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Well holy sheep shite! I am banana dancing happy for you jengy!
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Hello everyone,

Welcome to the first day of summer in the Northern Hemisphere. I managed to get my paper done around lunch time yesterday. Yipee! I got my grade back from my first paper, I got an A-. So glad to have about a week off before my next class starts. Course #8 is done, I will be done by Christmas time. I love being the threadkeeper- it keeps me busy and makes me feel involved.

I am hoping to see lots of positivity on here- trust me, I am the queen of negativity but let's try to support and respect each other. We need to realize that online all we have is the words on the screen unlike talking in person (facial expressions and body language). Okay, I know I am just the threadkeeper but I want to call a time-out. Can we all come back and support each other please? This journey can be a long and difficult one and we need to be there for each other. We need to all calm down and be rational adults. We need to support and encourage each other plus providing information/resources. This stops here- no more negativity- we need to look at moving in a more positive direction, please!

Hi @radiowave , I can only imagine the mixed feelings you have dear

@bren94 , I wish I had the right words to tell you but I can tell you that I am so sorry your mother is acting this way. You don't deserve this. You deserve to be able to be happy and for your DH to be happy about this joyful event. I cannot imagine what you are feeling. Write it all down dear. Write a letter to your mom and your husband- express your anger, fears, frustration, pain, disappointment -don't give them yet- re-read them in a couple weeks when you calm down. I suggest looking at your future and try to come up with a plan for moving forward - are you taking time off from school? how long etc? do you have a budget or money put aside for the baby? *talk to your hubby about this. Don't worry about your post dear. Definitely talk to your husband. If you need to distance yourself from your mother. Don't feel guilty it happened so quickly. We need positive stories. We need to hear that it is possible. Trust me, hearing that it might be that easy/simple with my IUI gives me hope that it will work on the first go. Glad your dad and stepmom were more supportive

@ayme371 , hope you are able to gather information/resources about lengthening your lp

@alivewithyou , I am sorry dear. I really don't want you to leave. You are a great source of support/resources for others.

Hi @SeattleRain , sorry to hear about your MIL's reaction when you got pregnant.

Thanks for your well-written comment @HappyMama2013

There are some specific threads around, I am the current threadkeeper in the fertility challenged one thread as well but I love the atmosphere and information I get from both groups of women. People seem to be sticking around here longer now. Hi and welcome @suzywan .

Hi @jenjy , so excited for you dear. You deserve to be this happy! Glad you have a reason for the spotting. I hope it resolves itself.

Hi @LouisaG - thanks for the information! Sometimes its hard to know/understand where you belong.
Sorry I wasn't aware that things are changing @chilee . I am sorry I have been here so long. Maybe I don't belong here

Hi @Anna1979 , good luck!

Your welcome @alittlemischief

Thank you for explaining your position @seweiland , I am so sorry you feel this way. I really hope you are not scared away either.

Enjoy your camping trip @jennsies

Hope you have fun now @discalceata

Sorry @perkier that AF found you. Glad you were able to extend your job contract.
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Congratz @jenjy !!!!
Hi everyone! @tinytina , glad you got such a good grade on your paper, I bet you're glad for a small break.
Also, I can't find the most now, or remember who posted it, but someone was asking about ovulation pain continuing after ovulation? or something like that? I get that, I spoke to my doc about it a bit ago. He said basically when you ovulate and the egg pops theres fluid left over, and it kinda hangs out til it get absorbed. He said its kinda like if you had a bruise inside or something? Nothing to worry about from what he said, but if you have concerns I'd def ask your doctor as well. @ayme371 I have to say, I love the way you express yourself!
I went back and read some stuff, theres so much to get caught up on and its a little overwhelming, so please forgive me. I really want to get better about posting more often. Life just gets overwhelming sometimes. I spoke with my doc about the anxiety and depression from the clomid and he switched me to femara for the next cycle. I'm starting to feel so conflicted. I really want a baby and we've been trying for so long, but I also really want to go to cosmetology school. I'm already enrolled, just waiting to hear about financial aid. I don't even know how to put into words what I'm feeling. School is a year long, from Aug to July and its super intense. Mon-Thurs from 8-5. If you miss days you have to make them up somehow. I mean, with as long as we've been trying I can't just stop to time things so that it would work with school, but I'm not going to not go to school. Too much of my life has been put on hold already. Ugh. I'm getting really stressed out just thinking of it. I'll be 28 this year and we want to have like 5 kids. I just feel like we're already late to the ball game. I'm so worried my clocks gonna run out before we can get the family we want. Yes we do want to adopt too, but I want to actually grow a baby ( or 3). We still haven't heard back about DH's SA. The clinic is being a total asshat about it. We signed the release for them to give the results to my doc, but they didn't. My doc has faxed them a request for the results, but they didn't send them over. DH is off fridays and I asked him to call the clinic and tell them to send the results to my docs office. He didn't. He waited til I got off work and then he called. Of course by then it was 4:27 and they close at 4 on Fridays. OIWQEYRLKEJHROWEHOQIWY!!! Why wouldn't he just listen to me in the first place and call when I asked. WTF. And of course, he won't call them at work either. Hes got an 8-5 insurance job, and is to embarrassed to even call on his breaks. So now it seems like we won't know for over a week! OK, I'll stop ranting. I really will try and do better about being on more.

