Your resident stalker here!
It's so good to see that the tone of people's posts has largely become more positive. I was really feeling for you all when the mood was so depressed earlier. I was right there with you. Still there actually, but trying to brace myself for lots and lots more waiting.
SarahJen - 14dpo?!! I'd be jumping if I were you. Good luck!
I'm actually on here to see if you can switch me to cheerleader or something, HopesMom. We had our appointment with the fertility clinic yesterday, and there will be no babies out of this body any time soon. And likely never any babies genetically related to my dh. We're waiting for a consult with a urologist to see if he thinks correcting dh's very small varicocele would help with counts at all, so in 9 months, if he has the surgery, we'll know if his counts are high enough for an IUI, but it isn't very lilkely. At this point, we need IVF with ICSI, which we can neither afford (10,000$ a cycle plus travel) nor am I ethically prepared to go there. (totally a personal thing, and I entirely understand why people do it, maybe I'll get there someday. Desperation is a persuasive thing) Dh is reluctant to go donor sperm, but I really, really want to go that route. Either way, we need to wait on the varicocele thing before getting into donor sperm, so we're in for a long wait. It we were to get pregnant the first cycle after the varicocele correction, it will be about three years from the start of ttc to a baby. Insanity. I'm thinking that everyone should have fertility testing done around age 20, just so you know what you're up against. If we had known about our own issues, we would have been saving twice as hard and at that fertility clinic a year and a half ago. It's heart wrenching to feel that all this time has been "wasted" in terms of ttc.
Ok, so enough of my saga. I will be checking in on you guys, and celebrating your bfps, but we are no longer ttc. In as much as a person can "stop" ttc!