I told dh I would be ovulating in the next few days, and here we are, annoyed with each other over stupid things (large argument last night actually). On top of it all, dh has a bad cold and is very grumpy. I'm hating the planning around passion. How do you ladies create the good vibes to coincide with TTC? I'm sitting here watching another month go by... Help!
When I was trying to conceive the first time my dh and I finally realized that we were quite confronted and scared at the idea of becoming parents (even though we really, really wanted to). We had a couple heart to heart chats - where he got to confess his fear at not being able to provide for a family - and I got to confess my fear at not being able to trust him.
If you can acknowledge the muddy waters, you may find that they clear and the lotus blooms. Does that make sense?
The other thing we did was make a promise to have sex every day. We didn't "schedule" our sex around my ovulation. This made having sex more fun and more pleasureable for us. It reduced the pressure of "today's the day!" because *every* day was "the day" to make a baby.
Also, let me tell you, you really have to work something out with your spouse to have sex every day. We had to work through some mud to get that lotus blooming every day.
(OK, enough about mud and blooms!)
Once we had the conversations to get clear about what we'd been hiding from each other, and invented a practice of sex every day, we were pregnant within a few weeks.
Just my experience, for what it's worth!
|Originally posted by USAmma
I stopped telling my dh what part of the cycle I was on. I felt it put too much pressure on him. I just treat it like any other time to get together and then it's fun for both of us.
We were bound to hit on one or two of the days i was ovulating
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