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So I'm either lying to myself, or tricking the system. FF gives me crosshairs but only when I discard the temp from 2dpo. I'd better have released an egg, I'm not putting up with annovulatory cycles! Anyone had this issue? I'll post a pic for reference when I'm on the laptop later. There is a serious lack of buttons on my phone
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So I'm either lying to myself, or tricking the system. FF gives me crosshairs but only when I discard the temp from 2dpo. I'd better have released an egg, I'm not putting up with annovulatory cycles! Anyone had this issue? I'll post a pic for reference when I'm on the laptop later. There is a serious lack of buttons on my phone
How many DPO are you now? TCOYF has a Rule of Thumb which basically allows you to disregard outerliers.

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Sorry I wasn't aware that things are changing @chilee . I am sorry I have been here so long. Maybe I don't belong here

Change is change

the threads all used to move very quickly pre facebook...lol

it was mothering or yahoo groups.

This thread is evolving to reflect current needs

Everyone should feel welcome

btw once again.. waiting to know
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Sorry I wasn't aware that things are changing @chilee . I am sorry I have been here so long. Maybe I don't belong here

Change is change

the threads all used to move very quickly pre facebook...lol

it was mothering or yahoo groups.

This thread is evolving to reflect current needs

Everyone should feel welcome
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btw once again.. waiting to know
@ chili. ..why do you feel like you might not belong here? Of course you do. If your ttc, and you are, this is the place to be girl
I hope.you dont feel this way because of the current drama and stuff. I'm hoping that all has been resolved, I think everyone has been able to express their feelings and is feeling better now. I don't want you to go anywhere. ..do you feel it's an age thing or something else? If tou want to pm me and talk about it that would be great. Btw...I'm glad you say the post I wrote to.you at the end of the May thread. I know we haven't been directly chatting much but I feel.like I know you based on lurking on the 40+ page (I was a bit afraid to post for some.silly reason), and from what I've read here you and I have quite a bit in common. So please don't go anywhere. I agree all should feel welcome. I suffer from foot in mouth syndrome and I'm older than most here and I love the group and have felt very supported and try my best to support others here. So let us er rip. Why are you feeling this way? And please don't feel like you should go elsewhere?

@alivewithyou ... I hope you don't go anywhere either. I haven't seen you here since the drama and miss you. I understand and am so happy that you've graduated but would love for you to stop and chat and check in. I'm sure that some lingering worries are with you, even though I'm sure you will hold a warm bundle of joy before long, but I haven't been around as long as others , but would never want you to feel like you've got to fend for yourself. I really do feel like the drama has passed and hope nobody feels scared away because of it. I hope I didn't add fuel...to the issue, I just like to see things from all points of view. Mistakes happen and in my book they should be forgiven and left behind. So , let us celebrate with you and support you should you need any reassurance or anything at all.

@tinytina . ..YAY! PAPER IS FINISHED! Now it's time to get too what you've been ever so patiently waiting for. I sincerely hope the IUI is quick and easy. Keep us posted on the whole done process..it's so interesting. Do you think you'll try to find someone with similar characteristics of you and DH?

@alittlemischief ...I've been one to drop a temp here and there. I hope it hasn't messed up my chart, but I would think that if you have had all the other symptoms of O then drop that temp in the trash and tell those annovulatory cycles to take a hike.

@SeattleRain . ..good to know that TCOYF has that bit of info. Wondering if you found a good deal on your book. Paying full price is hard for me especially knowing I could pay less if I can find it used. So did you find a good spot to get a good deal? Hope all is going well for you.

@jeny j. ..I so hope you can relax and really start to enjoy and celebrate being prego. I must have missed your update by minutes and was going nuts waiting to find out all day, lol...I happy that my ideas helped you to feel better. I truly believe in the power of positive thinking!

