Greenmansions, that sounds like a good plan. I think being 'forced' to not ttc for a month sounds good!
I never feel like I can take a month off, I might lose my one and only chance so to speak. That probably isn't true....but you know how it feels.
I'm something like...6 days post O. I had nice high temps, then today a dip. According to responses that I got the last time this happened, the dip could be a sign of implantation. But, since there obviously wasn't any implantation last time, I'm not getting my hopes up.
I'm not obsessing as much as usual--I'm gardening, and working out and trying to focus on other stuff.
I still feel hopeful, this is the first time in one year I feel like I have a chance! OH, what will I do if this is it?? I've grown accustomed to being disappointed.
Velveteen, I am reading Inconceivable, and really like it...thanks!
We bd'd over the weekend, felt like a good time...we'll see. I had to buy a couple of baby gifts for 2 new babies on the block...oh, those little washcloths
Polka, I'm sorry to hear you have all been so ill. Lots of our playgroup families were sick a month or so ago (we've managed to avoid it so far, knock on wood.)
Polka, I am SO sorry your ds is so sick, and now you and hubby are sick too! I am thinking of you all!!
I don't know why, but my 'thinking I was pregnant feelings' are now gone. I really, really thought I had a chance. Although AF is not due for a few more days, somehow I feel like my 'time' is running out.
You cannot beleive how frustrated I feel now that ds is going to turn 5 in July. I was 5.5 yrs apart from my brother, and I definately didn't want that kind of spread.
Are you all going to keep trying indefinately? I wanted to be pg before I turned 43, but now that I am 43, I don't want to stop trying. Because if I don't try, then I definately won't get a sib, and another little dream. However, after this long, I do wonder what my chances truly are.
Lots of introspection lately.
Velv- just sending a hug your way! It is hard when things do not go as we plan, hard to explain, hard to accept, just hard. My thoughts are with you.
To those reboots- Sorry !
I am coming up on O, hopefully earlier this month. Like Velv, I am wondering about continuing to TTC. Maybe becasue I turned 40 last Sunday and the reality is setting in of how long do I want to try or....should we start the adoption process. We did it AZ, and tho it didn't result in a match (did it thru foster care) we loved our worker and still feel very positive about doing it. MMMMM. I am trying hard to step back a little from the intensity of TTC and just use my resources and remain open to the results, good or bad. Oh, man...I am rattling on...can you tell it was a rough nite's sleep?
Well, sending smiles to everyone on this journey and hopes for a good day to all-
Sorry you're feeling blue Velveteen. I'm sorry that I'm not familiar with your history, but have you been to a fert. specialist lately? There seems to be lots they can do, plus new techniques all the time.
We plan to stop in the first part of my 42nd year, which would be the first part of 2006. We are going to evaluate where we stand on it all at the end of this year though, and make a decision whether to stop then, or if we are optimistic, go another few months. In reality tho, we reevaluate all the time, just like we do with most things - happiness in jobs, marriage, homes, etc as well as the littler things in life.
We feel like we're complete with DS, and while we hope to have a sibling for him we are not going to go to great lengths to get one, for example I probably will not go as far as IVF if it comes to that and we will probably not adopt. Of course that could all change as our self-imposed deadline looms nearer.
I think we all will know when we've had enough of all this and are ready to move on.
Regarding "completeness" I think what helps us is that it took us so long to have DS that we were afraid we would have no children at all. So that just having him and the fact that he is such a healthy, cute and good natured baby just makes us especially grateful, and we feel like we were blessed to get him. So another would be a great bonus, but not a deal breaker for our happiness. Our plan from the get-go was "1 plus or minus 1 child". Maybe that perspective makes a difference too - a small family is what we planned.
Joan, boy can I relate. Please see post #75, and post #80 in the 30+ and TTC for a might long time thread. That explains it perfectly. Like I said, I can so relate to your comment.
Greenmansions; no, I haven't been to a fert. spec. lately. I like the fact that you do not struggle with completeness. I do. And I don't know how to stop wanting either, or like Joan said, how to live without being complete.
On the other hand, AF is not here yet, so there is always a chance.
Originally Posted by Velveteen
Joan, boy can I relate.
I sincerely wish that you had no idea what I'm talking about. My fingers are crossed for you this month. Peace.
