  ('01, '06, '13, '13, '14, '14).

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@bren94 Wait what?! Oh no! I don't want to say bad things about someone else's mom but your mom totally overstepped!! You are MARRIED, sister, and totally a grown woman. What is she worried about or afraid of that's making her act that way? Geniunely? Is it that you won't finish school, that you will struggle? Was she a very young mom or had hard times when you were small? You will be fine, absolutely fine. I am so sorry that your mom is not celebrating this with you. For the record, all of us here are really, really happy for you, and even though we don't know you personally, we know you will be an awesome mom, and most likely will continue to be an awesome wife to your DH at the same time. In the eternal words of my favourite internet meme, ain't nobody got time for that [craziness your mom is giving you]. PM me just to moan, if it's helpful. I will listen!


AFM, yesterday AF finally did show. I wasn't really expecting anything this month since it was our first try and we decided so last minute, and I didn't do any more monitoring than I usually do for TTA. I feel hopeful about next month. I've started temping again, and have ordered an OPK so we can be a bit more precise. I think I may have o'd later than expected this past month and we didn't carry on DTD long enough, or something. Who knows. I think I've managed to extend my work contract for an extra 3 months which buys me some more time. As long as I've started my maternity leave before the end of June 15, all is well. Here's hoping!
Thanks so much sweet friend! I told my dad and stepmom and they were much more supportive and so happy! It lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders. Thank you for your support and kind words. My mother was a young and struggling mom. I know that she is telling her story, not mine. I'm sorry about AF, here's hoping you get a glaring BFP soon!

@jenjy thanks for your support. I'm very grateful to have sweet friends like you!

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I am holding a picture of my little bean who has a heartbeat and measures exactly on at 6 weeks 1 day. I am crying tears of disbelief. Seriously unbelievable. I am so very thankful for you all!!!! I will post more when I get home.

Seriously could not be more relieved or happy to hear the news! I could be a smart ass and say, "I told ya so!" But I wont. Feeling stupid staring at my phone with a grin from ear to ear! Can't wait to hear more later!!!!
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