@dis caleata. .All going well for you?
@siuann . ..thanks for saying that. I often wonder if my wording comes across differently than I intended. It's good to know ...I hope I haven't stuck my foot in my mouth too much...lot. How are you? If I'm not mistaken I think we are pretty close in cycles as well.

@perkier ...Hope I can get to know you better and that all is well!

@jennis ies. ..so happy AF left town before you did, for your camping trip. Hope you have an awesome time. It reminded me that we need to get out of town and do some camping as well. I've done my share of tent camping and backpacking but I read that there are some state parks nearby that actually rent yurts, and some are on big lakes and creeks so we could do some paddling too. I've always wanted to check out a yurt.Hope your having an awesome weekend!

@rosie ...haven't seen you around lately. How's it going? Hope the drama didn't upset you too much. I miss your sparkiness and we are pretty close in our cycles. I need someone to help me not obsess.

@ anna1979...any test results back yet?

HI THERE, sorry if I missed anyone. Hope all is well.

AFM...I'm on 6 dpo . and starting to eye up the tests already...I think I might have a problem, lol. I know that it's ridiculous to try to test now but I'm soooo impatient. There is a book that I ran across last night that looked interesting and promises fast and easy pregnancy results but I'm a suckered for getting pulled into stuff like that. It's probably a bunch of crap, but I'll post the name of it and where I found it. The site itself has some pretty cool calculator tools for all sorts of stuff. Probably was a bunch of bananas too but it was kinda fun anyway. I'll stick the name of the book here and the site, hope that's ok, and I would love any opinions. Thanks again for.alll the input on the CBE monitor. I won't be dropping an exploration $200 on it. I'd rather save the money and see a TCM. I need to do something...I never thought it would take this long. I know I should expect a challenging road because of my age..I still feel like somebody is playing a joke on me, and a mean one..I do not feel 40 and I refuse to succumb to the prego challenges that come with the number.

I.hope everyone has an awesome weekend. I'm going to stay busy, DS is having a friend over and DH and I really need some quality time together.

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@ayme371 Today is about 12ish DPO. I say -ish because I'm only going by +opk. Temping stresses me out too much. AF will prob show up tmw or monday. Test this am was neg. Its nice to have someone close to me in cycle. It seems like most of the time I'm opposite everyone else lol.

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Seriously @chili . .I needed that laugh.!!!

@ siuann. ..yep that was me.about the O pain after O. Thanks for asking about it. I'm horrible about doctore, they scare me....but your answer put me at ease. I was starting to worry about missing O. And with DH only half ass on board it's tough to tbink I may have missed the egg. About school....my opinion..go for it! Even WHEN, NOT IF YOU GET KNOCKED UP YOU CAN DO IT! PLUS YOU'LL HAVE SOME THING TO FOCUS ON OTHER THAN A BFP. They say that a watched pot...or whatever the appropriate saying is...you sign up and get started, I'd be willing to bet that your BFP would be right around the corner. Even if the school is intense, there is no reason you can't do both. Your body is strong and made for growing babies. If it helps any, I would always remind myself, when prego with DS 10 years ago (about your age), that women have been doing this since the beginning of time and if they could do it so could I. Some positive thinking really helped me and I was extremely fortunate and had a very uncomplicated pregnancy, was working when I first went into labor. I had only been teaching elementary school, in a new district for less than a year and had almost no sick time, DS was due in the beginning of March and I wanted to save what little time I had for after he was born. The school was rough too, I taught in suburbs for 5 years and when I moved to PA and the only job I could get was at an alternative education school. Inner city where they basically took most of the severely troubled kids out of the regular ed classroom and put them in this school. I literally had a bouncer like person right outside my door. I won't kid you and say that some days weren't more than a challenge, but I made it. My point is that you are strong and you can do the school thing and grow a baby! I have every confidence in the female body...hear us ROAR!!!

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@siuann I'm with ayme, go for it girl. If you get started now, you may finish before your little bun arrives. A friend of mine went to cosmetology school while pregnant and it was tough but she kicked ass. Good luck! Sorry about the BFN. hugs

@ayme371 I think chillee was quoting tinytina in that post. So I think tinytina was the one who said she might not belong (which is SO not true by the way!!) I could be wrong but that's what I perceived. Girlfriend stop trying to test at 6dpo! You're gonna drive yourself crazy! I feel your frustration though. Why can't we know as soon as the egg is fertilized? It'd save a lot of time and frustration. I feel like I'm still playing the waiting game. Just waiting to get out of the woods and into my 2nd trimester so I can feel confident this pregnancy will stick. I think just making it to 6 weeks will allow be to breathe a little. Fx you get that BFP soon!