Not being pregnant would certainly be a lot easier if it didn't coincide with pms, huh? Fortunately, I've got a dh who is smart enough not to take to heart the things I say during pms--and wise enough to not MENTION that he knows it's pms talking. Yesterday was a really crappy day. Thanks for listening, ladies.
Joan, that is one thing my DH could sure stand to learn. :LOL When I'm having a bad month, he *always* points out that it's PMS. That just makes me crabbier. I always tell him that the subjects that come up during PMS are things that tick me off all the time, it just builds up to where I'll say finally something about it when my hormones are raging! So he shouldn't minimize my comments during that time, which he has a tendency to do. ARGH. Men. Gotta love 'em!
for you all.
Hoping that maybe, just maybe.......................
:
now that my body decided to play mean trick & start AF early
: I kinda feel alone.
I was all ready to get my HSG - (really psyched myself up for the pain) this month but will wait til next mon. since DH took off so much work when DS & I were sick.
feeling complete ?? we really want another since DS was such a blessed surprise. I guess since we're older, I really want have him to have a sib close in age.
if it does not happen, we'll be disapointed but will have to accept it.
Polka, glad you are feeling better. So sorry AF played such a mean trick on you....this has gotta be the month for you.
CD 3 here, as AF came exactly 28 days later. That is what is so frustrating about this whole thing. I mean, how much easier could it get? 28 day cycles, ovulate on day 14. My monitor just confirms what I already know about the timing.
Originally Posted by Velveteen
CD 3 here, as AF came exactly 28 days later. That is what is so frustrating about this whole thing. I mean, how much easier could it get? 28 day cycles, ovulate on day 14. My monitor just confirms what I already know about the timing.
Sigh.
I'm right there with you. cd 3 for me too. I'm ovulating regularly, our timing is perfect. Makes me so freakin
Joan, I'm right there with you.
It seems pointless to go and spend my money on the fertility docs. There is nothing wrong with me, I just have old eggs, that's it.
JOan, actually you give me hope because you DID conceive after a two year stint at TTC, right??
I have done every conceivable lifestyle enhancer, herb or fertility enhancer that I can. There is nothing left to do but be patient.
Especially after reading the book Inconceivable, I made even more changes. I am now on a sugar, wheat and dairy free diet.. except for a little cheese (organic) and butter, also organic. I keep thinking if I'm in tip top physical condition it will help. If not, I still feel better.
After totally educating myself on all issues female/fertilty ( I read like crazy). I don't think there is anything that they can do for me. It seems that most women with reg. cycles like myself do get pg naturally more often than even by IVF, and I'm too old for that anyway. The stats listed on the 40 + pluss board also confirm that.
Not that I'm against RE's, its just I don't think they have anything there that I need.
I just have to keep trying until it seems like it is less painful to stop. I have no idea if I will get there, or if I will get there. We'll see.
Yes, I did get pregnant after 2 1/2 years. I keep reminding myself of that. Sometimes, I think I might be holding myself back somehow, our of fear of m/c again.
Although, I read recently (can't remember where) that most women have some good eggs until they're about 51 years old.
"I just have to keep trying until it seems like it is less painful to stop." This is a good sig line, or motto, or mantra or something.
and that I don't check in too often...it seems I get to read more than write. But I am interested in how everyone is!
I just keep thinking my Mom had me at 40 so...maybe genetics will be with us
I am O'ing today. Almost missed it because I was waiting on the O pain that has come with it the last 6months and there is none. I believe the acupuncture is working (and I finally am spelling that right) and that my body is starting to balance out some. It is still CD 18 but hey better than 21! So that is where I am.
Wishing everyone a good day and cycle. Will check back in before I go on vacation.
y'know, I believe that stress can have something to do with infertility for some folks.
We have an incredible amt of stress in out lives (due to OTHER idiots) BUT we did conceive DS under a ton of stress also.
We do have more now than then.
We have some crappy x-family among other things.
Strangely, we, ourselves, do not have problems
Kokomom-
here's catching that eggie :LOL
We are feeling much better, Thanks
We went to W-mart today & DS was FINALLY running around having a grand time so
: even tho I'm not keen on that
: , it was so nice to see him acting "normal"
Here's
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: for everyone
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