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#1 of 10 Old 07-06-2014, 08:48 PM - Thread Starter
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trying for a 4th...but struggling!!

ughh...i don't know what's going on, but i'm having a real hard time on my 4th. my first 3 were a BREEZE i tell ya. like literally happened instantly. i went to the doctor and he said everything looks normal weight, I'm not sick, no internal issues, etc...

what the heck could it be? what else can i try? theres no way i can afford doing it the other way....

so frustrating and sad

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Howdy neighbor! How long have you been trying?

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#3 of 10 Old 07-08-2014, 08:31 AM
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How old are you and your husband?

Any lifestyle changes?
Is there anything you could do to make yourselves more healthy such as eating better, lowering stress and caffeine, exercising more etc.

How long have you been trying?

Did your doctor order any tests such as blood work that might show some imbalance?

Have you been tracking for ovulation etc?

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I am having the same trouble with #3 . We got pregnant right when we had decided to conceive the first two and now we have been trying 10 months and still nothing. I have talked to my doctor who said everything is great and just suggested I start taking folic acid once a day. We also researched that zinc and folic acid help boost sperm count (we just discovered this so have not tried yet) and I am planning on ordering some fertilitea from amazon. Best of luck to you!
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Same happened to me. #1 took 3 months of not-trying-not-avoiding. #2 happened the first month of trying. #3 was an oops. #4 ? 10 months of active trying, including several of temping and charting. No clue what the difference was. But #4 is nursing as I type this, so it did turn out ok in the end.

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I had a longer road conceiving and maintaining pregnancy with this one. I think part of it was me being a few years older (it's just a different game in your 30's versus your 20's for some of us), part of it might have been related to some medications I was taking, and part of it was just luck of the draw. It ended up taking me a little over a year to achieve a sticky pregnancy, using OPKs and such, which I hadn't needed to previously. I was never a "pregnant on the first try" person, but it wasn't something I had to wait for very long. I understand how frustrating it can be.

For me, I was taking melatonin when I was first trying, which I later learned can interfere with fertility. I also often took ibuprofen, which, again, can interfere with implantation. I definitely recommend reflecting on all your meds, OTC and otherwise, and any other lifestyle differences from when you've become pregnant before.

Good luck to you and your partner.

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How far apart were your first three? A three to five year birth interval allows your body to replenish maternal stores between each birth. If the first three were close births, your body may be taking time to replenish so that it builds a healthy fetus.
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We had trouble conceiving #2 , after conceiving #1 on the first try. After 10 months of active trying for #2 , I went for acupuncture and conceived 3 days later! We had two more after that, and are now just about finishing month 3 of TTC #5 .
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I just wanted to say good luck!
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#10 of 10 Old 07-22-2014, 10:00 AM
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I wish you good luck too.
I'm in the same boat, and I might be the same age as you are.
My third is still breastfeeding and she is doing it a lot, so I think that might be (a part of) a reason.
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