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Hi all! Sorry I havent posted in a few days. I figured Id come back and have only missed a little...but I guess I missed a lot! Im sad to see the drama, I hope I havent posted anything that has offended anyone.

Theres so much to respond to, Im going to try to at least get to this page for now. Sorry for those that I miss.

@jenjy So, so so excited and happy for you!! Seeing that little heart beat must have been an amazing feeling. So much love and many sticky vibes coming your way!
@tinytina fabulous news about your paper, and what a great grade!! Congrats!
@alittlemischief I dont have experience with that, but I hope you did O!
@siuann Id say go about your regular life and worry about things when they come up. Thats what Ive learned through some of my own recent life events. I left my career in the fall and went back to school full time. I take classes while my kids are in school and then Im home with them after 3. Im going for teaching and there is a program I have to get into in order to take most of the classes I need. Well we started TTC in April and I got pg right away, so I didnt apply for the program because I was due in January and that is when I would have started the program. Well I ended up losing the pregnancy at 9.5 weeks so now I wont have any classes that I can take in January because Im not in the program...and I wont have a baby either. Im kicking myself because I should have applied for the program anyway and just taken things as they came instead of trying to plan everything out perfectly. So thats my best advice to you and I hope it works out for you either way. I know its easier said than done tho. I hope you get your DHs results soon, Im sorry his doctor is being so annoying about it.
@ayme371 I obsess too, shamelessly LOL. This last time I was pregnant and had the mc I tested at 7DPO, knowing full well it would be negative no matter what. I told myself it was a warm up since I hadnt POAS in 8 years LOL!

AFM Im feeling okay, getting better. I had the D&C on Monday then my bff got married on Friday and I was in the wedding and have had a busy few days with festivities. Lots of bitter sweet feelings going on. Im starting to feel a little normal again and trying to stay positive. Im still spotting...not sure how long thats supposed to last. Its super light tho so Im not worried. My kids are out of school now so Im looking forward to spending the summer with them, and that always keeps me occupied and in a good mood.
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Hello everyone! I was off for a few days and simply lack the energy to go back and read about everything that's happened. I just hope that all the pregnancies have been confirmed and are going strong!

CM and Spotting Question to the Enlightened: I'm in a bit of a confused state as to my post-D&C cycles and spotting. I'm on CD 12 and I have insanely stretchy clear mucous presenting, yet it's still mixed with some brownish post-period discharge. This cycle, the first day of my period, I was spotting heavily dark brown, the next day came the fresh blood and lasted until CD 6 and then it was slowly diminishing amount of brownish discharge until … well, now. I wouldn't have known I was still spotting had I not wiped and looked closely on the toilet paper (I know, who does that? well, except us that TTC, haha). So, from what I've read, the clear stretchy mucous is the one that comes pre-ovulation and it's also known as the fertile mucous. Hm, the thing is - I'm still spotting a tiny bit AND I usually don't ovulate until way late into my cycle (like CD20 or so) … so what the heck is going on???

I'm going to my acupuncturist tomorrow, so I'm definitely mentioning it and I am also planning to call my gynecologist and making an appointment …

I was considering getting pregnant this cycle (cycle 3 post-d&C), but I'm scared to now considering that this spotting is just … so weird!!! I've searched Dr. Google and it seems in most cases post-period spotting is normal, but what if I have an issue, get pregnant and something happens again? Do you guys think I'm just worrying too much?

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@SeattleRain im now 5DPO and FF is 'allowing' me to have O'd. After a bit of googling, I realised that I am showing what's known as a fallback rise. In all my months of charting ive never experienced one. Anyone know if this is a sign that somethings up? @Melinda1980 Im sending you all the best healing wishes (emotionally and physically). I cant begin to imagine how you are feeling, cuddle your children tightly, life really is a sweet miracle. @ayme371 - you got me smiling on 'tell those anovulatory cycles to take a hike'. I seriously I have no patience for my body to do that to me. I figure if I have a chance at pregnancy each month then I have reason to be hopeful - I bet the tww is even more torturously slow when you just want to reset back to waiting to O!
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Hello everyone! I was off for a few days and simply lack the energy to go back and read about everything that's happened. I just hope that all the pregnancies have been confirmed and are going strong!

