Originally Posted by ayme371
...thank you for the congrats, I wish it was stickier. I agree with you about the whole "accident" thing. My Ds is the best accident ever. I believe strongly that your body will know when the time is right for your little one and you'll get your BFP. Accidents absolutely make the decision making much easier, lol! I hope I have as many accidents as I'm blessed with. I really did think this was IT for me, even though DTD only 2x in the fertile window, but again 2x after ff said my window was closed. I'm starting to think that I ovulate later or something. I've looked at some charts on tcoyf and on there your considered fertile for several days after you O. Thinking about sticking my info on both sites and will see what happens.
Sorry it didn't work out
As for TCOYF, I use it, I think it considers you potentially fertile until there have been 3 days of temps over the cover line and 3 or 4 (can't remember?) dry/infertile CM (in other words, until there is a strong confirmation of O) but I think it's more for the purposes of those using the program to try to avoid pregnancy, rather than ttc. I thought the book said you should dtd every day you have fertile cm, plus the day after O.
As for me, I was looking at the calendar and realized we are going to be visiting family starting at about 14 dpo. Which means I may have to sneak a pregnancy test at my parent's house. Not sure how I feel about it. It might be fun to get a BFP while we are there and tell everyone, or I might be feeling overwhelmed and not ready to share yet. Or I might be crampy and grumpy and bleeding. I don't know, this is only my 4th O since ds2 was born, and my luteal phase started out super short when AF came back (it was the same way after ds1, things evened out after a few cycles). I didn't get a very good O date last cycle, but I think my luteal phase was somewhere between 10 and 13 days, so I may get AF before we even leave.
Has anyone done Mayan Abdominal Massage? I had one session before conceiving ds2 . I went looking for some relief from some chronic pelvic floor pain, the massage was in December, we were planning on not avoiding pregnancy (but not really TTC) starting in February. Anyway, the massage was interesting, it didn't really help with the pain, but the feeling of her moving my uterus back into the right spot (apparently it was leaning a little right and a tad low, I had no idea) was the craziest release. It was strangely emotional, like a really cleansing exhale after you've been nervous about something. The massage was right around O, and that cycle, I had a full 16 day luteal phase (it had previously been 12-14). The next cycle (January), I got a little careless about watching for fertile symptoms, and we ended up dtd 4 days before O. When I realized I must have been fertile, I brushed it off, thinking 4 days before O was a long shot, but lo and behold, we now have ds2 from that "oops".
If my LP continues to be short, and we are feeling more definitely ready, I'll probably see if I can scrape together the money for another session.