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#1 ·
Hi everyone, I am posting here to ask for some support and advice. Well my husband and I were trying to conceive for 3 years now but there’s no been any luck. We’ve been through so many doctors and made so many tests but nothing so I am feeling a little down and stressful over this situation and I don’t really want to give up but I don’t know what to do. Has someone been in a similar situation?:frown:
 
#2 ·
Have you only had testing done or have you had any fertility treatments? If not then I would make an appointment with your doctor to discuss what options would be suitable for your situation and then you and your husband can decide if it is the sort of thing you would want to do.


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#3 ·
other ways of treatment?

Hi everyone, I am posting here to ask for some support and advice. Well my husband and I were trying to conceive for 3 years now but there's no been any luck. We've been through so many doctors and made so many tests but nothing so I am feeling a little down and stressful over this situation and I don't really want to give up but I don't know what to do. Has someone been in a similar situation?:frown:
We are ttc for a long time with no goes. Unfortunately I've failed to get pregnant with my last egg donation round, I'm not young anymore and it scares so much, I'm worrying about my health state

and they didn't tell you the reason for your failures with conceiving? what tests have you done? did you try any kind of medicine like non traditional, different acupunctures and herbs? Any fertility treatments like iui icsi or ivf?
 
#4 ·
Sorry, for your woes. I hope you can find help soon.
In the meantime, you need to find a clinic that is able to pinpoint exactly what the problem is. It will be helpful since you can then begin searching for a solution to the issue. That is certainly the first step for you to take in the issue.
Once a proper diagnosis is made it will be easy to either opt for surrogacy or go for IVF. No doubt this is something you require talking out with your partner as it requires one to be emotionally ready. Believe me when I tell you this as I am considering IVF as well.
I really hope that you can get down to the problem at hand and then move to finding other ways to get a child.
It can be difficult not knowing what the issue is as one keeps hoping there's nothing wrong with them. I waited a long time too before the Doctor found out I cannot carry a child due to high blood pressure after a series of miscarriages. Get yourself checked as soon as you can.
Good luck!
 
#6 ·
Hi dear. I am really sorry about your situation, 3 years is a really long time and for anybody to found nothing that could explain it I know It´s just makes it worse, but you have to know that there are a lot of women suffering of similar things and we are all here to support each other so please don´t lose hope because surely all will get better. Also I think that maybe you should ask your doctor if there is a possibility for you to try other methods to conceive or maybe you should talk to a specialist on fertility and see what happens. I really wish you all the best and hope you´ll find the answers you need. :thumb
 
#7 ·
It's so hurting. Having no kid means limit your world and your social circle because every where people asked about it. My sister is going through same situation. She is TTC'ing from 6 years But no success yet. She tried many specialist. And went through lots of ultrasounds, blood test. All test are normal. Now she is thinking to go aboard for fertility treatment. But worried about the expenses. She has no insurance for it. She have to bear all expenses by herself. Why it happens to only few people? Some people have 8 kids and someone has no one. It's so disappointed just felt like loneliness.
 
#8 ·
@millionducks, What is your suggestions about surrogacy? Is it better option yo go for surrogacy instead of IVF? As IVF cost much higher than other fertility treatment. This is fact that IVF success rate is higher. As far I know about IUI, mostly it gives you success in 4-6 rounds. I want to know much more about surrogacy. What about expenses If someone goes aboard for it? My sister is interested in it. She wants to know whether she can afford it or not. She's really tired of waiting for little angel. Although she has a lovely family. Her husband is very supportive. But instead of all this she couldn't get rid of depression. Thanks in advance for your kind help.
 
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Hi everyone, I am posting here to ask for some support and advice. Well my husband and I were trying to conceive for 3 years now but there's no been any luck. We've been through so many doctors and made so many tests but nothing so I am feeling a little down and stressful over this situation and I don't really want to give up but I don't know what to do. Has someone been in a similar situation?:frown:
Do not loose hope. If you are facing problem in conceiving naturally. There are many ways to get pregnant, you must hear about IVF, IUI and surrogacy. You can consider one of the option. Good Luck.
 