CM and Spotting Question to the Enlightened: I'm in a bit of a confused state as to my post-D&C cycles and spotting. I'm on CD 12 and I have insanely stretchy clear mucous presenting, yet it's still mixed with some brownish post-period discharge. This cycle, the first day of my period, I was spotting heavily dark brown, the next day came the fresh blood and lasted until CD 6 and then it was slowly diminishing amount of brownish discharge until … well, now. I wouldn't have known I was still spotting had I not wiped and looked closely on the toilet paper (I know, who does that? well, except us that TTC, haha). So, from what I've read, the clear stretchy mucous is the one that comes pre-ovulation and it's also known as the fertile mucous. Hm, the thing is - I'm still spotting a tiny bit AND I usually don't ovulate until way late into my cycle (like CD20 or so) … so what the heck is going on???

I'm going to my acupuncturist tomorrow, so I'm definitely mentioning it and I am also planning to call my gynecologist and making an appointment …

I was considering getting pregnant this cycle (cycle 3 post-d&C), but I'm scared to now considering that this spotting is just … so weird!!! I've searched Dr. Google and it seems in most cases post-period spotting is normal, but what if I have an issue, get pregnant and something happens again? Do you guys think I'm just worrying too much?

My bet..you are seriously FERTILE. LIKE NOW. IF YOU WANT TO GET PREGNANT IT'S TIME TO JUMP ON YOUR MAN (sorry caps were stuck). If your concerned, I don't think you have any reason to be, make an emergency (so they will see you quick) appt with the gyn. From what I understand you are VERY fertile after you miscarry because your cervix is open more than usual. I can't remember, but was there any reason for your miscarriage? I understand if yoy dont want tend if you don't want to talk about it, but if there were no complications. Sometimes that real stretchy stuff only lasts for a very short time and it is the best for the swimmers to survive in, they will be nourished and will live longer. So not to sound pushy but it's time to get it ON..Most likely you are superfertilewoman, new word...lol!

@bren94 . ..I was a good girl and stepped away from the tests. I'm almost . afraid honestly. I don't want to see that white test screen. I end up so bummed out. I really do feel like if I do catch an egg it will stick this time, don't know why but I have a "feeling". That next egg will be mine and I will have my dream. I must have missed the post but did I see that your in laws are being supportive? I hope so! Seriously girl..stay away from any bad mo jo and celebrate the awesome little package your growing. I hope your now letting the worry in. I have a bunch as well that your bean is here to stay...so enjoy every second. I'm not sure if you've started doing any reading about birthing or what you want but when you do and if your interested, I have some awesome book ideas. Just let me know. One book I would completely STAY AWAY FROM IS WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOUR EXPECTING. I hate to bash a book, it does have some good info but it is supper mainstream and it scared the crap out of me. The last thing you need is a scared prego woman. Wish you were near by Irl...would love to help you celebrate, it's such an awesome experience. I'm pretty opinionated so if I throw too much unsolicited advice your way please let me know. I think I'll try my best to wait till the end off the week to test.

@siuann . ..I'm so sorry about the bfn...I hate to see that blank screen. It is nice to have someone with a close cycle...I'm the same way...usually the opposite of everyone else. I think rosie272 is also close in her cycle. But i havent heard from her in a few days. Try not to lose hope and test again in two days. Some women just take longer to test positive. FX for you! I'm on 7 for 8dpo...oh no..if it's 8 thst means it's possible to get a +....and I do have a $ store cheapie...hmmmm. what do ya think. ..should I do it? To pee or not to pee??? On a stick? Lol. I laugh at my own stupid jokes sometimes. possible???

@chili . ..I'm with ya on the whole technology stuff. I'm pretty good with some stuff but when it comes to quoting and even cutting and pasting, try not to laugh to hard, I suck. I sure hope tinytina does not feel like she doesn't belong here . BREN and chili and whoever else I totally agree that this is a perfect place for her and I sue hope she doesn't leave. I can't wait to find out how everything goes! So chili where are you in your cycles? Are you taking a bunch of supplements? I was but ran out if a bunch and haven't gotten around to buying more. I have a hard time shelling out a bunch of cash when I'm not sure that they are doing any good. I think I most need to focus on egg quality and on building a comfy nest for my golden egg to plant. I have lots of ideas, maca, vitex, coq10, royal jelly, thinking about trying some over the counter progesterone cream(just for some insurance). That's all I can think of at the moment. Do you have any ideas that I may be missing. I'm pretty sure my cycle is ok. Usually 30-32 days max...my periods are lighter, but they have been that way since DS was born, they are a little lighter than that even and I suppose that a one worry(it creeps in now and again). I've read so much conflicting info though, some say it is a concern and other things I read say that it's not. Maybe it depends on other things going on in your body. I do take a baby asprin every day after I O, I figure it cant hurt. My O did get earlier, moved from day 17 or 18 and now its more like day 15. I was taking B6 and I think that moved it up, but stopped taking it , I read something on here that said B6 was not good, wish I could remember why. Anyway, sorry for the tangent. I'm happy to hear thar your DH is on board with TTC, so happy for you. I wish my DH was not so wishy washy about it. I so want him to be excited with me.


