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TTC and life

So my husband and I have been trying for 9 months... Needless to say, I'm losing hope. As much as anyone wants to talk about how it can take a while to get pregnant, no one can honestly say that you don't get discouraged with every month that passes and you get a period instead of a positive test. It hurts every month that I'm not pregnant. I've talked to my doctor who says at this point I need to just wait and see. My husband thinks nothing of it. But I'm drowning.
I'm 27. I know that's not old as far as ttc goes but I feel like it's worse because since I'm not older this should be easier.
My husband moved out of state to be with me. He doesn't love his job. He doesn't like being away from his family. This makes me feel like I need to give him a family worth being away from him loved ones.
At what point should he really be back with his side of the family? I don't feel like a good enough reason. I wish I could give him a family and I have wanted to be a mother my whole life. I look back at every major choice I've made and it's been toward having a family and being a mother. I love my husband enough to want him to be happy even if I'm miserable. I just don't know anymore. I thought I had it all figured out and thing we're going in the right direction but I just don't know anymore.
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never lose hope/ ever
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Hello,and nice to meet you. You know it's so easy to get discouraged I do at times but I pull myself out of it, you have to stay hopeful through this process, also my OB was telling me the same thing, only when I went to the fertility specialist did I see that there were a few things that needed twicking but now I'm really hopful. I encourage you to stay positive because you must be strong to be able to handle the questions "when are yall going to start a family"or" what's wrong with yall no kids yet". Even someone around you that just becomes pregnant your happy for them, you just want that for your self also. People can be rude and know they are. It's a really sensitive subject for couples trying, so you must always work together to make sure you guys stay positive and learn how to say to those rude people" when God says it's time we will have a baby until then we are patient but also believing that as your saying it. I hope this helps you.your not alone.
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Of course you want a baby and I wish you all the luck and love in that. But YOU are enough. You are your husband's family. Don't fret over that.
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DH and I have been on this journey for 2.5 years and my doctor was telling me the same thing. Just wait and see and it will happen. I finally started doing my own research and reading up on fertility and once I did that I became a better advocate for myself. The truth is most GP or even OB/GYN don't have a great understanding of infertility. I finally just went in and demanded a referral to the clinic in town (where I live I needed a referral) and wouldn't take no for an answer. We ended up finding out that my tubes are now completely blocked so we need IVF and even though its not the ideal situation at least we have a plan and are moving forward with IVF. Good luck with your journey.

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Just wanted to give you a big, virtual hug.
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Thank you all for the feed back and positivity. It's especially helpful today as I officially move into the 10th cycle ttc. Ugh
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