#12 ·
Hi, thank you for sharing your feelings. After trying for almost 3 years, we decided to come to Storks for help. Luckily, I only had to wait for few weeks before my 1st appointment. I had 2 IUI's but I conceived after the 1st IVF cycle. Storks team is very friendly and helpful. I'm currently pregnant, and it saved my money a lot, prices are much better than in Europe. Storks https://ovu.com/ukraine/kiev/fertil...assistance-ivf-egg-donor-and-surrogacy-agency
 
#14 ·
Please relax in this situation. I know you are brave and you have faced every bad thing. But be positive for the future. Never lose hope. Everything will be fine one day. I am also facing almost same. I am infertile now. I have many failed IVF cycles. This cause infection in my Fallopian tubes. Now, I am waiting for something positive. I am 43 years old. I am here for the research on surrogacy. If anyone has the idea.
 
#15 ·
We are in the almost same situation. 3 years ago I had my thyroid removed because doctors thought it was cancerogene. At the end, after the biopsy when they took it out, it turned out it wasn´t cancerogene. A big mistake from their side. Now, I have to take the euthirox for the rest of my life. We are TTC for quite some time and it is really difficult. By removing my thyroid they really messed us up. So, we are feeling desperate in one way too. We made both all the test and checkups and we turned out fertile, both.
 
#16 ·
Hello Kloey. How are you? I'm sorry to hear that you are having trouble conceiving. You mentioned feeling down and stressed about it. I would request you to stay strong. Do not give up. You need to remain positive. I can understand what you're going through. I have been TTC too for quite some time. I didn't have much luck. However, we recently found a ray of hope. Our doctor recommended IUI. I looked it up on forums like these. Many people have had positive experiences with it. If you want I can keep updating you on the procedure. Maybe it will be suitable for you too.
 
#17 ·
Hello dear. Don't be so blue. I am sure there is a way out of this situation. Here I am, a 47 year old. The odds seem to be against me. Despite that, I still haven't given up. I am going to give IVF a try. My doctor was full of praise for this treatment. It's cleaning me out financially, but if it's successful, then it would be worth it. I hope you manage to figure something out too. Seeking treatment for infertility requires you to be emotionally strong and motivated. There are many ups and downs. In fact, the down moments are a lot more frequent than the up moments. However, don't let it get to you. Stay strong.
 
#18 ·
Hello. I feel your pain, Kloey. I too have been struggling with infertility. What have you tried? We have tried IVF. 3 times in fact. The first two were unsuccessful. Haven't received the reports for the 3rd one yet. I hope its successful this time. However, I'm not very optimistic. I'm thinking of trying something new. Maybe surrogacy. Have you looked into that? It looks promising. I'm quite nervous though.
 
#19 ·
Hi there. I'm sorry to hear that. Infertility is such a big problem now. So many women are going through it. I hope you manage to make it out okay. What is your diagnosis? Why can't you conceive? Pinpointing the problem is extremely important. So, I would suggest you do that first. If you have already, then please do share it too. That way we can advise you accordingly. Meanwhile, I hope you would remain strong. Don't despair. It's not good for you or your chances of conceiving. Good luck!
 
#20 ·
Hello, Kloey Mora, I wish to help you out with your problems.It does not prove that you are infertile for only 3 years are passed yet. I would like to share my cousin's experience here. She gets pregnant after 4 years of her marriage without any treatment. waiting for so long is not reliable and one fact is that Infertility is such a big issue nowadays and many women are going through this. Have you tried any treatment or medication? You must consult a doctor. I think you should not take stress or any step until your problem is diagnosed. I will pray for you.Increase your physical activity if it's sedentary. Improve your dietary patterns if they are to be improved. Take care good luck!
 
#21 ·
I am really sorry for you that you have to get through this situation. This is really tough to go through this for such a long time. There are many couples out there who are going through the same phase. there is nothing to be ashamed of.In fact, it is brave of you that you are still struggling hard to get through this. My best friend went through the same condition. She had been in agony for a year. It was a hard time. She referred a clinic. They deal is such cases of infertility. They provide the best IVF cycles and medications. Now, she is living a happy family life. You should also visit it. I hope this will work in your case. 
 