AFM... Trying to be patient. I have several books I'd like some opinions on....sound great but I can be suckered pretty easily. Family is yelling for me now so I'll be bask later to share the books I've found that look good, but may be too good to be true. Please keep your fingers and toes crossed for me. Good luck to all. Have a beautiful day!
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@ayme371 , @bren94 , @Melinda1980 , thank you for the encouragement, I'm def going to go. I think I just had a day or so of total and complete panic. I tend to overthink... like everything lol. @Wilhelmina do what you can to relax. Going to the acupuncturist always helps me to relax, so I hope it does the same for you. @ayme371 TEST TEST TEST lol! I'll always say test if someone says "do I test or no?" lol
AFM: feeling much more calm about school, DH wants me to just get as far as I can with it, not putting it on hold hoping for pregnancy. AF is due tmw, idk how I made it though the day without testing, but I'm planning on testing in the am if AF doesn't show up overnight.

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@ayme371 I'd say don't test IMO because at 8dpo I got a BFN and then a BFP at 11dpo so those couple days really make a difference! Hold off if you can. Just a couple days! My in laws don't know yet but my dad and step mom are being very supportive, it's such a relief! I'd love book suggestions! I do have an ideal birth plan in mind but it all depends on what my insurance allows, I have tricare prime and it can be a real pain in the ass.
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I think the more important thing to focus on is intent . Did she really intend to offend everyone? No. And last time we got mad at someone for posting something like this they ended up miscarrying anyway. The fact is that I've been gutted plenty of times on this board but it's because of my own personal feelings related to ttc and the disappointment and frustration that had come along with it. I guess I just try not to judge a book by its cover especially when they have had a previous loss. Maybe she was trying to provide hope for those that have had miscarriages. Maybe next time we ask for clarification. Just my thoughts and I know they are not popular ones so I apologize in advance.
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@Melinda1980 ...I am so sorry, I wrote a bunch and somehow I.managed to delete it when I posted before. I want to say that it's good to see you again, but not under these circumstances. Getting that far, almost to the 2nd trimester, and to he robbed of it...I can't put the right words together to tell you how deeply sorry I am for you. Are there any ideas as to the cause? Or most likely nature taking care of an egg that wasn't healthy. Whatever the reason I feel for you so much. Just a little over 2 yrs ago, I was going through a really difficult time in life and on Dec 18th I started cramping and bleeding like crazy. My husband wasn't around and it was the middle of the week night. and it turns out I was having a miscarriage. One of the worst part is that I didn't even know that I was pregnant. Based on the expiration in the er they said that I was somewhere between 8-10, weeks. It was awful. I'm only writing this because I want you to know that you will feel better, give yourself time and rest, I never really grieved my loss but I should have and I think it's important for you to do the same. Try to find some closure. Let yourself feel whatever emotions you have and don't worry if they are "right or wrong" they are your feelings and that is all that matters, We are all different. I worried that i wasn't feeling or doing what i should be doing. I learned that it is not important. Feel and do whatever you want. That is the best thing to do. It is never easy. ((Hugs))

@bren94 . ..sorry about that...I got the people mixed up. So happy that your dad and step mom are excited and are being supportive. I'll post the names of the books in a day. Ina Mae Gaskins is a midwife and has written tons of awesome books on birth. My favorite is Spiritual Midwifery. It is awesome. Very positive about birth ,and reminds you how strong the female body is. I read it over and over and over. Also anything by , Dr sears. He has a ton of books but he is so informative, about attachment parenting, breastfeeding. ...you name it. There are more but I've got to get the munchkin to bed and close my own eyes. I can't seem to keep them open. Both you and @siuann make a great case for the test. If I do test now, and it's negative, it might not be as big a let down down, as later on...crap...now I'm really tempted!

