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#1 of 19 Old 03-13-2005, 07:58 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Ok, I just posted in the "almost ready to TTC" thread. I'm 27 but DH will be 40 in the fall. I know that there's been research showing that the father's age can also have an impact on the health of the babe more than they used to think. Although I'm ready to TTC now, we're enjoying our time together (5 years) and I'm also thinking of applying to work on a doctorate next year, so that would mean waiting another 3-4 years. Obviously we could handle a baby during that time since DH works from home and I wouldn't work, just school. But it would probably be easier to wait. However, I'm wondering whether health-wise it's better to do it sooner given his age.

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Moving this to Trying to Conceive...you will get more responses there!

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Hi!

I don't have an older husband (dh and I are 28), but I think it's important to discuss the age issue before you make the decision to put off TTC. Are you able to have good discussions with your OBGYN? It might be a good idea to go in for a pre-pregnancy OB check-up, and at that visit he/she can talk with you about the statistics of TTC with men over 40 (in terms of fertility and genetic disease issues).

Oh, and just a little personal experience....while dh and I were in grad school, a number of academic couples had children and it was a -great- time to have a baby. It's never easy, that's for sure, but it's a lot easier to have a baby when schedules are flexible and both parents have a way to be at home.

Good luck, and I hope you get good news!

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Just wanted to pop in and say I was 26 and my baby's father 41 when she was conceived. Only took one ovulation. And he wears tight jeans and smoked like a chimney, and we did at home unscientific artificial insemination. How bout those odds eh? :LOL

My best friend's partner was 45 when they conceived. It can be done!

ETA - Both my daughter and my friend's baby boy are the picture of health.
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we are both in our 40's & have a healthy 18 MO.

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I don't actually have an OBGYN, I have a urogynecologist (for bladder and pelvic issues which seem to be mostly resolved.) So it sounds like I should check it out to make sure but relax and not worry too much. ROM - you are right - it should be pretty easy while I'm in school since DH will be a WAHD and I won't be working for at least one of the years I'm in post-grad school. Cause I don't really want to put either of them off for too long...

Thanks for the advice!

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We are seeing more and more couples waiting to start the ttc process....
I LOVE IT.

My dh was 44 when our first child was conceived and born, 46 with #2, 49 with #3 and we are ttc #4, dh turned 50 this last December.

I don't think we fall into that catagory. :LOL

It is me that has more problems with ttc, not dh. I don't ovulate regularly. I could only imagine if I did ovulate regularly...I would be knocked up all the time!!!!

:LOL
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Ancient parents right here! We conceived DS (now 23 mos.) when I was 33 and DH was 47. We're now TTC#2--I'm 36 and DH is 49.

As I understand it, research has shown some issues regarding sperm quality and aging in men, but aging and fertility is a much bigger issue for women.

As a survivor of agonizing infertility, I think it'd be worth both of you having a checkup now, just to see where you stand with general reproductive health. If any red flags come up you might decide to start TTC sooner, on the logic that it could take a while to beat the odds.

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DH and I conceived our first when I was twenty-five and he was forty-one.

We conceived our fourth when I was thirty-seven and he was fifty-two.

No fertility problems here.

However he became ill and died, so perhaps that is something to take into consideration...yet, people become ill and die all the time at all ages from all kinds of things...no guarantees there.
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Husband is 40 and conceived in 2 cycles!

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This doesn't answer your question about the health, but I am 29 and my hubby is 38 will be 39 in a few month.

Just for the heads up. We tried for 2 years with #1, 2 1/2 years for #2 and are now tring for #3, I am hoping that this doesn't take us as long but with that track record, I'm guessing we will be trying for awhile.

The older one gets the longer it seems to take before you become preggo.

If your ready for kids I would say go ahead a try!

Good Luck!
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Hi there!
my dh is 47 and I will be 36 Wednesday. I get pregnant easily, but can't seem to stay pregnant. ( I have been preganant 4 times and no births).

I am still on the fence as to whether or not we will try again, but if I had it to do all over again, I would have started earlier.

I was in school until I was 27 (2 master's degrees) and although I loved my studies.... I would opt for having children younger and studying later. School is always there... your fertility, alas... changes with time.

good luck.
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Just a comment on the studies: you might want to talk to people in your program who have had kids before and after finishing. It is nice having some flexibility in grad school while parenting, but work is work. If you're the type that needs a lot of structure or tends to procrastinate, be aware that having a child will test your abilities to complete your dissertation. However, I know folks who opted for both plans and found it to work for them. One was having fertility problems and so decided to go ahead and try while she was ABD (all but dissertation). They have a wonderful two year old now, but she says that it's very difficult for her to get any work done, and when she was pregnant she had a lot of trouble concentrating. Others waited until finishing to conceive, and had no problems. I know for myself personally that I never would have been able to finish my dissertation if I hadn't waited.

Another factor to consider is insurance/finances. For most of us, being in grad school amounts to voluntary poverty. If your partner is not in grad school, this isn't as much of an issue, but if both of you are in school, just make sure you have good health insurance options.

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Glad to know I am not alone! I also have an older hubby!

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Cool! Glad to know we are not the only ones! I am 30 and he is 40 and we are hoping to conceive soon! :lips

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I'm 29 and my husband is 47. This is our fourth cycle of TTC. Not sure how long it will take since he's still getting back to normal after a vasectomy reversal. Nice to see there are plenty of older dads out there!

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My Dh was 48 when we had our last baby. And that was after a vasectomy reversal. (Oh and I was almost 42). I would say you will have a great chance of conceiving as you are so young :wink


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I'm 33 and DH is 41! So excited to see the rest of you here!! smile.gif Good luck!
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I'll be 30 tomorrow and DH is 42. We've been ttc for almost 2 years. I've been checked out through the wazoo and I'm all good. DH is type 2 diabetic and is having a difficult time producing a specimen for analysis. He produced one a year and a half ago (it was difficult but successful) and unfortunately the lab screwed it up!! They performed a culture instead of an analysis!!! My poor husband has tried to get a sample two more times and has been unsuccessful not to mention how heartbreaking it has been. I'm hoping our problem is just timing......sex isn't exactly a regular occurrence for us.....we both work A LOT and his drive isn't what it used to be. I have friends expecting their first in November, they are both 40. After reading all these posts and knowing my friends are expecting gives me hope. Good luck to you!!!!
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