#22 ·
Hi dear. Your story is real heartbreaking and I am with you in this. You know almost 20% of the women in the world are facing infertility problems. You also need to fight it like a brave woman. I also felt very isolated and I used to sit in my room whole day. But my husband always been so loving and supportive to me. I could not even imagine if I could have strived alone through this situation. I was told about my heart disease after the first year of my marriage. The doctors also told me not to have a baby because it can even cost my life. I hope you will also understand the things which I had to go through. My husband always encouraged me not to worry. One day he came up with an idea and told me everything about the process of surrogacy through which we can have our own baby. We both did a little research in this process and we felt very satisfied. When my baby was born after a year through surrogacy, it was the best moment of my life and I am very thankful for everything. The choice is yours, I just wanted to suggest you something that solved all my problems. Tale care.
 
#23 ·
Hello Kloey! You have come to a perfect platform to share your story. I hope you will get a lot of support and suggestions from other women as well. All the women here are like a family to each other and you will feel very relaxed. We all have ups and downs in our lives and you are not the only one. So take a deep breath and chill. I am totally fertile but it is my heart disease that is acting as a hurdle a in my life to be a mother. But I knew I had to face this and find a solution for my problems. Then I found about a reproductive program known as surrogacy. I searched for the clinic and their process. I finally made a decision and asked my husband to opt for surrogacy. He also agreed and then we visited the clinic after 2 to 3 weeks. Now my surrogate mother is pregnant 28 weeks. I cannot wait to see my baby in my arms. I must also suggest you to opt for surrogacy. Stay blessed.
 
#24 ·
Sorry to hear that! This is more common than you think it is, honey. There are millions of couples who are trying to conceive but can't. You are not alone in this. Now, it's important to know that what is the issue. Why you are unable to conceive. You should visit a specialist. If you have already been to one, visit another and don't rest until they tell you what's wrong. Once you know what is the issue, you will be easily able to take the next practical steps. Don't worry, there are many alternatives to natural pregnancy. We will guide you all about them. Just tell us what is the issue. Thinking of you!
 
#25 ·
Unfortunately, it's a very common issue. I'm not sure if you are an old member of this forum or not, but in case you are, you already know and see women coming here talking about this. It was not very common back in days. Nowadays, the diet and food are not that good and healthy. The more health-conscious people try the more they end up eating unhealthy junk food. Stress is another contributory factor here. Everyone seems to take loads of responsibilities and when they think they can't fulfill this, they start taking the stress. In your case, I would recommend that you visit an expert in the field. Don't rely on just one opinion. Please consult another doc soon and let us know what he had to say. Goodbye!
 
#26 ·
Hi everyone, I am posting here to ask for some support and advice. Well my husband and I were trying to conceive for 3 years now but there's no been any luck. We've been through so many doctors and made so many tests but nothing so I am feeling a little down and stressful over this situation and I don't really want to give up but I don't know what to do. Has someone been in a similar situation?:frown:
Hello Kloey. I hope you are fine. Don't be upset. The situation you are going through is hard. I am sure you will get through it. Why are you unable to conceive? What did doctors tell you? What do your reports say? Don't lose hope. I am glad to know that you don't want to give up. I like your courageous attitude. Have you consulted some infertility specialist? I would recommend you to do so. Make an appointment with the specialist. Let me know about your visit to him.
 
#27 ·
Hi Kloey. I feel bad after reading your post. You should not be losing hope. I am happy that you don’t want to give up. You are really a brave woman. TTC for three years is long. Have you tried to find out the main cause of your problem? What is the reason for your infertility? It is very important to know the cause. Finding the treatment would be much easier if you know the cause. Is it only you who have taken the tests? Have your husband took his tests too? If not, then he should. There are chances that the problem might be with your husband. I hope you find out the solution soon. Good luck.
 
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