AFM...I'll keep you posted on the testing war. I'll also try to put those books titles on here and I would love any input. I hate shelling out $ and ending up with a crappy product. Nite nite ladies....sleep tight!!!
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@tinytina I can't manage bold on my phone but I feel ready to be moved to June BFPs!
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@SeattleRain im now 5DPO and FF is 'allowing' me to have O'd. After a bit of googling, I realised that I am showing what's known as a fallback rise. In all my months of charting ive never experienced one. Anyone know if this is a sign that somethings up? @Melinda1980 Im sending you all the best healing wishes (emotionally and physically). I cant begin to imagine how you are feeling, cuddle your children tightly, life really is a sweet miracle. @ayme371 - you got me smiling on 'tell those anovulatory cycles to take a hike'. I seriously I have no patience for my body to do that to me. I figure if I have a chance at pregnancy each month then I have reason to be hopeful - I bet the tww is even more torturously slow when you just want to reset back to waiting to O!
.... il try linking up my chart to show that stray temp

So what the heck is a fallback rise? I've seen that written on FF and I have no clue what it is. I think I had one as well, except mine happened a few days later, maybe on 5 or 6 dpo. My only thinking was possible implantation dip, but it went super low, well below the cover line. I'll try to post my chart on the regular computer later, can't make it happen on my phone. Also wondering...do you think using the paid version on FF is worth it? Your chart looks like it's the free version. So I was thinking that maybe the paid version isn't worth it. I'm pretty new to charting , so would love your opinion. I did the 3 month paid...Thinking that was all I'd need but...guess not. I'll Google fall back rise and see what I can find and will share anything interesting.




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@ayme371 I only have the free version now, had a 3month trial of premium and liked the features, but I'm was/am spending enough money on opks, hpts, vits etc that I couldn't justify paying more out to confirm what I already 'knew' (my O date). I do enjoy charting though, and I think it was @rosie2727 (correct me if I'm wrong) that has a premium membership but at a special offer rate. I'd also be pretty annoyed with myself if I started paying a 6month package or something then got a BFP, because I wouldn't chart through pregnancy and that money could be better spent elsewhere...
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@ayme371 Thank you for your enthusiastic answer We DTD yesterday, but at the end I asked for my husband to prevent (in other words - pull out - I know, sacrilegious, isn't it, haha) … I just don't think I'm mentally ready to truly TTC yet … I never found out about the cause of my miscarriage. The only thing I know is that it was late in the first trimester - the baby stopped growing at 12 weeks and 2 days, just out of the blue. I've had a few basic tests done that came out normal and now I'm waiting for one last batch of test results (blood clotting disorders). I did have some strange things happening to me during the pregnancy - some of it was recurring brown spotting (once it lasted a week and then a few days) and also a strange hard 'ball' that appeared on the left side of my abdomen when I was in the bed and then disappeared again … other than that everything was fine and I even felt quite sick to my stomach from about week 9 to week 12+something (now I know the reason for the sudden end of my nausea). I can even swear I could feel the baby move (very little) around week 12 of the pregnancy …

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@ wilhelmina. .I'm sorry if I was being too pushy. Of course wait until you are ready. You'll know when you are...the feelings are pretty strong. My DH and I have used the "pull and pray" method for quite some time and it has obviously worked really well. I'm so very sorry about your loss being that close to the safety zone and then to lose...well, I just can't imagine how hard that much have been. Jumping back in after something like that happening. .it's really important to make sure that you are ready. I'm glad your body let you know that it was time to wait at just the right time.

@alittlemischief . ..I agree with you on the FF deal, they are offering a full year for $24.95 right now. I did enjoy the 3 try info I was getting but I agree that I would hate to go for the year and end up prego in a month or two. I've spent a bunch on herbs and supplements as well, not to mention opks and tests. They all add up. I've been looking for this offer I found online that was a free ttc package with supplements for him and her, a basal thermometer, opks and 2 hpts, the kit was free but shipping (2-5 business days) was $9.95. It's weird the way they say it's free and then throw a big mailing cost at you, but even then it's still a good deal for just the hpts alone, only a hit over 50 cents each. I've nm been looking for the link and for the book offer but I haven't had any luck...getting annoying. I'll post when I find it.

AFM...having a talk.with DH in a bit about the whole ttc thing. He has been kind of on and off about it. Was excited when I got the + and said so many great things...now he says he does not know what he wants. First., it was a fear the he wouldn't love the baby ( our therapist said that it was a natural response from someone who is depressed, then he has said he is worried about not being in a good financial situation, and most recently he said that his fear was that his life would be over....meaning freedom and everything revolving around the baby and not being able to do anything we like to do, didnt want the 24/7 responsibilities, etc.) I'm pretty much facing the fact that he just doesn't want to have a child. PERIOD. I don't know how I feel at the moment. I'm ready to tell him that I'll do what I need to do and he.isnt standing in the way of.my dream. We discussed this prior to marriage and now he has changed his.mind. well that's BS! What he.wants isn't anymore. Important than what I want. He has know how I felt since.we began.our relationship. How important it is for to give my son a sibling, to experience this awesome experience in a loving relationship and for both of us to enjoy bonding with the babe before it enters the world, and for us to just enjoy this experience together, sorry if I'm repeating myself, I'm upset). We went through some awful stuff in the beginning of out relationship. Mostly on his side and I sacrificed a whole lot to help him out of a bad place and I did it out of.l9ve and care. I was only 36 at the time and before him had been single and was almost to the point of becoming a single mom to a new babe by choice. So all my dreams were put on hold and I helped him get into a much better place , he still suffers from severe depression (we are both in individual and couple therapy and also see a shrink) so we are consciously trying to take care of the issues we face. Anything in front of us is on the upswing and can only get better. And now he drops this bomb on me. We will talk later tonight, supposedly but I'm pretty sure his feelings are that he does not want to begin a family with me. And I'm so full of conflicting emotions...sorry for the long rant...I guess I needed to get it off my chest. My heart feels like it's being ripped out I'm angry at his selfish choice. And just devastated that he feels the way he does. I am so excited to share this awesome experience with him and he doesn't want ....I don't know what to feel
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Just a quick fly-by since it's super late in this part of the world!
@siuann Updates? Did you test? Fingers crossed for you!
@ayme371 That sounds like some hard stuff that's happening right now. It really sucks when you think you have an issue ironed out and then it turns out that it's not as solid as you think. I wish I had better advice for you. Can you guys talk this over in your therapy? Might be some helpful btdt advice in the parents as partners forum as well, not sure if you've x-posted there.

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@ayme371 My heart aches for you as I read your post. I am so deeply sorry that you are struggling. I know where you're coming from; on one hand you want a baby so badly you won't let anyone stop you, on the other hand you want to be a loving and supportive wife. It's good that you have a therapist so you can both work through this. I really hope you get some breakthroughs soon. I'm so hoping you get a new baby soon...Please feel free to PM me anytime (in case you didn't already know that was an open invitation) just to vent or rant or whatever. <3
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For "listening" perkier and bren94 (I.may take you up on the offer) ... we did talk...I'm definitely emotional. I'll write more in the AM. Just typed a long post and fell asleep before sending and deleted the whole thing...go figure...hopefully things will be better in the am. Sorry about the all about me post. Sleep well
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Hello everyone,
I am still around but I apologize for being away for a couple days. I take Sunday's as a day off and yesterday just ended up being a disaster.

Thanks @siuann , I am grateful for the small break. Hoping to get more done around the apartment but so far no luck. I am also 28, and my husband is 30. We would like to have 4 children, so I understand your fears about feeling like there is a clock. I am also currently in school. I often get anxious/nervous about the whole situation. We cannot time everything perfectly no matter what we do. Sorry to hear about your difficulties getting the results from DH's SA. Try to relax dear.

Hi @alittlemischief

Hi @SeattleRain

Hi @chilee

Hi @ayme371 , we definitely want a donor with similar characteristics to my husband. I want to look at it more closely this week. Thanks for congrats over the paper. Hope you got some quality time this weekend and try to stay away from the early tests dear. I am so sorry to hear about the issues you and your problem are having. I definitely worry about the problems all this stress is causing for us- we have been fighting a bit more lately. PM me anytime hun.

Hi @bren94

Hi @Melinda1980 , thanks dear. Sorry to hear about your D & C hun. Glad you had the wedding to distract yourself.

Hi @Wilhelmina , I wish I had better advice but I am always a fan of relaxing a bit. If you are concerned call your doctor. Hugs hun. Have you thought about talking to a counselor or therapist to help you deal with your loss?

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Updated to here Any status changes need? Please put changes in BOLD, thanks everyone!

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a newly met neighbour wa over with her baby last night and I was ahhh so nice to have around, then I became terrified of the no sleep part...Man, I neeeeed sleep!

I am trying to get back into great physical condition...maybe it I will be happy to continue to ttc or maybe I will feel too good to go there...ugh. Maybe sleeping with three kids and getting woken up at least once a night by anyone of them is taking its toll
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